Does he like me? Here are 39 surprising signs he definitely does!

If you’ve been asking the question, “does he like me?”, then check out these 39 signs to see if he truly does like you.

As well as 11 signs that he’s pretending not to like you, but he actually does…

I’m a bestselling author of dating guides for women and I’ve broken down the “does he like me signs” so you can easily figure out if he really does fancy you.

These are the key signs to look out for.

Sometimes, he may be pretending not to like you but he really does like you. These signs will show you whether he really does have feelings for you or not.

Let’s begin.

1) He can’t stop laughing around you

If he can’t stop laughing when he’s around you, this is definitely a sign that he likes you.

Evolutionary psychologist Norman Li says that a key interest indicator is when someone laughs at your jokes.

It’s not necessarily because you’re funny (though this will help).

The reason laughing at your jokes is an indicator of interest is because not laughing at someone’s jokes is an indicator that we’re not interested in them.

If he’s laughing at your jokes, he’s probably interested in you.

But if he’s laughing at your jokes when you’re not even that funny, he’s definitely interested in you!

As Rudá Iandê teaches in our free masterclass on love and intimacy, when we are in a loving partnership that goes both ways we are full of joy.

The key to finding this kind of joy is to leave dependency and negative patterns behind and embrace our true self.

Then we can open ourselves to the love someone else is offering and share in their laughter and the future potential between us.

2) You’ve triggered this instinct

When a guy likes you, it’s often because you have triggered something deep inside him. Something he desperately needs to eventually love a woman.

What is it?

To fall in love, a guy needs to feel like he’s your protector. And that you genuinely respect him for doing this.

In other words, he needs to feel like your ‘hero’. Because when a man loves you he wants to be the one guy you can count on.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the hero instinct. This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in this life. This is deeply rooted in male biology.

Although you may not need a hero, a man is compelled to be one. And if you want him to fall in love with you, then you have to let him.

When a man genuinely feels like your hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say, messages you can send, requests you can use to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, watch James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including how to trigger it in your man.

I don’t often recommend videos but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts in relationship psychology I’ve come across. And James Bauer is the real deal when it comes to relationship advice.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

3) He can’t stop smiling when he’s around you

This is a big sign that he likes you!

Men smile when they like someone. They also smile when they’re nervous.

If he likes you, he won’t be able to stop smiling when he’s around you.

Being close to you is going to give him a dopamine hit. It will give him a rush.

He may be shy and nervous to approach you. But he’ll be smiling and looking for an opportunity to get to know you and strike up a conversation.

Whether he approaches you or not doesn’t matter. What matters is that he’s smiling. This is a definite sign that he likes you.

Believe it or not, guys can be shy too.

4) He’s wondering what’s going on with you

When a guy likes you, he’s going to be curious about what’s happening in your life.

He probably won’t just come straight out and ask about your relationship status.

He may beat around the bush for a while and make statements like “you can’t be single?!” and pretend like he is surprised when you say things that could lead him to believe such things.

He might also say, “your boyfriend is a lucky guy” to find out what’s happening in your love life.

The key point is this:

He may be interested in you if he’s wondering what’s going on with you. So ask yourself this: is the man you’re interested in curious about what’s happening in your life?

5) He accidentally keeps touching your arm or bumping into you

There’s no mistaking it.

Human beings love the physical touch of someone they’re interested in.

In fact, psychologists even say that physical touch is essential for your sense of well-being.

Psychologist Aaron Ben-Zeév suggests that even the briefest touch from someone you’re interested in elicits a strong emotional experience.

We even touch people subconsciously. This means we may seek the touch of someone we like without even realizing that’s what we’re trying to do.

Ask yourself this:

At a party or bar, or just in a crowded room, does he keep touching your arm or bumping into you and making excuses about how full the room is?

Pay attention, he’s totally doing it on purpose. You might even find yourself accidentally bumping into him too.

Oops.

