Everyone wants to be with their soulmate, but how do you know that somebody is “the One”?
Lucky for you, there are 14 signs you can look out for that will confirm what you already suspect in your heart!
1) They are not just your partner but also your best friend
The first sign that you have found your soulmate is when they are not just your partner, but they are also your best friend.
You see, a soulmate is like a best friend, they are always there for you and they support you in everything that you do.
They make the best partner because they truly love and care about your feelings, unlike other people who can be selfish.
They will be there for you no matter what, and they will not leave your side when things get tough.
And the best part?
You can have fun with them the same way you would with a best friend. Laughter is a big part of your daily life together, which is beautiful!
When you find a partner and best friend in the same person, you can be sure that they are your soulmate!
2) You feel calm when you are with them
This is one of the most important signs of having found “the One”.
You see, if you’re feeling anxious or stressed around someone, it’s likely that they’re not your soulmate.
When you have a sense of calm and ease around someone, chances are good that they are your soulmate!
This is also important when it comes to facing challenges in life together.
Your soulmate will be the one who makes you feel like no matter what happens, you will be okay.
They will make you feel like you can conquer the world because they will always be there for you.
Your soulmate is always ready to support you, and they will never judge you for your mistakes or bad decisions.
This is why you can let your guard down around them.
3) There is mutual respect in the relationship
Mutual respect is key in any relationship.
If you don’t respect your partner, chances are they will not respect you either. But when there is mutual respect between partners, they are much more likely to be soulmates.
What does it mean to respect your partner?
Well, it starts with respecting their needs as much as your own, as well as respecting their opinions, even when they are different from yours.
But it also means respecting their boundaries and respecting them as an individual.
Your partner should never be made to feel like they are inferior or not good enough just because they are different than you.
Boundaries are very important when it comes to a relationship because it allows you both to have your own space and time where you can be yourself.
The good news?
Mutual respect allows two people to be open and honest with each other, which will help them create an environment where they can be themselves.
4) You perfectly balance each other out
A hallmark sign of having found a soulmate is when there is a balance, both mentally and emotionally.
Balancing each other out means that the other person is able to bring out the best in you, and you are able to do the same for them.
It means that you can make each other laugh, and you can also cry together.
When there is balance in a relationship, it’s much easier to have a healthy and happy connection.
You understand how they feel and what they want without them having to explain it.
This is why most couples who have found their soulmates are very happy together!
You might also notice that their strengths perfectly coincide with your weaknesses and vice versa – this makes you a true power couple!
5) You have the same general goals in life
Having a soulmate doesn’t mean that you have the exact same aspirations in life, but your general goals should be compatible.
You see, if one person wants to work a corporate job in a huge city while the other one wants to have a big family in the countryside, things will get tough.
If your general goals don’t match up, at least one of you will always have to compromise their own wants and needs for the other person.
This will not make you happy long-term, believe me.
With a soulmate, this won’t be an issue.
You both have the same general goals in life and working towards them brings both of you joy.
So, you know what you are getting into from day one!
This sign of compatibility will be important further down the line when you make crucial choices about your future.
6) You are able to handle conflict well
One of the most important signs of having a soulmate is that you know how to handle conflict well.
If there is a problem in a regular relationship, it can be very easy for it to escalate out of control.
But if there is a problem with someone that you love and trust, you will know how to deal with it without getting angry or hurt on the inside.
You see, there is a common misconception that with the “perfect” partner there won’t be any conflicts, but that’s not the case.
The difference is that soulmates know how to fight in a way that is productive and won’t attack the other person directly.
This can help both of you reach a better understanding of each other and make future issues easier to resolve than they would have been before.
So, how can you fight in a healthy way?
- use “I” statements instead of blaming the other (e.g. “This makes me feel unappreciated” instead of “You never appreciate anything I do”)
- don’t use words like “always” or “never”
- don’t use curse words
- if things get too heated, take some time to cool off before returning to the conversation
- try to understand your partner’s point of view instead of making them understand yours
- don’t attack them (they will likely go into defense mode immediately)
All of these points will transform your confrontations and make them actually productive instead of destructive.
You can have different opinions and still be able to fight with each other in a healthy way.
7) You share your values and beliefs
Another huge sign of having found your soulmate is when you share your values and beliefs.
There is nothing more important than having someone you can connect with on a deeper level and share your values and beliefs.
Soulmates are able to understand each other’s values and beliefs because they were raised with them, they were taught these values, or they have experienced them in their own lives.
In order to be happy in a relationship, it’s important that you have a similar set of values and beliefs.
When you have them, it will make your life easier and more fulfilling.
You see, when they are very different, it can be a huge source of conflict.
Soulmates share their basic values and beliefs which makes for an almost instant connection upon meeting.
