10 rare signs you’re in a relationship that can last a lifetime

Ever found yourself wondering if your relationship is the real deal or just a passing phase?

We’ve all been there, right? It’s tricky to figure out if the love you share with your partner is meant to last forever.

But don’t sweat it! I’m here to help you spot the signs of a lasting relationship.

And guess what? They’re not the usual things like remembering anniversaries or cooking dinner.

Nope, we’re talking about the little, often-overlooked things that could mean you two are in it for the long haul.

Let’s get into it – here are 10 rare signs that you’re in a relationship that can last a lifetime.

1. You Can Be Totally Yourself

You know that feeling when you can be completely yourself around someone?

No pretending, no filters, just raw, unadulterated you. It’s like wearing your favorite pair of old jeans – comfortable and familiar.

Here’s the thing – if you’re in a relationship where you can let your guard down and still be loved for who you are, warts and all, chances are it’s going to last.

It’s a rare thing to find someone who accepts you just as you are, and when you do, it’s a sign of a deep and genuine connection.

So, if you and your partner can laugh at each other’s silly jokes, share embarrassing stories, or even have a full-blown conversation while in your pjs with messy hair – cherish it!

Because being able to be your true self is the first sign that you’re in a relationship that can potentially last a lifetime.

2. You Face Problems Together

Life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows, right? It throws curveballs at us when we least expect it.

But here’s a sign your relationship is built to last: no matter what comes your way, you face it together.

Whether it’s a flat tire, a pesky leak in the ceiling, or something more serious like a job loss, you two are a team.

You don’t point fingers or play the blame game. Instead, you roll up your sleeves and tackle the problem head-on, together.

This ‘us against the problem’ approach shows that you both are committed to each other and are willing to take on life’s challenges side by side. It’s a powerful sign of a strong and lasting relationship.

3. You Celebrate Each Other’s Successes

Does your partner’s success feel like your own? That’s a rare sign of a strong and lasting relationship.

It’s all about being each other’s biggest cheerleaders, celebrating victories together, no matter how big or small.

I remember when my partner got a promotion at work.

Even though I had had a rough day myself, seeing the excitement on their face made me forget all about it.

We celebrated that night – not just their success, but ‘our’ success.

Because in a lasting relationship, there’s no ‘your success’ or ‘my success,’ it’s always ‘our success.’

4. You Respect Each Other’s Personal Space

Ggiving each other some space is actually a sign of a strong and lasting relationship.

It’s about understanding that everyone needs some alone time, even when you’re head over heels in love.

Maintaining a sense of individuality while being in a relationship is crucial for its longevity.

This means having your own hobbies, interests, and friends

. It’s about respecting each other’s personal space and understanding that it’s perfectly okay to do things separately.

So if you and your partner are cool with giving each other some ‘me time’ – congratulations! You guys are on the right track.

5. You Share Core Values

It’s not about sharing the same favorite movie or both loving the same kind of food. It’s about sharing the same core values.

Core values are those big, important beliefs that guide our lives. Things like honesty, kindness, family, or ambition.

They’re the things that matter most to us, and when you and your partner share these values, it creates a strong bond that can weather any storm.

Imagine you’re both in a boat, trying to reach the same destination – if you’re both rowing in the same direction, guided by the same compass, you’ll get there no matter how rough the seas.

6. You Communicate Openly and Honestly

I can’t stress this one enough – communication is key.

In my own relationship, I’ve noticed how being able to communicate openly and honestly about everything, from the silly stuff to the serious issues, has made us stronger as a couple.

Just the other day, my partner and I had a disagreement about something. Instead of letting it simmer, we sat down and talked it out.

We listened to each other’s point of view, discussed our feelings, and found a solution. It wasn’t easy, but having that open line of communication made all the difference.

When you can communicate honestly with your partner without fear of judgment or misunderstanding, it forms a solid foundation for your relationship, one that can weather all kinds of storms.

7. You Forgive Each Other’s Mistakes

None of us are perfect. We all mess up sometimes. In relationships too, mistakes happen. Things are said in the heat of the moment, promises are broken, plans fall through.

But here’s where the strength of a relationship truly shines through – in your ability to forgive each other’s mistakes.

It’s about understanding that we’re all human and we all mess up, but that doesn’t define us or our love for each other.

If you can look past your partner’s mistakes, forgive them, and still love them just as much – if not more – that’s a sign of a relationship that can stand the test of time.

Remember, holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to suffer.

Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.

8. You Can Disagree Without Hurting Each Other

Many people think that a strong relationship means always agreeing with each other, but that’s not the case.

In fact, it’s completely normal and healthy to have disagreements in a relationship.

It’s not whether you argue, but how you argue that matters. It means you can disagree without being disrespectful or hurtful.

Healthy disagreements involve listening to each other’s perspectives, respecting each other’s opinions, and finding a middle ground.

It’s about understanding that your partner is a separate individual with their own thoughts and feelings.

So if you and your partner can have disagreements without causing hurt or damage – that’s fantastic!

It’s a sign of good communication and mutual respect, key ingredients for a lasting relationship.

9. You Support Each Other’s Dreams

One of the things I’ve learned in my own relationship is the importance of supporting each other’s dreams and ambitions.

We all have our own aspirations, things we want to achieve in life, and having a partner who supports and encourages you in your journey is an incredible blessing.

I remember when I first decided to start my own business. It was a scary decision to make, but my partner was my rock.

They believed in me even when I doubted myself and their support made all the difference.

So, if you and your partner are each other’s biggest cheerleaders, supporting each other’s dreams and aspirations – that’s a beautiful thing.

It shows mutual respect and admiration, which are crucial for a relationship that can stand the test of time.

10. You Choose Each Other Every Day

Now, this is the real kicker. Being in a relationship that’s going to last a lifetime isn’t about grand gestures or dramatic declarations of love. It’s about choosing each other, every single day.

It’s about waking up each morning and deciding, “Yes, I choose you. With all your flaws and quirks, in your best moments and your worst, I choose you.”

Love is a choice. It’s choosing to be kind when you’re angry, choosing to be there for them even when it’s inconvenient, choosing to work through the hard times together instead of walking away.

Remember, no relationship is perfect. But if these rare signs resonate with you, then you’re surely on the right path. Keep choosing love, keep choosing each other!

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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