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22 subconscious signs a guy is attracted to you

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It’s difficult to know at the best of times whether a guy is attracted to you or not.

That’s why you need to know these subconscious signs that a guy is into you.

Read through this list and think about how the guy you like is behaving when he’s around you. It will give you a good idea about whether he really does like you or not.

Subconscious signs that he’s totally into you

Here are the top subconscious signs to look out for when it comes to your guy being attracted to you.

1) It’s in his approach

When he’s into you then you will feel his attention and energy focused on you.

Pucker up because this guy is into you, trust me. Is he leaning in to be closer to you at the table? Responding to details of what you’re saying and talking deeply about his own life, too?

Is he working to find common ground with you and doing what he can to make you feel special and doted on?

It means he likes you.

There are no two ways about it, if a man is very into a woman he will approach her with full attention and affection and do his best to build bridges with her through interactions and conversation.

2) It’s in his voice

When men like someone their voice reflects it. They speak clearly and attractively. They want you to notice them.

This might seem a bit immature, but it’s pretty obvious when it happens.

In addition, scientific research shows that men’s voices often get slightly lower when they are around a woman they’re attracted to.

Some guys are obviously more reserved and speak quietly, but in general if he seems to be speaking very carefully and wanting you to hear him then he’s into you.

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3) It’s in his swagger

If he’s walking like a cowboy at the rodeo it means you’re on his radar.

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Men often aren’t quite sure what to say or even do, but their body language can tell you more than a whole book.

When he’s into you he’s amped up, excited, juiced: you can see it in his swagger.

And the fact that he seems to be walking a bit faster than usual on a beeline to get to you.

4) It’s in his stance

Men aren’t often conscious of their body language, but like I mentioned above it can say a lot more than even his words do.

When his stance takes up a lot of space it’s a deep instinctive posture to be “big” and noticeable.

Hands-on hips is another sign.

He consciously or even subconsciously wants to be on your radar and wants to be attractive and strong for you.

He stands up tall and has good posture and he’s putting his best foot forward.

He wants to show you he’s ready for a healthy relationship with you.

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5) It’s in his words

Not all men are born as eloquent as Shakespeare, but when a guy likes you he’s going to do his best to put it into words.

Even if those words are just simple things about what he likes about you and the things he wants to do together.

He’ll want to tell you his story.

To show you his heart.

And to explain his life and choices and future dreams to you.

Because he cares about you and what you think.

6) It’s in his distance

When we like someone we want to be close to him.

Does he sit close to you at dinner and snuggle up even closer or reach out for your hand?

Or does he shy away and sit across the table, only occasionally making eye contact?

Some guys are shy or insecure and he may be pretending not to like you as described above.

But still.

Pay attention to whether he’s close or far when you spend time together.

It can speak volumes.

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7) He’s ignoring you

You might think that’s a typo, but it’s not.

Guys who play hard to get for whatever reason may intentionally ignore you because they think it will increase your attraction.

Sometimes, of course, it is just super annoying and if it’s taken too far it can even ruin a good thing.

But if a guy feels nervous about you or really buys into the “hard to get” theory then don’t be surprised if he does this when he’s around you.

8) He’s giving you long messages

When a guy has feelings for you he wants to express his thoughts and emotions.

This includes in his messages. If he’s texting you back long descriptive answers and questions and thoughts there’s a good chance he cares a lot about your response and wants you to get to know the real him.

The time and energy he’s spending in his messages to you are a very clear sign that he likes you beyond a superficial level.

9) He gets jealous when you talk to other guys

Jealousy is a strong emotion, and even for pretty easygoing guys it can kick in suddenly with a vengeance.

If he seems to care a lot what guys you’re talking to …

Or acts annoyed when you pay a compliment to a guy when you’re out together …

Then it’s a neon sign that says he’s into you.

Try paying him a compliment and see what he does.

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10) He’s teasing you

When he teases you with banter or even the occasional light poke it’s a good sign he’s interested.

Sexual and romantic tension is often expressed through teasing and playful interactions.

You’ll be able to feel the flirtatious intent behind the playful teasing too …

Most guys aren’t exactly subtle, after all.

11) He tries to help you with your problems

This is connected to the hero instinct mentioned above.

If a guy is wanting to help you with your problems and solve stressful situations it’s because he cares about you.

You have a special place in his heart and in his allocation of time, energy and resources.

He wants to do what he can to make life better for you because he has feelings for you.

12) He wants you to meet his friends

When he introduces you to his family you know things are going somewhere.

Think of being introduced to friends as the step before that. It’s still really big and it means he cares about you and wants his friends to meet his girl.

A guy’s not going to introduce a girl he’s not into to his friends.

So this sign is very important.

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13) He wants to know your future plans

Asking people you meet about their future plans can be interesting and exciting, but the truth is many of us are too focused on our own future and busy life to do that.

If a guy is asking you about your future plans you can make a good bet that he’s more than just a bit interested in you.

Where do you want to study? Live? What kind of house do you see yourself living in?

You might as well just buy a wedding dress now.

14) Is he acting a bit weird?

