Does she miss me? 19 signs she does (and what to do now)

Let me tell you a secret.

We girls miss our guys a lot, but we don’t always want to be that obvious about it. That’s why we send *secret* signs.

Below, I’m going to go through these signs, and what you need to do once you start to notice them.

Let’s begin!

1) She flat-out tells you she misses you

What more could I say? She’s telling you she’s missing you because she does!

I’ve got to give it to her, though. She’s candid enough to admit that she misses you (and then some.)

2) She’s more than happy to see you, even if it’s just for a short time

Now I’m sure this has happened to you, one way or another. You missed someone (or something), and you were over the moon when you saw them/it.

Well, it’s the same thing for her!

She’s always looked forward to seeing you, and that’s why she can’t hide her immense joy!

Of course, she hopes that the feeling is mutual!

3) She’s reaching out to you

When she’s reaching out to you, perhaps, after weeks/months of not talking to you, it’s clear that she misses you.

So why did she avoid you for that period of time, you ask?

Well, we girls don’t miss guys – be it flings or exes – right away. Even if we do, it can take us weeks – or months – before we realize what we’ve lost.

So if she’s reaching out to you again, I dare say it’s a good sign. She’s trying to make amends…and perhaps, rekindle the relationship you’ve once lost.

The question is, what will you do about it?

Well, you needn’t worry because I will be helping you out with this in a while. So keep reading!

4) She keeps on bringing back the good ‘ol memories

If this girl keeps on reminiscing the good ‘ol days of yore, there’s a good chance that she misses you – and what you shared.

And she’s not wrong, you know?

After all, research has shown that reminiscence helps promote social bonding, among many other things.

According to Susan Krauss Whitbourne, Ph.D., “The very act of retelling a powerful couple story can help to promote intimacy, drawing you closer to your partner.”

So don’t be surprised if you find yourself rekindling the love after recounting these memories with her!

5) She never fails to contact you on special dates

When a girl contacts you on significant dates (such as your birthday, Christmas, etc.) it’s not always because she’s being civil with you.

More often than not, it’s because she’s missing you.

You’ve probably shared a lot of good memories on these special dates, and she can’t help but think about them.

Maybe she’s hoping that this will get you thinking about those memories as well. Who knows? It may make you miss her the way she does.

6) She keeps on asking about your plans

Yes, girls are naturally inquisitive. But if she keeps on asking you about your plans – which you haven’t even thought about yet – then it’s a sign that she’s missing you.

She hasn’t seen you for so long, and she’s trying to devise a way to ‘pop up’ in this future event. I mean, maybe she’s planning to fake ‘kismet.’

Now, unless you want to make the wrong assumptions, I suggest you talk to a relationship coach before you do anything else.

In fact, it’s something I did when I was wondering if my ex was missing me after our breakup.

After making the mistake of going to bogus coaching sites, I’ve decided to try the Relationship Hero site after a friend’s recommendation.

And boy, was I glad she told me about the site.

Here, I found highly-trained relationship coaches who were able to help me get through my rough patch.

They listened to me with such care and compassion that I didn’t feel like I was talking to a coach at all!

Now if you want to try this groundbreaking coaching experience from the experts at Relationship Hero, all you need to do is click here to get started. It’s that easy!

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7) She keeps on asking about your love life

She misses you, and she’s most likely gunning to get you back.

But she doesn’t want to get in the way of a relationship, you know? (#respect)

That being said, she’ll go ahead and ask about your love life – though in a not-so-obvious way.

For example, she may ask you out to attend an event with friends – but end the convo with “If that’s ok with your girlfriend…”

Of course, if you answer, “Yeah, I don’t have a GF right now,” then she may end up making a move in that said event.

If you do answer “Yeah, my GF wouldn’t be too happy with it,” she may give up – or fight for you tooth or nail.

Well, this is another story (or article), of course!

