How many times have you heard someone say, “Cut him off, he will miss you?” And how many times did you doubt it?
The truth is that there are plenty of reasons why this truly works, and it is always a good thing to try.
17 reasons truly work why cutting him off makes him miss you
1) Your presence has become a habit in his life
Here’s the thing:
Humans are creatures of habit. We get used to things and people.
We tend to develop a routine in our lives, and if we don’t do something for a while, we begin to lose the habit.
But, at first, it’s not comfortable for us to overcome that habit.
This is why cutting off all contact with an ex-boyfriend can work so well – by severing the ties with him, he will start missing you!
He will find himself yearning for what he had with you – being around all the time and being able to see where his life was heading.
If he misses those days at all, he will want them back. Unfortunately, he might need you to remind him how his life is without you first.
2) Not everyone is going to treat him with kindness
Your kindness is going to be the next thing to make him miss you.
When you cut him off, he will miss the way you treated him.
He will realize that you were always very nice to him; that you were always on his side, and that he never had to worry about almost anything.
You used to brighten his days with little things that he didn’t appreciate. But now, he will miss those days.
You always made sure that he was happy and that you were his happiness. He will now realize what he missed out on in the past and will want it back!
Of course, this won’t happen overnight. But, he’ll notice your positive influence on his life. It’s not like he will find kindness all around him or comfort for that matter.
3) You make him feel less important
Your partner might have been very important to you during the relationship. He might have been the most important person in your life – but that doesn’t mean you can’t find someone new to replace him.
Cutting him off will make him realize that you don’t need him in your life. He was very important to you before, but now it’s like he is no longer needed.
This will make him feel less important and it will make him want to come back into your life so that he can once again be the most important person in your life.
It’s purely a human instinct to want to be important to someone. If someone doesn’t need you anymore, it’s very difficult to handle this, and it will make you want them back.
4) He won’t be able to protect you anymore
Men have a close relationship with the need to protect the woman they are in love with.
Cutting him off will make him realize that he can no longer protect you.
You don’t need his protection anymore, and this is going to hurt his male ego because he can no longer fulfill a very important “manly” desire – the desire to protect!
This will make him want to come back into your life just so that he can protect you again. If a man doesn’t get to protect the woman he loves, it’s like something is missing in his life.
There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the ‘hero instinct’.
This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.
I know it might all seem kind of silly. In this day and age, women don’t need someone to rescue them. They don’t need a ‘hero’ in their lives.
But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.
The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in their lives. This is deeply rooted in male biology.
When a man genuinely feels like your everyday hero, he’ll become more loving, attentive, and committed to being in a long-term relationship with you.
But how do you trigger this instinct in him?
The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say and messages you can send to trigger this natural biological instinct.
If you want some help doing this, check out James Bauer’s excellent free video here.
I don’t often recommend videos or buy into popular new concepts in psychology, but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts I’ve come across.
5) He’ll notice the lack of benefits
Do you know what else will happen if you cut him off? He’ll start missing the things he took for granted when you were together.
What did he take for granted before?
Well, you were always taking care of him, right?
You were always making sure that he was happy and that his needs were met. He never had to worry about many things while you two were together.
He took this for granted, and now that you have removed yourself from his life, he will miss all of this.
It was like a dream, and now that it is gone from his life, he will want to bring it back.
6) You won’t offer him support anymore
If you were supporting him before, he will definitely start to miss your support when you cut all ties with him.
And, in fact, it’s not even about supporting him – you don’t even have to actively provide support or anything.
It’s just that the fact that you were there for him is what will make him miss you.
The only reason why he didn’t need anyone else was that he could count on you 24/7 and whenever he wanted to.
And now, he will want it back!
7) You won’t be affectionate with him anymore
The affection you showed him when you were together is also something that he will miss.
He got used to it, and now he will want it back.
When he couldn’t see much of you, and when he started to feel like you were losing interest in him, your affection was the thing that kept his hopes alive.
