When you like a girl and want to take things to the next level, it can be scary.
You don’t want to rush things and scare her away.
But what does it mean when she says she needs time to think? Here are the answers to that question:
She’s not ready yet
The most obvious reason why a girl might ask for time to think is that she just isn’t ready for a relationship yet.
There are many reasons why a girl might want to focus on herself for a while.
She might be ending a long-term relationship, or perhaps she just ended a relationship where she was treated badly.
Maybe she is trying to get her career off the ground and feels like she can’t have a serious relationship right now.
Or perhaps she’s trying to get her life in order so that she is fully prepared to be in a serious relationship.
Whatever her reasons are, you need to respect that she isn’t ready to be in a relationship yet.
There’s someone else in the picture
If you are pursuing a girl who is currently in a relationship or dating someone else, then you should expect her to say that she needs time to think.
Dating someone new is a big step.
The last thing that a girl wants to do is to lead you on and then tell you that she is dating someone else.
So if she tells you that she needs time to think, then it is likely that there is someone else in the picture.
You need to respect that and back off.
If you are serious about dating her, then you should be willing to wait until her current relationship ends.
You see, usually, if this is the case, you will know about it.
If not, the chances are good that this is not the reason she needs time to think.
A relationship coach tells you why
While the points in this article will help you deal with your girlfriend needing time to think, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
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She needs more time to build confidence
If you have recently started dating a girl who is a little bit shy, then she might ask for time to think about your relationship.
She might be a little bit nervous about starting a relationship with you, or she may just need a bit more time to build her confidence around you.
If you want to take things to the next level with a girl who is a little bit shy, then you need to be patient.
Give her time to build her confidence and to feel comfortable around you.
She also needs to know that you accept her for who she is and that you aren’t going to be pushy or impatient.
You see, without confidence, she might just be too afraid of being with you.
You are moving too fast
If you have been dating a girl for a little while but you are still moving fast, then she might tell you that she needs time to think.
You need to take things slower.
Don’t push for a serious relationship right away.
Give her time to get to know you as a person and feel comfortable with you.
Wait until she is ready to take things to the next level.
If you keep rushing things, then she will likely never feel ready to take things to the next level. Slow down and give her time.
When you do that, things will progress quicker than if you push her.
What is happening?
That raises the question:
Why does love so often start out great, only to become a nightmare?
And what’s the solution to your girlfriend needing time to think?
The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself.
I learned about this from the renowned shaman Rudá Iandê. He taught me to see through the lies we tell ourselves about love, and become truly empowered.
As Rudá explains in this mind-blowing free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!
We need to face the facts about needing time to think:
Far too often we chase an idealized image of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.
Far too often we fall into codependent roles of savior and victim to try to “fix” our partner, only to end up in a miserable, bitter routine.
Far too often, we are on shaky ground with our own selves and this carries over into toxic relationships that become hell on earth.
Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective.
While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love for the first time – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to getting her to commit to you.
If you’re done with unsatisfying dating, empty hookups, frustrating relationships, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear.
She is confused
If you are dating a girl who is confused, then she might ask for time to think.
She isn’t sure if she wants to be in a relationship with you or not, so she might want some time to clear her head.
She might also be confused about how she feels about you.
If you are dating a girl who is confused, then you should be patient. Give her time to sort out her feelings and to figure out where she stands with you.
Typically, a girl who is confused will eventually come to her senses and decide that she likes you enough to take things to the next level.
Don’t push for a serious relationship if she needs more time to sort out her feelings.
She is scared of commitment
If you have been dating a girl for a long period of time and you want to take things to the next level, then you need to show her that you care.
Don’t just push for a serious relationship and hope that she caves.
You need to show her that you are a good person and that you truly care about her.
Be patient and show her that you care.
You can do this by spending time with her and also by showing that you are not desperate.
If she is scared of commitment, then she needs to know that you are not going to rush her into anything.
You see, being scared of commitment can come from a past experience or childhood wounds that still affect her.
Give her some time.
You need to show her you care and be patient
If she is scared of commitment, then you need to show her that you care and be patient.
You need to prove to her that you are worth the wait, and that you are not going to be some pushy guy who is just trying to get her into bed.
If you show her that you care and will wait for as long as she needs to feel comfortable with you, then she will eventually cave and take things to the next level.
Show her that she can trust you and that you are not going anywhere.
You see, without showing her that you care, she will be wary of you and will not be able to fully trust you right away.
This is a very important part of dating a girl who is confused.
You need to show her that you care and that you are not going anywhere.
If you are patient, then she will eventually cave and take things to the next level.
She is not that into you
Okay, this is the reason you probably didn’t want to read, but it’s true, sometimes.
You see, the reason she needs time to think could be that she is just not that into you.
She needs to know that you are not just some guy she is dating for a quick fling.
If that’s the case, then you need to show her that you are worth the wait and that you will be patient as long as it takes for her to get over her fears of commitment.
Now: no matter what you do, if she is not attracted to you, you can’t change that, unfortunately.
In that case, it’s best to cut your losses and move on.
You have to give her space
If you have been dating a girl for a long time and you really want to take things to the next level, but she is hesitant, then you might want to give her space.
If she has been hesitant for a while, then you can’t just keep pushing the issue and hoping that she caves.
If she has been hesitant for a long time, then you have to accept that there is a reason for that.
You can’t force her to be ready when she isn’t ready yet.
Instead of pressuring her to take things to the next level, wait until she is ready.
Give her space and let her know that you are patient and willing to wait as long as she needs.
You can also try to help her feel more comfortable around you by spending more time with her.
You need to show her you’re worth it
If you have been dating a girl for a while and you want to take things to the next level, then you need to show her that you are worth it.
When a girl says she needs time to think, then she is usually trying to figure out if you are worth the commitment.
You need to prove to her that you are a good person who is worth waiting for.
You can do this by spending more time with her and showing her that you care about her. Be patient and wait for her to be ready.
You can also treat her like a gentleman would, by buying her presents or taking her out on dates.
You need to show her you are not a player
It’s true that you might not be ready for a serious relationship with a girl, but it doesn’t mean that she is going to take things seriously with you.
If you are just looking to hook up with her, then she will see right through that and she won’t be interested in seeing you again.
So, if you want to have a serious relationship with a girl and have her stick around, then you need to stop acting like a player.
You need to stop acting like the guy who is only looking for sex and instead start acting like the guy who wants more.
If you want more than just sex from this girl, then you need to act like the kind of guy who can give her more than just sex.
Most of the time, it will turn out okay
Trust me, more often than not, she will figure out her feelings soon and you will be okay.
If she is really not into you at all, then you will also know soon enough and can move on.
However, your chances are pretty good that it has nothing to do with you, and that she simply needs some time.