25 signs a guy is not attracted to you (the ultimate list)

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Do you think that someone likes you, but can’t tell for certain?

Guys are known to be confusing. They tend to send out mixed messages because their minds tell them one thing when their hearts tell them another.

He might like spending time with you, but not be serious about being romantically attracted to you.

To help you understand if he is attracted to you or not, we’ve compiled the ultimate list of 28 signs that a guy doesn’t like you. Let’s get started:

1) He talks about other girls around you.

If a man is constantly making comments about other women, it’s a pretty good sign that he isn’t attracted to you.

He could be talking about them to attract your attention, or just to make conversation.

If he is talking about how beautiful they are, then it is a pretty good sign that he isn’t interested in you and is trying to let you down gently. Or at least, this is what his subconscious mind thinks!

2) He doesn’t ask questions when you speak.

A man might be showing signs of disinterest if he doesn’t ask questions when you speak to him, especially if the topic of conversation is something that interests you.

He may just be trying to get the information that he wants and then leave, so he can go talk with someone else.

3) He doesn’t want to spend time with you in private.

If a guy only wants to hang out when there are other people around, it could mean that he is not attracted to you and is just trying to be polite by not letting you down gently.

If he doesn’t want to spend time alone with you, this could be a sign that he is not interested in a relationship with you or even friendship for that matter. If he is acting cold, here’s some advice on how to deal with it.

4) He doesn’t ask about your life or family regularly.

If a guy isn’t interested in you, he isn’t going to ask you many questions about your life. There are even common questions that he will ask if he’s looking for “the one”.

If he doesn’t seem interested in knowing more about you, he may be trying to avoid getting close to you by not asking questions. He might be afraid of getting hurt if he gets too close. Or be interested in someone else.

5) He never asks for your advice or opinion about anything.

If a guy is interested in a girl, then he will want her opinion on things and will care what she has to say.

If he doesn’t ask for your opinion or advice, then he is probably not interested in a relationship with you.

He may just be trying to keep you at arm’s length to avoid getting hurt!

6) He doesn’t compliment you or show much interest in your appearance.

If a man isn’t interested in you, then he is not going to compliment you on your appearance or anything else that has to do with you.

This can be difficult to deal with when you’ve gotten used to hearing compliments from him over a long period.

If he stops complimenting you and shows little interest in your life, then it may just be a sign that he doesn’t like you anymore!

7) He doesn’t try to please you.

If a guy is interested in a girl, then he will likely try to impress her and make her happy. For example, he will remember what she likes, take note of what is important to her, and try to have positive and memorable experiences with her.

He will make sure to do things that she likes and will try to get her approval.

If he isn’t trying to impress you, then it may be a sign that he is not interested in you or that he is trying to avoid getting too close to you.

8) He doesn’t take the time to learn about your interests, hobbies, and passions.

If a guy is interested in a girl, then he will want to get to know what she likes and what she is passionate about.

According to relationship experts, having a strong passion and interest is downright sexy.

If a man notices you are really into something, he will likely want to be a part of it. He might invite himself on your morning run, not because he likes to run, but because he wants to spend more time with you.

If he isn’t asking you questions about these things or taking the time to learn more about you, then it could be because he doesn’t like you anymore!

He may be afraid of getting too close and getting hurt.

9) He doesn’t try to get close to you in any way.

If he liked you, then he would want to get closer to you at some point or another.

He may not be ready for a relationship with you, but he should still make an effort to spend time with you and get to know you better if he likes the way things are going.

If he isn’t trying to get closer, then it may be because he is trying to keep his distance or avoid getting hurt!

10) He doesn’t ask you out on a date or spends time alone with you.

A guy who likes a girl will probably try to take her out on a date and spend time alone with her at some point.

If he isn’t asking you out on a date or spending time with you alone, then he may be trying to avoid getting too close to you or he may not be interested in you anymore.

This can be difficult to accept if you like him but are having a hard time getting him to show interest in you.

11) He doesn’t ask for your number.

If you just met a man, and he is interested in you, then he will probably try to get your number or social media contact at some point.

Even if it’s just so that he can text you later on, it’s a good sign. He wants to stay in contact with you.

If he isn’t trying to get your number or any other way of contacting you, then there is probably something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

He may not be ready for a relationship or he may not like you anymore. Don’t take it too personally, some matches aren’t meant to be romantic.

12) He doesn’t want to make plans with you for later on in the week.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably want to spend time with you again shortly.

If he isn’t asking if there is anything that you would like to do together or trying to make plans with you, then it may mean that he is losing interest or avoiding getting too close.

It’s important to keep an eye out for this sort of behavior and deal with it before things get too serious.

13) He doesn’t ask you to be his girlfriend.

If you have been spending time with a guy, then he will probably ask if you want to be his girlfriend at some point! If he hasn’t asked yet, then there may be something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

He may not be ready for a relationship or he may not like you anymore.

