20 definite signs you are an attractive guy (more than you think!)

There are so many meters by which you can measure attractiveness, so how can you know you’re an attractive guy?

Well, there are 20 signs you can definitely look out for that will give you an idea of where you stand on that scale!

1) People look up when you walk past them

When you walk past people, do they look up?

If so, it could be because in their minds you are a good-looking guy!

It doesn’t have anything to do with how tall you are.

It’s about the way you carry yourself and your confidence level.

You can tell whether or not someone finds you attractive by the way they react to your presence.

So: if you notice that people look at you or look up when you walk past them, that’s a big indicator that you’re attractive.

2) You don’t get tons of compliments

Many people think that if you’re not getting lots of compliments from the opposite sex, then that’s a sign you are probably not that attractive.

The reason for this is simple: in order to be truly attractive, you have to have some underlying qualities which are presentable and appealing, right?

Well no, because sometimes people are intimidated by the most attractive people and don’t compliment them as much as mediocre-looking guys!

So while compliments can be a good indicator of attractiveness, there are other variables at play as well.

Trust me, some of my most attractive friends aren’t doing so well when it comes to compliments, and it’s a huge surprise for anyone else to hear that.

This brings me to my next point:

3) Going a few months without dating or seeing anyone is a lot for you

You’re an attractive guy, so you’re not going to be single for long if you don’t want to be.

A huge sign that you are actually very attractive is when a few months without a partner of any kind is a lot for you.

You see, unattractive people can go months or even years without dating anyone, and it’s not on purpose!

So, if that sounds crazy to you, you’re most probably attractive.

4) People are surprised when you tell them about an insecurity

Do you have an insecurity?

There’s no shame in having insecurities – we all have them!

But what people don’t expect is when you tell them about it, they’re surprised and they ask “don’t you know you’re handsome?”

It’s actually very common for people to think that attractive guys are full of themselves, or even have a huge ego. (Spoiler: They don’t!)

If people are often shocked when you mention your insecurities is a huge giveaway that you are more attractive than you think!


Because people usually equate attractiveness with confidence, so when you reveal an insecurity, it challenges their perception.

And here’s the thing: no amount of good looks can fill the void of self-doubt.

However, they’re likely to be conditioned by social norms that tell us attractive people should be confident and self-assured at all times.

That’s why I believe this inspiring course called Out of the Box might interest you.

Developed by the world-recognized Rudá Iandê, this program aims to break through these societal norms and expectations.

If you accept your insecurities and know that they can be a part of our everyday lives, I’m sure that you’re already on your way of thinking out of the box. So, why don’t you break down all the stereotypes and learn subtle techniques for embracing who you really are?

Give it a try and see for yourself how it transforms the way you perceive yourself—and how the world perceives you.

Here’s the link to the masterclass.

5) Women (or men) try to impress you

This is the biggest sign that you are attractive: people are trying to impress you.

You can feel confident in yourself when you know that others want to impress you with their own abilities and good points.

If a woman is trying to impress you, she will be doing everything she possibly can to try and catch your eye.

This includes dressing up, being more active on social media, and making sure her hair looks perfect.

The same goes for men as well!

You see, when we’re around attractive people, we subconsciously try to impress them, it’s a human thing.

6) People tried to pick on you a lot (because they are jealous)

pexels keira burton 6147229 20 definite signs you are an attractive guy (more than you think!)

This is one of the weirdest signs that you are an attractive guy!

Everyone is jealous of your good looks, so they might try to “even the scales” by bringing you down or picking on you.

I know, this one might sound weird, but it’s true!

Especially when the people picking on you are always less attractive.

7) Your exes can’t seem to move on

One way to tell that you are a hot commodity is if your exes can’t seem to get over you.

No matter how much time goes by, they come running back. You’re always the one being pursued, not the pursuer.

You might notice an ex texting you months or even years later, checking up on you.

This is because they can’t get you out of their mind and the reason for that is often your attractiveness.

8) You are independent and self-sufficient

If you are independent and self-sufficient, you have one of the many attractive qualities that a lot of women find appealing.

It’s attractive to have an ambitious person who can handle their own things.

It shows a level of independence and maturity that is not always seen in other men.

Women like that they can rely on you for any task at hand, and they know they’ll never have to worry about anything when it comes to you being able to get things done.

If you can take care of yourself you’re much more likely to attract the right type of woman for you.

However, even the most self-sufficient among us can face challenges in relationships.

Perhaps you find yourself disconnected from your partner more often than not. Maybe the arguments are frequent, or you sense a growing gap of misunderstanding between you two.

This could be a symptom of underlying issues that need to be addressed, issues that your independent nature can’t resolve alone.

That’s why I want to suggest this Self-Love quiz from the famous shaman Ruda Iandé.

Designed to pinpoint the root causes of your relationship struggles, this quiz offers tailored advice to get your love life back on track.

While it’s fantastic that you feel self-sufficient, it’s also essential to periodically check in on your own well-being.

So, try this free quiz and find out how well you’re doing in that department.

Take the Self-love Quiz right now.

9) You’re an optimistic guy

A good sign that someone is an attractive guy is that they’re generally optimistic.

They have a brighter outlook on life and are always looking for the best of things to come.

An attractive guy recognizes their strengths and weaknesses but chooses to focus on the positives.

A high level of optimism will help make you more attractive because you’ll always be upbeat and ready to take on life’s challenges!

10) You have high standards

Another sign you are more attractive than you think is when you have very high standards.