There’s always the chance that the guy who’s into you is just very weird. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, either.

But if he’s specifically acting weird around you it can be a sign that he’s been infected by the love bug.

Does he act casual and normal with friends but then stumble on his words around you or trip trying to tie his shoes?

His weird heart is yours.

15) He is mirroring your actions

We learn and imitate those we care about and love.

If he’s mirroring your behavior and even energy levels he cares about how you’re feeling and doing and he looks up to you.

As he spends more time with you and gets to know you more you will notice that he begins mirroring you more.

And you can rest assured it’s because he’s into you.

16) He starts to share your interests

Obviously, you don’t want a mirror image of yourself, but if a guy likes you then he often will start “trying out” things you’re interested in. This can include everything from music and TV shows to new hobbies or activities.

Look for him to start acting interested in things like a band that you’re into or a TV show you like.

If he starts talking about how a band you like is in town in the near future – he’s trying to give you something that you like! He’s interested in you! It’s a great way to tell that he is trying to build a deeper connection with you!

Especially keep an eye out if something you brought to his attention becomes his favorite thing. Like, let’s say you told him to watch a TV show because you love it.

If it becomes his new favorite thing, chances are he’s interested in you, especially if he is showing sincere interest in the topic. That means he has a sincere interest in you.

You can always tell a guy likes you by how interested he is in what you do. It’s a dead giveaway that he likes you because there is no other reason a guy would start to randomly have the same likes as you, as well as take an actual interest in them.

Whether a guy does it knowingly or not, it’s a sure-fire way to tell if a guy is into you.

17) He asks you a lot of questions

Lots of questions mean he is probably interested. If he likes you he wants to know more about you.

There’s a clear distinction between casual, offhand interest and actual deep questions.

If he’s asking about your profound life experiences, beliefs and thoughts it’s because you’re more than just another person to him.

He’s asking questions because he’s really interested in what you have to say.

And he’s really interested in that because he’s really interested in you.

18) He opens up to you

If he likes you, sometimes he will take a risk and open up to you.

He’ll want to give you a glimpse into his life. He’ll confide in you and let his guard down a bit. Getting close to someone takes vulnerability.

If he’s genuinely into you, that won’t bother him. You’re worth the risk. He’ll tell you about his personal life, his friends, and his family.

That doesn’t mean he’ll rush to introduce you to them, but he won’t go out of his way to keep you apart from them.

If you feel like his life is a big mystery and you have no clear idea of how he spends his time (or who he spends it with) when he’s not talking to you, that means he’s still got some walls up.

19) He doesn’t ogle other women

There are a lot of pretty girls in this world, but if a guy likes you on a deep level he’s not going to be checking out other hotties. Sure, if you ask him: ‘hey what did you think of our waitress, pretty cute right?’ he’ll be honest and say yes.

But you’ll be able to tell that he wasn’t mentally undressing her and didn’t care much about her physical beauty.

Because he’s too into you to care about her.

And he feels something for you that goes far beyond physical.

20) He respects your boundaries and admires you for them

If a guy is really into you he’s going to respect your boundaries. Even if his background or beliefs are different, the man who’s right for you will understand your limits and truly respect them.

He won’t push you, whether it’s about your diet, your boundaries on physical intimacy, your likes and dislikes of music and TV or really anything else.

Sure, maybe he’ll crack a joke or two.

But underneath all that it will be clear he values and respects your limits and is willing to grow alongside you instead of trying to force you to adapt to his way of seeing things.

21) He may predict or guess fun things about you

When a guy likes you he will often tease as mentioned above. This can include him predicting things about you or guessing them.

This could result in one or two wrong guesses but it’s sure to be a lot of fun.

I wonder if you can predict whether he really likes you or not?

Hopefully after reading this list the answer is yes.

22) He’s emotionally unavailable

Okay, being emotionally unavailable isn’t a definite subconscious sign that he likes you. But equally, you should never take it as a sign that he doesn’t.

The thing is that men want deep and intimate companionship just as much as women do.

So why are so many men emotionally unavailable to women?

An emotionally unavailable man is typically someone who is unable to emotionally commit to a relationship with you. He wants to keep things casual and undefined to avoid commitments he doesn’t think he can handle.

I know about emotionally unavailable men because I am one myself. You can read more about my story here.

If you’ve ever been with a man who suddenly goes cold and pulls away, you’ll see a lot of myself in them.

However, the problem isn’t you. The problem isn’t even with him

The fact is that male and female brains are biologically different. For instance, did you know that the emotional processing center of the female brain is much larger than in men?

That’s why women are more in touch with their emotions. And why guys can struggle to process feelings, leading to serious commitment issues.

If you’ve ever been let down by an emotionally unavailable man before, blame his biology rather than him.

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What would Sigmund Freud say?

Sometimes working out whether a guy likes you seems like an impossible task. Is he into you or just playing games?

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Written by Justin Brown

I'm Justin Brown, the founder of Ideapod. I've overseen the evolution of Ideapod from a social network for ideas into a publishing and education platform with millions of monthly readers and multiple products helping people to think critically, see issues clearly and engage with the world responsibly.

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