You like a guy, but he gives you mixed signals, so now what? Even though many people have told you that you look great, you have trouble connecting with this guy you think about.
What’s the deal with him? Here are 16 signs that he is actually intimidated by your looks!
1) He couldn’t approach you for a long time
Your friends told you months ago that there’s this guy who likes you very much, but whenever you are near him, he simply starts acting weird. It took him months to actually come and talk to you, which left you completely puzzled about what was going on.
One of the reasons that it took him so long could be because he thinks that you are absolutely stunning, which disrupts his confidence. Just look at the way he’s acting around you.
If he finally gathered the courage to approach you, try to be nice to him, so you don’t actually end up hurting his feelings. This could be a beginning of something great, because knowing that someone is mesmerized by you feels amazing.
2) He cannot be calm around you
Have you noticed the way this guy behaves? If he is all jittery and cannot stand still when you are around, this is a sure sign that he is intimidated by you.
Maybe he thinks he is not good-looking, or you are making him very insecure. Sometimes when we find ourselves near someone who is absolutely gorgeous, we start looking at all the little flaws we have that we wouldn’t even notice otherwise.
On the other hand, gorgeous people can trigger our weak spots and make us feel like ugly ducklings. This may be the reason why he is behaving the way he does.
Pay attention to the way he sits or walks around you. If he constantly moves around and cannot sit still, it is a simple sign that he cannot calm down around you.
3) He tries to control you continuously
When people are insecure, they are pushy and want to know everything about the person they like. If the guy constantly asks where you have been or where you are going in means that he simply imagines thousands of scenarios in his head.
Most people consider all beautiful people promiscuous, which cannot be further from the truth. Even though these people have more chances to choose, it doesn’t mean that they will use it.
If you like this guy and you want to be with him, you can try to reassure him that you are interested in a serious relationship and that you don’t want to cheat. If he likes you very much and he is ready to try, it can be a beginning of a wonderful relationship.
On the other hand, if you simply cannot deal with this kind of behavior, it is better to end things at the very beginning. Simply explain that you are not ready to start the relationship right now.
It can hurt him, but it will surely be less painful than starting a relationship that you cannot enjoy fully. Being honest is always the best thing you can do, and it will spare both of you lots of pain.
4) He doesn’t feel like your hero
This guy might not get past your looks because you didn’t give him any reason to do so.
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you. In addition, he won’t be intimidated by your looks anymore.
But how do you trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including exactly how to trigger it in this guy.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
5) He is very insecure around you
When guys are intimidated by the way women look, they tend to get pretty insecure. If the guy is interested in you and he starts bragging around about the things that he doesn’t even have, it is a sure sign that he’s insecure and trying to cover it up.
He may also look confused when you talk to him or want to ask him something. If the guy is acting awkward around, you may end up being confused and asking yourself what this guy actually wants from you.
If you look good, it may stir up all his weaknesses which will leave him feeling inadequate and not good enough.
6) He is very nosey
Some guys respond to these kinds of situations by asking too many questions. They appear too nosey even though this is not their intention and all.
It is simply because they don’t know what to do with themselves. If the guy is constantly around you but doesn’t even know what to do to connect with you, he will try to ask numbers questions that are not even appropriate for any conversation, especially if you don’t know each other well.
Try to understand him and if you want to start a relationship with him, try to be gentler until he relaxes around you. However, keep in mind that just because he likes you, he shouldn’t act like this around you.
Explain in a very simple manner that this kind of behavior is not something that you appreciate.
Even though it can be flattering in the beginning, it can become a burden later on.
7) He tries to make you feel bad
In some cases, guys can start transferring all the negative emotions to you. If the guy suddenly starts saying things to hurt you or he starts pushing your buttons, don’t worry too much about it.
It is simply a way for him to reduce his own insecurities and regain some sense of control in this challenging situation. If you like him and you want to start something more meaningful with him, there are a few ways you can handle this.
One way is to try asking him to be gentler with you. This means you will show him that you are only human even though he may perceive you as a Goddess.
Show him that you have emotions, which may help him view this situation from another perspective. On the other hand, if you see that this guy is too much concerned about you looking better than him, then keep in mind that you need to protect yourself first.
Some guys are simply not worth the effort, and if it’s too complicated because he cannot handle your beauty, it may be the time to simply move on.
8) He apologizes a lot
Insecurity can be easily seen in the way that someone treats you and behaves around you. If he constantly says, “I’m sorry,” this is not just a sign that he is nice.
It means that he’s so insecure that he’s terrified of doing anything. He may be looking at his every step and trying too hard to impress you or even to stay calm enough to behave normally.
We have all been there, especially in the years when we were too young to know what to do to get the attention of the person we like. However, this should not be an excuse, especially if he is not even trying to overcome it.
Think about the way that the relationship with this guy would be, and if you truly like him, you could think about helping him overcome this.
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However, if you are simply not ready to get involved with someone who is so insecure, then be very gentle about the way you will tell him that you are not interested in a relationship. This could save you a lot of time and energy because some guys seek lots of attention, and if this is not something you can do right now, that is fine too.