A woman will generally want someone who has high standards, and if you’re an attractive guy, then your standards will most likely be very high as well!

You see, unattractive people often don’t have very high standards, so if you don’t just settle for anyone, you might be more attractive than you’d think.

11) You don’t let other people bring you down

If someone is trying to bring you down, it’s a sign that they’re jealous of what you have.

You know how to use your strengths and weaknesses to your advantage, but still stay grounded in reality.

Believe it or not, this is a huge sign that you are more attractive than you think!

People who aren’t attractive often lack the necessary self-respect to stand up to other people who try to bring them down.

12) You don’t care what others think

If someone cares too much about what others think, it can be a sign that they are not attractive in the first place!

If someone doesn’t care about what others think of them it shows that they have confidence in themselves and their own abilities.

Oftentimes, attractive people don’t care too much about the opinions of other people.

But to be honest, this sign is not always accurate.

Sometimes, the most beautiful people have the biggest insecurities and issues, so take this with a grain of salt.

13) You’re approachable and friendly

The next sign that you are very attractive is when you have the ability to be approachable and friendly with others.

This is a sign that you are an attractive guy because women like that they can approach you, and you’ll be more likely to approach them.

When someone is very attractive, it shows that they can open up to other people.

It’s much easier to get along with people when they are attractive, so if you’re not very attractive, this will be difficult for you.

14) You take care of your appearance

pexels shvets production 8036461 20 definite signs you are an attractive guy (more than you think!)

Attractive people all have one thing in common: they take care of their appearance.

By that, I don’t mean that you spend hours in the bathroom each day, but you always make sure to take care of the necessities:

  • you’re showered
  • your teeth are brushed
  • your hair is cut
  • your beard is trimmed
  • you wear clothes that fit you well

Basically, you look clean.

I know, this sounds weird, but when you think about it, the most attractive people that spring to mind all have that very clean look in common.

15) You’re intelligent and not afraid to show it

Intelligence is insanely attractive. So: if you know you’re intelligent and you’re not afraid to show it, you are probably more attractive than you think.

But be careful not to become a know-it-all.

If you brag about your intelligence you’ll come off as arrogant and that can turn women off.

But if you’re intelligent but not arrogant, you’ll come off as confident and that’s a very attractive trait.

You see, women don’t want to feel stupid around you, but they want you to stimulate their brains.

So, don’t talk down to them or fall into the trap of mansplaining, and instead just be genuinely nice.

16) You’re not a drama queen

Believe it or not, guys can be huge drama queens, too.

And if that’s not enough, this is usually a quality that turns a lot of women off.

Simply put, if you’re not a drama queen, you’re most likely more attractive than you’d think!

Do you mind your own business and gossip is none of your concerns? You’re definitely on the right track!

17) Your health is important to you

Another sign that you are an attractive guy is when your health is important to you.

It’s actually pretty easy to tell if someone is attractive or not, just by looking at them.

It’s no secret that healthy guys tend to be more attractive.

And after all, isn’t health one of the most important things in life?

But that doesn’t mean you need to have chiseled abs and biceps bigger than your head.

If you take care of your general health, that will reflect in your hair, eyes, nails, and general look.

Do you want to improve your health? Start with the basics:

  • drink more water
  • eat nutritious food
  • move your body
  • get enough sleep
  • get fresh air

18) You have a very open mind

Personality plays a pretty huge factor when it comes to attractiveness.

One thing that gives away that you are more attractive than you think is when you have a very open mind.

You don’t have to agree with everything, but you should be willing to listen to other people’s opinions.

This is the mark of an attractive guy!

On that note, you also shouldn’t be afraid of voicing your opinions!

19) You’re not afraid of expressing your emotions

It’s true: many guys are afraid of showing their emotions and they usually keep it all inside.

This is a total turn-off for women, who prefer men who are not afraid to show their feelings.

If you’ve got a lot of emotional intelligence, you’ll be able to read the signs of other people.

And if you’re able to handle your own emotions without being too emotional, that will give off a very attractive vibe!

20) You are ambitious and have many goals

Sometimes, women find men attractive without knowing why. Often this has to do with the energy these guys are giving off.

Do you want to know which quality most women find attractive? Ambition and having goals.

It’s just part of human nature that these traits are attractive, so if you are a man who is constantly striving for new goals and ambitions, chances are you are more attractive than you think!

It’s less complicated than you think

In the end, attractiveness is less about how you look and more about your inner job.

You see, women can be attracted to a guy who is the opposite of conventionally handsome, simply because of his qualities and the way he carries himself.

So, even if you think you aren’t handsome, there is a good chance that you are still insanely attractive.

Still, if you’re looking for ways to enhance that inner attractiveness, the Out of the Box program could be just what you need.

Tailored to break down societal norms and help you embrace your authentic self, this program is the key to unlocking a kind of attractiveness that goes beyond the surface.

Trust me, the insights you’ll gain can transform not just how you see yourself, but also how others see you.

You might just discover that you’re a lot more attractive than you ever gave yourself credit for.

Go ahead and check out the Out of the Box video. You might just discover that you’re a lot more attractive than you ever gave yourself credit for.

Click here to watch the video.

Anna Scheucher

Anna Scheucher

Freelance writer specializing in holistic health, wellness, and psychology. Check out my blog to find out more https://www.fullyholistic.com/!

Enhance your experience of Ideapod and join Tribe, our community of free thinkers and seekers.

Related articles

Most read articles

Get our articles

Ideapod news, articles, and resources, sent straight to your inbox every month.