If he isn’t asking, then it’s best to find out and deal with it before you invest unnecessary time and effort into your interactions.

14) He doesn’t talk about what your future together would look like.

A guy who likes you will probably talk about what your future together would look like at some point! If he isn’t talking about it, then he may not be interested anymore.

It’s important to pay attention to the way that he talks about your future together so you can understand if you are imagining a relationship that isn’t there.

15) He doesn’t say that he misses you when you are away from each other.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably miss you when you are away from each other.

If he isn’t saying that he misses you or trying to get in contact with you when you are away from each other, then there is probably something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

He may not be ready for a relationship or he may not like you anymore.

16) He doesn’t want to introduce you to his friends.

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If a guy likes you, then he will probably want to introduce you to his friends at some point.

He might even ask them about your family or if they know any of the same people like him and what their opinions are on that person.

If it’s someone close with his friends, he’ll let them know when there is an introduction for one of those people so everyone can meet each other in person.

If he isn’t introducing you, then there may be something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

17) He doesn’t ask if they can keep in contact with you when you are apart.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably want to keep in contact with you when you are apart.

According to Psychology Today, You can discern his level of interest by how your text with one another.

If the guy doesn’t text back after a while, it could be a sign that he’s not interested anymore and should just move on.

If he isn’t asking if they can keep in contact with you, then there may be something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

18) He doesn’t tell his family about your relationship.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably tell his family about your relationship at some point and want you to meet them.

If he isn’t telling his family about your relationship, then there may be something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

19) He doesn’t want to change anything about himself for you.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably want to change certain things about himself to better suit you at some point.

He might start wearing clothes that are more fashionable or try new hairstyles and colors as well, to look his best for you.

Or he might think of ways to adjust his work schedule to spend more time with you.

If he makes no effort to change or spend more time with you, he’s likely not interested.

20) He doesn’t want to do any of the things that you enjoy doing together.

There are many ways a man will show he’s interested that aren’t obvious. But the clearest way to know how he feels is by looking at how much effort he puts into seeing you.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably want to do things that interest you at some point.

If he isn’t interested in doing things that interest you, then there may be something wrong with the way things are going between the two of you.

21) He doesn’t reach out to see how your day was.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably ask about your day at some point.

If it’s been a while since you’ve seen him and he hasn’t asked yet, don’t worry. It could just be that his schedule is really busy or maybe there are other girls in the picture.

However, if they haven’t talked to each other recently but one of them has made an effort to keep up with their friendship by sending texts or even meeting for lunch (and this happens more than once), then there might be something going on between them so make sure not to take things too far when asking questions like “are we dating?”

22) He doesn’t do anything special for you on your birthday.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably do something special for your birthday.

If the guy is really into you and wants to show it in his way, he might take care of all the arrangements or make reservations at an expensive restaurant just so that they can be together on your big day.

And if this happens, trust me when I say that nothing could compare to how much happiness those little things give! If his interest isn’t there, he won’t be concerned about spending any special moments with you.

23) He never compliments you.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably compliment you at some point. He will want to make you feel special and desired.

Listen to how he speaks with you. If his language is friendly, formal, and platonic around you, that probably reflects his feelings towards you.

24) He tells other girls that they are beautiful.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably tell you that you are beautiful at some point. A man might like to compliment your eyes or hair and say things such as “You’re so pretty” or “You have the most amazing eyes I’ve ever seen.”

If this happens, don’t be afraid to let him know how much it means to hear those words.

However, if he is focused on other women and talks to you about how beautiful they are, then that’s one sure sign that he isn’t romantically interested in you.

25) He doesn’t make physical contact or touch you.

If he is not attracted to you, he will usually keep his distance and won’t touch much at all. If a guy likes you, he is going to want to get as close to you as possible and touch you as much as possible.

This can include hugging, holding hands, or even kissing. But if a guy isn’t attracted to you, then this just isn’t going to happen.

He will make a move to show his romantic intentions and  in order not to lose you to some other man.

So, what’s the bottom line?

According to Psychology Today, men seem to want a complex range of qualities in a woman they are romantically interested in.

Ladies, how a guy treats you and the way that he behaves around you is very important.

If a guy likes you, then he will probably show his feelings in some of the ways that I mentioned above.

If he isn’t showing his feelings in any of those ways, then you may have to accept that you are good friends or acquaintances.

He may not be ready for a relationship or he may not be interested in you romantically.

No problem.

It’s important to pay attention to the way that he does or does not show his feelings so that you can clearly understand what is happening and keep the door open for real chances at love and exciting romance.

As always, good luck and happy dating!

Tina Fey

I've ridden the rails, gone off track and lost my train of thought. I'm writing for Ideapod to try and find it again. Hope you enjoy the journey with me.

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