What is it with your exes? They always try to get your attention.
But what are the signs that tell you they are trying to do that?
To help you figure out if they’re trying to get your attention here are a few obvious signs.
Let’s start digging, shall we?
1) They start following all your social media accounts.
If your ex is a total social media junkie, following you on all your accounts might be a sign that they want to get in touch with you.
If they’re showing interest in your life via social media, chances are, they want to keep it that way.
They may want to check up on you and your life on a regular basis (e.g., your pictures and posts), then it might mean that they have started missing you.
2) Your ex shows up wherever you are.
Isn’t it nice when your ex just happens to be at the same place you’re at?
It’s okay if they keep showing up in your life, but don’t worry, it doesn’t mean that they want you back.
They have a right to be wherever you are.
But if they keep showing up wherever you are, then it’s time to ask yourself – why are they doing this?
Is there something going on here?
If everything is okay with them, perhaps those signs could become pretty obvious that they want your attention.
3) They start messaging you.
If your ex starts messaging you on social media, this obviously a sign that they want to get in touch with you.
Remember, they have a right to message you whenever they want.
But if they start messaging you on those platforms then it’s time to be cautious.
If they suddenly want to message you, then it might be a sign that they miss you and want to get in touch with you.
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4) They start posting things that relate to you.
When your ex posts about you, it might mean that they want to get your attention.
And when they do it on a public forum like social media, chances are, it does not mean that they want to hide anything.
It could be a prime sign that they want you back!
Maybe they post a new song from the album you loved.
Or maybe they mention something that reminds them of you.
But be careful – if it’s very obvious and the subject is related to you, there could be a reason why they are writing about you.
If they’re doing it on social media, chances are, their intention is clear – to get your attention.
5)They constantly mention your name with their friends.
You never really know what your ex is thinking or feeling, right?
If one of your friends comes to you and tells you that your ex is constantly talking about you, then this could also be a sign that they want to get in touch with you.
Sometimes they may start mentioning your name with their friends.
They might even start complaining about you to other people.
What can you do about it?
You don’t need to worry about it! Keep the communication lines open and remain friendly and positive at all times.
6) They share posts about heartbreak.
They might share posts about heartbreak.
Both of these words can signify a different meaning.
Maybe they’re still trying to get your attention or they’re really hurt?
High chances that if they are sharing posts about heartbreak, then it’s not just a simple post to them.
They may want you to know that they’re still hurting from the breakup.
Their feelings might be strong enough for them to share their feelings with the world via social media!
7)They reply to your stories.
If your ex is replying to your stories on Facebook, it might be a sign that they want to your attention.
They’re acting very obvious by asking questions about how you are doing.
If they don’t have anything important to say, then it’s okay.
But if they’re replying and it has something to do with you, then it’s obvious that they want to talk to you again (posting stuff related to you can be a sign of missing someone).
If they want to take the conversation further, then probably they want to talk to you in person!
Try replying back if you want a conversation and see what happens.
8) Your ex is “accidentally” calling you when they are drunk.
It might be a fun story to tell your friends, but if they’re calling you when they are drunk (and it’s obvious that they are), it might mean that something else is going on.
This might be a sign that they want to talk to you and if the situation is difficult it’s nice that they reach out.
If your ex is drunk, then it might just be an innocent move.
But if they’re trying to get in touch with you, then this sign will become pretty obvious.
9) They follow up on all the places you go to together.
Your ex keeps coming to the places that you went together.
This might be a sign that they want to get in touch with you.
Again, this doesn’t mean that they want you back.
But obviously, they want to see you.
If your ex starts following up on all the places that you went together, then this could be a pretty obvious sign that they want your attention.
10) They always seem to be around when you’re out with friends.
This is a sign that they want to get in touch with you and also it could be as a result of them being jealous of you.
They always seem to be around when you’re out.
Maybe they want to keep tabs on you and check up on how your life is going.
The other people who are with you might not care, but if your ex keeps showing up at the party, maybe they want to get in touch with you and secretly watch your interaction.
So be careful!
Don’t let them see how close they are to getting back in contact with your life if they want to return.
This way, it won’t be possible for them to do so.
11) You keep running into them by accident.
If they are following you around without your knowledge (and without following up), then this could be a sign that they are trying to get your attention.
This is bound to make you uncomfortable.
If you keep running into them by accident, don’t panic, it could be a sign that they want to get back in touch with you.
They might just want to get in touch with you and ask how life is going in a natural way.
12) They are trying to make funny jokes about your relationship.
Another obvious sign that they want to get in touch with you is if they make a joke about you and your relationship or try to make you feel bad.
This might be done either to get your attention or as an act of retaliation. It can vary from person to person.
13) They are still sending mixed messages about their feelings towards you.
Your ex is still sending mixed messages about their feelings towards you.
Do they want to get in touch with you?
Or are they trying to get your attention?
If they’re trying to get your attention, then it might be difficult and it might take some time before they decide what they want.
You might have to be patient.
Obviously, they might still not want to get back in touch with you.
So it’s up to you if you want to try and contact them again.
14) They are asking about your new partner.
If your ex is asking about your new partner then this might be a sign that they want you to notice them.
It could be that they want to know if you’re currently dating.
I know this sounds weird, but if they are constantly asking about your new partner, then this could be a big sign that they want your attention.
They might not want to get back in touch with you but maybe they’re still interested in you.
Or it could be that they’re just curious to find out what happened and how your life is going?
15) They are acting jealousy over other people talking to you.
Well, it’s true.
If your ex keeps trying to talk to you about things that you were doing and then secretly follows it up with “I’m jealous of what you are doing with other people”, then it might just be a sign that they want to get back in touch with you.
They might be feeling very hurt and jealous of you being happy with other people.
Your ex is just trying to make sure that they get your attention!
So, what should you do?
You shouldn’t immediately return their messages.
Someone that is trying to get your attention probably won’t give up easily, but it’s crucial for you to stay a little cautious about everything.
If you choose to respond, then it might be a good idea to take things slowly and not rush things.
Make them earn your trust back again.
But if they are not trying to get your attention but still sending messages, then this can also be a sign that they want you in their life.
It could be some kind of reminder or maybe they just want to see how your life is going these days?
It all depends on the situation.
But if they are sending messages and you want to get back in touch with them, then it’s important for you to not rush things.
Take your time and be careful about what you say!
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There are many signs that your ex might send, but it’s important for you to get a general idea of what they mean.
It’s true that sometimes, the signs are very obvious and other times less so.
But if you take things slowly, it might be a good idea for both of you to get back in touch with each other!
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