12 reasons a girl says she wants to hang out but never does

To be fair, most girls aren’t that difficult to get to know. They like going on dates, hanging out, and spending time with their friends.

But some girls make it very difficult for you to get to know them. They give out mixed signals, say they want to hang out but then never follow up on it or just simply ghost you.

Read on below for 12 reasons why a girl says she wants to hang out but never does:

1) She’s just not that into you

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If a girl has gone with you on a few dates and then stopped replying to your texts, don’t immediately assume that she’s playing hard to get.

More often than not, it’s simply because she just isn’t that into you.

Now, you might be a great guy and she might really want to hang out with you, but if she’s not feeling the same level of attraction that you’re feeling, then she likely won’t want to keep dating you.

If she just isn’t feeling you as much as you’re feeling her, then she won’t be able to get past the initial feelings of awkwardness when hanging out.

Whether it’s because she doesn’t find you attractive, or because you’re coming across too strong, if she’s not feeling it, she won’t be able to get past it.

2) She was only being polite

Here’s the thing: When you invite a girl to hang out with you and she says yes, she might not actually mean that she wants to go out with you.

She could just be acting polite, which is why she says yes to you.

She doesn’t want to hurt your feelings by telling you that she doesn’t want to go out with you.

So instead, she just says yes to you and then never follows up on it.

3) You’re too persistent

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When a girl says she wants to hang out, she doesn’t expect you to jump on it right away.

In fact, if you do that, then she’ll probably just think that you’re too eager and won’t appreciate it.

A better idea would be to wait a couple of days and then check in on her again. This should give her enough time to respond to your message and not feel pressured to respond to it.

You should text her about something else first that has nothing to do with hanging out. For example, ask her about the title of that book she mentioned or her advice on something.

The point is not to be too persistent and to play it cool.

4) She has trust issues

Some people are just naturally more cautious when it comes to getting to know new people.

If a girl has had a couple of bad experiences in the past (such as getting ghosted or having her heart broken), then she might be more hesitant to date again.

If she has trust issues, then she’s probably going to be hesitant to hang out with you, as she might fear that you’re going to do the same thing.

You’ll want to take things slow and make sure you don’t do anything to make her think that you’re not trustworthy.

Instead of pushing her to hang out with you, try to build her trust in you by being patient and understanding.

5) It was just a one-time thing

The truth is that if she was into you, she’d want to go out with you again.

The fact that she keeps giving you the runaround and never actually follows up on your invitation to hang out means that it was just a one-time thing for her.

In other words, she realized that you were not her type and that going out with you was a one-time thing. She clearly doesn’t want to meet up again.

6) A relationship coach can give you real clarity

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While the reasons in this article will help you figure out why she doesn’t want to hang out with you, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.

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7) She’s busy

​Sometimes a girl can’t hang out with you because she’s busy. It has nothing to do with whether or not she likes you, it’s simply bad timing.

So what can you do?

Find out what her schedule is like. If you notice that she’s mostly busy during the week, wait for the weekend to ask her out.

If she says she’s buddy, don’t push her too much, she’ll get tired of you and decide to ignore you completely. You don’t want that to happen, so be patient and don’t keep persisting when she wants to hang out with you.

8) You have bad breath or body odor

Bad breath and body odor are two of the biggest reasons why people never go on a second date. If you’ve been on a couple of dates with her, but she won’t go on a second date with you, then it’s quite possibly because of your bad breath or body odor.

To avoid this, make sure to use mouthwash before every date, floss regularly, and use deodorant. Also, make sure to always have some mint-flavored gum on you when you go out.

9) You have a bad track record with women

Some guys just have a bad track record with women, and for some reason, women aren’t willing to give them a chance.

If you’ve had a couple of first dates with other girls but they’ve all gone nowhere, it’s very likely because you have a bad track record with women. Some girls have very strict standards when it comes to dating, and they won’t be willing to give you a chance if they hear stories about you.

You can try to change this by learning from your past relationships and figuring out what you did wrong. You need to show the woman that you’re dating that you’re not the guy you used to be and that you’re a trustworthy, decent guy.

10) She doesn’t trust you

If you’re seeing a girl and she keeps making excuses not to hang out with you, there’s a chance that she doesn’t fully trust you.

This is especially the case if you’ve only been seeing each other for a short amount of time.

Some girls don’t feel comfortable going out with someone they don’t trust yet.

It’s not necessarily a reflection on you as a person so don’t feel bad. It’s simply that she’s not ready to fully open herself up to you yet.

However, if you’ve been seeing each other for a while but are still having this problem, chances are that you did something to make her feel like she can’t trust you. If you’re not sure what it is, try talking to her about it.

11) She just wants to be friends

If you’ve been hanging out with a girl and she’s been flirting with you but then she suddenly stops and tells you that she just wants to be friends, then it’s most likely because she just wants to be friends.

This is a common reason that a girl might give when she doesn’t want to hang out with you anymore.

Some girls like to keep their options open and not make any commitments since a lot of them are just waiting for the right guy to come along.

What’s more, if a girl has been flirting with you and hanging out and then suddenly pulls away, it’s probably because she wants to keep you as a backup just in case the guy she’s waiting for doesn’t come along.

12) She’s scared of getting hurt

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If a girl you’ve been seeing starts to pull away and says she wants to hang out but never does, it could be because she’s scared of getting hurt.

Many girls are simply scared to get in too deep with a guy and get their hearts broken.

This is especially true when they’ve been hurt before and don’t want to go through that again.

If a girl you’ve been dating is suddenly backing away from you and acting distant, it’s possible she’s scared of getting her heart broken.

Sealing the deal

Now you know why the girl you like says she wants to hang out but always finds an excuse not to.

So, if you want to change her mind, you just have to understand how she thinks. And that’s not difficult at all; it just takes someone who knows to show you the way.

And that person is relationship expert Kate Spring.

In this free video, you’ll learn exactly how to attract the woman of your dreams with Kate’s effective techniques.

Whether it’s working on your confidence or learning some of the best-kept secrets about women, you’ll learn a few techniques that’ll certainly improve your chances with this woman. 

Check out this free video by Kate Spring.

In it, she reveals the most effective method I’ve come across to make women obsessed with you (whilst remaining a good guy).

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Tina Fey

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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