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10 signs karma is real when it comes to relationships

Maybe you’ve been through a breakup and you are worried that you will get bad karma for breaking someone’s heart…

Or perhaps you’ve been cheated on by someone you loved and you’re wondering how you could get back at them — without you getting back at them.

In this article, we’ll narrow down facts on how Karma works.

What’s the price of being mean to your ex-partner who loved you? Will my ex-partner who cheated on me get cheated in return? How will I know I’m in a karmic relationship?

The answers to these questions (plus many more FAQs) are revealed right down below.

What does Karma mean?

In both Hinduism and Buddhism, Karma refers to that force created by a person’s actions that determine what that person’s next life will be like.

In modern usage, Karma is the product of all your actions that will cause good or bad things to happen to you.

Is Karma real in relationships?

All relationships create Karma.

You are with the person you are with today because of Karma and you’ve broken up with someone in the past because of Karma.

Karma is real and plays a huge role not just in your romantic relationships but also in your relationships at work, within the family, and with friends.

Good Karma will let your relationships flourish and make your life harmonious and peaceful. But it doesn’t mean that all your relationships will last.

If you have so much of a good Karma, you will also have to experience breakups, as your Karma knows that what’s not good for you has to eventually end.

However, once bad Karma prevails, you will either be stuck in a toxic relationship or feel that there’s always something missing in your relationships — but you can never figure out what it is.

Thus, you will live a life full of remorse and resentments.

So, is Karma real in love?

The answer is in the affirmative — Karma is real in love and also in heartbreak.

When you break someone’s heart, you create a lot of bad Karma.

When you get cheated on by your ex, you can be sure that Karma will make them pay the price of breaking your heart.

Also, as mentioned above, all relationships are bound by Karma.

Have you experienced looking at someone so irresistibly attractive — like you’re being struck by love at first sight? That is a Karmic attraction that’s at work right there.

This Karma attraction also plays a vital role in forming non-romantic relationships, like with best friends, friends at work, and in-laws.

What is a karmic relationship?

A karmic relationship is a relationship meant to facilitate the lessons about love and partnership that we need to learn in this lifetime.

It’s a kind of relationship that isn’t meant to last.

Hence, karmic relationships are different from twin flame or soulmate relationships.

Here are 15 signs that your relationship is a karmic one.

1) There’s an instant connection

The most obvious sign is that you’ll feel that you’ve known the person before.

Sometimes you get a good feeling about the relationship right from the very beginning, but other times there are also fears attached — depending on what the Karma is.

Having said that, karmic relationships are marked by an immediate attraction.

You may feel that this person seems so perfect to you, and you are immediately attached to them.

2) There’s a lot of drama

If your love affair is so full of drama, chances are you’re in a karmic relationship.

Karmic relationships are tumultuous — they are incredibly volatile, erratic, and unpredictable.

Therefore, if you feel that you are in this kind of relationship, the best thing you can do is to immediately detach yourself from it.

Learn to let it go for your own good.

3) Things feel off early on

Did you notice a lot of red flags, even at the very onset of your relationship?

Don’t just shrug them off. Sometimes these triggers are critical to the very lessons this karmic relationship is meant to teach you.

4) They make you feel frustrated

If you often feel frustrated and misunderstood, there’s a fat chance you are in a karmic relationship.

You see, karmic relationships aren’t about a perfect partnership; they’re about growth. That’s why they will push your buttons.

The good thing is that, out of this *often toxic* relationship, you will learn a big deal about self-love and how to spot manipulative partners in the future.

5) They’re unpleasant to be around — because they’re controlling

If you find your partner’s presence to be heavy and begrudging, you are likely to be in a karmic relationship.

However, despite your unpleasant feeling toward them, you don’t want to let go.

Karmic relationships are obsessive and revolve around ownership of one’s partner.

You will feel that the other person becomes the center of your universe and your main source of happiness.

The worst thing is that it’s hard for you to see their flaws, that’s why you might end up ruining your relationships with your friends and families who might suggest that you’re not meant to be.

6) They’re addicting

Karmic relationships are addictive.

They are characterized by the highest and lowest of the “passion spectrum.”

Therefore, it’s likely that one or both partners only love the idea of being in love — that is, based on superficial reasons such as good looks, popularity, or social status.

7) There’s a lot of miscommunication

When you’re in a karmic relationship, there’s a great chance that one or both partners are irrational.

That’s why miscommunication is commonplace.

They will reflect your worst vulnerabilities and nasty insecurities.

If you stay in such a relationship for quite long, you will start acting so unlike yourself and do things you wouldn’t normally do.

