10 things it means when a man cries for you (and how to respond)

Men’s code of masculinity often forbids them from crying in public or expressing emotions other than anger.

Even though receiving this sort of conditioning is damaging, it doesn’t change the fact that men have a right to their expression of pain.

Women are the only ones who understand this.

The universal truth is that men are sensitive creatures just waiting for their perfect partner to unlock their hidden potential for love and affection.

When a man cries for you, it means something special.

Here are 10 things it could mean and how you should respond:

1) It means he’s emotionally invested in you and your relationship

The act of crying is a strong signal that you are emotionally invested in someone.

When a man cries for you, it means that he cares enough to be upset and feels the need to share his feelings with you.

Having someone who wants to hear what they have to say can be incredibly comforting.

He cries because he’s hurt and feels vulnerable.

Remind him that he’s not alone in this situation, as you are here to comfort him.

Also, reassure him that you’re not going anywhere and that the two of you are strong enough to work things out together.

Crying can be an uncomfortable experience for anyone, but it’s particularly difficult if you’re unsure how to respond.

If you see your partner getting emotional, it can be difficult not to take it personally.

If they seem sad or depressed, try to show empathy and support them.

But never make excuses for their behavior or apologize for your own emotions.

2) It means he trusts you enough

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Some men do not think that crying is an acceptable way to express their emotions, but this doesn’t mean that they are less emotional than other men.

Crying can be an emotional release for a man who has been suppressing his sadness or grief over something that has happened in his life.

It can also be a way to let go of the pain and emotional stress that comes with having feelings.

When a man cries for you, it shows that he cares about you and is willing to put himself out there for your sake.

This is a sign of trustworthiness and love in a man’s heart.

It shows that he cares enough about you to feel vulnerable and open up about how he feels.

However, crying also means that he does not have the power to express himself in words.

Instead, he wants you to understand his feelings so that you can comfort him.

This is a strong sign that he is letting you know that he trusts you. So, don’t let him down.

3) It means he’s feeling overwhelmed

When a man cries for you, he’s not asking for pity or attention.

As a woman, you might not understand his feelings or what he’s thinking.

He’s just overwhelmed with emotion and needs your support.

In this case, let him cry and don’t question him because the answer is in his tears.

Listen to what he needs without telling him that he should feel better; let him get the things off his chest.

After he cries, then you can approach him with compassion, love, and understanding if that’s possible.

Showing your man that you understand how he feels is a big step towards helping him feel better.

And there are a few ways you can do it.

You can ask how you can help him and tell him that you’re here for him, no matter what.

Asking how you can help shows that you care about his feelings and that you want to help him in any way possible.

And saying that you’re there for him shows that you believe he can get through this crisis on his own, even if it doesn’t seem like it right now.

Being there for your man means being supportive and listening to him when he needs to talk.

Just having his back when he needs someone to lean against or to lean in for an embrace, will go a long way towards showing him that he has your support.

4) It means he’s comfortable being vulnerable with you

When a man cries for you, it means he’s comfortable enough with you to feel vulnerable and open with you.

He may be expressing his feelings in a way that’s natural to him, such as through tears or sobbing.

Or, he may choose to say nothing at all and let his feelings show on his face.

Either way, it’s a sign that he cares about you and is willing to take the risk of opening up to you.

There are a few things you can do when a man cries for you.

First, acknowledge his emotions and validate him by saying something like “I’m sorry” or “I understand.”

This shows that you’re listening and that you care about what he’s going through.

Second, let him know that you’re there for him no matter what happens next.

If he needs to talk about his emotions or process them in some way, he’ll be more likely to open up to you if he knows that you’re there for him.

Finally, try not to take his crying personally, and don’t assume that there’s something wrong with him if he cries for you.

Trust me, vulnerability is a part of intimacy, and it’s a sign that he trusts you with his innermost feelings.

I remember experiencing this firsthand and, initially, I was worried that the emotional display meant something was wrong.

However, after going through this Love and Intimacy Masterclass from a famous shaman Rudá Iandê, I realized that vulnerability is a natural part of intimacy.

This free masterclass covers invaluable insights into emotional vulnerability and emotional intelligence, and how these are crucial in forming lasting bonds.

It helped me navigate the complex emotional landscape that comes with love and relationships, and it can do the same for you.

So, if you’re looking to truly understand love and intimacy in its purest form, I can’t recommend this masterclass enough.

Here’s the link to the free masterclass.

5) It means he’s going through a tough time and needs your comfort

Sometimes men cry when they’re sad and need a shoulder to cry on.

They might be crying because there’s a problem in their life that they need to vent about.

Other times, they might be crying because they’re feeling great and just want to let someone know how thankful they are for them.

In either of these cases, it’s important to be sensitive to what the man is saying.

If he’s upset about something, listen carefully and try to understand why he’s upset.