You were always kissing and hugging him; you were always being nice to him, and you never showed any signs of losing interest in him or in your relationship with him.
The affection you showed him was very important, as it was the motivation to keep him around.
And now, he will miss it.
8) A professional relationship coach confirms this works
While the reasons in this article will help you understand why this method works, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
That’s what I recently did.
When I was at my worst point in my relationship, I reached out to a relationship coach to see if they could give me any answers or insights.
I expected some vague advice about cheering up or being strong.
But surprisingly, I got very in-depth, specific and practical advice about addressing the problems in my relationship. This included real solutions to improving many things that my partner and I had been struggling with for years.
Relationship Hero is where I found this special coach who helped turn things around for me. They are perfectly placed to help you with making him miss you.
Relationship Hero is a hugely popular relationship coaching site because they provide solutions, not just talk.
In just a few minutes, you can connect with a certified relationship coach and get tailor-made advice specific to your situation.
9) He’ll not like not being your priority
He will also miss the fact that he was your priority when you were together.
Let’s face it:
It’s not easy to become someone’s top priority. It’s not easy to be the person that someone would give more priority to than anyone else.
And this is where the magic happens!
When you were together, he became your priority and you gave him all of your attention. But now, you walked away and it seems like you have no plans of ever coming back to him.
He will miss the fact that he was all you wanted, and now, it’s like he’s nothing.
This is the feeling of being left alone, and he won’t be able to handle this very well.
10) He’ll have his ego crushed
He’ll have his ego crushed when you cut off all contact.
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And that’s why it works!
When a man’s ego is crushed, he’ll start thinking about how he misses you and how he wants to fix things with you.
You see, he wants to feel good about himself again and you’re the one who can help him with that. You can restore his ego and make him feel good again.
The first step toward doing that, though, is stopping all contact.
11) He will miss the sex
Your ex will also miss the sex!
I know this might be a bit confusing, but it’s true. If you two were having a passionate sex life, he will miss it!
He will miss your touch, smell, and overall feeling.
He will miss the connection that you two always had and he will long for it to come back.
Yes, I know, it’s hard to believe – but cut him off completely, and he’ll even remember your first kiss. He’ll remember every little detail. That’s all he will think about.
Just a couple of days after cutting him off is all he needs to have that thought in his head that he misses you – or at least the physical part.
12) He will realize your true value because he lost you
People often only realize the true value of something or someone when they lose it/them.
Why? Because this is when they will miss it the most!
If you were in a serious relationship for a long time, he might not have realized how important you were in his life and how much you meant to him.
But now, after having lost you, he will understand what a big part of his life you were and how much you meant to him.
He will start missing everything about you and once again appreciate you!
Make him miss you so that he will realize how important you were to him, and only then, he will come back with his tail between his legs and want to say “sorry”.
Give your ex space and time to miss you. Don’t contact him at all and instead, focus on yourself.
13) Men are inborn chasers and they like it
Walk away, cut him off, and he’ll chase you.
It’s as simple as that.
Men like the thrill of the chase, and when a man doesn’t feel like he can win you back, he will try to get you back.
The more you push him away, the more he’ll want to get near to you again. He’ll want your attention again and will start pursuing you again.
You see, when he sees that you aren’t pursuing him, he will try to get you back.
He’ll start chasing you and will try to get your attention by showing off.
He’ll call you a lot; he’ll send you text messages and even gifts. He will make sure that you notice him again!
You know his style, so you’ll definitely notice when he starts doing this.
14) He’ll find out how you felt
Listen, if you cut this guy off, he’ll get the message. He’ll understand that he made you feel bad.
He’ll understand that his behavior was unacceptable and that he hurt you a lot.
And as soon as he realizes that, he will do everything in his power to fix things with you.
He might even call you up and beg for forgiveness.
