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10 ways introverts are totally misunderstood that you’ve probably never realized

It seems that everyone is a little misunderstood from time to time, but no group is more misunderstood than the introverts.

Because they tend to stick to themselves, their small inner circles and their work, people often perceive introverts to be quiet, shy, and boring.

But when you get to know an introvert, you’ll see that they just process information differently. They like to take their time to consider their options, and are actually amazing listeners, friends, and communicators.

If you want to get to know introverts more, here are 10 things an introvert would never understand. These are things others do all the time.

1) Loud Crowds

Introverts prefer the quiet company of one or two friends, rather than a large crowd. You won’t catch these people in a dance club, strutting their stuff in a busy mall, or hanging out at a neighbour’s beer bash.

If you are into loud crowds, you might find it hard to believe that people don’t like that sort of thing, but introverts hate it.


2) Busy Chatter

Introverts become exhausted by unnecessary conversation. They process things so deeply that when you tie up their energy with useless information, it makes them frustrated.

If you like to talk just to hear the sound of your own voice, you might want to steer clear of introverts.

3) Having Lots of Roommates

Like avoiding big crowds, introverts wouldn’t be caught dead in a “party of five” situation, especially when it comes to living with a bunch of other people. They need their space and their quiet time.

4) Why People Think They are Shy

Introverts aren’t shy, but it’s also hard for them to understand why people think they are shy. Just because they don’t scream all of their thoughts from a rooftop doesn’t mean they are shy. They prefer to speak when they have something meaningful to say.

5) Using the Phone

Text, email, send a carrier pigeon, but don’t call an introvert. They likely won’t answer. It’s not because they’re rude, they just need energy to get up for any conversation, especially as they prefer to have meaningful conversations.

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6) Hugging

Nope. Don’t do it. Introverts don’t see the point of hugging people, especially if you’re not close to them. You can hug all the extroverts you want, but keep your hands to yourself when hanging out with an introvert. They need their own space, both physically and mentally.

7) Open Working Spaces

A new trend in work space is to leave the whole area open to share work and collaborate. Introverts do their best work behind closed doors where they can quietly take in their options and consider how to move forward.


They’ll never understand why people like to work in open jungles.

8) Needing A Lot of Attention

Introverts draw their energy from within themselves and don’t require the attention of others to feel good about themselves. They don’t post a lot of pictures online and they don’t seek validation from others. They just can’t understand why people want to air their dirty laundry all over the internet.

9) Not Noticing Facial Expressions

Introverts are highly perceptive and intuitive and can read a facial expression like it’s nobody’s business. They don’t understand why others can’t do the same.

They pick up on things like subtle eye rolling and tone changes that change conversations. This makes it harder for others to communicate with introverts because introverts assume others can do the same.


10) Why People Think Something is Wrong with Them

If there is one thing an introvert will never understand, it’s why others think there is something wrong with them. Of course, nothing is wrong with them, and they know that.

But, the tricky part about being human is that if society brands you as being different, you get stuck with that label for a long time. Luckily, introverts don’t care either.

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Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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