6) His body says it all

It can be difficult to figure out if a guy likes you.

It takes a rare kind of man with the courage to come out and say it.

That’s why you have to get used to learning the subtle cues that show a guy likes you.

Body language doesn’t lie. A guy’s body language reveals how he really feels.

Learning to read body language is a valuable skill in life and it’s worth exploring in depth.

Here are some key body language signs that he likes you when he’s around you:

  • He licks his lips
  • He leans in when he talks to you
  • He stands close to you when possible
  • He touches your hand
  • He dances close to you
  • He does the “eyebrow flash” (if you see something you like, your eyebrows quickly flash up)
  • He keeps his feet angled toward you
  • His voice changes
  • He stands broad and tall
  • His lips part
  • He faces you
  • He blushes

7) He remembers everything you tell him

When you’re interested in someone, you remember everything they say.

Sometimes you even remember it word for word.

It’s the same when a guy is really interested in you.

He may be good at hiding the signs. But if he remembers what you’ve told him — even small details — he’s probably interested.

Even if you only ever see each other in passing, he’ll recall something you said, bring it up, and make a point of letting you know he’s been thinking of you.

That’s a great sign he is interested in what’s going on between the two of you.

8) He feels essential to you

Men have a built in desire for something that goes beyond love or sex.

Simply put, men have a biological drive to feel essential to the woman in his life. Feeling essential is an important sign he likes you now. And is needed to trigger feelings of “love” down the track.

This drive compels men to provide for and protect women. He wants to step up for her, feel essential, and be appreciated for his efforts.

Relationship psychologist James Bauer calls it the hero instinct. I mentioned this concept above.

Watch his excellent free video here. He explains exactly what the hero instinct is and how understanding can rocket your relationship to the next level.

James argues that men are not especially complicated; we’re just driven by primal instincts when it comes to women.

We all know that instincts are powerful drivers of human behavior. James Bauer simply takes this a step further and applies it to the romantic behavior of men.

I don’t often pay much attention to new fads in psychology. However, I think the hero instinct is a compelling explanation for what drives men romantically.

No one is saying that women need a hero to take care of them. Today women can change a tire, open their own jars, and generally fend for themselves in life.

While women may not need a hero, this doesn’t mean men still don’t want to feel essential to the woman in his life.

That’s why it’s important that women understand what the hero instinct is all about and how they can use it to their advantage.

Here is a link to James Bauer’s free video again.

Some ideas can be life changing. And for relationships, I think the hero instinct is one of them.

9) He slips up and gets flustered when he talks to you

This is a cute sign!

Even the coolest guys get tongue-tied around girls they like. So the chances are they’re going to slip up and get flustered if he likes you.

So if the guy you are eyeing keeps making stupid jokes or saying all the wrong things, it could be that he’s not a knucklehead, but just really into you.

Go easy on the poor guy.

I know I’ve slipped up many times around girls I like!

10) He is always fidgeting and inching his way toward you

He can’t sit still but it’s not because he’s got a twitch.

It’s more likely that you make him nervous.

Remember that it’s harder than ever for guys to approach girls, especially very strong women that are rocking confidence and power.

More than ever women are gaining the upper hand in society and that can be off-putting to even the most confident guy.

It’s not sexy, but it’s probably a good sign he likes you.

11) He’s clearly trying to get your attention

Remember the hero instinct I wrote about before?

That’s where the guy wants you to think he’s amazing.

If the man you’re interested in is trying to get your attention, he probably likes you.

He wants you to think he’s smart and successful.

For a long time, that’s all women wanted in a guy: someone to provide for her.

But these days, he’ll have to go out on a limb to talk about the good deeds he has done, the people he has helped, and the changes he has made in people’s lives.

Watch for him going on and on about how he saved a stray puppy and you’ll know he’s digging you.

12) He picks on you, but in a fun way

Okay, I’m going to reveal a dirty little secret from my past.

I used to be a pick-up artist (PUA).

