15 undeniable signs she doesn’t see a future with you (complete list)

We all know women can be difficult to read.

As a guy, you are used to keeping track of the signs and acting accordingly.

But what if the signs she’s giving you seem like they’re pointing in completely different directions?

This article will discuss 15 undeniable signs that she sees no future with you, complete with an explanation as to why this is happening.

15 undeniable signs that she sees no future with you

1) She is not sharing her feelings with you

Well, it’s true.

The first sign of this is that she’s not telling you how she’s feeling.

Instead, everything is a big lie.

She does not reveal how she really feels about anything, and this includes the things that are most important to her.

She will hide behind smiley face emoji reactions when you say how much you care for her or when you’re discussing important issues together.

You will notice this if you take the time to get to know her through small talk, as well.

The truth?

Women care about things differently than men do.

Women are more concerned with stability more than you think they are, so they are not as likely to share their most profound thoughts and feelings with you.

This is what makes them so interesting, but it also presents a problem.

2) She doesn’t want to spend money on you

This one is tricky, but let me explain why this happens.

When women buy something for men, it’s for two reasons:

  • To make them feel better about themselves
  • To show that she loves them.

If she is not spending money on you for either of these reasons, then it’s probably because she does not feel like she should.

Even if she does spend money on you, it’s usually because she feels like you deserve to be rewarded for something.

Women do not just spend money on men to make the man happy: that’s unreasonable.

She spends money on men if she sees a future with you and if you make her feel special.

If you do not make her feel special, and if you are not making her feel loved, then it’s just money wasted.

3) She does not want to spend time with you

As a guy, you’re used to being able – and expected – to spend time with your woman.

You might have even wondered why she would complain about you not spending enough time together.

Now I know what you’re thinking: “If she really loves me, then she wants to spend time with me!”

This is a very good question and one that I am answering in this section.

Let’s face it.

She doesn’t want to be with you.

She just wants to go out and do something with her friends.

If that makes her happy, then so be it, but she’s not going to try to convince you otherwise.

4) She tells you that you need to “work on yourself first.”

This is a very vague statement.

As a man, you’re going to want to figure out what this means, but she won’t explain any further.

You will be confused and frustrated, but there is an explanation for this that makes sense.

So what can you do to be the one she wants?

I know it is hard but if you love her and want to make her happy. I suggest a tip.

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5) She talks openly with her friends about how bad your relationship is and how she is unhappy

It’s not uncommon for a woman to vent to her friends about her relationship problems.

That doesn’t mean that she wants to be with you.

But if she is talking openly with them about how bad your relationship is, then there is a reason.

It’s not because she wants it to work out – it’s because she doesn’t see a future with you.

6) She’s hesitant to introduce you to her friends and family

This is a classic sign.

Women will not introduce you to their friends and family if they do not see you as a potential future partner.

Instead, she would rather make up excuses that her friends are not available or that her family seems really busy.

When she does decide to introduce you to her friends and family, things might be awkward.

You may feel like you do not belong, as if you are walking on eggshells around them.

7) She never talks about the future

This is another subtle sign that you should pay attention to.

She may not be willing to talk about the future or what she wants to do with her life.

You might find yourself trying to bring up future plans, but she will divert the topic or simply ignore it entirely.

There’s a reason for this, and I promise that her reasons are valid and understandable.

She does not believe that you are the one for her in the future.

Think about it: if she did, why wouldn’t she want to spend as much time with you as possible?

That would make more sense, right?

8) She is not supportive of you in your career or any kind of career

When women do not see a future with you, they often try to change your mind when they do not approve of the direction that you are taking.

They might even try to make you feel bad or responsible for their lack of support in your career.

Most men want to make women happy and feel wanted, but sometimes it’s not that simple.

If you feel like she is trying to change your mind about your career, then you should be very careful about what you say.

9) She does not remember what you say to her

This is pretty hard to figure out, but it is a sign that she just might not want to be with you.

If your woman really loves you, then she is going to want to spend as much time with you as possible.

This will also mean that she wants to remember everything that you say to her.

She will even ask you questions about what was said earlier in the day.

Also, she will often want to talk about the same things that you talk about.

If she never asks questions or remembers what you talked about, then it’s probably because she does not feel like she has something in common with you anymore.

10) She disregards your feelings

If there’s one thing that women are bad at, and it’s doing what they say they’re going to do!

Women love to make promises, but they never follow through with them.

Instead of telling you what she is doing in the future, she will tell you what she will not be doing in the future…like her plans to visit your family.

This information is very important if you want to find out the reasons behind why she has been avoiding you recently.

11) She doesn’t trust you

This is an extremely common sign that she does not see a future with you, but let me explain why this is happening.

Women will often give men the benefit of the doubt at first because they like feeling liked and loved.

But then, if she gives you a chance and you prove that you are not trustworthy, her trust in you will quickly disappear.

Not only is this a sign that women don’t see a future with you, but it’s also a sign that she feels like she doesn’t have to tell you anything.

12) She does not want to spend time with your family

This is a very important one.

If your woman is not willing to spend time with your family, then she’s not going to want to spend time with you.

She will find an excuse in order to avoid spending time with what she perceives as “a weaker group.”

This will come across as her trying to protect her own group and act like you are the weaker group because of who your family is.

13) She makes excuses when you invite her somewhere

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Women make excuses because they do not want to go anywhere with you.

If you make an effort to invite her somewhere with your friends, then do not expect her to come willingly.

She will try to find an excuse.

You might have noticed that this is something that she does a lot.

Do not take it personally if she makes up fake excuses because she doesn’t spend time with the one – who she can’t see a future with.

Instead, she will find the suitable one for her.

14) She frequently mentions her ex

If she frequently brings up her ex and does not try to steer away from the topic, then it is a sign that she sees no future with you.

Women will talk about their exes because this is how they cope with their emotions.

They also share memories of their ex for reasons that are best left to your imagination.

If this is the case, then it’s probably because she does not see a future with you and she is trying to tell you something without having to say anything at all.

15) When she talks about other people, she never mentions them without an “if only” qualifier (“when I met him if only …)

This is an obvious sign.

There will be no “if only” qualifier when she talks about a past lover.

This is because she most likely doesn’t think of you as being a future lover anymore.

She is spending more time with people that she thinks can make her happy in the future, and not with you.

What can you do about it?

The best thing you can do right now is to start taking action.

You will see results in a short period of time, but you should continue working on it for a long period of time.

If you see no results after a few weeks, then it’s time to move on from her.

Do not be in a relationship with someone who doesn’t see a future with you.

Your woman obviously does not want to spend time with you, and neither should you.

This will cause both of you to be unhappy.

In a nutshell

If you have ever been in a situation like this, you know how painful it can be.

There is nothing worse than being alone and feeling like you are not good enough for anyone.

It is even harder when the woman that you love has no faith in your career and doesn’t think

It’s best to move on sooner rather than later.

You might feel like she is the one for you, but she will never see it that way if she sees no future with you.

Not all women will see no future with you, but it’s important that you learn what signs to look out for.

Once you recognize them, you won’t ever have to experience feelings like that again.

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Nguyet Yen Tran

Yen is a freelance writer and a researcher specializing in mental health, self-awareness, and psychology. Her hobby is studying human behavior throughout their reaction upon situations. Be sure to check out her other posts on our blog.

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