8) She drunk calls/texts you

Alcohol is, without a doubt, a great social lubricant. That’s because it “lowers our inhibition levels, which may cause us to say things that we normally wouldn’t if we were sober.”

So if she drunk calls/texts you and says that she misses you, it’s because alcohol gave her the nudge to do so.

After all, psychologists have noted that those who drank “had more confidence, had more courage, could express themselves better, and felt less accountability for their actions.”

Hence the confession of what she truly felt about you.

If you feel the same way, then by golly, she’ll do a victory dance. But if not, then she will, as Jamie Foxx used to sing it, just ‘blame it on the a-a-a-a-a-alcohol.’

9) She jokes about missing you

Jokes are almost always half-meant. And, according to the famed neurologist Sigmund Freud, they are, more or less, “repressed desires of individual people.”

So if she’s joking about missing you, then it’s likely true.

Perhaps she’s thinking that this is still a touchy issue for you – and that’s why she’s expressing it through a joke.

She’s right to do it, IMHO. That’s because, as psychologists put it, it may help “reduce interpersonal anxiety between people who are interacting with each other.”

10) She keeps on asking you out

Now I know that it’s usually the boys who ask girls out, but it’s the 21st century now! She’s asking you out to catch up because she misses you badly.

Perhaps she’s tired of giving you hints – for you can’t seem to get them anyway. So instead of waiting for you to make a move, she’ll do it herself.

Who knows? Her risk might pay off!

11) She keeps on flirting with you…

Okay, so your relationship is done. But, for some unknown reason, she continues to flirt with you – just like the way she did before.

Now, she’s probably doing this because she misses you and she wants you back.

I mean, it worked for you the first time – so why wouldn’t it be effective this time?

12) …or booty-calling you

Your relationship (or situationship, for that matter) may not be the only thing she misses. She’s missing your body too, that’s why she’s booty-calling you.

Now, this doesn’t always mean that she wants to get back with you. She probably just wants to have fun, just as Cyndi Lauper used to sing.

That being said, there’s no denying that she may also be using her steamy invitation as a way to get back to you.

As this is tricky terrain, I only have this to say: be careful for sex always complicates things.

13) She’s hooked to your social media accounts

Say this girl has been radio silent on social media for weeks/months. Then, all of a sudden, she started bombing your social media accounts with likes, comments, and DMs.

See, it’s not always because she’s over you.

Based on my experience, (yes, I am guilty as charged), it’s because she misses you and she wants to re-establish a connection with you again.

Tip: your girl may be sneaky enough to stalk your social media accounts incognito style. So if you want to be 100% sure, post a story on Facebook or Instagram and check to see if she’s one of your viewers!

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14) She’s trying hard to get you jealous

Is your girl constantly posting about her new guy on social media? Well, I could only think of two good reasons why she’s doing this.

She’s either really happy about him, or she’s just doing it because she really misses you.

Let me explain.

She’s trying to evoke a response from you, and hopefully, it’s one of jealousy. In her mind, this green-eyed monster will motivate you enough to get her back.

Now I know it’s sneaky, but it sometimes works.

And, in case it doesn’t, it may be a risk that she’s willing to take. As relationship psychologist Mariana Bockarova, Ph.D., explains it:

“The issue with posting in a negatively-motivated way is that if the person you are hoping to impress doesn’t respond in the way you hope, it will only bring on an avalanche of negative effects.”

15) She keeps on rebounding…

It doesn’t matter if you were together officially or not. If she keeps on combing through one guy after another, then it’s a sign that she probably misses you.

She just doesn’t want to be forthcoming about it.

As Samantha Joel, Ph.D. has explained in her Psychology Today article: “Rebound relationships can often help people stop missing their exes.”

That’s because “when a person starts dating someone new, their success in having found another appealing person to date can help them feel better about their romantic prospects. This can make people feel less dependent on their exes for meeting their emotional needs—a key step to getting over past relationships.”

Her rebounding tendencies also tie up nicely with the reason I’ve just mentioned: she misses you, and she’s ‘telling’ this by making you jealous.

