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14 no bullsh*t signs a man is falling in love

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So, you’ve met a new guy. You’ve been on a few dates and you always have fun. The sex is pretty phenomenal.

But how do you know when he’s falling in love…and when you’re just a cool person to hang out with?

We’ve all been there. It’s really hard to feel like you’re falling head over heels, but not know if he’s doing the same. You want to know if you have a future together or if you’re just getting your hopes up.

In this article, I’m going to show you the important signs you need to know about if you want to know if he is falling in love with you.

Let’s jump right in.

14 no-nonsense signs your man is falling in love with you

1. He wants to spend time with you

A man who is falling in love with you will naturally want to spend a lot of time with you. He’s not going to get sick of hanging out or bored in your company.

He doesn’t go home first thing in the morning. Instead, he wants to hang out all day. It’s not that he’s trying to invade your space, he just really wants to be with you for a bit longer.

When a man is falling in love, he doesn’t want to make unnecessary rules about when and where he can see you. He won’t talk about needing ‘time’ or ‘taking it slow’.

Of course, you shouldn’t be in each other’s pockets every day, but falling in love is supposed to be intense.

It’s perfectly fine if he wants to spend lots of time together early on, as you bond and get to know each other.

However, be sure not to neglect the rest of your life for him (or allow him to do the same), but if he wants to up the time he spends with you, that’s usually a good sign.

But a word of warning: beware of love bombing. If he’s super-intense and giving you constant, over-the-top affection, that’s not love, but a form of control.

2. He often opens up about his past, including the bad bits

Part of a developing long-term relationship is getting to know more about each others’ pasts, the good, the bad, and the ugly.

When you get to know each other on this deeper level, an emotional attraction develops that goes way beyond the physical.

This is the foundation of love and, if you do end up together long-term, is what will give your relationship strength.

But this can be a tough thing to do. Everyone has things in their past they’re not so proud of. Everyone has times when they wished they’d done things differently.

These aren’t things you talk about with a brand new date.

But someone you think you might want to spend your life with? Then you open up because you don’t want to have any secrets.

If your man is increasingly open about his past, if he starts to tell you things he wouldn’t tell his friends, then he’s telling you that he wants to build a real, solid, lasting connection.

3. He wants to protect you

If your man wasn’t to protect you against things that can harm you—from the little things in life to the big threats, then you are a major priority for him.

When a guy falls in love, it’s often because you have triggered something deep inside him. Something he desperately needs.

What is it?

To fall in love, a guy needs to feel like he’s your protector. And that you genuinely respect him for doing this.

In other words, he needs to feel like your ‘hero’. Because when a man loves you he wants to be the one guy you can count on.

There’s actually a psychological term for what I’m talking about here. It’s called the hero instinct.

This concept is generating a lot of buzz at the moment as a way to explain what really drives men in relationships.

I know it might all seem kind of silly. After all, you’re an independent woman. You don’t need a ‘hero’ in your life to “rescue you”.

But this misses the point about what the hero instinct is all about.

The hero instinct is an instinctive need that men have to step up to the plate for the woman in this life. This is rooted in male biology.

Although you may not need a hero, a man is compelled to be one. And if you want him to fall in love with you, then you have to let him.

But how do you trigger this instinct in him?

The trick is to make him feel like a hero in an authentic way. And there are things you can say, messages you can send, and requests you can use to trigger this natural biological instinct.

If you want some help doing this, watch James Bauer’s excellent free video here.

He tells you everything you need to know about the hero instinct, including how to trigger it in your man.

I don’t often recommend videos but the hero instinct is one of the most fascinating concepts in relationship psychology I’ve come across. And James Bauer is the real deal when it comes to relationship advice.

Here’s a link to his unique video again.

4. He seems a bit nervous sometimes

If your man seems a little nervous, it can be a sign that he has deep feelings for you that he is working out. Just as you’re wondering whether he’s falling for you, so he’s wondering if you’re falling for him.

That might seem crazy to you right now, as you probably think it’s obvious. But men can have just the same insecurities and fears as women.

Maybe you even feel like he’s about to say something sometimes, but he ends up clamming up.

If this is sending your anxiety into overdrive (because you think this is the start of a breakup chat), think again.

He might just be on the verge of telling you he loves you, or at the very least having the ‘exclusive’ chat.

Nerves are very often a really good thing.

5. He’s introduced you to his friends, and he wants to meet yours

When a man sees a future with you, he wants his friends to meet you and like you. They’re a big part of his life, especially if he’s been single a long time.

If you’ve already met them, did he seem nervous and excited? If so, he might just be a keeper.

And did his friends seem to be interested in you? If your guy is falling in love, you can bet he’ll have been talking to his friends about you.

They’ll be keen to find out more about you and hang out with you because they think that you might just be a permanent fixture in his life.

The same goes for his friends’ girlfriends. If they make a big effort to include you, they’re probably assuming you’re here to stay as part of their group (because he’s told them you might be).

And if he really wants to meet your friends, then that’s even better. It means that he values the opinion of the important people in your life.