8) There are a lot of highs and lows

Things are never quite consistent.

Although you may have good days where everything seems perfect, it will only be a matter of time before things start to go south again.

9) They’re repetitive

Those highs and lows will repeat over and over — until you run out of energy to deal with anything outside of your relationship.

Also, you may run into the same issues from your past relationship, which means that there are still lessons from there that need learning.

Karmic relationships repeat the same patterns and will make you feel stuck because the only way you can grow from them is by letting go.

10) They become codependent

If you feel that you have no other option but to give your partner all of your time and energy, then that is a glaring sign of a karmic relationship.

Your partner becomes so dependent on you, and you begin to feel consumed by the relationship.

As a result, you become mentally, physically, and emotionally drained — until you learn to let go.

11) They bring out your worst fears

This person will bring all your fears — regarding your future, about love, and your relationship in general — to the surface.

Any past traumas and all the skeletons in your closet will be brought to light — and there’s no running from it.

12) They reveal your dark side

Karmic relationships are this roller-coaster ride that can bring the worst out of the most level-headed of people.

You will be surprised that you have become someone you don’t recognize while you’re in that relationship.

They have the power to show you your most undesirable and difficult characteristics. But that’s part of the lesson such a type of relationship will teach you.

13) They make you feel exhausted

Karmic relationships know no healthy boundaries.

You will begin to realize how selfish your partner is, as they serve only their own self-interest and needs.

Abusive or overly dependent partners are a defining feature of karmic relationships.

So if you find that your partner only loves you when it’s convenient for them, know that you aren’t in a soulmate type of relationship — you should start packing up and leave.

14) You feel like you can’t let go

You will be filled with thoughts that you cannot live without this person, and that somehow you two are destined to be together.

And you cannot seem to understand why it keeps failing, so you keep trying to make it stay afloat.

You see, karmic relationships are extremely hard to resist, and they keep drawing you in — until you learn your lessons.

15) They don’t last

And of course, karmic relationships aren’t meant to last.

This person is not your forever person, no matter how much you try to keep them.

Once you’ve learned the lesson that such a relationship intends you to, everything will collapse and sink — just the way it’s designed.

The bottomline

A soulmate is a person that you’re meant to be with — someone that will complete you.

On the other hand, a karmic relationship is born out of the karma (either good or bad) that you have accumulated from your past relationships or your interactions with the world.

When you finally realize that you’re in a karmic relationship, you can then easily move forward and work through the lessons that you need to learn through that person.

And when you do move forward, you’ll be ready for your true love.

FAQs (Frequently Asked Questions)

How to deal with Karma for breaking someone’s heart?

If you find yourself asking this question, chances are you might be feeling guilty for how you treated someone in the past.

But guess what? You don’t need to freak out — your actions in the past were inevitable, and they were destined to happen.

The best thing you can do now is just be at peace with what you did in the past. You probably know how it feels to be heartbroken too.

If you haven’t yet, you probably will soon — and that’s how Karma works.

Do cheaters get their Karma?

The short answer is yes.

If someone has cheated on you, you can be sure that they will get their Karma very soon.

If you cheated on someone, you can also expect to pay for it sooner or later.

Here is the breakdown of how Karma makes cheaters pay:

  • Karma will make sure that cheaters realize their mistake
  • Karma will see to it that a cheater will genuinely feel sorry about their cheating
  • Karma has a way of making the cheater feel they’re cheated on unless they realize their mistake and feel sorry about it

Will my ex who cheated on me ever apologize?

The truth is, this might not happen.

You see, cheaters are usually too proud to admit that they did something so wrong.

They may also feel so embarrassed of the idea of owning up because deep inside, they know they did something wrong.

So, don’t expect to receive a text from your ex saying how sorry he is for breaking your heart and that he regrets it.

Instead, just let Karma do its job.

Do cheaters feel guilty?

Some cheaters feel remorse, while others don’t.

Those who do may feel guilty because they took advantage of their partner. They let down someone so innocent or unsuspecting — and that’s a bad feeling.

However, some cheaters can easily find a way to rationalize their actions. Maybe they feel like they’re getting enough attention in the relationship, which their partner can barely give.

Or they might be thinking that their partner is cheating, so they’re just doing a payback.

Is it worth forgiving a cheating partner?

If the person who cheated is remorseful and promises to change, this could be a sign that you can forgive them.

Just a reminder though, if you decide to forgive a cheater, there is a chance they could do it again.

But it’s all up to you. You know you’re taking a risk, but if you’re doing this because you really believe they’re changing, then do so.

Written by Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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