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This is why every man regrets losing the one woman who waited for him to get his sh*t together

I think all of us have seen those romantic movies where a woman stays faithful and loyally waits for her boyfriend to figure out what he wants in life.

He may be on a heroic journey to save the planet, or it may be something as simple as getting his career in order.

Whatever it is, we’ve seen it time and time again. The man doesn’t know what he wants. He’s busy focusing on other things rather than his girlfriend. He conquers his challenge. Then he realizes he loves her, finally chooses her, and they live happily ever after.

The problem is that this isn’t how real life works. We don’t live in a romantic comedy. In this day and age, when a woman is done, oh boy – she is done!

Take it from me. I used to be someone who gave men way too many chances. I’m a strong believer in giving people time to figure out what they want to become in life. I want to be with my man as he explores and finds his potential.

But this is the number one reason why women end up staying in a terrible relationship where men don’t treat them as they deserve to be treated.

Enough is enough. It’s time for women to be done with these relationships.

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When a woman finally realizes that she doesn’t need you in her life, sucking her energy and wasting her time, her window is closed for you. There’s no turning back. It doesn’t matter how much you’re transformed yourself, your career or your lifestyle.

You can’t win her back.

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You will probably try to justify what you’ve done, saying something like: “If she doesn’t understand why it’s so important for me to pursue my dreams, she’s not worth it.”

The brutal truth is that no-one is obligated to stick around and put up with your bullshit. No-one deserves to live a life filled with stress and emotional pain. You can’t keep someone waiting while you figure out what you really want from life.

Men, rejecting you when you’re like this is the most powerful step we can take in moving forward in life. It doesn’t matter if I’m hurting your feelings. Remember – it’s your actions that have resulted in this moment.

You will one day understand the folly of your decision to focus on yourself during this time in your life. The woman who loves you the most before you’ve found yourself and made it in life is the one who would have stood by your side through everything.

You will regret losing this woman because the other women who will love you when you’re at your best may easily say goodbye to you when they see you at your low points in life. She can easily move on when she sees that you’re not as perfect as she once thought you were.

In these moments you will one day see that you had the kind of woman who accepted you deep down, including your dark side. A woman who would have endured the most violent of storms to be by your side. A woman who loved you deeply, but you let her go.

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Written by Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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