You’ve successfully spiritually awakened…now what?
Not sure what to do now? It’s natural and there are ways to get through it.
In this article, I’ll be showing you the signs that you’ve spiritually awakened, why you’re feeling lost, and what you can do about it.
Signs of a spiritual awakening
1) The feeling of being okay
After a spiritual awakening, you’ll feel a shift in yourself that you might not be able to explain at first.
To undergo this awakening, you have to defeat your ego, which is the source of all your rational (and irrational) fears, desires, and constant tension.
Once you’ve done this and your ego is no longer in control of your life, you’ll feel a sense of peace and okayness because all of the anxieties and problems you had in the past seem insignificant now, like great pressure has been lifted.
It’s the feeling of being at peace with everything because you’re consciously bringing yourself into a healthier mindset free from unnecessary worry and stress.
2) Love and empathy
Feeling more connected with the world around you means feeling more connected to other people.
It’s easier to empathize with others now because they’re easier to understand; your perspective is wider and there’s more room for patience and kindness.
Past squabbles and petty arguments now seem unimportant and easily solvable. You know better than to engage in interactions that will only tire your spirit.
There’s more love to go around and the people around you can feel it.
3) Your past no longer serves you
If your past no longer serves you, it’s a symptom of undergoing a spiritual awakening.
All your life, you’ve had labels and attachments that constitute you. Painter, parent, child, businessman.
Now, it feels like the time to shed those labels and exist as the true you and nothing else. It feels like everything you’ve strived to become and achieve in the past has no meaning to you now and you have the sudden urge to purge your life of things you no longer need.
You feel like decluttering — from people, habits, and old possessions, to bigger things like beliefs and philosophies.
Your past doesn’t feel like it serves you well anymore, so you do what you can to move on from it.
4) Lifestyle changes
You’re slowly noticing that you’ve changed the way you go about day-to-day life.
It could be a different way of starting your mornings or an entire career change.
You might switch up hobbies because you find joy in different things now or you might start eating healthier and exercising more.
Big or small, you find yourself choosing to do things you actually find meaning in.
You find yourself more mindful of what you do and why you do it, so you make changes in routine and behavior to suit your new mindset.
5) A surrender to the flow of life
Surrendering yourself to the flow of life is a big sign of a spiritual awakening because now, you’re trusting that things will go the way they’re meant to go.
It’s like allowing yourself to be rushed along a river instead of fighting against the current for the first time in your life.
Feeling this way is a kind of vulnerability and it’s a great sign that your spiritual awakening was successful.
So if all of these are positive signs of enlightenment, why are you feeling lost after spiritual awakening?
Why you’re feeling lost
1) You’ve flipped on a light switch
Spiritual teacher Jim Tolles shares that a spiritual awakening is similar to the experience of flipping on a light switch in a room for the first time.
Everything is illuminated, veils are lifted, and you’re given more clarity to experience the world with.
However, just because you switched the light on doesn’t mean that the mess that’s been in the room for years automatically disappears along with the darkness.
The fact that the light is on doesn’t clear the room of its junk.
This analogy shows us that it’s natural to be feeling lost after a spiritual awakening because it’s opening your eyes to, first and foremost, a lot of things that need to be dealt with before you can go on with the rest of your life.
It’s intimidating to take that first step into your new life because now, you have to face your past self and your past choices.
Were you in a lot of debt to support a lavish lifestyle?
Did you stay in toxic relationships for the sake of keeping the connection even though the people added no value to your life?
Switching on the light will reveal the answers, and feeling lost might be the result.
2) You are reborn
Right after your awakening, you let go of your identity and your sense of the world as you know it.
Everything you thought you knew about yourself and the world now seems wildly different than how you saw it before enlightenment and the labels you previously defined yourself with now seem meaningless.
You may have thought you were popular, or ambitious, or an academic achiever; now, you just are, without all of the labels you were used to having all your life.
Maybe you enjoyed going to the movies or out to clubs but now find that none of them add value to your life anymore.
Nothing familiar to you before seems to fit now, and it can make you feel lost.
Friends, hobbies, pastimes — you can’t relate to anything anymore, and it can get lonely and confusing.
3) You’re free
Isn’t freedom supposed to be a good thing?
It can be but too much of it can get overwhelming at the start.
What do you do when you can go anywhere and be anything?
More specifically, what do you do first?
It’s a good way to get lost. When you’ve only just awakened, you’d have no idea where to go; it’s like starting from scratch. No idea where to begin, no idea where to go, but the possibilities are endless.
Your life is a blank slate that you now have the freedom to write on however you want. This is the paradox that freedom brings.
You’re at the starting point and you’re either tempted to shoot in all directions all at once or stay stationary because you’re paralyzed by the endlessness of the possibilities ahead of you.
You’re probably thinking, now might be a good time for some clarity, some sign of what the next step is. But no matter how hard you try to will it into existence, no arrow leads you in a particular direction and you’ve left with the world ahead of you, wondering what to do with it.
4) You’re done with hiding
Now that you’ve spiritually awakened, you are no longer blind or hiding behind what you’ve always known. Now, you recognize just how much of your life was lived according to other people’s standards and expectations.
It’s not your fault that that’s how you lived; we were brought up with rules on how things are supposed to be and it was comfortable to stay within the pre-determined life we were slated to have.
But now that you’ve chosen to find a higher meaning, take a look at the confusing thought patterns you’re facing now.
Are you lost because you’ve suddenly found yourself free from society’s expectations?
Your ego has died and you’ve been reborn, and you can’t undo that. You can’t unknow what you’ve now uncovered. It doesn’t seem to make sense at first because shouldn’t enlightenment bring clarity and not more fogginess?
