The brutal truth about the sigma female: Everything you need to know

Are you ready to find out all the nitty-gritty details about sigma females? Maybe you’re one of them, or you know one in your life.

Either way, this epic guide will tell you everything you need to know about this unique personality.

What is a sigma female?

You have probably already heard about the pack-classification in men, like for example “He’s an alpha male” or “He’s a beta”.

Alphas tend to be the leaders of the group while the others take positions below that.

Females actually have the same structure of personalities, and sigma is one of them.

Before diving further into the sigma female personality, here is a list of all the personalities:

  • The Alpha Female
  • The Beta Female
  • The Gamma Female
  • The Omega Female
  • The Delta Female
  • The Sigma Female

None of these personalities is necessarily better or worse than another, they are all unique.

Even the Alpha has its negative traits associated with it, so it’s really not a way to feel better than somebody else.

You see, this system is made primarily so you can understand why others act a certain way and why you act the way you do.

Are you ready to find out more about the sigma female?

The sigma female

When a woman is a sigma female, she is independent and doesn’t mind going against the grain.

Social norms are something she is aware of, but that doesn’t mean she always follows etiquette.

Unsurprisingly, she is very similar to the sigma male in her personality, meaning that she loves her alone time.

The sigma female does not seek validation from others.

In my own experience, sigma females tend to be on the introverted side, living their own life, but that doesn’t take away from the fact that they are extremely charismatic.

In case you might be asking yourself whether a sigma female is a leader or a follower, the answer is… neither!

Sigma females place themselves outside of the social hierarchy, avoiding petty power games.

Mutual respect is important to them, so they act accordingly.

Have I sparked your interest? Do you think you might be a sigma female?

Let’s dive deeper into the personality traits of a sigma female:

Personality traits of a sigma female

1) She is independent

Independence is the hallmark trait of a sigma female.

Other people are never the sole reason for their happiness, they don’t have to rely on them.

Their independence helps them immensely with their jobs and career, gaining lots of respect for their work.

If you recall, I mentioned that sigma females don’t submit to social hierarchy.

On the contrary, she will let her voice be heard for the things she believes in and doesn’t care about the influence of “powerful” people.

If you’re a sigma female, you might sometimes get called bossy or b*tchy by men who can’t handle an independent woman.

Another sign that you might belong to this personality type is when you are typically the one igniting change.

A sigma female’s independence washes over into her love life, as well. She is equally happy single and in a relationship.

To tell you the truth, that’s an incredible skill to have, as it ensures that she never settles in a relationship.

2) She is intimidating

It’s no rare occurrence that other people get intimidated by a sigma female.

No wonder, she speaks the truth relentlessly and can get pretty rebellious.

One of a sigma female’s favorite pass-times is stirring up the pot and making other people question the system as well.

Not everyone enjoys that, and many people feel intimidated by the fact that they don’t follow social norms and don’t need others to be happy.

On the other hand, once you get to know a sima female, you will realize that they are really great and not intimidating at all!

3) She is self-sufficient

With her independence comes self-sufficiency, as well.

Cooperation is a skill of hers, but she never fully has to rely on others for help.

Making her dreams and goals come true never requires to help of others for a sigma female.

This can sometimes be problematic, as she can refuse to ask for help, even when she’s in trouble.

Personal success is important, and, needless to say, she will do anything to achieve it.

Wondering how she manages to unleash her personal power?

She knows how to build a healthy relationship with herself instead of looking for external fixes.

This is something you can learn from this excellent free video where the shaman Rudá Iandê explains how you can unleash your personal power.

Believe me, if you’re tired of living in frustration, dreaming but never achieving, and of living in self-doubt, then you need to check out his life-changing advice.

That’s how you can become a self-sufficient individual who embraces herself.

Here’s a link to the free video again.

4) She is mysterious

It’s not always an easy deed reading a sigma female.

On the contrary, the mere fact that they enjoy going against the grain can make them pretty unpredictable.

Some will find the sigma female mysterious, which gets her lots of attention at times.

Her unconventional life can be intriguing to others, but she doesn’t always love that kind of attention.