There’s a community of PUAs that teach each other how to meet girls and convince them to like them.

We learned many different tactics. One of these is called “negging”.

A “neg” is when you give a girl you like a back-handed compliment. It’s designed to make her feel good and slightly insecure at the same time.

Many men have learned these tactics. Other men do these tactics naturally.

If the man you like starts teasing you about your meal or shoes, he may not actually be a moron.

It could be that he’s teasing you because he likes you. Just know that he doesn’t actually mean to hurt your feelings.

He likes you, it’s just coming out all wrong.

13) He offers you genuine compliments

I recently watched an amazing (and free) masterclass on love and intimacy with the shaman Rudá Iandê that I mentioned above.

Rudá Iandê breaks down the key elements of healthy and nurturing relationships.

He says the best relationships are when two partners grow and evolve together in the relationship.

I don’t know about you, but these are the kinds of relationships I want.

So I do my best to give the woman I like genuine compliments.

If I like what she’s doing in life, I’ll tell her. If I like how she treats people around her, I tell her.

Keep in mind that someone men are growing up and acting in mature ways.

They may be the kind of men who have attended Rudá Iandê’s masterclasses. It really opened my eyes in a lot of ways and I recommend everyone to give it a look.

14) You get that special feeling

You know the one I mean. You should be catching up on work but you’re daydreaming about the next time you see him.

You’re trying to put into words that special feeling you get when he’s around …

But it’s just not possible to put into words.

You feel something when you’re cuddled up with him, or looking in his eyes, or listening to his voice that you just don’t feel with any other guy.

Call it butterflies or having a crush or whatever you want.

It’s a special feeling that comes when he’s around.

15) It’s in his eyes

They say eyes are the windows to the soul and if that’s too New Age for you then think of it scientifically.

Our eyes respond to what’s around us in physical and instinctive ways.

The first and most obvious is that if we like something or want it … we look at it.

When we see something we desire our pupils often dilate and get bigger, so take a closer look. Are his eyes looking right at you and are the pupils getting bigger?

This is a good sign that he’s into you.

16) It’s in his look

Is he making steady eye contact and engaging with what you’re saying? Look at how he looks at the world and what gets his attention.

Does he look at you only briefly before glancing back down at his phone?

Not a good sign.

On the other hand, if he’s holding steady eye contact with you and his phone is not his object of affection there’s a good chance that he’s interested or at least on the way to becoming interested.

17) It’s in his expressions

Our expressions say a lot about our inner state and emotions.

This is especially true of spontaneous expressions that happen right after you say or do something. Are his eyebrows moving a lot and is he smiling frequently?

Does he look happy to hear your voice or kind of bored?

Does he look even happier when you react positively to a joke he tells or comment he makes?

These are good signs that he likes you more than a little.

Signs he’s pretending not to like you

1) He starts talking to you then pretends it was just a joke

He’s probably insecure. When a guy isn’t sure what to say or doesn’t feel confident he can get a lot of anxiety over approaching a woman or what to say to her.

He may start talking to you then joke or pretend it was a dare from his friends.

He might even say hi or ask how you are and then awkwardly make an excuse and say he has to go when you answer.

It’s because he feels worried about how the interaction will go and wants to feel “safe” again by ending his time with you.

But deep down he is probably into you.

2) He acts casual and aloof but he sometimes slips up

Often guys will act casual and aloof – even when they really like a girl.

They do this to try not to get hurt by rejection. It’s a classic sign that he likes you but is hiding it if he acts casual and aloof but sometimes shows signs that you mean a lot more to him than a short-term fling.

These can include:

  • Sudden sweet compliments on your appearance or personality
  • Asking you out for a romantic date that seems pre-planned
  • Noticing him cruising your social media and liking a lot of posts
  • Answering texts and calls right away
  • Sounding very eager when he talks with you but then noticeably “toning it down” as he attempts to found more easygoing and disinterested

The truth is that when a guy is really interested it is hard for him to hide it completely.

