No one really knows what love actually is, but we all know it’s not something that just happens.
It takes time and patience to build a relationship and to make it last.
However, sometimes you have to judge a book by its cover. In order to determine whether your partner really loves you or not, you need to be able to spot the signs.
Here are some ways in which you can observe your man and determine if he truly loves you the way you want him to.
Let’s jump right in:
1) Does he text you in the morning when he wakes up?
Do you wake up each day to romantic text messages from him? If so, he’s probably a keeper.
The first thing he does every morning is check his phone for a message from you.
Think about it:
You’re the first thing that he thinks about when he wakes up.
This is a sign that he really loves you.
2) Does he call you every day?
You’re busy people with full schedules.
Maybe you don’t manage to see each other every day but you definitely talk every day, he makes sure of that.
He calls you on his lunch break to hear your voice.
Wait, there’s more.
He calls you when he gets home in the evening to see how your day went, what you’re making for dinner, what you’re gonna watch on TV later.
He doesn’t want to miss anything and is happy to listen to you speak about anything.
If he calls you every day, no matter how busy he is, then it is a sure sign that he loves you.
3) Does he listen to your problems?
Here’s an interesting fact:
So, if you find a man who takes an interest in what you have to say, it means that he really cares about you.
A man who truly loves you will always listen to your problems and try to solve them.
He’s not just a good listener, but he also cares about your feelings.
If your guy is always trying to solve your problems, then he really loves you.
If he doesn’t care enough to help, there is no point in being with him.
4) Does he want to be your hero?
A sure sign that a guy really loves you is when he becomes protective of you. He’s ready to do anything to keep you out of harm’s way.
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.
But how do you trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including exactly how to trigger it in your man.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
5) Does he make time for your family and friends when they visit?
When your family and friends come to visit, does he go out of his way to make them feel welcome and show them a good time?
This isn’t something that he has to do, he wants to do it for you. He knows how much they mean to you.
Whether or not he likes them doesn’t matter to him, he’ll still make time for your friends and family because he really cares about you.
6) Is he willing to go out of his way to make you happy?
Don’t just focus on the physical signs of love. You should also be looking for words and actions that prove he’s willing to go out of his way to make you happy.
- He buys you flowers and chocolates and likes doing things with you that are fun and exciting.
- He makes you laugh. He looks out for you. He’s happy when you’re happy!
- He’s willing to walk your dog out in the middle of the blizzard to spare you.
- He is selfless and will do anything for you.
Simply put, he’s not afraid to put in the work when it comes to your well-being because he loves you.
7) Does he make you feel special?
There is nothing like the feeling of being wanted and loved unconditionally by someone else.
Have you found a guy that makes you feel special?
Does he make you feel like you’re the most important thing in the world to him?
This is a guy who thinks about you all the time, loves spending time with you, and makes sure that you have everything that you need.
But wait – there’s more.
He puts your needs before his because he sees how special you are and loves you!
It’s not often we find someone who makes us feel like they see us, care for us, and love us.
8) Do you feel you can trust him?
Trust is an important element of any relationship.
If you’re dating a guy that has earned your trust with hard work and dedication – then he’s a keeper!
Time and time again he has proven himself to you, he’s been by your side through thick and thin.
If you know that he has your back, then you should also know that it’s because of his love for you.
9) Does he make you feel loved and cared for?
- Do you feel like your partner puts his needs aside for yours?
- Does he do things for you without expecting to be rewarded?
- Does he make you feel special and unique?
Here’s the deal:
He loves you for who you are and not for what you can do for him. He cares about your feelings, wants what’s best for you, and will do anything to keep you happy.
When you find a guy that genuinely loves you, and is willing to go above and beyond for you – never let him go!
10) Does he forgive you?
Forgiveness is a process that includes letting go of the anger and resentment you feel towards someone who has hurt or disappointed you.
Forgiveness isn’t always easy.
And the good news?
If you find you’ve messed up horribly, and he’s able to forgive you and move past it, it means that he really cares about you.
11) Does he respect you?
It is impossible to have a healthy relationship without respect.
- Is he mindful of your feelings?