You see, many people might be interested in her, but not a lot of people actually get her, if that makes sense.

5) She can fit into social situations

It might sound contradictory to what I just told you about sigma females, but they can, in fact, fit into social situations quite well despite their independence.

The perk of not submitting to the social hierarchy is that sigma females can fit into any social group or situation.

Because of their open-mindedness, people from all kinds of backgrounds get along with them.

Equality is a big thing for sigma females, and she believes that mutual respect is crucial.

Although it’s true that a sigma female will never go out of her way for someone, she will also never be rude to someone without a cause.

6) She doesn’t follow trends

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Trends are all around, especially with social media, fast fashion, and the internet in general.

Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with following the latest trends, you will just not see a sigma female follow suit.

Fashion-wise, you can’t tell a sigma female what to wear. She wears whatever she wants whenever she wants.

When they buy something, it’s because they like it, not for trendy purposes. 

On that note, sigma females are also pretty confident in their own skin, which helps them to do and wear whatever they want without caring about others’ opinions.

Although they don’t follow trends, they sometimes accidentally become the trendsetters by jus doing their own thing and having other people notice it.

Similar to fashion, sigma females are also not huge fans of social media. Sure, they’ll scroll around, but they’re not big on posting as they don’t seek validation from others.

7) She is not on a timeline

It comes as no surprise that women are under tons of societal pressure nowadays.

  • Do you have a boyfriend?
  • When are you getting married?
  • You should think about kids, the biological clock is ticking!

All of these are unfortunately quite normal questions women get asked when in their twenties or early thirties.

And of course, you can’t forget about having a good career on top of it all.

This can be a lot, and all women know it.

Sigma females know this, too, they just don’t give in to the pressure.

A sigma female will go at her own pace, knowing that the only timeline she needs to follow is her own, nobody else’s.

Simply put, they focus on their own contentment and happiness, not caring whether that follows the societal norms or not.

8) She is charismatic

The good news? Even though a sigma female tends to be introverted, she is also extremely charismatic and confident.

Picture strong and silent, that’s her.

She is not the one pushing to the front of the conversation, leading others, but she is the one people come to in times of need.

One thing all sigma females have in common is that others respect them and give them their attention.

Due to her lack of need of a partner to be happy, the people she does attract for relationships tend to be high-quality.

9) She is loyal

Although a sigma female is happy by herself, she makes one of the best friends one could ask for.

Loyalty is huge for them, and they value deep connections with others.

Sigma females believe in quality over quantity. Due to their independence, they don’t have masses of friendships, but the ones they do have are extremely strong.

If you’ve made the cut and got close to a sigma female, you are lucky. This will be a friend for life.

No matter what, your sigma friend will always be there for you.

10) She doesn’t care for excuses

A woman of this personality type doesn’t care for excuses and looks for answers instead.

Good enough is not good enough for her, she doesn’t settle and instead strives for greatness.

No wonder, after all, she always stands by her core values and pursues her goals.

She is the kind of person that works hard when nobody is watching, only to then reemerge with an amazing success of some kind.

11) She will not be pushed around

A sigma female doesn’t believe in failure. What does that mean?

She believes that you either win or you learn, and either way, it’s a lesson that will make you stronger.

You see, nobody can tell a sigma female who she is, what she can do, or what she’s worth.

She knows that she can be whoever she wants to be, and the sky is the limit.

On that note, she also has strong boundaries and will not give in to things she isn’t comfortable with.

Insults will not get you very far when dealing with a sigma female. They will bounce off her and she will just leave you behind in your pettiness.

12) She will never lower her standards

We already touched on the fact that a sigma female will never settle in a relationship.

That’s because she has incredibly high standards that she will not lower for anyone.

She knows her worth, and if you can’t appreciate that, she’s out.

In that way, sigma females are very unmanipulatable. They won’t bend over backward for a guy just so they aren’t alone.

Now: does she care about external attributes in a partner?


These things are relatively important to her:

  • Looks
  • Lifestyle
  • Social status
  • Money

But not for the reasons you might think.

A sigma female knows that a lot of these traits are a projection of a man’s inner evolution.

