10 signs a man thinks you’re incredibly attractive, according to psychology

Men of quality don’t openly express their attraction towards every woman they find cute.

They don’t just say “Hey beautiful!” or “Oh god, you’re so sexy.”

That’s just sleazy!

In fact, as much as they can, they try not to give hints that they’re into you because they don’t want you to feel uncomfortable around them.

But, hey…as women, we want to know if a guy is into us, don’t we?!

Especially if we find them cute, too!

Well, I’m here to help.

In this article, I’ll share 10 signs a man thinks you’re incredibly attractive, according to psychology.

1) He gets uneasy when you’re near

When he’s talking to you, does he stutter, fumble, and fidget?

When you’re near, does he laugh, blush, and have trouble concentrating?

We know how this feels because we’ve all experienced this since we’re kids. We get so nervous that we get butterflies in our stomach.

And now it’s backed by science.

A research by Susan M. Hughes et al. found that people display nervous reactions when talking with particularly attractive potential romantic partners. They found out that our heart rate increases and even our voices change a little, too.

So when you notice that a guy starts acting a bit nervous when you’re near, it’s probably because he finds you incredibly attractive.

2) He looks at you then looks away

Sex and intimacy expert Dr. Chris Donaghue says that eye contact is the beginning of the courtship process. 

It’s an attempt to have that feeling of seeing and being seen—of a romantic connection.

“It can be an automatic and unconscious response, as no thought process is utilized, but instead just an honest and immediate expression of attraction or disinterest”, he said.

When he looks at you, it might just be an automatic and unconscious response because he finds you incredibly attractive

Hey, we can’t help but stare at the things we fancy.

But the moment he realizes that you’re aware he’s staring, he’d look away if he’s timid.

It’s embarrassing. He doesn’t want you to have an idea that he indeed finds you incredibly attractive. 

But if he’s a man with self-confidence and he wants you to know he’s indeed into you, he’d lock eyes with you as if to say “Yes, I’m looking at you because I like you.”

3) He gets too close…then pulls away

When we like someone, we can’t help but be drawn to them— literally.

If we act like animals and follow our instincts and impulses, we’d all be sitting beside our crushes and holding their hands all day.

Luckily, we still have a rational mind that tells us how to act properly.

What’s interesting is that the more he gets closer, the more likely his attraction for you becomes stronger

A study shows that scent in women plays a big role in attraction and so if he likes your smell, he’d fall in love with you the more he gets closer.

4) His jaw drops when he stares at you

Our jaws require our muscles to keep it closed. It might seem like a natural thing to do, but it’s actually a voluntary action.

But when we are pleasantly surprised—like when we see something breathtaking—we tend to drop our jaws.

It’s like our brain “forgets” that we’re supposed to be closing our jaws because it’s focusing on something else.

So if you notice a man with lips slightly apart while he’s looking at you, there’s a big chance that he finds you incredibly attractive.

5) He mirrors your actions

Do you notice that he’s mimicking your actions?

Like, when you cross your arms while talking to him, do you see him doing the same thing just two seconds later?

Don’t worry. He’s not trying to mock you.

He might not even be aware of it!

What he’s doing is what psychologists call mirroring

It’s defined as the behavior in which one person subconsciously imitates another —whether through gesture, speech pattern, or attitude—to increase rapport.

And it usually happens when we like someone and we want to establish a connection with them.

Now, it’s possible that he just sees you as a friend, but if it happens too often, he likely finds you incredibly attractive, too.

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6) He gives you special treatment

If you see a colorful butterfly and a brown moth, and you can only save one…which one would you save?

I’d choose the butterfly and I know you would too. 

Why? Simply because it’s more beautiful.

Well, this basically sums up what sociologists call “pretty privilege”—the advantages one gets simply for looking good.

Plenty of research has proven that life is much easier for attractive people. 

They’re often seen as trustworthy and likable.

They get favors left and right.

And so if a man is giving you plenty of favors that he doesn’t do to others, trust me—he likely has a hidden attraction for you.

7) He tries hard to impress you

I don’t know about you but when I find someone attractive, I can’t help but try to impress them.

If my crush is into jazz…even if it’s not my thing, I’d listen to John Coltrane just so he’d think I’m cool.

If my crush told me he likes how I write, I’d stay all night writing a good first draft.

We all want to get approval and praise from the people we like—even the ones we’re not romantically attracted to. And if we do like someone, we’d double down!

 So if you notice that a guy is trying really hard to get you to say “Wow! You’re really great!”, don’t laugh or cringe in front of him.

Have pity on the guy. 

He just probably finds you incredibly attractive

8) He acts like your knight in shining armor

When you’re struggling for your exams, does he lend you his notes and buy you coffee?

When you’re struggling to carry your stuff, does he offer to carry them for you?

And when you’re emotionally distraught, does he try to cheer you up?

Since the beginning of time, men have the instinct to protect others—especially the people they love. And this need to protect hasn’t gone away.

What’s changed is that today, the “evolved” man doesn’t try to save everyone…but only the ones they truly care about.

And so if he acts like your savior, watch out. He probably likes you a lot.

9) He (desperately) tries to find the things you have in common

So, not only does he mirror your actions, he also wants to mirror your interests!

You tell him you like dark chocolate, and he gasps and says “Me too!”

You tell him you hate olives, and he goes “Are you kidding?! Me too!”


What’s going on?

Well, he probably wants you to feel connected and establish what psychologists call ingroup bias.

It basically means that we favor those people who are more similar to us.

He might not even know it but by doing this, he’s making it too obvious that he’s indeed attracted to you.

10) He finds your flaws cute

Plenty of studies have proven that good-looking people can get away with anything.

It’s called beauty bias and it’s a real thing!

It’s not fair, but in general, people are more forgiving towards people they find attractive. 

So if you notice that:

He just laughs when you spill your coffee on his desk.

He says “Awww” when you can’t answer a question properly.

He winks at you when you make a fool of yourself in public.

Then he probably finds you incredibly attractive.

When you can do nothing wrong because he thinks you’re just adorable no matter how stupid you look, then trust me—he finds you incredibly attractive.

Final thoughts:

So…what’s the score?

If you notice 10/10 of these signs on a man, then psychology says he finds you incredibly attractive.

Now of course, finding you attractive doesn’t mean he wants to have a relationship with you.

He could be married. Or he just enjoys being single. Or he just finds you attractive and nothing more…

But if you like him too, well, try to acknowledge and reciprocate his gestures to see where your connection will lead you.

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Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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