One of the most important traits someone can have is integrity.
People with integrity are kind, hold themselves to honorable standards and don’t try to be someone they’re not.
But how do we know whether we actually have integrity?
The first thing we need to do is to define integrity. Here are 7 ways you can tell if you or someone you know is authentic, honorable, and kind.
1) People with Integrity Accept their Actions
The easiest way to demonstrate this principle is to draw attention to the parents who apologize to their children when they overreact.
You might think that parents yelling at children is a normal thing, but often the yelling is brought on by stressors or factors that have nothing to do with the children, but they are standing there caught in the crosshairs of a parent’s issue.
People with integrity recognize that they have projected their issues onto their children and they will make amends for that.
2) Giving Credit Where Credit is Due
When you think of people with integrity, you might think they are people who hold themselves to a high standard and take credit for their work.
The opposite is often true, and you can see this in an example of a boss who credits his team with the work and effort.
Although many supervisors or leaders would take the credit for themselves – it is their team, after all – the good ones give away the credit to the people who got their hands dirty.
3) People with Integrity Fight Clean
Everyone lashes out or needs to blow off steam once in a while, especially in a relationship, but people with integrity know that there’s no need to point fingers or assign blame to their partners, friends, family, or even employees because there are always better ways to handle a crisis or incident.
While many people might just start screaming profanity at someone who made us mad, people with integrity take time to consider their words before they speak.
4) Integrity Means Not Blaming Others For Your Thoughts and Feelings
Being a human is hard. Our thoughts and feelings have tremendous power over us, and it can be overwhelming to try to manage all of that information at once.
Often, we do a terrible job of managing thoughts and feelings, and we project blame on others for how we are feeling. We say things like “it’s their fault I feel like this.” But the truth is, it’s no one’s fault.
We get to decide how we feel, and people with integrity know this. They never point the finger at another person for how they are feeling. It’s their job to make themselves feel better, and they know it.
5) People Who Have Integrity Admit When They are Wrong
Whether they are in the board room or the living room, a person who has a great deal of integrity will not continue to push a point if they discover they are wrong.
Not only will they not pursue an argument, but they will also actually consider that they might be wrong from the start and try to see the argument from the other person’s perspective.
6) Giving Someone the Benefit of the Doubt Takes Integrity
Our brains receive a lot of information on a minute-to-minute basis, and it can be hard to determine what information is accurate and what information we can disregard.
It also means that you need to determine whether what someone is saying is true perhaps there is more to the story.
As someone with integrity, you may decide to hear someone out to get the rest of the story.
In fact, it is your default setting to explore ideas and stories to determine if you need more information to make a decision, move in a direction, or continue asking more questions.
7) Giving Your Time to Others Takes Integrity
People who have integrity know that building others up is important, and they tend to volunteer their time to help make the world a better place.
This doesn’t have to be extensive or exhaustive, and in fact, some people with a lot of integrity simply offer a helping hand when it is needed.
They recognize that offering someone help goes a long way and even if the act of kindness is not reciprocated, they get joy from knowing they are helping anyway.