Don’t panic! 15 signs she definitely doesn’t want to break up with you

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Have a sneaky feeling your girlfriend might want to break up with you?

It sucks when you get this feeling, but it might be just that: a feeling without many facts behind it.

So let’s go through the signs that you’re wrong and she doesn’t actually want to break up with you.

If your girlfriend shows these 15 signs, then you can calm down because she definitely doesn’t want to end the relationship.

1. She is still talking to you all the time

If your girlfriend is thinking about breaking up with you, then she’ll definitely be harder to talk to.

Or if your girlfriend is unhappy, she definitely won’t talk to you any more than she needs to.

But if she’s still texting you every day and talking to you like she used to, then you can breathe easy:

She’s not thinking of breaking up with you anytime soon.

2. She’s still as nice as she always was

One of the first signs that your girlfriend wants to break up with you is when she stops being so nice.

If your girlfriend stops doing the things that she normally does, like texting you back or making you dinner, then this might mean something is wrong.

But if she’s still doing all the things she normally does and is still as nice and pleasant to be around as before, then you can breathe easy: everything is going fine.

3. She’s still as affectionate with you as she always was

If your girlfriend stops doing sweet things like kissing and hugging you, then that’s one of the first signs that she wants to break up with you.

She won’t be as affectionate or romantic with you, and she might even stop touching you altogether.

But if she is still being affectionate with you and still gives you kisses, then that’s a good sign: she still has genuine feelings for you and she doesn’t want to break up.

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4. She still wants to see your friends as much as she used to

If your girlfriend is thinking of breaking up with you, then she definitely won’t want to hang out with your friends anymore.

She might even start to avoid you and try to pretend she’s busy at home.

But if your girlfriend is still wanting to hang out with your friends, then this is a good sign: she definitely doesn’t want the relationship to end.

She’s enjoying hanging out with you and building rapport wth your friends because she’s committed to a future with you.

5. She’s still buying you gifts as much as she used to

One of the biggest signs that a relationship is going south is when your girlfriend stops buying you presents like flowers or jewelry.

But if your girlfriend still buys you gifts regularly, then you don’t have anything to worry about.

It doesn’t even have to be expensive gifts or anything like that. It could simply be small things that she does for you that show she’s thinking of you.

For example, if your toothbrush is getting old, and suddenly out of nowhere, she has gone to buy you a new one, then that shows she still cares for you.

It’s a small gesture, but even our smallest actions show where our priorities are.

If she was going to break up with you, she wouldn’t think about doing or buying nice things for you.

So take a deep breathe and calm down:

She isn’t thinking of breaking up with you and she is still committed to the relationship.

6. She still compliments you as much as she used to

If your girlfriend stops complimenting or talking about how good-looking you are in front of your friends, then this is a sign that something is wrong with the relationship.

But if she’s still complimenting you like before, then you can breathe easy.

7. She’s still trying to get closer to you

If your girlfriend is looking for other guys to talk to and flirt with, then this is a sign that she’s thinking of breaking up with you.

After all, when you’re in a committed relationship that is full of genuine love, you don’t go around flirting with other people. But if your girlfriend is still trying to get closer to you, then she is still committed to the relationship and she wants things to work out.

This is a good sign and it means that you don’t have to panic 😉

8. She still talks about the future as much as she used to do

If your girlfriend starts avoiding talking about the future or stops making plans with you, then something must be wrong with your relationship.

Women like to plan a future that includes the man they’re in love with.

So if she’s still talking about the future and planning with you, then you don’t have to worry:

She’s committed to making a life with you.

9. She still tells you she loves you as much as she used to do

If your girlfriend stops telling you that she loves you and sends less of those loving messages during the day, then this could mean that there is something wrong with your relationship.

But if she still telling you that she loves you, then that’s a great sign that she still loves you.

And you can be certain:

If she’s sending random love messages throughout the day or night, then she is definitely not thinking of breaking up with you.

10. She’s still trying to get closer to you in private

If your girlfriend is flirting with other guys in front of you, then that’s one sign that she might want to break up with you.

Perhaps you go out at night with a group of friends, and lately, she’s noticeably talking to other guys more than you. That’s probably not a good sign and it shows where her priorities are.

But if you find that she still wants to be close to you when you’re in a group of people, that’s a great sign. She sees you as a team and she feels comfortable in your arms.

When a woman is comfortable with another guy, she doesn’t want to flirt with other guys. That’s dating rule 101.

11. She’s still concerned about you

If your girlfriend started giving you the cold shoulder, avoiding you, and trying to put more distance between you, then there’s a good chance she wants to break up.

But if she is still concerned about you and wants to talk more often, then this can show that she is still committed to the relationship.

Women are very empathic and caring, especially for the man they love.

So if she’s concerned about you when you’re not feeling your best and she listens to you when you have an issue, then that’s a good sign that she still loves you and doesn’t want to break up with you.

12. She’s jealous of you talking to other girls

This is a strange one but hear me out.

If she is jealous when you talk to other women, then it means she still has strong feelings for you and she doesn’t want other women to have you.

I know, I know. You don’t want to spark jealously in your woman for unnecessary reasons to find out if this is true. I’m just suggesting that if you’ve noticed that she gets jealous recently then it’s actually a good sign that she still has strong feelings for you.

If she wanted to break up with you, then she probably wouldn’t care if you’re flirting or talking with other girls.

But if she cares, then she still cares about you.

Be careful if you test this out though. You don’t want to make her angry or upset by chatting with other girls.

13. She’s not ignoring you anymore when you’re having a bad day

If your girlfriend always gives 100% attention to you and always wants to talk with you when you’re having a bad day, then that’s a great sign that she is willing to stick it out with you through thick and thin.

But on the other hand, if she’s now ignoring you when you’re having a bad day, then this is a sign that she wants to break up with you.

A woman who loves you doesn’t want to ignore her man when he’s going through something tough in life.

She wants to be there for him and love him up through the good times as well as the bad.

14. She doesn’t want you to change

She still accepts you for who you are.

If your girlfriend wants you to change, it means she doesn’t like you for who you are.

But if she loves you, then she is willing to accept you for who you are.

This is a good sign that she doesn’t want to break up with you. When a woman loves her man, she doesn’t want him to change who he is.

After all, she is happy with her man and is enjoying the relationship as it is right now.

Have an honest conversation with her if you’re feeling insecure about your relationship and if you think she wants you to change.

Now that we’ve been through the signs, you can finally see that she doesn’t want to break up.

Breathe easy! And if you’re still concerned, it can’t hurt to have an honest conversation with her about what you’re feeling.

15. She still laughs at your jokes

You know your jokes are terrible (in a good way). Everyone tells you so. But this girl seems to think you are the funniest guy on the planet and doesn’t even make fun of you when you lay it on thick.

It must be love.

The fact that you could win a bad-joke contest, right now, is the greatest thing to her.

Humor is a huge indicator of a positive relationship with a woman. If she engages in humorous and playful banter then she is definitely interested in you and doesn’t want to break up with you.

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Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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