It’s hard to read a man’s mind.
But with the right tools you can have a high degree of certainty about whether or not you’re on his mind.
1) He doesn’t talk about other girls
One of the strongest signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he doesn’t talk about other girls.
He may mention an ex if you specifically ask, but more or less he’s not interested in discussing the opposite sex with you.
He wants things to be different with you.
And he clearly thinks about you a lot in a way that’s more than just friends.
Otherwise he wouldn’t hesitate to open up about his crushes, past loves and future romantic dreams.
But that’s not what he’s doing, because you’re on his mind.
“If he never mentions other girls, just know there’s a reason. He is scared that it will make you think that he has a crush on somebody else.
“He doesn’t want you to think that he is interested in someone else.”
2) He cares what you tell him
Another one of the clearest signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he cares what you tell him.
Some guys show this more than others.
He may not visibly react to what you tell him and it might seem to go over his head in some cases.
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But the proof is in the pudding.
If this guy recalls things you shared about yourself or other details later on it means he was definitely listening to you.
He’s got your best interests at heart and he cares about you.
He wouldn’t care about what you say if he didn’t think about you.
But since you matter to him, then he does care.
Simple as that…
3) He wants to help you
One of the top ways to know if you’re taking up real estate in a guy’s mind is if you’ve truly treated him like a man.
Far too many women miss out on the one true ingredient that makes a man fall for a woman and commit to her.
You see, for guys, it’s all about triggering their inner hero.
I learned about this from the hero instinct. Coined by relationship expert James Bauer, this revolutionary concept is about three main drivers all men have, deeply ingrained in their DNA.
This is something most women don’t know about.
But once triggered, these drivers make men into the heroes of their own lives. They feel better, love harder, and commit stronger when they find someone who knows how to trigger this.
And they’re more likely to give up living life as a player, hopping from one woman to the next.
Now, you may be wondering why it’s called “the hero instinct”? Do guys really need to feel like superheroes to commit to a woman?
Not at all. Forget about Marvel. You won’t need to play the damsel locked in the tower to make him see you as the one.
The truth is, it comes at no cost or sacrifice to you. With only a few small changes in how you approach him, you’ll tap into a part of him no woman has tapped into before.
The easiest way to do this is by checking out James Bauer’s excellent free video here. He shares some easy tips to get you started, such as sending him a 12 word text that will trigger his hero instinct right away.
Because that’s the beauty of the hero instinct.
It’s only a matter of knowing the right things to say to make him realize that he wants you and only you.
All of that and more is included in this informative free video, so make sure to check it out if you want to make him yours for good.
4) He doesn’t leave you on read
Guys who don’t think about you have an annoying habit: they leave you on read.
Whether it’s texting, Instagram, Facebook, WhatsApp or anywhere else, they scan over the preview of your message and intentionally don’t read it.
This way you can’t really be sure they saw it and they also don’t have to answer.
It’s the ultimate form of digital passive aggressiveness.
The opposite is a guy who actually thinks about you a lot and wants to receive your messages.
He reads your message when he gets it and has time to read it.
The same thing about when he answers it.
He’s not interested in game playing or mind acrobatics. If he wants to talk to you he does.
Watch out for guys who have zero interest. It’s almost always evident in their texting behavior.
“If a guy isn’t interested in you, he’s not going to bother putting time and effort into regular texting.
“Sure, some guys will answer for a while out of politeness, but if he’s always responding to your texts in a timely manner, that’s a heavy hint,” explains Avery Lynn.
5) He cleans up well before seeing you
A guy who thinks about you a lot puts effort into his appearance.
A guy who doesn’t think of you much meets you in his loafers and sweatpants from 1993.
The obvious signs that a guy thinks about you are often evident in his appearance, so watch for the following:
- Spruced up hair or use of gel or mousse
- Smoothly ironed or well-kept clothes
- Classy styles and tight-fitting t-shirts
- Well-maintained, clean shoes
- A close shave or well-kept beard
- Wearing jewelry, stylish necklaces, nice sunglasses or other eye-catching accessories.
