Based on your answers, Freud says there’s a good chance he likes you!

Although his unconscious is swimming with all sorts of hidden desires and conflicting emotions, Freud painted a clear picture of what a man who is attracted to someone will do:

He’ll pursue you and try to win your affection in return.

Often men seek the completion of childhood sexual drives that were frustrated or family relationships that have snagged their subconscious on all sorts of roadblocks.

But before you get too turned off by all the Freudian talk, let me be clear:

He wouldn’t be spending this amount of time with you or giving you his attention if he wasn’t interested. If he was satisfied with his girlfriend he wouldn’t feel an interest in talking to you or spending any time with you.

That’s the good news.

The bad news is that he already has a girlfriend. This is clearly a massive roadblock to him going all in on you.

As Freud pointed out, many times we end up with someone who has very unhealthy and toxic patterns of dependency, shame and control. These traits develop in childhood and through unresolved sexual tension.

Having an affair is a very controversial thing that can break apart families, but sometimes it can also be a “breaking out” from unconscious chains that have kept them locked in an unhappy relationship.

Freud himself had an affair with his wife’s younger sister Minna Bernays in the summer of 1898, checking the two of them into a swanky Swiss hotel in the mountains and enjoying some fresh air with her. They stayed together until at least 1907.

But you can take things further than an affair if you understand this guy properly and grasp what truly drives him.