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These 22 brutal truths about life are difficult to hear but they’ll make you a much better person

When someone finally sits you down and tells you the cold hard truth, it can be difficult to hear.

But if you want to get the most of our life, you need to get to the heart of the matter and cut the crap out of your life so you can focus on what’s actually important.

Here are 22 brutal truths about life no one wants to admit but they’ll make you a much better person when you do.

1) Nobody Cares

Are you in pain? Are you suffering? Have you lost something or someone dear to you?

Guess what? Everything you have ever felt has already been felt by everyone else around you.

It’s time to realize that your pain isn’t special; it’s just part of being alive. No one cares.

2) Don’t Waste Your Talent

We weren’t all born with talent. If there’s anything inside of you that says, “I’m good at doing this,” then you need to make your life about doing this. If you throw it away, you throw away everything.

3) Stay Responsible

Who controls your thoughts, your words, your actions? You do. If you do something bad or hurtful or wrong, it’s your fault. Stay responsible for everything you represent.

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4) Death is Final

Stop worrying about death or worrying about being remembered. Death is death—when you’re gone, you’re gone. Live before you have to go.

5) Embrace Your Emotions

Stop running from your fears, anxieties, and pains. Admit that you are flawed and you feel things you don’t want to feel, and then feel them. The sooner you do, the sooner you can move on.

6) You Can’t Make Everyone Your Friend

Stop trying. Make sure you make the most important person in the world your friend: yourself.

7) Value Comes From Time, Not Money

Don’t let money stand in your way from living your life. You don’t need a wallet full of bills to make the most out of your day. All you need to give yourself and those around you is time.

8) Don’t Actively Search for Happiness

Happiness is everywhere. In every laugh, every smile, every “Hello”. Stop ignoring the happiness vibrating all around you in your search for a “greater” happiness. This is it, right here: enjoy it.

9) Money Won’t Bring You Happiness

If you aren’t happy on the inside, no amount of fortunes could make you happy. Happiness comes from the heart.

10) Everyone Around You Will Someday Die

Don’t make your life about grieving over others and worrying about the day they’ll lay down and die. Death is a part of life; live life while you have it.

11) Money Won’t Go with You to the After Life

You know all those long nights you spent building your fortune, ignoring your health, your loved ones, and your life? When you die, those nights will be for nothing, because that money can’t be used after you die.

12) Don’t Forget Who You Are

Remember the you who lives in the place beyond your anxieties, stresses, and worries. The you who defines who you really are, surrounded by what makes you smile and what makes you passionate. Remember that “you” always.

13) Give Time

Time is the most valuable thing you can give another person. By investing you time in the community around you, you give them so much more than any check ever could.

14) Embrace Gratitude

As tough as your day may be, remember that someone out there will always be living something worse. Find something to be grateful about, whether it’s a friend who loves you, a skill no one else has, or even a great dinner. Always remember to be grateful.

15) Your Time Is Your Real-Life Currency

Think of it this way: we give up 40 hours a week so that we can have cash. Time is the true currency of life, and wasting time is wasting money. Invest your time wisely.

16) Dreaming is for Losers; Start Doing the Work

Anyone can dream, and that’s why so many people do. But how many people actually go out and try to accomplish their dreams? Not even half as many. Stop sitting around waiting for a genie to give you everything you ever wanted, and start working towards it.

17) Stop Reacting Negatively

Accept the inevitability of life’s curve balls, and take them as they come. The worst reaction you can have is acting like everything is on fire when in reality, nothing is. Stay calm.

18) Invest in the Most Important Thing: Yourself

You can only live life from one perspective: yourself. After you are gone, there’s nothing else; your version of life is done. So why not make you the best version of you that you can be? Invest in yourself, physically, mentally, and spiritually.

19) Share Knowledge and Experience

Every insight, lesson, and tip you accumulate in the world is worth nothing if you never give others a chance to learn from you. Let others stand on your shoulders, so they can reach heights you never could.

20) Live Today

Not yesterday, not tomorrow. Today is the only time that matters. Start living in it right now.

21) Perfection is Impossible

Why is perfection impossible? Because everyone has their own unique version of what “perfect” is. So stop trying—just be who you are to the best of your ability.

22) You Are Going to Die

Accept it, stop ignoring it. Death is coming and it won’t wait, no matter how many dreams you’ve left unfulfilled. You better stop waiting, too.

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Notable replies

  1. I liked this topic and read through the full article. There’s one more truth I’ve experienced in life which of course many people know and have experienced, is missing from this article.

    1. Do not take good things in life like health, relationships for granted. If we ignore these valuable things when we have them, universe finds a harsh way of making us realize their worth.