Of course he could just be a stylish dude. That’s fully possible, especially if you’re currently hanging out in Paris and the guy is a yacht owner called Jacques who dabbles in modeling.
But what I’m getting at here is that if you want to know if you’ve been on his mind, look what he puts on his body.
A guy who thinks of you a lot and cares what you think of him will put time and effort into his appearance.
6) He’s protective of you
Next up in terms of important signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he’s protective of you.
This may be physically and when around you, standing up for you and ensuring that the world treats you right.
But it can also be in more subtle ways, such as going out of his way to help you resolve smaller issues you’re having and long-term frustrations.
This can also evolve and manifest as jealousy.
He won’t be thrilled to hear about other guys who are into you or vice versa.
And men who show interest in you can spark his protective and jealous side, too.
You’ll usually be able to notice the bad mood he gets in when other men flirt with you, or when you talk about someone else you might like.
“If a guy likes you but is hiding it, you’ll notice he can actually get pretty jealous or overprotective.
“So he won’t like you talking about other guys, he won’t like hearing about you going out with other guys, and if he has to – he’ll ask a lot of questions or find reasons to put them down!”
7) He has an amazing memory about you
Another of the top signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he seems to remember everything you tell him.
He seems to remember every little detail you tell him.
Not only does he care a lot about what you say.
He also recalls it months or years down the road, caring about what you said and why you said it.
His top-notch memory may be one of his general personality features and skills.
But more commonly it’s because you’re on his mind and he cares about you.
For this reason his brain is devoting more energy to remembering what you share with him.
8) He engages with you on social media
What do you usually do when somebody is on your mind?
I usually go to social media or the internet and try to find out more about them or see what they’ve been up to.
It’s the exact same for a guy who’s interested in you.
He’s going to engage with you on social media.
This may start as just following you, but if he’s not too shy or awkward it will generally evolve into him liking posts, comments and even having discussions or private chats with you.
That’s because you’re on his mind and he’s wondering whether he has feelings for you (or already knows he does and is just shy about asking you out).
“Whatever you post, whether it’s funny or not, he’s one of the first people to like your posts. Stalker?
“Nope, just one of the classic signs he thinks about you a lot. He would only subtly like all your social media posts if he kept thinking about you all the time.”
9) He visibly brightens up around you
Another of the signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he visibly brightens up around you.
If his frown turns upside down when you’re around then it means you’re someone he thinks about.
When you like someone they have the power to turn your day around.
That’s just the thing about having feelings for another person.
They affect you much more than other people do and they have such a positive impact on your life every time they’re around.
When you like someone and they’re on your mind in this way, you can only hope that you’re that important for them as well.
10) He keeps bumping into you
Another one of the undeniable signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he keeps bumping into you.
I mean this literally and in the sense of meeting you.
He may often show up where you are in various places during your day or week, passing it off as a coincidence.
That’s because he wants to maximize time with you.
Secondarily, he may often brush against you or find a reason to lightly touch you or let his fingers linger when you touch.
“If this guy is attracted to you, he will want to touch you and feel the spark of your skin on his. As much as he wants to hide the fact that he likes you, he won’t be able to control the urge he has to touch you.
“Therefore, you will notice that he touches you a lot more than he does to anyone else. He might make excuses up to touch you, or he might just try to blend it in naturally.”
11) He likes to tease you a bit
When you look at the behavior of cats and other animals when they like someone one trait emerges clearly: they tease their potential love interest.
If a guy thinks of you a lot but doesn’t want to show it, one of the ways it will be obvious is that he will tease you.
This may be jokes and funny things he says to you, or playful pokes, shoulder rubs and light play shoving.
This teasing can be cute if you’re interested in someone, or annoying as hell if you’re not.
One thing is clear is that you’ve been on his mind and he likes you.
12) He wants you to think the best of him
If you’ve been on a guy’s mind it’s because he cares about you and hopes you care about him.
This will usually come out in him trying to impress you.
It can be trying hard or just playing it cool, but if you watch for the subtle clues you will be able to see that he values and cares about your reactions to him.