- Does he listen to what you have to say?
- Do your opinions matter to him?
- Is he honest with you?
- Is he ready to compromise with you?
If the answer is “yes” then that means that your partner respects and values you – signs that he really cares about you.
12) Is he infatuated with you?
A guy in love is completely infatuated with the object of his affection.
So how can you make him completely infatuated with you?
Relationship expert Clayton Max explains that to get through to a guy, you can’t just convince him to be with you, you have to appeal to his deep, primal instincts.
13) Does he put up with you when you’re grumpy?
Do you become a bit grumpy when you’re tired or hungry?
Do you sometimes have mood swings (especially when you’re PMSing)?
In my experience, when a guy sees you at your worst and sticks around, it’s because he’s in love with you.
It takes a lot of strength to put up with someone who is grumpy and moody.
If he’s able to show up and be there for you when you’re going through tough times, then it means that he really cares about you and your happiness and isn’t willing to let it get in the way of you two being together.
14) Does he talk about the future with you?
When you’re in a relationship, it’s important to talk about the future.
If you’re with someone who wants to make weekend or holiday plans that involve you, it’s a good sign.
If your partner talks about his hopes and dreams with you and his plans for the future, it means that he can see a future with you in it. He’s in love with you and is ready to take your relationship forward.
This is a sign that a guy is into you and not just looking for a one-night stand or a short-term relationship.
On the other hand, if you’re with someone who doesn’t like to talk about the future and isn’t ready to make any plans – even short-term – with you, it means that either he doesn’t care about you enough, or that he may not be ready for a serious relationship.
15) Does he take care of your needs and wants?
A guy who is ready to take care of your needs and wants is a guy in love.
He wants to make you happy and feel protected.
He is invested in making sure that you’re happy and safe.
If he’s always there “in sickness and in health”, it means that he’s ready to be in a committed relationship.
And if he’s there for you when you’re sad or upset, then it means that he really loves you.
16) Does he have your back?
Sometimes it’s hard to know whether your boyfriend really loves you.
He may tell you he loves you, but actions speak louder than words.
What does this mean for you?
If he is willing to stand up for you in a time of need, if he doesn’t care what people think and always has your back, it means that he really is in love.
17) Is he willing to sacrifice his own needs and wants in order to make sure that you are happy and content?
A man who makes it his priority to make you happy is a man who loves you.
This means that he’s willing to put his needs aside in order to make sure that you are happy.
He’s not selfish and doesn’t think about what he wants. He’s really into you and wants to make sure that you’re taken care of.
18) Does he want to take care of you?
Are you dating a guy who wants to take care of you?
This relates back to what I mentioned earlier: the hero instinct.
When a man is made to feel needed, wanted, and respected, he’s more likely to fall madly in love with you.
And it’s as simple as knowing the right things to say to trigger his hero instinct and make him into the man he’s always wanted to be.
All of that and more is revealed in this excellent free video by James Bauer. It’s absolutely worth checking out if you’re ready to take things to the next level with your man.
19) Is he supportive of your goals and dreams?
A guy who is supportive of your goals and dreams, whether it’s about you going back to school or starting your own business, is a guy who really cares about you.
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You see, he understands how important it is for you to accomplish what you set out to do. He’ll be there for you no matter how hard it gets.
He believes in you.
When things get too hard and you want to give up, he doesn’t let you. He helps you get through your crisis and keep going.
That’s called true love.
20) Is he there for you when you need him the most?
A guy who is there for you when you need him the most is a guy who really loves you.
He’s not just there when things are going well, when things are fun and easy.
Want to know the best part?
If you ever find yourself in trouble or going through a hard time, when you need someone the most, he’ll be right by your side.
21) Does he remember the little things?
Love isn’t just about the grand gestures and proclamations, it’s about remembering the little things.
Does he remember how you drink your coffee? Does he hold your hand when you’re out together? Does he ask about your family?
It’s the little things that make for a great relationship.
22) Does he make you feel like a queen?
One of the greatest gifts a partner can give their partner is to make them feel like a queen.
What does it mean if he makes you feel like a queen?
It means that he truly loves and cherishes you.