He will want to make amends and apologize, and this is something that he will definitely regret when he sees how much this rejection hurts him.
15) He’ll suddenly find himself alone
As a girlfriend, you fulfilled multiple roles for him, but now you’re gone and he won’t know what to do.
He’ll find himself alone, and he will feel that emptiness not just emotionally, but also physically. He won’t be able to relax, have a good time and enjoy himself while you’re gone.
He’ll feel like he has no one to talk to because you’re the only person who used to listen to him.
And this emptiness will make him think about what he did wrong.
This is the best part!
You won’t even have to spell it out for him. He’ll think long and hard about what he did wrong and how you felt when he hurt you.
All you’ll have to do is let him miss you for a bit, and eventually, he’ll come back needing to apologize.
16) He’ll be drawn to your confidence
He’ll be drawn to your confidence when you cut him off.
This is exactly why it works!
When you don’t allow a man to get in touch with you and your feelings, he’ll be drawn to your confidence. This is a natural thing that happens when a man gets rejected!
He’ll feel that he can’t get back together with you no matter how hard he tries, and this is where the urge to want you back kicks in.
He’ll want to be near you again and enjoy your attention.
So, don’t contact him; don’t talk to him, and instead, show him how confident you are – how strong and independent you are.
17) Walking away will make his true feelings for you come to the surface
He’ll realize that he genuinely cares about you. That is when true feelings will ignite in him.
This is because, when a man cares about someone, he knows that person can’t cut him off and will put everything on the line to win them back.
He’ll know that if he really cares about you, he has to make you understand that you’re the one for him. And this realization will spark his feelings for you again.
Remember, I’m not saying that walking away is always the best thing to do when a man hurts your feelings. But, it seems to be highly effective!
So, I’m just letting you know that if you decide to walk away, this is what can happen and it can work to your advantage.
How long does it take for a guy to miss you after no contact?
Your ex will miss you after no contact, but it might take a bit.
How long does it take for him to miss you?
There is no set time for this because every guy and every situation is different. Some men will miss you right away; others will take a little longer. It depends on how much your ex loves you and what kind of person he is.
The more insecure he is and the weaker his feelings were in the first place, the longer it will take him to miss you.
On the other hand, if your ex was a man who deeply and sincerely cared about you – but made a mistake, it’ll probably take him just a couple of days to realize what he lost.
What does silence do to a man?
You might get the impression that when you cut off all contact, your ex-boyfriend won’t be able to cope with the loss and will want you back straight away.
But this is not always true. Sometimes, men react differently to silence.
They might be confused and hurt by what you’re doing, but they’ll try to find comfort in other things.
The first reaction is obviously to try to get in touch with you.
But after a while, they’ll realize they can’t get in contact with you, so they will start doing other things instead – like focusing on work, joining a sports team, or playing video games.
They’ll use any excuse just to distract themselves from missing you too badly. They don’t want to feel the pain that comes with being separated from the person they love.
However, this is just a phase and sooner or later, he’ll realize that he loves you and will want you back.
Why does a man act differently when he gets rejected?
If you have been hurt by someone and cut him off, it won’t be long before he realizes that he hurt you. He will realize that he messed up and that he made a mistake.
The next step is to try to fix things with you. He might be confused and angry, but he’ll do his best to win you back.
But there is a big difference between what men will do for themselves when they get rejected and what they think they should do on the outside.
What they really feel is usually what they express on the outside. But some men will be afraid to show genuine feelings and instead, will opt for a fake or superficial attitude.
So, what your ex-boyfriend will do when he gets rejected is not always an accurate reflection of how he feels about you. It’s just him trying to look good on the outside, even though he feels bad on the inside.
“Cut him off, he will miss you” – this method works because it’s very simple and the changes are gradual.
Just make it clear that you’re no longer interested in him and won’t be communicating with him – cut him off.
This will make him miss you like crazy. However, remember to be patient and ignore him at first!
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