He clearly wants you to think the best of him.
Watch how he behaves, because this will tell you a lot about whether he’s been thinking of you or whether you’re just another girl to him.
“If he is always trying to impress you then this is one of the signs a guy likes you and has feelings for you but just isn’t ready to reveal how he feels about you just yet,” writes dating expert Sarah Mayfield.
“If he is doing or saying anything that he can think of just to impress you then this is one of the signs that he has feelings for you but just hasn’t told you yet.”
13) He’s super curious about you
When he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it, that’s because he finds you interesting.
He may be interested in your body, your mind, your heart – or all three.
But rest assured that something has caught his interest and his attention.
And he wants more fuel for the fire, to feed his curiosity about you.
Which is why he’ll tend to be very curious when around you.
If he’s super curious about everything about you and never gets bored when talking to you then it’s probably because he thinks about you a lot.
14) He loves talking to you about almost anything
Another one of the top signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it is that he never gets tired of talking to you.
Even if you’re discussing lawn irrigation or different types of salad dressing he looks like he’s hearing about the discovery of a new universe.
That’s because when you’re on his mind you’re an object of attraction, fascination and curiosity.
He will start conversations with you whenever possible and love to talk to you for as long as he can.
“If the guy often starts conversations, that implies that he wants to talk to you,” notes Ruth Jesse.
“It can also mean that the person wants to know about you, and hence, that is a sign that he likes you.”
15) He’s more interested in you than in his phone
These days it’s hard to meet anyone who’s not superglued to their phone.
But a guy who thinks about you a lot and is really interested in you will have a shocking behavior:
He’ll be more interested in you than his phone.
I know this sounds hard to believe…
But it’s one of the clearest signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it.
Phones have a lot of cool stuff on them.
But he’ll be more interested in you than his phone if you’ve really been on his mind.
16) He likes to meet up with you whenever possible
If you’re looking for signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it, then take a look at his schedule.
Even a guy with a busy schedule will go out of his way to spend as much time with you as possible if he likes you.
If you’ve been on his mind, one of the top things he will have been thinking of is how to spend more time with you.
As such, he’s likely to get very creative about spending time with you, meeting you or even just having daily interactions with you of some kind.
“He often passes by your desk and asks silly questions; he even sends you funny memes, TikTok videos, or tags you in random posts you might be interested in.
“He might even organize a night-out, a hike, or even a barbeque, and he will make sure you are coming as well.”
17) He wants to know what makes you tick
When you’re looking for signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it then look at the kinds of questions he asks you.
A guy who’s got you on his mind will be intensely interested in what makes you tick.
From your beliefs about philosophy and politics to your spiritual path…
He’ll be all about those deeper questions.
18) He’s understanding about your issues
This is one of the most crucial signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it.
He’s understanding about your issues.
He gives you the benefit of the doubt and isn’t too hard on you even when it seems like he has the ability to be harder on you.
He will want the best for you and want to see things from your point of view even when he doesn’t understand at first.
19) He gives you really crucial and helpful advice
A guy who thinks about you a lot also thinks about your issues and how to help fix them.
His advice will be well-thought out and considerate.
You’ll be able to tell he’s put some real thought and heartfelt consideration into what he’s advising you.
That’s because he truly wants to help you and be there for you, not just say whatever is easiest to get the subject over with.
20) He starts taking an interest in your interests
When he’s truly interested in you, he’s also fascinated by your interests.
This is one of the clearest signs he thinks about you a lot even if he tries to hide it.
He gets keen on what you get keen on.
Whether it’s cooking or competitive equestrianism, he’ll be all about learning more from day one.
That’s because you’re on his mind and he loves learning more about you and what you like to do.
When will he make his move?
After reading this list you’re probably think: OK, cool.
So when will he make his move?
If he can’t get you off his mind, sooner or later he’s going to ask you out in some way.
The most you can do at this point is give him plenty of positive feedback and let him know you’re interested.
Or shut him down if you’re not.
One way or another, hiding our feelings for somebody can’t continue forever, and sooner or later it has to come out into the open.