    The quote/saying “Health is Wealth” is 100% true. When we are young, we act like life is eternal. But we’ll start seeing the reality of life when middle-age dawns or if any long-term sickness starts.

    In a recent study it was found that people with good interpersonal relationships are the happiest, irrespective of their age and financial situation.

  2. Avatar for Namyk Namyk says:

    Good topics. I like this very much.

  3. #1 itself is not actually correct. There are 2 basic sets of people. EGO centered, like typeA who are driven at all costs to succeed focusing on goals for themselves & they are usually insensitive. Group B are very empathic sensitive intuitive people who actually notice & care about other people’s feelings as well as their own. This is a minority. And I’m sure you are in the first category. I recommend 'A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle, & ‘The Road Less Traveled’ by Scott Peck- Psychiatrist- brilliant man who came to TRUE Spirit centered Christianity & Pure Evil because of the level of patients psychosis & actual demons in them he dealt with.
    I am a very STRONG Sensitive Intuitive Empath, also Driven to save myself- and you have not done 24 years of rebirthing, & faced 52 years of direct wicked cold evil with demons in your own family. NOT ALL have gone through the same experiences. There are highly traumatized persons and great wicked people who deliberately traumatize for their personal enjoyment. Every single person Deserves and needs personal attention for their pain. Emotional Sensitive people can actually give the attention & give relief & comfort. But there are 2 realities, & there are those who are so cold they have NO Soul, no feeling, & DO NOT CARE- They are fed by DEMONS & REAL EVIL.
    There are Many Professionals who understand this. Buddah is a system of personal self Ego enlightenment seeking, a Path, a journey.
    But there is a flaw to these Eastern thinkings including the old dvanta Hindu beliefs-
    They believe in dualism. They believe Creator left the building & abandoned the Creation , or new age ‘buddists’ believe we are one collective conciousness & we just pick right thoughts & create our reality. True buddism is also about great sacrifice to detach from all Earthly pleasures, joys or experiences.
    None of these beliefs accept that a ONE MIND CREATOR IS the ONLY MIND in which we all exist. We have to choose to live in harmony with the MIND & LAWS of Nature & the CREATOR of unity, harmony, service & to actually seek knowledge of the CREATORS MIND for LIFE & Live to CREATORS LAWS, ways, & Understandings for Unity of All life. We are NOT to lean on human Individual ideas. We have to actually Seek DEEP INNER SPIRIT GUIDANCE & CREATOR TRUTHS. These are actually in a correct version of the Bible. See original Aramaic Bible translation by George M Lamsa. And The Science of Mind by Ernest Holmes.
    These Truths are also Stored in our True Soul Hearts if we seek to find them, with INNER VOICE from HEART of LOVE.
    It is a very astrologically male way of thinking to be black/white & simplify matters to all or nothing. There are 2 realities 1) EGO or Evil & 2) HEART SOUL & GOOD with great sensitivity & compassion. EVIL Knows exactly how to mislead, deceive & manipulate humans into destroying themselves. We all have to choose.
    Eckhart Tolle explains this in a New Earth very easy & clear to understand.
    In general I think your intentions are Great to push people to be brave & strong.
    BUT NOT ALL people have gone through the same sufferings. There are Deliberate Aggressors and those who are attacked. 2 sides of choice - all for EGO POWER.
    We can SURRENDERR to GOOD FOR ALL & BE STRONG in TRUTH. Or CHOOSE Self Glory, self Power & make selfish, destructive EGO cruel choices.
    We have to CHOOSE the Reality; which Ultimately affects us all & the Earth.
    We can NOT SAVE, FIX, REDEEM, ourselves by ourselves or we would have Created ourselves. This is a very mental EGO concept, a thought of fixing ourselves. But this is completely detached from our actual inner Spirit Heart Feeling Soul. An Infinite Soul of Eternal Life Force Energy that is a Child part of the ONE INFINITE CREATOR HEART & MIND. We have to seek & Re-merge all of us with All of the Source CREATOR LIGHT LIFE LOVE BREATH of Life & then we can really learn & know who we really are. Unique Individual Eternal Souls forever. Unique Identities Forever. We will always have unique paths and not every person has been through the same pain. Most people could not conceive of great suffering or sacrifice like Military men or severe abuse victims especially sex trafficking & torture. So not all people have the same pain. We each deserve personal specific attention with LOVE. and this is our TRUE Souls desire- to be completely known as a unique, one and only Individual for all time.
    Only our CREATOR JEHOVAH FATHER Mother actually knows exactly who we are & every hair on our head. :pray:

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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