He can be really good at masking his attraction.

But if you look hard you’ll see signs.

3) He seems sad or resigned around you

Sometimes a guy will pretend not to like you for a very sad reason.

He doesn’t believe you like him. Or that you could ever like him.

He doesn’t think he has a chance.

And he’s convinced that he’s not good enough.

For whatever reason of past experience or low self-esteem, he’s developed a resigned attitude about love and finding love. When he looks at you you can sense his attraction and desire.

But when it comes time to make a move or invite you on a date he’s a cold fish.

This guy will take time to open up and trust you and really see you like him.

But if he’s acting sad and resigned it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like you.

4) He’s over-cautious around you

If a guy is being over-cautious around you it can be because he’s trying to hide that he likes you.

This could be for various reasons and one of the big ones is that he may believe you already have someone and he doesn’t want to spend his time an energy on an uphill battle.

Keep in mind that some guys have been badly burnt.

And they’re just trying to keep away from the flame this time around.

If he’s acting over-cautious and avoiding flirting, eye contact or deep conversations but he still seems to want to spend time with you it could be a good sign he’s been badly hurt and is trying to hide his attraction to you.

Don’t give up right away.

5) He’s curious about your dating history but never talks about his

This is a classic sign. If he’s asking who you’ve dated and perks up with big bunny ears when you talk about your ex-boyfriend but clams up when you ask about his romantic past there’s a good chance he’s into you but hiding it.

He’s just not ready to talk about his romantic experiences for some reason.

And it could take time to open him up.

If he wants to know all about who you’ve been kissing there’s a very high probability that he’s hoping to be the next guy on that list.

6) He just seems to … always be around but then acts like it’s no big deal

This is no mistake, trust me.

If he’s always checking up on how you’re doing and popping up where you are it’s a good sign he’s into you.

Sure, if you ask why he’s around so much he’ll downplay it.

But the truth is that he’s probably around you a lot because he likes you.

If he seems to always be around it’s a major sign that he’s into you but may just be too shy, insecure or hesitant to have made his feelings clear yet.

7) He says you’re just friends but never talks about other women

If you’re really just a friend and he’s not hoping for anything more then why does he go quiet when you ask about the women in his life?

Even if a guy says you’re only friends and he acts very noncommittal around you, the fact of the matter is that he’d be happy to tell someone he’s not into about women he finds attractive or interesting.

But with you he seems to only have eyes for you.

Even though you’re just a friend to him.

Sure.

8) He jokes about dating you

If he jokes about you two being together a lot but then seems to shy away when you take it seriously there’s a good chance he’s using humor to mask his attraction.

Sometimes jokes can be a way to hide our insecurity.

But as they say, every joke also has a grain of truth.

And the big grain in this one is that he’s thinking of being together with you.

Even if he finds the humor or lighthearted side of it there’s no reason he would be quipping this kind of stuff unless you were on his mind in a romantic context …

Take notes.

9) His friends don’t hit on you

Obviously any guy with decent friends shouldn’t let them flirt or be inappropriate with you, but if this guy likes you then you will notice his friends seem to have a special respect or distance around you.

That’s likely because he told them to back off from the girl he likes.

Even if he acts like no big deal around you and plays it cool, take a look at his friends and those around him.

How do they treat you?

If they treat you like you’re a girl he really likes then there’s a good chance it’s because you’re a girl he really likes.

10) He plays hot and cold

A guy who is a player will often do just that with women … play with them.

But not in a good way.

A player has often learned negative things about women from pickup artists, online videos and even their own attitudes that makes them scared to be vulnerable or fall for someone.

They will intentionally take a long time to respond to texts …

Post photos with other girls …

Speak in vague ways whenever emotions or your dating comes up …

And go from being all over you to distant and hard to read.

Players think that liking a girl is weakness. If he’s acting this way you need to demand consistency and break past his hard outer shell to find the real guy underneath.