8) You can be yourself around them
One of the most important things to consider when trying to find your soulmate is that you should be able to be yourself around them.
This is the only way that you can find someone with who you want to spend the rest of your life.
It’s important to be yourself around them because they will know what you like and what you don’t like.
They’ll also know how to help you develop as a person.
You won’t have to try and hide things from them because they have already been exposed to them before.
If you’re not comfortable being who you are, it’s hard to expect them to be comfortable with you, either.
You see, when you seem uncomfortable with sharing your own thoughts or emotions, the other person might not be a good match for you.
A soulmate is somebody where nothing you do feels embarrassing or taboo because they love you for who you are.
This is the kind of person who you can be yourself around and they’ll love all of your quirks and oddities. They will know how to help you develop as a person and make your life better.
If they don’t understand something about you, they won’t try to change it or make it fit into their life.
They’ll just accept it for what it is and love and respect you for who you are instead of trying to change that about you.
That’s someone you want to be with – where you are enough just the way you are.
9) You challenge each other to grow and improve
One of the most important things about being in a relationship with your soulmate is that it challenges you to grow and improve together.
Whether it’s going on adventures together, learning new things, or just spending time together, having these types of experiences is essential for keeping the relationship strong.
Without experiences like that, relationships can quickly start to unravel.
Being with your soulmate means being accepted and loved for who you are while simultaneously being challenged to constantly grow and improve together.
This can make you a better person and help you become a better partner for them as well.
You’re not wasting time on people who don’t want to improve with you.
Partners who want you to stay the same are not good for your growth and development as a person.
Being with your soulmate is the perfect balance between being accepted and being pushed to keep growing.
10) When things get tough, you fight for your relationship
Another sign of having found a soulmate is that when things get tough, you fight for your relationship.
You know how to be there for them during the good times and you know how to stand up for your relationship when things get rough.
This is something that’s very important in a relationship because it shows that you’re willing to put the other person first, even when it’s not an easy choice.
Many people give up on their relationships at the first sign of an obstacle. That’s because they are not with a soulmate.
You see, when you have found “the One“, your relationship will be worth every fight.
The thing is, a “perfect” relationship is not one without challenges, it’s one where both partners care enough to get through the rough patches together.
11) You’re committed to your relationship and each other
One of the most important signs that you have found “the One” is that you are committed to your relationship and each other.
In a world where so many people are looking for something new, it can be hard to find someone who is dedicated to the same person continuously.
That’s why it’s so important that you stay with the person you are committed to, no matter what happens.
In relationships, being committed means being willing to put in the effort it takes for things to work out together.
You are willing to do whatever it takes to make your relationship work.
If you’re not willing to put in the effort to stay committed to one another, you are probably not with your soulmate.
12) You understand each other’s trauma
This is perhaps the most important sign.
If you two have been through a lot of pain and hurt, you’re likely to understand each other better than anyone else.
You’ll be able to relate to one another’s struggles and feelings, and you’ll be able to offer comfort and support.
Almost everybody has experienced trauma, and trauma heavily influences the way you react to situations in a relationship.
If you understand each other’s trauma, you will also understand where you are both coming from and why you react the way you do.
A soulmate makes an effort to learn about their partner’s past and to try and support them on their healing journey.
When you understand where the other person is coming from, you can create a better relationship.
13) You root for one another
The next sign of having found your soulmate is that you root for one another.
Rooting for your partner means that you care enough to want to see them succeed.
You support each other as you go through life’s ups and downs. When things get tough, you’re there for one another.
Way too many relationships are marked by jealousy and envy, where the partners do not feel happy by one another’s success and instead feel threatened.
That’s not the case when you’re with your soulmate.
Soulmates are each other’s biggest fans.
You both know that the other person is capable of doing anything they desire and you wish nothing but the best for them.
14) You know each other’s love languages
The next sign of having found your soulmate is when you know each other’s love languages.
You both understand what your partner needs emotionally and what makes their heart sing.
When you know your partner’s love language, you can be sure to make them happy and meet their emotional needs.
Love languages can be:
- words of affirmation
- gifts
- physical touch
- quality time
- acts of service
Soulmates know their partner’s love language and can therefore make them feel very special.
In return, they will also receive exactly the love that they need.
Have you found your soulmate?
All of these signs will tell you whether or now you’ve already found “the One”.
If you feel like you haven’t, don’t sweat it too much. It will happen when it’s meant to happen.
On that note, I want to mention that finding your soulmate is not only up to fate. It also requires you to put in the work to be a healthy and good partner yourself.
Think about it:
The universe can send you the most perfect person, but if you haven’t learned how to respect your partner, learn their love language, or have confrontations in a healthy way, the relationship won’t be as good as it could be.
Start with working on yourself and the rest will follow!