The answer is that it does and the fogginess comes from a disconnect between your old life and your new one. You’re through with not seeing the true meaning of things and now you’re faced with the truth — and the truth isn’t always an easy thing to live out.
5) You’ve decided to start thinking for yourself
Choosing to go down the path of spiritual awakening was a conscious decision on your part, one that’s changing your life the way you are allowing it to.
You’ve decided to start thinking for yourself and break free from the chains of society.
Now is when you need to accept that you’ve embraced a kind of spiritual anarchism.
Anarchism here doesn’t mean the absence of order but the development of your own sense of order, a responsibility for your own spiritual growth that no one else bears.
Once you’ve come to terms with going down this road on your own (not literally, which we’ll talk more about later), it’s normal to feel lost because, again, you’re breaking away from everything you’ve always known.
Society has always kept us in straight lines, assigning us clear paths to go and a step-by-step tutorial on how to go about it.
Now’s the first time you’re stepping outside of society’s destiny for you and that can be disorienting because of how deeply it was ingrained in you from the beginning.
All of these reasons show that it’s only natural to be feeling lost at this stage of your life. There are too many factors involved and too big of a shift in your life for it to be smooth sailing throughout.
That being said, that doesn’t mean it’s impossible to manage.
Here are some things you can do if you’re feeling lost after a spiritual awakening.
What you can do
1) Stop fighting
If you’re struggling with feeling lost after a spiritual awakening, it’s time to accept that your old life is over and surrender to your new one.
You had an identity before awakening; you had the life you built for yourself out of the choices you made along the way. Because of how hard and long you worked on it, it might be difficult to let go of it now that you have no need for it anymore.
The hard truth is that this is where you leave behind your previous identity. You can’t move forward into your new life if you’re still clinging to the old one.
It can be scary to even begin thinking about this. What if you end up with nothing left? What if you lose everyone in your life? What if you go broke and end up in debt?
Don’t worry about what will stay or go; what stays is meant for you and what goes is also meant for you. All you have to do is accept that and flow with the flow.
2) Practice self-care
It’s common to feel depressed after spiritual awakening because of how things seem meaningless for a while.
Spiritual awakening is painful. It’s a separation from what you’ve always known and can leave you feeling stranded and lonely because not everyone walks this path.
It requires stepping outside of yourself to see the bigger picture and that’s not always a pleasant experience when you’ve been wrapped up in yourself all your life.
Although it brings empathy for others, it also brings pain because of how deeply you feel others’ emotions, even the negative ones.
That’s why it’s so important to take care of yourself during this stage. It’s bound to bring a lot of discomfort and conflicting emotions and it’s easy to get lost in that and spiral into depression.
Treat yourself the way you’d treat a good friend — with kindness, patience, and compassion.
3) Free up space
There’s a lot of clutter in the room, both figuratively and…possibly literally.
Clear out everything unnecessary to make room for the new and good to come in. It can’t come into your life if it has no place there, so remove from your life what no longer adds value and meaning to it.
Don’t block the flow with noise and clutter.
4) Continue with spiritual practice
Your ego will find a way to bring you back to materialism.
To keep you from getting lost, don’t lose momentum just because you’ve spiritually awakened; continue with your spiritual practices such as meditation, yoga, or just some quiet alone time.
It can be tempting to return to the life you lived before because of how easy and comfortable it was. That means this time right after your awakening is a vulnerable time in which you have to be careful not to let yourself go astray.
Keep it consistent that you’re connected with your environment — and not in the social media way.
5) Use your freedom
Now that you have all these possibilities ahead of you, get past the overwhelmed feeling of facing your freedom and take the opportunity by the horns. It’s okay to dabble in different things that you want to do; there’s no need to commit to only one course in life.
Are there any new hobbies you want to try? A career change you want to make?
If you’re feeling paralyzed by the importance of the choice, just remember that you have your whole life ahead of you to make both the right choices and the meaningful mistakes.
6) Focus on love and peace
After your spiritual awakening, you may be feeling particularly patient and empathetic. If you’re feeling lost, this is a good place to start.
Focus on the love you now hold in your heart and show kindness towards other people.
Being more empathetic gives you a stronger connection to the people around you, so use it to the fullest and direct your newfound compassion outward.
7) Reign in your spiritual ego
Being spiritually egotistical means becoming overly identified with the pursuit of spirituality, meaning, or purpose in life.
It makes you feel like you’re better than others because of your spirituality, defeating the intended purpose of awakening. It puts distance between you and other people — the people you’re supposed to be compassionate towards.
This will only make you feel more lost, so be careful about letting your newfound spirituality get to your head.
8) Plan your finances
A concrete step to take when you’re feeling lost after a spiritual awakening is to create a financial plan for yourself.
What can you do with your career that’ll both add meaning to your life and still physically support your daily life?
This might be intimidating to think about because it might mean a career change.
For some, it might even mean their first job. But it’s a fact of life that you still need a way to support yourself, so reevaluate the way you want to live your life and make a plan for it.
9) Find a spiritual support system
You need like-minded people who are there to support you and be on this journey with you; if you don’t find even just one person, it’s even easier to feel lost because, on top of that, you’d also feel lonely.
Find people you can trust who will accept you for who you are.
This could mean finding new friends or rekindling old ones; either way, you have to look for your people and build your lives with each other’s support.
10) Live in the present
Writer and coach Henri shares that one way of coping with feeling lost after a spiritual awakening is to stay in the present moment.
Be mindful about your body and surroundings and live for the now.
Act according to what’s happening now; leave behind your anxieties and fears for the future, because it hasn’t happened yet.
What is happening is your present life, and you need to ground yourself in this moment if you want a solution to feeling lost.
The bottom line is that while there are reasons for feeling lost, there are also solutions, so don’t panic or second-guess your journey; you’re already there, and all that’s left is to work on how best to be there.