Now back to the signs he’s into you …

18) You give him a sense of purpose

It’s no secret that men need to live meaningful lives and to dedicate themselves to the people we care about.

I know this because I’ve recently created an online course on taking responsibility for our lives. What I teach is the importance of having a sense of purpose and taking action every day towards it.

And I think that the realization that men need a sense of purpose can be incredibly powerful for women. Because when you give him a sense of purpose he can’t help but like you.

Conventional wisdom says that men only fall for exceptional women — maybe she has an incredible personality or is a firecracker in bed. That we love someone for who they are.

However, I think this way of thinking is dead wrong.

Men care less about the attributes of a woman than they do about how the relationship makes him feel about himself.

Does the relationship (or friendship) provide him a sense of pride and purpose? Does it fit within his identity… the way he wants to see himself as a man?

That’s what the hero instinct is all about.

Men have a biological drive to feel needed, to feel essential, and to provide for the woman he cares about.

The hero instinct speaks to the built in desire men posses for something in life that goes beyond sex and even love.

For a relationship to be successful, it must give men a sense of meaning and purpose. That you genuinely want and need to have him around. Not as a mere accessory, ‘best friend’, or ‘partner in crime’.

How do you trigger the instinct in your man? And give him the sense of purpose he craves?

The best place to start is to watch this free video by relationship psychologist James Bauer. You can watch the video here.

James reveals the exact phrases you can say, texts you can send, and little requests you can make to trigger his hero instinct.

By triggering this instinct, he’ll immediately see you in a whole new light. Because you’ll be unlocking a version of himself he’s always longed for.

Here’s a link to his free video again.

19) It’s in his approach

When he’s into you then you will feel his attention and energy focused on you.

Pucker up because this guy is into you, trust me. Is he leaning in to be closer to you at the table? Responding to details of what you’re saying and talking deeply about his own life, too?

Is he working to find common ground with you and doing what he can to make you feel special and doted on?

It means he likes you.

There’s no two ways about, if a man is very into a woman he will approach her with full attention and affection and do his best to build bridges with her through interactions and conversation.

20) It’s in his voice

When men like someone their voice reflects it. They speak clearly and attractively. They want you to notice them.

This might seem a bit immature, but it’s pretty obvious when it happens.

In addition, scientific research shows that men’s voices often get slightly lower when they are around a woman they’re attracted to.

Some guys are obviously more reserved and speak quietly, but in general if he seems to be speaking very carefully and wanting you to hear him then he’s into you.

21) It’s in his swagger

If he’s walking like a cowboy at the rodeo it means you’re on his radar.

Men often aren’t quite sure what to say or even do, but their body language can tell you more than a whole book.

When he’s into you he’s amped up, excited, juiced: you can see it in his swagger.

And the fact that he seems to be walking a bit faster than usual on a beeline to get to you.

22) It’s in his stance

Men aren’t often conscious of their body language, but like I mentioned above it can say a lot more than even his words do.

When his stance takes up a lot of space it’s a deep instinctive posture to be “big” and noticeable.

Hands on hips is another sign.

He consciously or even subconsciously wants to be on your radar and wants to be attractive and strong for you.

He stands up tall and has good posture and he’s putting his best foot forward.

He wants to show you he’s ready for a healthy relationship with you.

(Healthy, loving relationships happen when people truly love themselves. Check out tips on this in our free masterclass Breaking through toxic relationships to find true love.)

23) It’s in his words

Not all men are born as eloquent as Shakespeare, but when a guy likes you he’s going to do his best to put it into words.

Even if those words are just simple things about what he likes about you and the things he wants to do together.

He’ll want to tell you his story.

To show you his heart.

And to explain his life and choices and future dreams to you.

Because he cares about you and what you think.

24) It’s in his distance

When we like someone we want to be close to him.

Does he sit close to you at dinner and snuggle up even closer or reach out for your hand?

