What matters most is how you see yourself

You don’t need to be rich or famous to be happy. But you do need a positive outlook on life.

Studies have shown that the happiest people are those who see themselves positively and have healthy self-esteem.

These 8 things are what you need in your life to lead a happier and more fulfilled existence. Read on for more…

1) Make the most of what you have – don’t be an excuse maker

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The truth is:

You have all the resources you need right now to create the life you want. You have strengths, intelligence, and plenty of good ideas.

You’re probably telling yourself that you can’t do things, that you need more experience, or that you don’t have enough time to pursue your dreams now.

But think about it – what have you created in your life with the resources you have?

If it hasn’t been enough, ask yourself: What am I doing that prevents me from making the most of what I have?

What excuses are getting in my way?

If you take complete responsibility for everything in your life, then you can change anything that isn’t working.

Starting today, make the commitment to stop making excuses.

Try to move your thinking away from “I can’t” to “How can I?” and “How will I?”

Identify what’s blocking your progress and get rid of it. And then create the kind of life you really want for yourself.

2) Believe in yourself – find your own honest self-confidence

Everyone has flaws that keep them from greatness. But once you accept yourself, flaws and all, and believe you can succeed, your flaws won’t stop you anymore.

Believing in yourself is a choice – and an important one. Authentic self-confidence comes from within and allows you to fully express who you are, even when you don’t do something perfectly the first time.

If you think everybody else has more wisdom or talent than you do and that they are always right, then of course it will be difficult to head in a different direction than they’re going in.

But if you believe in your ability to make good decisions – even when it may not be absolutely right – then go for it!

Another thing to keep in mind is that the way you see yourself is likely not the way others see you.

You might think that you’re worthless and nobody could possibly love you.

But others might see you as sweet, humorous, or helpful.

You’re not worthless – you have the potential to be great – but only if you believe in yourself and make it happen!

3) Learn to take risks

One of the most important things in life is to take risks.

Risks help you grow and realize your full potential.

Without risks, you might not even try out for that school play, or you may never go to the party where you meet the guy of your dreams.

And if something is worth doing, it’s worth doing with a little risk involved!

Even if it’s scary, taking some risks can be really exciting – and fun!

Sure, some things won’t turn out exactly how you want them to – but don’t let fear keep you from trying new things.

You might think that taking risks will always land you in trouble.

But the truth is that if you never risk getting hurt, you’ll never know what it feels like to love somebody or to have someone love you back.

If you are trying your best and following your heart, then take the risk – and don’t let anything stand in your way!

Even if you fail, who cares? At least try – and see what happens!

4) Celebrate the moments that make you happy

There’s an old saying, “If you want to make God laugh, tell him your plans.” Sometimes it’s hard to see the big picture and all your goals for the future. It’s easy to get caught up in the stresses of everyday life and forget to live in the present.

When you’re fixated on getting somewhere else someday, it can be hard not to beat yourself up when things go wrong.

Instead, remember that every second of life is a precious gift. Be thankful that you’re alive and embrace whatever comes your way.

This doesn’t mean that you can’t set goals or struggle toward achieving them – in fact, they are essential to creating the kind of life you want!

But don’t forget to appreciate all of the small moments that are part of a rich, full life – even if they don’t seem significant at first glance: getting a hug from your sister, reading an interesting book, or building a fort with your best friend will become cherished memories one day!

I’ve been there, I used to be afraid that I couldn’t achieve my goal, that I wouldn’t be happy, I would be disappointed in myself for not reaching it (even though I tried my hardest).

When I started to look at the small things that made me happy and just be happy for them, I started to feel happier, and all of my fears vanished.

What made me change my mind is by watching a video from Jeanette Brown. She’s not interested in telling you how to live your life, she’s not interested in how you’re doing, she’s simply letting you know that it’s okay if things don’t go as planned and to make sure you have a good time while it happens.

And also, she has a really good point, be it that you don’t reach your goal or not, it doesn’t matter as long as you try and have fun while you’re at it.

It’s been a few years since I started this quote and now my life is completely different than I thought it would be and I couldn’t be happier.

To sum up, just remember that every day is a gift and that the road may seem hard with lots of bumps along the way but if you keep going eventually you will see what happiness is.