9) He acts really weird
Some guys, who get very insecure when they are close to stunning women, start acting really weird around them.
If you noticed that the guy you like gives you some weird vibe – asking you out now and then a second later saying that he’s busy, that could leave you completely confused.
If you have been asking yourself what could be wrong with him, asking your friends about the way he behaves when you are not around will help you understand the situation better.
He may be the coolest guy in the world, but once you come by, he forgets how to speak or behave normally.
This is actually a compliment because your appearance could be very distracting to him.
This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to see you for who you are and stop being intimidated by your looks.
And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.
All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.
10) He cannot stop talking when he is around you
In some cases, you may notice that the guy you like cannot stop talking. It is not like he is trying to say something particular; it is more like he doesn’t know how to stop.
Some people respond to awkward situations by babbling constantly. If your looks distract him completely and even intimidates him, you may hear him talk non-stop.
If you really like him and you notice that your looks intimidates him and hypnotizes him, but you want to be with him after all, you could try and ease the situation with a little bit of humor. However, be careful not to trigger his insecurities even more.
11) He cannot say a word when you are around
Well, this is the other side of the medal, because some people respond with complete silence when they like someone. If the guy you like cannot say a word normally, it can be simply because he’s completely dazzled by your beauty.
Pay attention to the way he behaves when he is around other people, and it will be much clearer to you why he behaves this way. If he is eloquent and confident with other people, but he is completely speechless around you, it is a sign that your beauty intimidates him and that he simply cannot get over it.
12) He hardly ever asks you about your life
There are people who constantly talk about themselves because they want to create an image that they are very important in this world. Then, there are people who will constantly be interested in other people’s well-being and will put themselves aside.
Then again, there are those people who will constantly talk about the things that happened to them without any intention to increase their value. The only motive for all this talk is to break the silence.
If he constantly talks but never asks you anything about your day, your life, and your goals, it doesn’t mean he is selfish or self-centered. It can just mean that he is not able to think straight when you are around.
13) He avoids eye contact
Eye contact is one of the most important things when two people start getting to know each other. If you notice that the guy you like constantly avoids making eye contact, it can mean that he is simply afraid that you will see what he feels about you and that you will notice his flaws.
Of course, you may even like these flaws, but people tend to get very self-aware around beautiful women. Especially if this is something they have been struggling with for a very long time.
This will pass with time and can one day be a reason to have a little laugh, but at the moment, the best thing you can do is simply be very cautious and gentle until you connect on a deeper level. If you manage to make him look at you directly, pay attention to his pupils.
If they are dilated, it means that he is very interested in you. This happens because dopamine and oxytocin get released instantly when we like someone.
These hormones are also known as love hormones, and they are the indicators of attraction. There is no way to hide this or control it, so if you’re not sure what he feels about you, this may be one of the easiest methods to find out.
14) His body language shows he’s uncomfortable
Take a better look at the way he is moving around you. If he looks like he is trying to protect himself by putting his hands in his pockets or crossing his hands on his chest, he may be unconsciously trying to protect his heart from getting hurt.
However, if he’s truly into you, you may notice that he is always turned to you. Pay attention to the way his voice sounds.
If his voice gets deeper, it means that he’s very attracted to you, but he may simply be very confused about his chances to be with you. You can even test his body language by paying close attention if he’s trying to mimic you.
If he unconsciously does what you do, it means that he is very into you and he’s not paying attention to what he’s doing.
15) He makes excuses
If you have been trying to figure this guy out for a while now, and you’re simply don’t know what to think anymore, you can propose some occasion for getting to know each other better. However, you should know that he may be giving you all sorts of excuses.
There are two cases when guys make excuses:
- They are not into you
- They are very into you but are very intimidated
Well, to be able to crack this code, you must take all the things into consideration and understand better what this guy is all about. Sometimes things unfold on their own, but some people simply confuse us too much with their behavior we cannot understand.
Do what you can to find out more about his reasons just for the sake of your mental health or curiosity. Whatever your motive is, do it in the way that is best for you.
16) You make him very nervous
If this guy starts sweating around you, cannot find the right words, spills coffee all over the place the moment he sees you that could actually be very cute, but it is also a major sign that he’s very nervous around you.
It is an obvious hint that he likes you very much, but he’s too insecure to do anything about it.
Try to be very considerate. This guy may come around when the initial jitters pass. Try not to eliminate him from the start, because underneath all that mess may be a very sincere person who simply likes you too much.
By now you should have a good idea of whether a guy is intimidated by your looks.
So what can you do to resolve this?
Well, I mentioned the unique concept of the hero instinct earlier. It’s revolutionized the way I understand how men work in relationships.
You see, when you trigger a man’s hero instinct, he sees you for who you are and isn’t intimidated by your looks.
He feels better in himself and he’ll naturally begin to associate those good feelings with you.
And it’s all down to knowing how to trigger these innate drivers that motivate men to love, commit, and protect.
So if you’re ready to take your relationship to that level, be sure to check out James Bauer’s incredible advice.