15 signs your wife isn’t attracted to you anymore (and what to do)

Do you have the feeling that your wife doesn’t find you sexy anymore?

She isn’t as playful or interested in sex? She doesn’t flirt?

Things feel too familiar and almost like you are sharing a house with a roommate?

You have been married for a few years now, and things are not as exciting as you would like them to be.

You no longer feel that rush of adrenaline when she walks into the room.

Instead, your wife seems more like a roommate than the love of your life.

If any of these statements resonate with you, then it’s likely that your wife isn’t attracted to you anymore. This does happen in long-term relationships. If you want to make sure you aren’t overreacting or off, I’ll take you through the top signs to see if this is the case and what you can do about it.

1) Something might be wrong with the marriage

There are many reasons why attraction fades, and it is usually the result of a slow, gradual process.

However, if your relationship has been unstable for a long time and you’re not sure if your wife will stay with you, she may have lost all attraction to you.

It is possible that she no longer sees you as a strong enough partner to be with for the rest of her life.

If she has doubts about the future of your marriage, she may not be attracted to you anymore.

No one wants to be with someone they don’t feel strongly about.

If your wife no longer trusts you or has doubts about your future together, you may lose her attraction.

If your relationship has been unstable for a long time and your wife no longer trusts you or has doubts about your future together, you may lose her attraction.

2) Your wife feels unappreciated

Another reason why your wife might not be attracted to you is that you have failed to appreciate her.

We are all different, and we all have different needs and desires.

Your wife may want to be shown appreciation in a way that you don’t know how to do.

If you have stopped showing appreciation to your wife and she feels unappreciated, she may not feel attracted to you anymore.

If your wife feels unappreciated, she may not feel attracted to you anymore.

When we feel appreciated, our self-esteem and self-worth increase. When we feel unappreciated, our self-esteem and self-worth decrease.

If your wife feels unappreciated, she may not feel as confident in herself.

When we feel confident in ourselves, we often want to be with someone strong and confident as well. If you have stopped showing your wife appreciation and she feels unappreciated, she may feel less attracted to you.

3) She is bored

Boredom is one of the worst enemies of attraction.

If you and your wife have been together for a long time, there is a good chance that you have grown repetitive and stale together.

When we are bored, we are often not interested in trying new things or investing time in improving ourselves.

Many couples who have been together for a long time stop growing and changing as individuals. If you and your wife have been together for a long time and you have stopped trying new things and growing as a couple, you may have lost her interest.

Many couples who have been together for a long time stop growing and changing as individuals.

If you and your wife have been together for a long time and you have stopped trying new things and growing as a couple, you may have lost her interest.

While the main reasons in this article will help you deal with the feeling that your wife isn’t attracted to you, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach.

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4) You disappointed her In some way

If you have ever hurt your wife in some way, this may have caused her to lose her attraction to you.

When we are hurt, we often build walls around our hearts that make us less likely to be excited and interested in those who have hurt us. Your wife may have loved and trusted you once, but she no longer does.

If you have ever disappointed your wife, she may have lost her attraction to you.

Once your wife loses her attraction to you, it may be difficult to get it back. You can recover from the reasons above and regain your wife’s attraction.

However, if you ever hurt your wife, the attraction may never come back. She may not trust you enough to let her heart open up to you.

5) She is no longer attracted to you physically

Just as attraction can fade, it can also die out quickly.

Sometimes, you and your partner simply lose interest in each other physically.

Things that once excited you no longer do. It is as if you have gotten bored with each other, and you can’t understand why.

When this is the case, you may have lost your wife’s attraction to you completely.

It is important to not take your wife’s lack of physical attraction personally and try to get the relationship spicy again.

6) You are not doing all you can do to improve your marriage

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If you, as a man, have failed to help your wife make the changes that she wants, then you may have lost her attraction.

Whether you are too busy for her or are jealous of her friends, your wife might feel that the relationship is worth sticking with anymore.

Relationships require some care and attention.

How much have you focused on improving yourself and your relationship?

Be honest.

Not putting enough effort into your marriage can cause your wife to lose interest in you.

7) You are trying too hard

One of the worst things that you can do is try too hard to win back your wife’s attraction.

When you try to be somebody you are not, it comes off as inauthentic.

The attraction that your wife feels for you may die out if you are trying too hard to get her back or convince her that she wants you again.

If this is the case, try being yourself and focusing on improving yourself first and making the interactions more upbeat and fun.

Try being yourself and focusing on improving yourself first, and your interactions will be more upbeat and fun.

This will allow you to keep your wife’s attraction more naturally.

8) You caused her to lose trust in you

If your wife has lost her attraction to you, she may have done so because of what you have done or who you have become.

If she doesn’t feel safe and at ease around you, she won’t feel the same level of attraction.

Your marriage can suffer if things change in your life and your focus doesn’t match up with those of your wife anymore.

We all want the same things in life — to be happy and fulfilled — but we all do so in our way. If you do something that crosses this line or oversteps her boundaries, she will lose fundamental trust in you and the marriage.

If this is the case, there are likely some things that can be done to win back her trust and improve the relationship again. But this will take time and a new approach.

9) You are no longer the same person she fell in love with

Problems with attraction can be caused by changes in either of you.

She may have lost her attraction to you because of changes that she has experienced or because you have experienced changes.

If you are working hard to make her happy, but she is unhappy and unsatisfied with your level of effort, it may feel like a loss of attraction on your part.