If he seems a bit nervous but genuinely interested when he does meet them, that’s also a very good sign. Nerves mean he cares what they think of him.

Want to get inside a man’s mind on why he wants to stay single? Watch our founder Justin Brown’s video below.

6. What would a gifted advisor say?

The signs I’m revealing in this article will give you a good idea about whether a man is actually falling in love with you.

But could you get even more clarity by speaking to a gifted advisor?

Clearly, you have to find someone you can trust. With so many fake experts out there, it’s important to have a pretty good BS detector. 

After going through a messy break up, I recently tried Psychic Source. They provided me with the guidance I needed in life, including who I am meant to be with. 

I was actually blown away by how kind, caring, and genuinely helpful they were.

Click here to get your own love reading.

A gifted advisor can not only tell you whether a man is falling in love with you, but they can also reveal all your love possibilities.

7. He starts talking about things happening in the future

Does he end up mentioning a vacation you might go on next summer? Or does he talk about your birthday next year?

If so, he’s probably mentally planning ahead.

He’s not necessarily assuming anything at this point, but he might be thinking about the future often enough that he finds it hard not to mention future plans when you’re together.

After all, his head is full of them.

He could also be deliberately testing you to see if you’re feeling the same way as him.

He’s going to ask you to marry him, just yet, but maybe he’s testing the waters to see if marriage is something you see in your future.

The same goes for kids, moving out of the city, or traveling abroad.

If he talks about these being things he might like to do, he’s hoping you’ll make it clear that they’re things you’d like too.

8. He doesn’t play games

Dating often feels like one big game.

You wonder if he’ll call, or not. You’ll ask your girlfriends how long you should leave it before you reply to his messages.

You never know when the next date will be, or even if there’ll be one.

All that can be exciting and fun, but it’s not a great start to a real relationship.

Even if there was a little game playing right at the beginning, if you’re past the first few dates, that should be gone now if you’re going to have a future.

A man who’s falling in love with you won’t screen your calls and he won’t take two days to reply to your texts.

If you find yourself second-guessing, feeling anxious, and trying to work him out, he’s probably playing games of some kind (even if you haven’t quite figured out which games yet).

If you feel calm and together around him, you never find yourself wondering when he’s going to call or obsessively phone-checking, then he might just be your guy.

9. You catch him giving you ‘the look’

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If you catch your guy giving you a thoughtful, daydreamy look, or a lingering stare, then you might just be onto something.

You might be getting ready in the morning, and turn around to see him just enjoying watching you.

Or maybe he’ll catch your gaze just a bit longer than usual over dinner. Or he’ll just look incredibly happy to see you when you meet…

All these things can mean that your guy is falling for you hard.

He’s enjoying you, and he can’t help himself from looking at you lovingly (even if he hasn’t actually said the word love yet).

10. He feels essential to you

Men have a built-in desire for something that goes beyond love or sex.

Simply put, men have a biological drive to feel essential to the woman in their life.

If he is feeling essential in your life and you in his, this is what often separates the feeling of “like” from “love”.

This biological drive compels men to provide for and protect women.

He wants to step up for her, feel essential, and be appreciated for his efforts.

So if he is feeling essential to you, then you can bet your bottom dollar he is falling in love with you.

11. He wants to commit

If a man strongly wants to commit, then he is feeling more and more connected to you.

However, the subject of understanding if a man is ready to commit is a tricky one.

If you push too hard he’ll head for the hills. But if you chill out too much on the subject you could go years without any real commitment.

If you feel insecure because you want to feel more deeply connected to him, it can be a sign of something deeper within you.

You might be surprised to hear that there’s one very important connection you’ve probably been overlooking:

The relationship you have with yourself. 

I learned about this from the shaman Rudá Iandê. In his incredible, free video on cultivating healthy relationships, he gives you the tools to plant yourself at the center of your world.

And once you start doing that, there’s no telling how much happiness and fulfillment you can find within yourself and in your relationships.

So what makes Rudá’s advice so life-changing? 

Well, he weaves techniques from ancient shamanic teachings and puts his own modern-day twist on them.

He may be a shaman, but he’s worldly and experienced the same problems in love as you and I have.

So if you’re tired of your relationships never working out, of feeling undervalued, unappreciated, or unloved, this free video will give you some amazing techniques to change your love life around. 

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12. He pays attention when you talk

A guy who’s into you wants to hear what you have to say.

You won’t find him reaching for his phone mid-conversation, or zoning out when you talk about your family, friends, and hobbies.

He’ll ask questions about you and your life and he’ll be genuinely interested in the answers.

When a guy’s falling in love with you, he’s starting to picture what your life might be like together, long-term.

When you tell him about your family BBQ last weekend, he’s secretly hoping that he’ll be invited to the next one.

When you tell him about the new project you’re on at work, he’d be keen to hear about it because he knows that if you end up together, your career will be important to him as well as to you.

Whatever it is that’s going on in your life right now, he wants to know more because he wants to be part of your life, now and in the future.

13. He meets you halfway on plans

When a guy wants you, he won’t be selfish about how you spend your time together.