It means that he’s not afraid to put in the effort to show his love. When someone really cares about you, they’ll do anything they can to make sure your needs are met.
How to deal with rejection
In order to deal with rejection, you must first accept that it happened.
This can be difficult initially, but it will make your life much easier in the long run. It’s important to remind yourself that love and relationships are a two-way street.
Find happiness within
Once you’ve accepted that this person is not for you, then it’s time to find happiness within yourself again.
You may have been feeling down about this rejection for a while now, so it might be worthwhile to take some time for self-love and kindness as well.
Remind yourself of why you’re looking for love in the first place – maybe you’re not finding happiness or something else that makes you happy in your life.
Don’t take it personally
One of the hardest parts about rejection is how personal it can feel. We feel insulted and humiliated when we’re rejected, but it’s important to remember that it’s not personal.
Think about the person who has rejected you, how they might be feeling, and what their reasons for rejecting you may be.
It’s never easy to hear someone say “no” to us, but it’s best to try not to take it personally.
Give yourself time to heal
One of the most difficult parts of rejection is how it makes us feel.
It can be really hard to handle, but with time it will get better.
One way to deal with rejection is to take some time off from dating.
You see, you might find that when you come back feeling stronger, more confident, and less stressed, you will meet someone new and fall in love all over again.
Seek support from friends
One of the most important ways to deal with rejection in love is to find support from friends and loved ones.
They can be your greatest source of inspiration, and they can help you figure out what you should do next.
Friends can also remind you that this person is only a part of a much bigger picture, and they will help you heal after being hurt.
The good news is that you’ve got plenty of people out there waiting patiently to love you!
Be careful with comparing your situation with others
The best way to deal with rejection is to remember that there is no other person’s situation that is like yours.
Every person who has experienced rejection in love has had their own unique circumstances.
It’s important to be careful when comparing your situation with others because it might make you feel worse about yourself, when really you have nothing to worry about.
Practice self-love and be kinder to yourself
If you are looking for love and experience rejection, know that you are not alone.
I’ve been there.
Many people have felt the same way and survived.
Try to practice self-love and kindness in your everyday life. You might find that this helps to reduce your feelings of rejection.
Remember why you’re looking for love
Love is hard work.
It’s a lot of time spent and a lot of time invested.
The rejection that comes with the territory often keeps us from pursuing what we think is right for us.
But the bottom line is this:
Remember why you are looking for love in the first place, and be sure to let go of any expectations. If you feel like giving up, remember that love will come if you keep trying!
- Don’t give up
- Keep your head up
- Apply your skills to other areas
- Practice self-care
- Surround yourself with people who believe in you
- Celebrate your accomplishments
How to get a guy to fall in love with you
Here’s an interesting fact:
Most people want to find their soulmate. But the problem is, how do you make someone fall in love with you?
Maybe you’ve been dating for a while and it just hasn’t clicked yet.
It’s not easy to make a guy fall in love with you, but it’s not impossible.
All it takes is the right strategy and some work.
Here are 10 ways to make him fall in love with you!
1) Have the perfect date night
It’s important to spend quality time with your guy. Date nights are a good way to get away from the daily hustle and show your significant other how much you care about him.
On these dates, he’ll experience the things that make you unique and interesting as well as get a chance to spend some time with you without any distractions.
If you want to truly make your date night special, then choose a place that’s close to home and has an amazing atmosphere. You can also have dinner at your favorite restaurant or enjoy dessert at your favorite ice cream shop.
If you’re craving something else, then have the perfect first date night by doing something new together – pick up a new hobby, go on a mini-getaway, or try out some new activities!
2) Make yourself irresistible
Many women think that all they need is to be attractive and they’ll have a guy falling in love with them. But that’s not true. You need to make yourself irresistible!
Let me explain:
If you want your man to fall in love with you, then you need to appeal to his mind and his body too.
This includes working out, getting a makeover, doing whatever he likes, and so much more.
The more appealing you are, the more likely your man will fall in love with you.
Another way to make yourself irresistible is by being funny and charismatic.
3) Write a love letter that’ll make him melt
A love letter is one of the best ways to make a guy fall in love with you.