Sometimes, guys just need someone to listen and care about them to feel better.

If you see him crying and he doesn’t seem like he needs any help, hold him if you can.

Even though you may not understand his situation, there’s probably nothing you can do that will make him feel better.

Just being there will help him cope with whatever is going on in his life at the moment.

6) It means he’s grieving a loss and needs your support

This could be the death of someone he loves, or it could be an experience that’s been hard for him.

Sometimes he’ll cry for you even if you’re not around.

If you want to help, try to be there for him.

Tell him what you think and how much you care about him.

And if he asks for your help, don’t hesitate to say yes.

When a man cries for you, it means that he needs your support and understanding at this time in his life.

7) It means he’s feeling hopeless and needs your encouragement

There’s a reason why men are supposed to be strong, stoic, and tough.

But when the going gets tough, men can show emotions too, as they should.

Men may cry because they feel hopeless and need someone to reassure them that this is all going to work out.

He may be dealing with a problem and doesn’t know what the next move is.

He’s not sure of himself or how to handle things and wants you to be there for him when he falls apart.

If he cries, then encourage him to think positively. You can say something like, “We’ll find a way out of this.”

Try not to leave him hanging when he needs you most.

Some guys cry for no reason at all.

8) It means he’s feeling insecure and needs your reassurance

It’s easy to mistake a man who cries for you for an inability to express his feelings and an unwillingness to communicate.

The truth is that crying can be a sign of insecurity.

Insecurity can be triggered by anything from a large break-up to the loss of a loved one.

When a man cries for you, it may mean that he feels insecure and needs your reassurance.

He might be insecure about something that you’re doing or not doing.

Maybe he cares about your feelings so much and that worries and enrages him with concern.

Don’t be angry with him; instead, let him know how much his feelings mean to you.

When in doubt, take a step back and make an effort to understand his feelings from another perspective. If you’re wrong, then you’ll know it.

He needs reassurance, so you can give him a kind and gentle hug. Offer words of comfort and let him know that his emotions are valid and understood.

But if you find yourself unsure about how to give him the emotional reassurance he needs, maybe you should dedicate some time to watching this Love and Intimacy Masterclass that I mentioned above.

In this free video, shaman Rudá Iandê explains deeper, sometimes challenging, aspects of love.

His mini-questionnaires can really help you strengthen your ability to be there for someone in a way that’s meaningful to them.

It helped me navigate the complexities of emotions, both mine and my partner’s.

Trust me, a little understanding can go a long way.

Click here to access the free masterclass.

9) It means he’s feeling guilty and needs your forgiveness

The guilt that men feel is caused by the emotional need to be in a relationship.

This becomes even more important to men when they are starting a family.

It is very easy for men to feel guilty for not having enough time for their partners and children.

When a man starts crying, it means that he has realized that he has been neglecting you or his children.

He may have felt guilty because he was thinking about work too much, or because he did not spend enough time with you.

He also may have felt guilty because of his feelings of inadequacy.

This can be allayed by showing him that you understand how hard these feelings are and that you forgive him.

It is important to let him know that you love him and will always be there for him.

And lastly,

10) It means he loves you and needs your love in return

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A man crying for you is an expression of his love for you. If this is the case, then it means his emotions are intense and powerful.

He might have other reasons to cry but as a result of feeling strongly for you.

He is willing to show this love through his tears.

If he cries, it means he cares about you and wants to be close to you.

It could also mean that he misses you, is worried about you, or simply wants to express his feelings.

These tears might be caused by sadness, happiness, or both.

When this happens, your first step should be to reassure him that everything is okay.

Remember, when a man cries, his guard is down and he doesn’t expect anything in return—just let him know that you’re there for him.

Tell him that he can talk about anything and that you are there to listen.

You are the one who can make him stop crying by showing him more love, care, and affection.

Show him that you’re always there for him and assure him of how much he means to you.

Being silent and ignoring a crying man will only make him feel more isolated and alone.

And that’s that.

There are many reasons why men might feel like crying.

Each of these reasons has its importance, and it’s important to acknowledge them one by one before you can address what is making him cry.

Crying is not a weakness and your man should know it.

He should also know how to process his emotions with you.

The first step is simply to open up. Pull out all the stops.

Talk about your feelings as if they are an everyday occurrence.

Make it a priority to find out what’s causing them and take care of it as soon as possible.

He may be processing his emotions in a way that he can’t communicate to you.

Be open to his tears and let him know you understand and support him.

It may help to let him know that you’re there for him and that you want to talk about whatever he needs to talk about.

Let him know that you don’t judge him and that you want to understand.

The more comfortable he feels talking about how he’s feeling, the more at ease he’ll be able to move on and find solutions.

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Jude Paler

I am a poet with a positive outlook in life and a writer with a purpose in mind. I write to express my thoughts so that others will be inspired.

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