Or does he shy away and sit across the table, only occasionally making eye contact?

Some guys are shy or insecure and he may be pretending not to like you as described above.

But still.

Pay attention to whether he’s close or far when you spend time together.

It can speak volumes.

25) He’s ignoring you

You might think that’s a typo, but it’s not.

Guys who play hard to get for whatever reason may intentionally ignore you because they think it will increase your attraction.

Sometimes, of course, it is just super annoying and if it’s taken too far it can even ruin a good thing.

But if a guy feels nervous about you or really buys into the “hard to get” theory then don’t be surprised if he does this when he’s around you.

26) He’s giving you long messages

When a guy has feelings for you he wants to express his thoughts and emotions.

This includes in his messages. If he’s texting you back long descriptive answers and questions and thoughts there’s a good chance he cares a lot about your response and wants you to get to know the real him.

The time and energy he’s spending in his messages to you are a very clear sign that he likes you beyond a superficial level.

27) He gets jealous when you talk to other guys

Jealousy is a strong emotion, and even for pretty easygoing guys it can kick in suddenly with a vengeance.

If he seems to care a lot what guys you’re talking to …

Or acts annoyed when you pay a compliment to a guy when you’re out together …

Then it’s a neon sign that says he’s into you.

Try paying him a compliment and see what he does.

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28) He’s teasing you

When he teases you with banter or even the occasional light poke it’s a good sign he’s interested.

Sexual and romantic tension is often expressed through teasing and playful interactions.

You’ll be able to feel the flirtatious intent behind the playful teasing too …

Most guys aren’t exactly subtle, after all.

29) He tries to help you with your problems

This is connected to the hero instinct mentioned above.

If a guy is wanting to help you with your problems and solve stressful situations it’s because he cares about you.

You have a special place in his heart and in his allocation of time, energy and resources.

He wants to do what he can to make life better for you because he has feelings for you.

30) He wants you to meet his friends

When he introduces you to his family you know things are going somewhere.

Think of being introduced to friends as the step before that. It’s still really big and it means he cares about you and wants his friends to meet his girl.

A guy’s not going to introduce a girl he’s not into to his friends.

So this sign is very important.

31) He wants to know your future plans

Asking people you meet about their future plans can be interesting and exciting, but the truth is many of us are too focused on our own future and busy life to do that.

If a guy is asking you about your future plans you can make a good bet that he’s more than just a bit interested in you.

Where do you want to study? Live? What kind of house do you see yourself living in?

You might as well just buy a wedding dress now.

32) Is he acting a bit weird?

There’s always the chance that the guy who’s into you is just very weird. And that’s not necessarily a bad thing, either.

But if he’s specifically acting weird around you it can be a sign that he’s been infected by the love bug.

Does he act casual and normal with friends but then stumble on his words around you or trip trying to tie his shoes?

His weird heart is yours.

33) He is mirroring your actions

We learn and imitate those we care about and love.

If he’s mirroring your behavior and even energy levels he cares about how you’re feeling and doing and he looks up to you.

As he spends more time with you and gets to know you more you will notice that he begins mirroring you more.

And you can rest assured it’s because he’s into you.

34) He starts to share your interests

Obviously you don’t want a mirror image of yourself, but if a guy likes you then he often will start “trying out” things you’re interested in. This can include everything from music and TV shows to new hobbies or activities.

Look for him to start acting interested in things like a band that you’re into or a TV show you like.

If he starts talking about how a band you like is in town in the near future – he’s trying to give you something that you like! He’s interested in you! It’s a great way to tell that he is trying to build a deeper connection with you!

Especially keep an eye out if something you brought to his attention becomes his favorite thing. Like, let’s say you told him to watch a TV show because you love it.

If it becomes his new favorite thing, chances are he’s interested in you, especially if he is showing sincere interest in the topic. That means he has sincere interest in you.