16)…or she flat-out refuses to date anyone

Not all girls would go around town and go through guys like candy. Some would rather wait for the person she wants, and this may be the case for your girl.

She misses you so much, and she’d rather be alone than go out with someone else.

That being said, she may also be taking this opportunity to improve herself. Perhaps you broke up because of some of her ‘bad’ ways.

As such, she’s taking a sabbatical from the dating scene to come out with a better version of herself.

If you ask me, this proves that she’s a real keeper!

17) She’s always picking a fight

You’ve broken up and drifted apart. There’s no reason for her to pick up a fight with you, right?


While it seems counterintuitive, it may be one of her ways to show you that she misses you. It gets your attention, and although your response towards her may be negative, it’s still attention.

Explains the experts from Harley Therapy Counseling:

“It might be that you deeply crave real connection, attention, and intimacy, but don’t know how to get it in healthy ways. Fighting and its aftermath might be the only way you know to create that close feeling.”

18) She keeps in touch with your family and friends

Unless this girl is terribly close to your family and friends, her desire to keep in touch with them, for me, is a sign that she misses you.

I mean, it’s a way for her to get some news about you. And, if I’m being honest, I’ve done this too when I learned on social media that my ex was dating someone new.

Now I got the inside scoop alright, but it just ended up breaking my heart into two. Through them, I confirmed that he was indeed going out with someone else.

So if she’s willing to take the risk that I did, I could safely say that she’s truly missing you.

19) Her family and friends are reaching out to you

Again, this isn’t a big deal if you’re fairly close to them. But if they’re reaching out to you – despite barely speaking to them – then it’s obvious that she’s missing you.

Perhaps, she’s been telling them how much you mean to her, and they can’t help but feel bad for her.

On the other hand, maybe she’s asking them to reach out to you.

We girls often tend to be sneaky, you know. We’ll do anything to NOT outright tell you we miss you – and that includes asking for the help of our family and friends along the way.

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What to do

Now that you know the signs that she’s missing you, what are you gonna do about it?

If you’re wondering where to start, then here are the things I suggest you do:

1) Ask yourself: do you miss her too?

It’s pretty obvious that she misses you a lot. The question is: do you miss her too? Or are you just being carried away by her grand gestures of affection?

And, if you think that what’s happening to you is the latter, then I suggest you talk to the expert coaches over at Relationship Hero before doing anything.

You don’t want to be caught up doing something you don’t really want in the first place.

Best of all, you don’t have to wait for long to get expert insight. This is just one of the reasons why I keep coming back to Relationship Hero!

On this site, you can get in touch with a coach right away. It’s great, especially because issues like this need to be solved promptly.

So if you’re on the fence about missing her – and wondering what to do next – then make sure to talk to a relationship coach ASAP.

Click here to get started.

2) Decide on what you want to happen

Now that you’ve answered the question I posed above, it’s time for you to reflect on what you want to happen.

Do you want to get back to her?

Or do you need more time to ‘fix’ yourself?

You have to decide before you proceed with the next step. Again, a coach at Relationship Hero can help you out with this.

3) Tell her what you really feel

If you miss her just as well, then go ahead and tell her. It’s the only way you could work things out, you know?

And, if you’re feeling the opposite, then you might as well tell her this too. The truth shall set you – and her – free.

You don’t want to give her false hope, especially now that you’ve decided that you want to keep things the way they are.

Final thoughts

Actions always speak louder than words.

Although your girl may not verbally admit it, she may be consciously – or unconsciously – showing you that she’s missing you.

The question here is what are you going to do about it?

Whether you want to reconcile with her – or not – I suggest you follow the tips I’ve outlined above. She deserves the truth, you know!

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Raychel Ria Agramon

I'm Raye, a nurse licensed in both the Philippines and the US. I also have a Master's degree in Public Management. Just like helping my patients, I like to empower & motivate readers with research-backed articles.

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