16 signs she is developing feelings over text (complete guide)

So, there’s a girl that you like and you’ve been texting each other non-stop over the last few days.

Do you want to know if she likes you too?

Wondering if there’s a way to tell she’s falling for you from her texts?

Look no further!

Here are the top 16 signs to tell if she’s developing feelings over text.

1) She texts you often

Did you know that one of the most obvious ways to tell if a girl likes you is if she texts you often?

What’s often you ask?

If texts you on a daily basis, that’s a good sign.

If she texts you several times a day, that’s a VERY good sign.

Bottom line:

She wouldn’t bother being in touch so often if she didn’t like you.

2) She’s quick to reply

Another telling sign that she likes you is if she replies regularly to your text messages.

You send her a text and you can immediately see that she’s writing back.

OK, I know what you’re thinking:

Was she just sitting by the phone and waiting for you to text her?

Probably not!

But it shows that she was happy to stop whatever she was doing to text you back.

3) She asks what you’re doing

Does she text you to see what you’re up to?

Have you wondered why?

Well, it meas that she’s curious about your life. She wants to know where you are and what you’re doing.

There may even be a hint of jealousy, could she be trying to find out if you’re with another girl?

This is a clear sign that she likes you!

4) She knows what you’re thinking about or doing when you text her back

Have you ever heard of the term synchronicity?

Check this out:

Synchronicities are meaningful coincidences.

For example, you think about each other at the same time.

You send her a message and she immediately replies “Hey this is crazy but I was just about to text you!”

This means that she knows what you’re thinking of when you text her and she has been thinking the same thing.

It’s a sign that you share a cosmic connection and there’s something special developing between the two of you!

5) She likes to share stuff with you

When you text and talk, she wants to tell you everything.

She loves talking about herself, but she also loves sharing things with you.

She’ll tell you all the things she’s doing. She’ll share her plans for the future. Tell you about what she likes and doesn’t like.

In essence:

She’ll tell you what her hopes and dreams are.

If you want her to know that you like her too, it’s extremely important that you reply to her messages.

You want to show her that you’re interested in everything she’s doing because then she’ll start to feel that way too.

She needs to feel a connection with you, and if you’re replying to her messages it shows her that you’re interested.

6) She’s not shy to show her emotions

When you text and talk, she doesn’t give you any false signals.

She likes talking to you and getting to know you better and she wants to show all of her feelings.

She can’t hold back telling you what she’s feeling or thinking because she loves sharing everything with the people she likes.

This is a very positive sign that she’s developing feelings for you.

7) She writes lengthy replies to everything you say

Girls are more communicative than guys, it’s a well-known fact.

But this is especially true when they like someone.

This girl is able to have long in-depth conversations – the kind that people usually have when they’re talking in person – over text.

This means that she has feelings for you and she’s reaching out.

It’s a sign that she likes you because she’s not afraid to invite you into her world.

8) She’s emotionally vulnerable

When you text and talk, she can’t stop herself from sharing things that she’s not usually comfortable with.

This means that she’s opening up to you – she’s showing you parts of herself that she doesn’t show to everyone.

She says things like “I’m having a hard time today, I’m sick of everything…” and “I might be falling for you” or whatever.

This is a big sign that she cares about you and is ready to share her innermost thoughts with you because she likes the fact that you’ve been listening to her.

9) She likes to use emojis

Does she keep sending you hearts and winky emojis?

Well I have news for you, she likes you, and she wants you to know it.

Instead of words, she’s being cute and using emojis to tell you that she’s into you.

10) She likes to flirt

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Here’s an interesting fact:

Some people find it easier to flirt over text.

She likes you and wants to let you know, but maybe she’s shy to do it in person so she flirts with you over text – hoping that you’ll get the hint.

If you can bring your A-game when you flirt, you’re much more likely to attract the right type of woman for you.

11) She plays hard to get

Do you find that she plays hard to get in her texts?

The best thing you can do is to pull away a bit yourself.

It’s a psychological fact that when we fear we’re going to lose something, we want it 10x more.

This is where “nice guys” get it so wrong. Women have no “fear of loss” with a nice guy… and that makes them pretty unattractive.

12) She’s an empathetic person first

You can tell that when she texts you, she’s thinking of you and what you’re feeling.


She won’t be replying to your messages if it’s just an automatic thing – she’ll actually put in the effort and think of what you’ve said before replying.

13) She sends you selfies

Does she send you cute selfies?

  • Pretending to be serious at work.
  • Cuddling her cat.
  • Laughing with her friends.
  • Looking mighty fine clubbing.

This is clearly a sign that she likes you and wants you to take notice.

She’s basically saying “hey look how cute I am, you should ask me out!”

14) She’s inquisitive about your personal life

She’s a very curious person, she wants to know about everything about you.

  • What do you do for fun?
  • What’s your favorite food?
  • Where are you from?

In short:

She wants to understand your personality so that she can get to know you – and she’s willing to go out of her way to find out more.

15) She’s always up for some late-night texts

She tells you she’s going to bed, but she still can’t stop messaging you.

This is because she wants you to know that she likes you. She wants to make sure that you know how special this is for her, and she wants to be the last thing on your mind before you fall asleep.

If you find that you often stay up late into the night, texting, there’s more than just friendship brewing between the two of you.

16) She notices when you don’t text

If she’s used to getting texts from you on a regular basis and suddenly you don’t text her back for a few hours or a day, she’ll notice.

She’ll ask you why you never replied and if everything is alright – she’ll likely become worried.

How to ask a girl out over text and get her to say yes

Texting can be a great way to get started with a conversation.

However, it can be a little tricky to ask someone out in a text message.

Here are some tips to help you get that special date.

Make sure the timing is right

Make sure that you don’t ask her out right away.

As a rule of thumb it’s best to wait until you’ve messaged each other three or four times.

This will give her a chance to get to warm up to you and see what a great guy you are, thus increasing the chance that she’ll agree to a date.

Start the conversation

Once you’re ready to ask her out, don’t just text her “hey do you want to go out with me?”

First get talking about something else. Ask her about her day, what she’s up to.

Tell her something about your day.

In short:

Make her comfortable first.

Complement her

Once you’ve got a conversation going, say something nice to her that will make her feel special and appreciated.

Compliment her on something she said, tell her how clever or funny she is. Or if she sent you a picture of herself, tell her how beautiful she looks.

Just remember not to come off as creepy.

This means that you shouldn’t call her “sexy” or anything of the kind, not unless you want her to stop texting you.

So if you’re sweet and charming with your complement, she’ll feel good and be more inclined to say “yes” to a date.


Remember to flirt a little in your texts. This will give her a chance to see that you like her.

If she flirts back that’s a good sign. It should encourage you to go on and ask her out.

Be clear

When asking a girl out over text, make sure your message is clear and concise.

You want to make sure your words are direct and clear.

This will help her to understand what you want from her and make the process easier.

Be respectful and polite when messaging the girl

When texting a girl to ask her out, it’s very impotant to:

Use positive language and avoid using negative words.

Use safe language and avoid any remarks that could make the girl feel uncomfortable or hurt.

This means:

Avoid using swear words and sexual terms.

In short:

Avoid making any comments that could make the girl feel uneasy or offend her.

Make sure your messages are short and to the point.

Don’t send too many messages in a row or she may get tired of you.

Propose something fun

If you want her to say yes and you want the date to be amazing, think of something fun and memorable to do.

This is why I said to exchange a few texts first before asking her out. It will give you a chance to get to know her a little and find out what her dream date would be.

Good luck!

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