You can always tell a guy likes you by how interested he is in what you do. It’s a dead giveaway that he like’s you because there is no other reason a guy would start to randomly have the same likes as you, as well as take actual interest in them.

Whether a guy does it knowingly or not, it’s a sure fire way to tell if a guy is into you.

35) He asks you a lot of questions

Lots of questions mean he is probably interested. If he likes you he wants to know more about you.

There’s a clear distinction between casual, offhand interest and actual deep questions.

If he’s asking about your profound life experiences, beliefs and thoughts it’s because you’re more than just another person to him.

He’s asking questions because he’s really interested in what you have to say.

And he’s really interested in that because he’s really interested in you.

36) He opens up to you

If he likes you, sometimes he will take a risk and open up to you.

he’ll want to give you a glimpse into his life. He’ll confide in you and let his guard down a bit. Getting close to someone takes vulnerability. If he’s genuinely into you, that won’t bother him. You’re worth the risk. He’ll tell you about his personal life, his friends, and his family. That doesn’t mean he’ll rush to introduce you to them, but he won’t go out of his way to keep you apart from them. If you feel like his life is a big mystery and you have no clear idea of how he spends his time (or who he spends it with) when he’s not talking to you, that means he’s still got some walls up.

37) He doesn’t ogle other women

There are a lot of pretty girls in this world, but if a guy likes you on a deep level he’s not going to be checking out other hotties. Sure, if you ask him: ‘hey what did you think of our waitress, pretty cute right?’ he’ll be honest and say yes.

But you’ll be able to tell that he wasn’t mentally undressing her and didn’t care much about her physical beauty.

Because he’s too into you to care about her.

And he feels something for you that goes far beyond physical.

38) He respects your boundaries and admires you for them

If a guy is really into you he’s going to respect your boundaries. Even if his background or beliefs are different, the man who’s right for you will understand your limits and truly respect them.

He won’t push you, whether it’s about your diet, your boundaries on physical intimacy, your likes and dislikes of music and TV or really anything else.

Sure, maybe he’ll crack a joke or two.

But underneath all that it will be clear he values and respects your limits and is willing to grow alongside you instead of trying to force you to adapt to his way of seeing things.

39) He may predict or guess fun things about you

When a guy likes you he will often tease as mentioned above. This can include him predicting things about you or guessing them.

This could result in one or two wrong guesses but it’s sure to be a lot of fun.

I wonder if you can predict whether he really likes you or not?

Hopefully after reading this list the answer is yes.

In Conclusion: What now?

There are many telltale signs that show if a guy likes you. At the end of the day, however, if the time is right then the best strategy is just to ask.

The problem is that men and women see the world differently. And men are motivated by different things than you when it comes to relationships.

I know this because I’ve been an emotionally unavailable man my whole life. My video above reveals more about this.

And learning about the hero instinct has made it crystal clear why I’m like this.

It’s not often that a mirror gets held up to my lifetime of relationship failure. But that’s what happened when I discovered the hero instinct. I ended up learning more about myself than I bargained for.

I’m 39. I’m single. And yes, I’m still looking for love.

After watching James Bauer’s video and reading his book, I realize that I’ve always been emotionally unavailable because the hero instinct was never triggered in me.

Watch James’ free video here for yourself.

My relationships with women involved everything from ‘best friends with benefits’ to being ‘partners in crime’.

In hindsight, I’ve always needed more. I needed to feel that I was the rock in a relationship. Like I was providing something to my partner that no one else could.

Learning about the hero instinct was my “aha” moment.

For years, I wasn’t able to put a finger on why I would get cold feet, struggle to open up to women, and fully commit to a relationship.

Now I know exactly why I’ve been single most of my adult life.

Because when the hero instinct isn’t triggered, men are unlikely to commit to a relationship and forge a deep connection with you. I never could with the women I was with.

To learn more about this fascinating new concept in relationship psychology, watch this video here.

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Lachlan Brown

Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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