It is said that absence makes the heart grow fonder.
When you miss someone, it comes with a sense of longing and yearning.
So is the feeling of missing someone mean you love that person? Here are clear signs it is:
1) You notice their absence more than usual
If you’re missing someone you love, you’ll likely notice their absence more than usual.
Not having them around you, or not hearing from them might hurt more than it would have if you don’t love them.
You might start to notice all the places that used to have them around. You might start to feel a sense of longing for them in those places.
It could be a cafe you spent time with them at or a park you walked in with them. Or it could be a restaurant you had your first date at or a concert you watched together.
When you miss someone and your mind wanders towards them more often than usual, then it’s a clear sign you love them.
2) You constantly think about them
When you’re missing someone you love, you might find that you’re constantly thinking about them.
You might find yourself thinking about how they’re doing, or what they might be doing.
Think about it.
Do they pop up in your mind when you’re trying to fall asleep at night?
While you’re at work and in the middle of a meeting, do you suddenly think about them?
You’ve been thinking so much about them that they’re popping up in your mind when you don’t expect it.
That’s one good sign that you love them.
3) You feel restless and bored when you aren’t with them
If you’re missing someone, you might find that you feel restless and bored when you aren’t with them.
You might find that you can’t sit still or focus on things.
Do you find yourself having trouble concentrating on things and needing to be doing something at all times as if you need to feel like you’re constantly busy?
Well, that’s probably because you’re missing someone you want to be with.
Missing someone and finding yourself restless when you’re not with them is a sign that you love them.
But what if you’re just feeling bored and looking for stimulation to entertain yourself? How can it mean that you love them?
Well, maybe you don’t.
Sometimes it’s hard to determine whether feeling bored when you aren’t with them is actually a sign of loving them.
That’s why I think that speaking to a professional relationship coach might help you reflect on your thoughts and raise awareness of your feelings.
Relationship Hero is a site where highly trained relationship coaches help people navigate confusing love situations. They provide personalized solutions to determine what you’re going to do next and how to handle tough situations.
So, if your feelings make you confused and want someone you can talk to, I suggest speaking to those certified relationship coaches.
4) You find yourself needing to talk about them with others
When you’re missing someone you love, not only will you be constantly thinking about them, but you might also find yourself needing to talk about them.
Why would you need to talk about them?
The answer is:
Because you’re probably thinking about them a lot. And when you think about someone a lot, you’ll want to share that with others.
You might find yourself talking about them with your friends or family members, or even strangers. You might find yourself sharing stories about them with others.
You might even find yourself looking for opportunities to talk about them in front of them (if they’re around).
If you love someone and you’re missing them, then it’s likely that you’ll want to share your thoughts and feelings with others, and this will lead to talking about the person that you love.
5) You start missing the little things about them
Do you find yourself missing the little things about that person?
You might start to miss their voice and their smell. You might even find yourself missing how they look when they smile.
You might even start missing their bad habits and how annoying they are sometimes!
Crazy isn’t it?
The things that annoy you about them might seem silly to you, but that’s just because you are missing them.
Why do you remember the little things about someone when you’re missing them?
It’s because those little things are what made you fall in love with them in the first place.
Missing someone and remembering all those little things about them is a clear sign that you love them.
6) You find yourself constantly wanting to be around them
If you’re missing someone, then it’s likely that you’ll find yourself constantly wanting to be around them.
You might find yourself thinking about how much you want to see them and how much you want to spend time with them.
You might even find yourself wishing that they were with you all the time. You might even wish that they were in the same room as you or just a few feet away from where you are at all times.
The more time goes on, the more of a need there is to be around the person that you love. Missing someone and having this need to be around them is a clear sign that you love them.
7) You find yourself being a little more sensitive than usual
Do you find yourself getting upset over the smallest things when you’re missing someone?
It could be something as small as a friend saying something that you don’t agree with or a joke that you don’t think is funny.
But it doesn’t matter what the situation is, if you’re missing someone then it’s likely that you’ll be a little bit more sensitive than normal.
It’s not just your personality that changes when you’re missing someone, but your senses too.
When we’re missing someone, you’ll often be a little bit more emotional and anxious than normal.
If this is the case, then you are likely in love with that person.
8) You start feeling like you’re not as outgoing as usual
If you miss someone, then you might find yourself not wanting to be social at all.
Do you feel like you don’t want to see anyone or do anything fun anymore?
That is because when you love someone and they are missing from your life, it makes you feel like something is missing within you too!
In order for us to get over this feeling of emptiness, we might avoid being around other people altogether.
And this could explain why some people who are completely social suddenly become very withdrawn when they’re missing someone that they love.
Does this sound like you?
Anytime you are around other people, you find it hard to focus on what’s going on around you because your mind just keeps wandering back to the person you are missing.
This is because you love them and you want to be with them more than anything!
9) Your heart breaks when you know they are hurting
If you’re missing someone, you’ll likely feel a connection with them. This connection might be so strong that you’ll feel what they’re feeling.
If they are feeling sad or hurt, you might feel those same things too. You start to care more about them and their well-being.
Do you find yourself caring about their feelings and their problems?
Do you feel upset when you know that they are upset or hurt in some way?
You might find yourself needing to get in touch with them or do something to make them feel better.
You might find yourself caring about their feelings and problems in a way that’s completely out of character for you.
10) Your feelings for that person intensify
When you miss someone, your feelings for them will probably intensify and deepen. The feeling of missing someone is essentially a feeling of love for that person.
In the early stages of relationships, the feeling of missing someone might not be that intense. You might only miss someone on a day-to-day basis, but it’s still a feeling of missing them.
But as time goes by, you’ll likely find that your feelings for the person you are missing intensify.
The more you’re in love with someone, the more complicated it becomes to feel their absence. You will likely experience many different emotions while they are gone and while they are around.
Sometimes, our feelings for our loved ones will intensify even more than this! We will often find ourselves caring way too much.
But on the other hand, we also find that we can’t stand being away from them because you have already fallen in love.
What to do when you miss someone badly?
Now that you have confirmed you are in love with the person you are missing so much, what do you do?
I don’t know why you’re apart from this someone but here are some practical tips you can do in general situations:
Tell them how you feel
The easiest tip I can give is to just tell them you miss them. I know this sounds easier said than done.
But you never know, they might have felt the same way and you will find that it will make them feel better to hear those words.
In fact, if you don’t tell them, they might not even realize how much you miss them.
So do yourself a favor and let them know how you feel.
Explore your passion
Another way of diverting your attention is by exploring what you are passionate about. This way, you can find a way to fill the void that you are experiencing.
You can read books, listen to music, or even do something that is not related to your loved one or the person you miss so much.
You can also take advantage of your hobbies and interests and make them into a way to fill the void of missing someone.
For instance, if you love music, then maybe you can write songs about them.
You could even make a blog about it! However, if you aren’t very good at writing things like these either, then try to find other ways of filling the void that you’re experiencing.
You never know, you may discover more skills in other areas you never imagined.
The feeling of missing someone you love is a very intense feeling.
You may even feel the need to do something drastic to fill that void.
Instead of wallowing in self-pity and regret, you can learn to turn these moments in your life into something positive.
No matter how tough missing someone you love may seem, you can use it as an opportunity to let your love for yourself and for them grow.
At the end of the day, it’s these very moments that will shape your relationship for the better.