Of course, that doesn’t mean if you don’t have these things you have no chance with a sigma female, these are merely tendencies.

13) She means what she says

Sigma females speak their minds, but you can also bet your life on the fact that they will keep their word.

This trait makes them especially trustworthy and respected.

When she makes a promise, she will do anything she can to keep it.

A sigma woman expects the same in return, putting lots of value into truth, respect, and loyalty.

14) Don’t double-cross her, or she’ll come at you

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Apart from the fact that you should never double-cross anyone in the first place, you REALLY shouldn’t test your luck with a sigma female, believe me.

Double-crossing her will be something you will regret immensely.

There is nothing evil, mean, or vengeful about sigmas, but if you cross her intentionally, she will make you pay.

On the other hand, she will not hold a grudge.

She might get back at you and make you pay for what you’ve done, but that’s it, after that she likes to forget about it.

15) She can adapt to change easily

Humans don’t like change.

Here’s why: change brings the unknown, and the unknown feels like a threat to our brain.

That’s also the reason so many people are resistant to change, even if they consciously want it, their subconscious might be holding them back.

Sigma females aren’t necessarily an exception to that rule, but they do adapt more easily than others.

She knows that change is the only constant in life, so instead of fighting it, she tries to embrace it as an opportunity for better things.

Outer circumstances don’t affect her as much as they would other people, and she is a master at rolling with the punches.

Something unfortunate happens?

No problem, while others would mope around at how unfair life is, a sigma female will find the best possible way to move on from this and then act accordingly.

16) She is not judgemental

With technology, media, and celebrities, judgment and gossip are all around us 24/7.

Plenty of people live for the drama, following all the latest “tea spilling”.

The sigma female is not among these people. She doesn’t care about people she doesn’t know.

As long as she doesn’t know a person well, a sigma female does not like to form an opinion on someone based on rumors.

You can’t tell her how a certain person is, unless she gets to know them, she won’t decide on where she stands.

What does this mean for you?

If you’re a sigma female, you are most probably an excellent judge of character, relying on your own intuition more than anything else.

17) She doesn’t shy away from risks

Where other people like to take the safe road, sigma females embrace risk and adventure.

That doesn’t make her reckless, however. She only takes risks where necessary.

For her, that could mean:

  • Moving to a new city (or even country)
  • Changing careers completely
  • Leaving a relationship even though it’s safe
  • Taking a chance on love

What’s the difference between Sigma and Alpha females?

Reading all of this information on sigma females might have you wondering what the difference between them and an alpha female is.

You’re not wrong with that question, the two are actually quite similar.

Alphas and Sigmas share these traits:

  • Intelligence
  • Beauty
  • Charm
  • Independence
  • Won’t settle

These traits are a surefire way to get lots of guys running after these girls, and the fact that they know their own worth and feel confident only adds to that.

Alpha females can be bossy, progressive, and sarcastic, while sigmas are more laid-back and silent.

When you think about a goddess you want to be like, an Alpha woman most likely comes to mind.

Turns out, sigmas are pretty much the same way, just a little less social.

Both of them are very head-centered, thinking rationally and clearly. Other people’s opinion doesn’t concern them and they won’t conform to norms.

It’s true, both alphas and sigmas can be very emotional, but they will only show that side of themselves to people they know well.

They aren’t afraid to break the etiquette and make the first move on a guy, and strong men don’t intimidate them.

So, as you can see, alphas and sigmas are more alike than you would think at first!

Sigma Females in Love

Let’s talk about love and relationships for a moment.

Sigma females are independent and want the same from their men.

They love a strong and confident man, so the best match for a sigma female is usually an alpha male.

How do you find an alpha male?

If you’re a sigma female and intrigued by the idea of finding an alpha male, there are a few traits you can keep an eye out for.

He is brave

That’s probably the first thing you think of when picturing an alpha – a brave lion or wolf, not afraid of anything.

Not to say that an alpha male is aggressive or into fighting, in fact, he is just brave enough to embrace risks in his life.

This applies to his personal and professional life.

Women love alphas, as they are protectors and defenders, making them feel safe.

