How to tell if a guy really likes you or just wants to sleep with you: 17 signs to look for

Are you crushing on this guy and he seems to like you back?


Now what?

You might be thinking about how to let him know that you want something more than a casual hookup.

Do you come right out and tell him that you’re interested in something serious?

Or is this the kind of situation where you have to read between the lines, listen to what he doesn’t say, and hope that he doesn’t just see you as another opportunity for sex?

So how do you decipher whether a guy likes sleeping with you vs. likes YOU?

Let’s take a look at some signs to check if a guy really likes you and not just wants to hook up with you.

1) He’s always around when you need him

When a guy likes you, he’s going to want to be around you as much as possible.

This means that if you need help with anything – whether it’s a flat tire or a computer virus – he’s going to be there to help.

If a guy wants to only sleep with you, he might not be as willing to jump in and help whenever you need it.

So if you notice that a guy is always around when you need help, it’s a good indication that he’s interested in you.

There’s nothing worse than getting attached to someone who has no interest in dating you back. You often don’t realize this until it’s too late.

They say the best way to tell if someone likes you is if they’re always around and constantly texting you.

If they are always available for your calls and replies to your texts quickly, then it’s a good sign that they like you.

If they are not always available for your calls, then it may mean that they are not interested in dating you, or it could mean that they have another reason for not being available, like work, school or family commitments.

You can also tell if someone likes you by how they treat you. If they are attentive to what you have to say and show interest in what you’re doing, then they may like you.

2) He goes out of his way for you

If a guy really likes you, he is going out of his way to make sure you feel comfortable being around him.

He will want to make sure you feel at ease and that you know that he cares about your feelings.

He wants you to like him back so he goes out of his way to make himself stand out to you.

What to expect from a love-stricken guy?

Expect that he might buy you gifts or do something special for you.

He might want to show you off to his friends or family.

He might even take the time to make sure you are comfortable in his home.

Or, he might also take the time to make sure that you know that he cares about your feelings and wants to make sure that you feel like a priority in his life.

Uh! Lucky you!

3) He makes time for you

If a guy really likes you, he’ll make time for you. He knows that a relationship is about more than just sex.

Otherwise, if he’s not interested in something serious with you, he won’t waste his time trying to make that happen.

So if you feel like a guy is always available when you want to hang out, that’s a good sign that he’s into you.

On the other hand, if he’s always busy or he’s always canceling plans, it might mean that he doesn’t feel the same way.

So pay attention to how much time he spends with you and how willing he is to stay in touch.

If he makes an effort to stay in touch with you and spends time with you even when he doesn’t have to, there’s a good chance that he’s interested in something more than just sex.

Word of advice: keep him!

4) He’s interested in your life

No guy is going to be genuinely interested in you if he just wants to sleep with you.

Sure, this may be the case at first, but if he’s truly interested in you as a person, chances are things will progress beyond the physical level.

A guy who’s interested in you wants to know all about you and how you spend your time.

He wants to know your likes and dislikes, and he wants to learn more about the things that are important to you.

If a guy is only interested in sleeping with you and nothing more, then he’s only going to be interested in the parts of you that are physical.

He’s not going to care about what kind of music you like or what your favorite movie is or what your favorite color is.

5) He makes you feel special

When a guy really likes you, it’s obvious because he takes the time to make you feel special in one way or another.

He keeps you regularly updated on how your relationship is progressing, and if he’s the kind of guy who goes out of his way to make you feel loved and cared for, then that’s a clear sign that you’re dating someone who really likes you.

If he treats you like a princess and always has something nice to say, then chances are that he really likes you.

A guy who isn’t interested in dating you won’t put in this much effort.

He’s probably going to be much more relaxed about the whole thing, and won’t have time for all the little things that matter so much.

So stay on the lookout for these signs.

6) He’s proud of you

Some guys like to show off their conquests. Guys who do aren’t worth your time and attention.

However, if a guy is proud of you, he’s proud of your accomplishments and character, not just your body.

He’ll want to brag about you, tell everyone about how great you are, and spend time with you.

He will be proud to introduce you to his friends and family, and he’ll be proud to be seen with you.

A guy who’s proud of you will want to spend time with you because he enjoys your company, not just because he wants to take advantage of your body.

Although, it is often true that most guys are interested in physical appearance when it comes to the opposite sex. That’s just the way it is.

However, if a guy really likes you, he’ll be proud of you for more than just your body.

7) He puts your needs first

The best way to tell if a guy just wants to sleep with you is to look at what he does, not what he says.

Does he put your needs first?

Does he make an effort to understand your needs and make them a priority?

Does he make you feel important?

Does he treat you with kindness, respect and consideration?

If the answer to all of these questions is yes, then he’s probably serious about you.

If a guy likes you and not just wants to sleep with you, he will put your needs first.

He might wait until you are ready to have sex or even wait until you’ve established trust.

He might make an effort to understand your needs and make them a priority.

8) He’s supportive

When it comes to being supportive, a guy can be there for you in many different ways.

He could help you move, give you a ride when you’re stranded, or take you out to dinner.

Now, if he really likes you and not just your body, he will be supportive of your goals and ambitions, and he will always be there for you through thick and thin.

He understands that despite all the physical attraction, there is more to a relationship than just looks.

He will encourage you to follow your dreams and will do everything he can to help you achieve them.

If a guy is only interested in your body and not your mind, he will not be supportive.

Instead, he will only be concerned about his own needs and wants.

Therefore, if you want a supportive guy, make sure that he is someone who really cares about you as a person and not just the body you came with.

9) He makes you laugh

If a guy is making you laugh, it’s a good sign that he’s comfortable around you and having fun.

And if he’s having fun, he’s probably into you.