He’ll be willing and happy to compromise with you when it comes to making plans because he respects you and the fact you have your own life and preferences.

If you need to stay at work late, he’ll be happy to change your restaurant booking.

If your best friend breaks up with her boyfriend and needs you to be with her, he’ll understand you can’t see him.

None of this will affect his feelings or plans for the future. He knows that if you’re going to last, you’ll have to compromise, so he’ll do it happily.

Healthy relationships always involve a bit of compromise and give-and-take, and he’s showing you he’s OK with that.

14. He makes you feel like you’ve come home

Be honest with yourself – when you know, you know.

If a guy constantly makes you feel needy, anxious, and unsure, it’s unlikely he’s falling in love with you. If he makes you feel confident, happy, and sure of yourself, he might just be the one.

The guy who’s falling in love with you wants to know all about your dreams for the future because he hopes that the future will be shared.

He would never wait a day to text you back because he enjoys talking with you. He won’t get freaked out if you invite him to your friend’s wedding in 6 months time, because he wants to still be with you then.

When a man loves you, he’ll make you feel secure, comforted and like you’re in exactly the place you need to be.

Are you ready for a deeper connection?

It can feel stressful and emotionally draining to work out whether your man is feeling a deep connection with you or whether he’s just someone to have a bit of fun with.

As you start to use these signs to understand if he is more serious about your relationship and he wants to commit, you have two options at hand:

1. You can sit back, play it cool, and wait for him to make a move and express his feelings.

But if you wait, and act passive, you are putting all the control in his hands.

If he doesn’t make a move to express his feelings, you’re still left to wonder what’s going on between the two of you.

Or while you wait for him to make up your mind, you might repress your own feelings and send mixed messages to him that will likely confuse him or push him away.

You might risk losing him altogether.

Or having him seek out a deeper connection with someone else.

2. You can let him know how you feel about him.

If you decide to tell him how you feel, this is where things get really a little scary.

Because you have a few things to be careful of:

You don’t want to frighten him away if you’re moving too fast and expressing your feelings before he wants to. You could risk losing him.

And you don’t want him to misinterpret your feelings and think that you’re pressuring him into anything when your intentions aren’t like this at all.

You don’t want there to be any miscommunication about what the two of you are doing together.

Communication is key in any kind of relationship, especially one that’s developing.

The key is confidence and clear communication.

All relationships and interactions come with risk. But when you’re clear on what you want and how you feel and are able to express your feelings in a confident manner, it can be amazing how it changes the atmosphere around the two of you.

And when he feels this connection with you, he’ll respond.

Otherwise, it gives you the space to move on and create a deeper bond with someone else who is ready for all the love you possess and are able to express.

But that raises the question:

Why do you want to be in a relationship so badly?

The answer is contained in the relationship you have with yourself. 

I explored this important question deeper with a talk given by the shaman Rudá Iandê. He reminded me to see through the lies we tell ourselves about love and become truly empowered.

As Rudá explains in this insightful free video, love is not what many of us think it is. In fact, many of us are actually self-sabotaging our love lives without realizing it!

We need to face the facts about how we cope with being single and lonely. 

Far too often we chase relationships. We hold idealized images of someone and build up expectations that are guaranteed to be let down.

Rudá’s teachings showed me a whole new perspective. 

While watching, I felt like someone understood my struggles to find love – and finally offered an actual, practical solution to feeling content and at ease when I’m alone and feeling lonely.

If you’re done with frustrating relationships, endlessly trying to figure out men, and having your hopes dashed over and over, then this is a message you need to hear. 

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The better you feel when you are alone and in your own skin, the more magnetic and alluring you will become. Others will be drawn toward you.

You won’t have to try to figure out if someone is into you or not.

And it will be enough to know that you are comfortable and confident with the one person who will be with you all your life – yourself.

 

 

How this one revelation changed my love life

It’s Justin Brown here, the co-founder of Ideapod, and I have something to confess…

I used to believe I needed to be successful before I deserved to find someone who could love me.

I used to believe there was a “perfect person” out there and I just had to find them.

I used to believe I would finally be happy once I found “the one”.

What I now know is that these limiting beliefs were stopping me from building deep and intimate relationships with the people I was meeting. I was chasing an illusion that was leading me to loneliness.

If you want to change anything in your life, one of the most effective ways is to change your beliefs.

Unfortunately, it’s not an easy thing to do.

I’m lucky to have worked directly with the shaman Rudá Iandê in changing my beliefs about love. Doing so has changed my life forever.

Now, Rudá’s teachings can change your life, too.

As the co-founder of Ideapod, I’m in a unique position to be able to bring Rudá’s teachings to our global community.

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Best wishes,
Justin Brown, Ideapod Founder

Written by Lachlan Brown

I’m Lachlan Brown, the editor of Ideapod and founder of Hack Spirit. I love writing practical articles that help others live a mindful and better life. I have a graduate degree in Psychology and I’ve spent the last 6 years reading and studying all I can about human psychology and practical ways to hack our mindsets. If you to want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Twitter or Facebook.

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