He is responsible

You know how some men shy away from facing the consequences of their actions?

Alphas are not like that. They will take responsibility for their actions and all the consequences that come with them.

When he promises something, he will stick to it.

In case he ever fails, he won’t cover it up and instead works on fixing things and learning from his mistakes.

Because of that, they make great partners.

He is ambitious

Would you have expected anything less?

Probably not.

An alpha male makes his dreams a reality by having elaborate plans on how to pursue his goals.

This ambition will not only be visible in his professional life, but his personal life, too.

He’s a sucker for healthy competition

No matter if it’s about business, love, or sports, an alpha male has the drive to prove himself worthy by competing with others.

Usually, he stays in the healthy realms of competition, but sometimes they can get a little too competitive.

He doesn’t run from problems

An alpha male will not wait for problems to resolve themselves or run from them.

Instead, he will confront them and find a way to deal with them himself.

Problem-solving is their passion. While that’s amazing in a relationship, it can sometimes get a little too much, especially when their female partner just wants to vent, cry, and be heard for once.

He is a protector

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Whether it’s his partner, children, elderly, or animals, alpha males are the first to jump to the rescue in times of crisis.

They know that they’re capable, strong, and smart, so they don’t shy away from lending a helping hand.

Sometimes, this trait can make them overly protective, but that’s just part of the package you get when dating them.

He doesn’t explain himself

An alpha male’s confidence reaches so far, that he doesn’t really feel the need to explain himself to anyone.

He trusts in his own instincts and therefore feels no desire to justify his behavior.

When dating an alpha male, you will have to come to terms with the fact that he will probably be in charge of everything and not always explain his decisions.

He is passionate

Passion guides an alpha, and he follows its call through thick and thin.

He knows that his passion will bring him closer to his dreams and goals.

Sometimes, this can make it hard for them to find a partner because not every girl supports their desires for achieving life goals.

He is confident

I don’t think I need to tell you that alpha males are extremely confident.

They know that they are charismatic and they don’t shy away from using that.

When you’re in a relationship with an alpha, things can get hard when you just know that every girl in the room wants to be in your shoes.

However, if an alpha male is truly committed to you, no amount of girls will tempt him.

How will it be to date an alpha male?

As I just said, alpha males are quite popular among women, so getting his attention will not be an easy task.

However, as a sigma female, you are unique yourself, which will draw him in.

When dating an alpha, the lifestyle you will lead might be a bit more old-fashioned.

By that, I mean:

  • He will make important decisions
  • He will take control over your life together
  • He will protect you at all costs
  • You will not have to worry about any problems

While this sounds like a dream to many women, it sounds like a nightmare to others.

If you’re emancipated, this role might not be for you.

Some tips for dating an alpha male:

  • Don’t compete with him
  • Be loyal
  • Be mysterious
  • Be patient
  • Be confident
  • Avoid being a pushover
  • Set boundaries
  • Let him be vulnerable
  • Never embarrass him
  • Follow his lead
  • Say what’s bothering you
  • Have deep conversations
  • Don’t be intimidated
  • Don’t be easy to get

Now: as a sigma female, most of these points will come naturally to you, anyways.

With an alpha male, you will likely be a power couple that nobody can even come close to.

But, I think it’s important to mention that as a sigma female, alpha males aren’t the only option you have to be happy in a relationship.

They just tend to be the most compatible, but that doesn’t mean there aren’t other personalities out there that are just as great of a fit for you, personally.

You are extremely powerful

As a sigma female, you possess a myriad of amazing qualities that other people would kill for.

Enjoy it! Although, who am I to tell, you probably already are.

You are not only incredibly intelligent, beautiful, and strong, but you also have a good heart and don’t need to be the center of attention at all times.

Sigma females have incredible personalities that will take them far in life.

No matter what your goals are, you know that you can achieve them with enough determination and hard work.

Never give up on your dreams, and never settle for anything else than what you know you deserve.

You don’t necessarily need anyone else, so the bonds you do have in your life are unique, strong, and for life.

Bask in the fact that you were blessed with such a great personality, and use it to your advantage!

Anna Scheucher

Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more!

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