And if you don’t feel like the person who is in love anymore, it may be because she has changed and is simply not attracted to you anymore.

It can hurt to know that the person who was once attracted to us no longer is.

10) The sex is off

If you are in a long-term relationship with a woman, the sex is probably eventually going to stop being amazing.

You will go through a period of adjustment as you get used to each other.

If this adjustment is ongoing, it can cause your wife to lose her attraction to you.

Remember that women have sexual attraction just as men do.

But she also feels things like love and attachment that go along with it.

If she doesn’t feel an attachment to you anymore coupled with the fact that there is nothing particularly interesting about your sex life together anymore, your attraction may fade and die out completely.

11) You let your body go

If your wife is no longer attracted to you, it may be because you have gained a lot of weight.

Let’s face it, you probably aren’t in peak form or the same shape you were when you first met your wife?

Are you taking care of yourself?

Are you honestly feeling sexy and alive?

It can be easy to get comfortable with a routine and your surroundings, but when that causes your physical appearance to suffer, it can cause your wife to lose attraction for you.

It’s not just weight that can affect this either.

Some men wear the same clothes over and over again without washing or even taking showers regularly.

Do you make efforts to look your best around her?

This can be a real game-changer.

12) You make the same moves

If you aren’t giving your relationship much attention, it may be because of what you do or don’t do.

You may already be given enough attention and it feels like things are fine, but if you haven’t changed or improved your performance in the relationship lately, she may lose her attraction to you.

Women have their own set of expectations of what they want in a relationship. If she doesn’t feel satisfied with the way that your relationship is running at the moment, it may cause her to lose attraction for you and show a lack of interest in the relationship.

Are you making the same moves in bed? Or spending time with her in the same way?

Do you take her out and go on dates?

Do you make your bed every morning?

Loving women is about keeping them interested and feeling desirable in the first place.

If you are doing something that keeps her from feeling curious about what might happen with your relationship, it will cause her attraction to fade and die out.

13) She isn’t happy

If she isn’t happy, she may not be attracted to you anymore.

If your relationship is lacking in the things that your wife needs it to have, she may feel that you are no longer her type and move on to someone else.

Women are often looking for someone who makes them happy and takes care of them.

And when they feel down, they look to their man to help pick them up.

If she is feeling depressed or low, it might be that she isn’t even thinking about sex these days.

If your relationship has become so routine or stressful that it’s causing her to be unhappy or lose attraction to you, then you may want to do some work to bring order back into the relationship.

This can involve having serious conversations about how you want the relationship to progress and finding ways that you can both make it work better regularly again.

14) She is stressed

If your wife is stressed about the things that are going on in her life and you aren’t helping her to cope with it, she may lose attraction to you.

If your wife is stressed that her job or daily life is causing too much stress, it will make her feel like she can’t relax around you and she won’t feel as attracted to you anymore.

Her mind will be occupied with something else and it will take a toll on your relationship.

If this is the case and your relationship has lost its attraction because of what she’s been experiencing recently, you may need to work together on another way of dealing with these problems.

15) The kids take up too much energy

If your wife is busy and she has a lot of things to worry about, it can cause her to lose attraction to you.

Children take up a lot of energy and responsibility.

They keep us busy and focused on their needs, which can make it difficult to focus on the needs of our partners.

If there is something else that requires a high amount of attention, then we may not be able to focus as much attention on our partners as we want or need to feel attracted to them.

You should work together with your wife on finding ways that you both can better balance out the demands in your life together.

What can you do about it?

If you have lost your wife’s sex drive, you are likely losing her attraction to you.

You may have different things on your plate, but if you aren’t taking the time to focus on your relationship and make new efforts to ensure that her sexual attraction is strong and steady, then it will be difficult for you to win her back.

It is possible that if you make the effort to improve the issues above, like being yourself and focusing on yourself first making things more fun, you can get back into your wife’s good graces.

You will need to take action now and start to make some changes and find ways to help her feel desired and wanted.

If you don’t do anything and continue with your day-to-day routine, she may lose sexual attraction to you and begin to feel less curious about what might happen with the two of you in the future.

You can’t just sit around feeling hopeless. You need to commit to change.

If you don’t like the situation, what can you do about it?

What is lasting?

When attraction fades, it can be devastating for a relationship.

However, it is important to remember that just because someone is no longer attracted to you does not mean that they don’t love you.

Your wife still loves you, but she is no longer inspired by you.

This can be painful, but it is important to remember that it is not your fault.

It is simply a part of life. When attraction fades, it is important to assess your relationship and look for ways to improve.

So what can you do to bring the confidence back and reignite the flame of passion between you and your wife?

Begin with yourself. Stop searching for external fixes to sort out your life, deep down, you know this isn’t working.

And that’s because until you look within and unleash your power, you’ll never find the satisfaction you’re searching for. That’s because it’s not truly coming from within.

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In his excellent video, Rudá explains effective methods to find and garner what you want most in life. And if that helps you to feel more vibrant, sexy, and alive in your marriage, then isn’t it a perfect place to start? Who knows what others areas in your life will also improve when you unlock your endless potential?

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I know that feeling like losing your partner’s sense of attraction can be painful, but it is normal and nothing to be ashamed about.

It doesn’t mean that you have to sit and idle nearby. It’s a perfect chance to take the bull by the horns and create the life and marriage that you want and desire.

Everything that we experience in life has a purpose, and in this case, understanding her true feelings about your attractiveness will allow her to feel more comfortable with the situation.

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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