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5) Gratitude is always a good option

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You might think money or time or fame is the important thing to be the focus of your life, but you should try to find something that makes you happy when you look deep inside and check if it’s still there.

Let me explain:

You are already a part of something bigger than you, which doesn’t mean you should sacrifice yourself or stop caring about yourself. Gratitude is the key ingredient that makes you nurturing to be your best self, grateful to others, and happy.

Without gratitude and appreciation, we lose sight of the things that truly matter in life.

Think about the good things in life like having a job that pays enough to support us; having a family; food on our table; love from our loved ones; being able to walk on grass without hurting ourselves, have enough money for nice clothes and shoes (even though we sometimes may not have some of these), etc.

That’s all you need to be happy and grateful.

6) Learn how to let go

I know it’s not easy being with something that you’re used to, but it’s a great thing to learn how to be by someone’s side as he learns and grows.

Every day, you can ask your loved one more and more questions, tell him what you want and if he still doesn’t get it, or do whatever you have in mind even if he wants to do something else.

Learn how to accept mistakes from time to time because we all make mistakes but the key to this is not hanging on to those negative things for a very long time or making them the focus of your life.

I learned that the hardest way was when I got into failed relationships rather than giving myself a chance at another relationship that would’ve been right for me

So here’s the deal:

Take one step out of your comfort zone and see how much worse things can be so that you really know that there are different kinds of love and the worst thing you can do is always compare someone with other people who have rejected me, who aren’t supporting me etc., always thinking ‘this person doesn’t love me as much as he should’ or ‘I can never find anyone good for’.

Learn how to say “life is too short” instead of feeling sad every second.

If you’re on good terms with your friends, family members or partner know that everything will work out for them too; their life wasn’t perfect but maybe their road is harder than yours so be there for them this time around too!

7) Be patient

Patience is a virtue, a quality that enhances your strength and the power to endure.

Let it be a good word for you at the end of this path. It is said that many times people lose their patience because of their greediness, but God says: “I will have mercy on whom I will have mercy”.

Be patient with yourself that you’re going through this right now and when you fail, it won’t just destroy someone else’s life but also yours.

All students hate school and they get frustrated with their teachers. But we really don’t like our parents who can never understand what we are going through so try to get along with them okay?

You might feel that what’s happening to you is too unfair or hard so either keep going on or be selfish and give up altogether because even if everyone in the world doesn’t want to help you right now isn’t the right time for them to do so either.

Maybe another time is better for them when they feel stronger enough about it or maybe they aren’t as interested in helping others at all as a lot of people have believed.

Be patient and continue believing in your own self too!

8) Always keep your mind on the present

If you’re really going through a hard time, don’t let your mind wander far away to another place.

If you’re angry or upset, think about how stupid that person is; don’t waste your days thinking about what could’ve been but focus on how much you love yourself now and the great life that awaits you! In other words, learn to love yourself!

You might be feeling so broken right now and all the things in your life seem meaningless but remember this one thing:

There is something wonderful in every situation.

I know it’s hard sometimes to concentrate on that “something wonderful” because of all the bad things happening but remember who we are here to be! We are amazing and we have gotten this far for a reason! Remember that nothing is permanent so don’t let yourself get used to it.

That’s the most important thing in life that you need to focus on right now because it is your life, so be happy and be grateful for the things you do have!

Final thoughts

As I’ve already mentioned, there are a lot of things we can learn from life, but the most important is learning to be happy with our own life without being dependent on someone else.

If you have been through a hard time, it doesn’t mean it was the worst time in your life. It was a good time to learn and grow from it.

And you should learn not to be afraid of trying something new and new experiences because, in the end, it is through that that you’ll achieve your deepest desires.

Hopefully, with these 8 most important things in life that you can learn from, your situation will improve a lot and you can become happy again.

And remember:

Your life is now and everything that happens to you is only supposed to build your character and make you a better person in the future.

I know that it isn’t easy to be happy but always remember that there will always be someone who needs a little help to start over on their journey.

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Thảo Anh Nguyễn

It is the little daily things that make life worth living and I know how to put you in the right perspective. I write about the intersection of life and love: how spirituality has changed my relationships, what I do to cultivate love in my life, and why I believe that all relationships are spiritual. Meet all your needs for your relationship and pieces of life advice with my articles.

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