But be careful. Some guys might try to make you laugh because they’re hoping to get laid.

However, if a guy really likes you and not just wants to sleep with you, he’ll make you laugh because he genuinely enjoys your company.

When a guy likes you, he wants you to like him back and one way to do this is by making you laugh.

If a guy is trying to make you laugh, it’s usually because he wants to impress you and thinks that laughing will make you like him more.

If he is genuinely happy around you, it’s a good sign that he’s interested in something more than just sex with you.

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10) He’s sweet

Sweet guys are men who are thoughtful and considerate. They’re not only nice to look at, they’re nice to be around.

They care about the feelings of others, and they’re not just interested in one thing – sex.

If you’ve found a guy who is like this, you’ve done well for yourself.

They care about the person inside and want to get to know them. They want to know what makes you tick, what your favorite movies are, and what your favorite foods are.

They want to know about you as a person, not just as a body to use for their pleasure.

But there’s a catch though.

Sweet guys are hard to find so when you find one for yourself, treasure him.

11) He’s protective

Being protective is a sign that a guy really likes you. It’s not something he does for every girl he meets.

He’ll want to keep an eye on you if you’re out at night or in an unfamiliar environment.

He’ll be there if someone tries to hurt you, and he’ll make sure you get to where you’re going safely.

He’s not trying to control your movements, but he wants to make sure you’re safe.

This is a classic sign of true love and care.

If a guy offers to walk you home, make sure that he’s walking beside you and not behind you.

Walking beside you shows that he’s being protective over you and that he wants to make sure that he can get there if anything happens.

If he does these things and also shows other signs of having feelings for you, then it’s likely that he is protective over you because he cares about your well-being and wants to make sure that you’re safe.

12) He’s reliable

It’s important to be able to trust your partner and know that they will be there for you no matter what.

If a guy is reliable, it means that he is a trustworthy person who can be counted on no matter what the circumstance.

Reliability means that a man will show up on time, pay his share of the bill, and be there to help if you need him.

It also means that he will keep his promises and stick to his word.

If a guy is unreliable, it can make a relationship very difficult because you have to constantly keep track of him and question whether he will actually show up for things or if he’ll just flake out at the last minute.

An unreliable partner can also be frustrating because you never know if they are going to act impulsively or do something crazy without thinking of the consequences.

So observe wisely.

13) He’s a good listener

A good listener is hard to find, and it can be a real turn-on when you find a guy who wants to hear all about your day, your interests, and your goals.

A good listener is more than just being present; they actually care about what you have to say, and they want to know more.

They’re actively engaged in the conversation and interested in learning more about you.

They ask questions and make you feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and feelings with them.

They don’t interrupt or jump to conclusions, and they don’t judge you or get defensive when you share something sensitive or personal with them.

A good listener will make you feel comfortable sharing yourself with them and will make the conversation an enjoyable experience for both of you.

14) He’s considerate

Being considerate means that the guy is thoughtful and takes into account your feelings and needs.

The best way to determine if a guy really likes you is to see how he treats you.

If he’s thoughtful and shows that he cares about your feelings, it’s likely that he likes you for more than just sex.

If he’s willing to go out of his way to make you feel comfortable and show interest in what you have to say, it’s a good sign that he’s interested in getting to know you as a person.

If you can talk to him about things that aren’t related to sex or attraction, it’s also a good sign that he’s being considerate.

While many guys are just looking for sex, there are those who genuinely care about the people they date.

Make sure you pay attention to how the guy treats you and how he interacts with you. If he pays attention to your needs and wants, it’s likely that he really likes you.

15) He’s patient

It can be hard to tell if a guy is truly into you or just interested in your body. This can be especially true if you’re a woman who is curvier than the average girl.

If a guy is patient with you and isn’t rushing into sex, then it’s more likely that he’s into you for more than just your body.

There are a number of reasons why a guy might be patient with a girl he likes.

Perhaps he wants to take things slow so that he can get to know her better first.

Maybe he doesn’t want to rush things in case she ends up being the “wrong” girl for him.

Or maybe he just likes to take things slow because he’s in no rush to have sex.

Whatever the case may be, if a guy is patient when it comes to sex, then it’s safe to say that he likes you for more than just your body.

16) He’s honest

Honesty is a fundamental part of any successful relationship, whether it is with a partner or a friend.

In order to maintain an honest relationship, both people need to be open and willing to discuss their feelings.

If one person is dishonest it can destroy the relationship.

If a guy is honest he will let you know how he feels about you and will not try to hide his intentions.

A guy who is dishonest is probably just looking for sex and does not care about your feelings at all.

A guy who is honest means he has no reason to lie to you because he knows that you trust him and that he can count on your honesty too.

17) He loves you for who you are

A guy who likes you for you will see past your flaws and imperfections.

He will appreciate who you are as a whole person, not just what you look like or what you can do for him.

He will see all of your ups and downs and still love you for who you are and  will accept all of your imperfections.

However, if a guy thinks that he can change you into someone else, he doesn’t really like you for who you are.

He loves who he wants to make you into.

This is the guy that you must avoid!

A guy who really likes you for who you are will want to be with you even if there is nothing in it for him.


There is a huge difference between being attracted to someone and just wanting to hook up with them.

I hope this article will help you understand what it means when a guy acts interested in you and how to tell if he likes you for who you are.

As with any romantic relationship, a guy who likes you doesn’t want to just get in your pants.

As an intelligent woman who has seen her fair share of romantic comedies and knows a thing or two about love, it should be easy for you to spot red flags and figure out if a guy is interested in having sex with you or something more meaningful.

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Jude Paler

I am a poet with a positive outlook in life and a writer with a purpose in mind. I write to express my thoughts so that others will be inspired.

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