Write a letter that shows how much he means to you and that you feel so deeply for him.
If he’s already your boyfriend, write a letter to him describing the future plans you have in store for your relationship. This will show him how important his opinion is to you.
This is also a great way to express your gratitude and appreciation for all of the little things he does for you.
4) Make him desire you
If you want to know how to make a guy fall in love with you, you need to make him want you.
You can do this by showing some skin, flirting with him, and touching his arm.
This is a little bit more difficult than just telling him, but it’s worth the effort.
5) Be confident!
Men are attracted to women who are confident and know their own mind.
You see, confidence shows that you’re comfortable with yourself and know who you are.
Guys like a girl who knows her value, who stands tall and proud with a strong back and confident manner because of the fact that she conveys an air of invincibility.
6) Be independent
Guys tend to get bored easily with girls who are too clingy or needy.
They want a girl that is independent, who can stand on her own two feet and doesn’t need them constantly.
You don’t have to be loud and obnoxious, but you should make sure that you believe in yourself.
You should be able to do anything you want on your own.
7) Be a good listener
Guys love a girl who is willing to listen.
They feel loved when they know that their girl cares about them and wants to hear about them
Listening is a skill that not many people have. It’s also not taught in school or college, but it’s an important ability to possess.
What do you think guys love about girls who listen well?
Listening is a vital part of communication and relationships. When you are able to listen effectively, you can show empathy and respect for someone else, which can make them feel better and more satisfied.
In a nutshell:
Listening is the basis of any good relationship.
8) Don’t be a drama queen
Guys like a girl who is cool and fun.
Here’s the truth: guys don’t like drama.
A guy will fall in love with a girl that doesn’t have drama in her life.
The last thing he wants is to be with someone who gets upset over little things. It doesn’t matter if it’s small stuff or big stuff, a guy wants a girl that is calm and rational.
9) Don’t be pushy!
Pushiness doesn’t go hand-in-hand with confidence or good manners! It can also come across as very aggressive or mean, which will make a guy want to leave the relationship faster than you can say “we need to talk.”
It’s okay to ask him out, but don’t make it too obvious that you want him.
You can say something like, “I was thinking about going out on Friday, what do you think?”
This is a conversation starter. It’s not a question being asked as a demand. It will be better if you can make it more subtle and let him come to the conclusion that he wants to go out with you by himself.
10) Be a good conversationalist
Guys like to talk about anything and everything. They love to have fun and banter with girls, but they also like to have deep conversations that can really get them thinking.
So what is the perfect conversation starter?
Here are a few questions that you can’t go wrong with:
- “What are you thinking about?”
- “Do you want to go on vacation soon?”
- “How did you get into this career? What made you decide this was the right job for you?”
When a guy is interested in you and he wants to get to know more about you, he will ask you questions.
Try to respond to his questions with interesting and thought-provoking answers. This will make him want to spend more time with you!
Guys love a girl they can have a proper conversation with.
How this one revelation changed my love life
It’s Justin Brown here, the co-founder of Ideapod, and I have something to confess…
I used to believe I needed to be successful before I deserved to find someone who could love me.
I used to believe there was a “perfect person” out there and I just had to find them.
I used to believe I would finally be happy once I found “the one”.
What I now know is that these limiting beliefs were stopping me from building deep and intimate relationships with the people I was meeting. I was chasing an illusion that was leading me to loneliness.
If you want to change anything in your life, one of the most effective ways is to change your beliefs.
Unfortunately, it’s not an easy thing to do.
I’m lucky to have worked directly with the shaman Rudá Iandê in changing my beliefs about love. Doing so has changed my life forever.
Now, Rudá’s teachings can change your life, too.
As the co-founder of Ideapod, I’m in a unique position to be able to bring Rudá’s teachings to our global community.
We do this by promoting his masterclasses.
One of the most powerful masterclasses he has is the love and intimacy masterclass. In this class, Rudá breaks down his key lessons on cultivating healthy and nurturing relationships in your life.
Thousands of people have already let me know that this masterclass has changed their love lives for the better.
Justin Brown, Ideapod Founder