Women who make amazing moms often have these 10 special personality traits

There are so many kinds of mothers in the world. There’s the stay-at-home mom, the career mom, the PTA mom, the intellectual mom, the hippie mom…

But it would be a disservice to box them into these categories. Because the truth is, moms contain multitudes. 

How else can they juggle all their tasks at once, solve their kids’ crises, and make everyone feel loved at the same time? 

No doubt – mothers have special personality traits that make them seem like real-life superheroes. 

No matter what their shape, size, and style is, here are 10 traits of women who make amazing moms: 

1) Patience

Let’s start with the obvious – patience. Women who make amazing moms have oodles and oodles of it! 

You just can’t handle a toddler tantrum or a four-year-old’s endless questions or teenage attitude without it.

Not to mention all the stress that comes with juggling their job, school and after-school schedules, and everything else related to parenting. 

In every stage of child development, mothers (and parents in general) need to be patient. Patience is also what allows them to be…

2) Empathetic

Patient and empathetic women have what it takes to be a good mom because these two traits help them to listen to and understand their children instead of just imposing rules on them. 

This makes a huge impact on kids’ self-esteem. Because they feel seen, heard, and understood, they develop confidence and a healthy sense of self-worth. 

According to research, parental empathy is strongly associated with childhood attachment security and emotional openness. 

Empathetic mothers make their kids feel safe enough to explore their emotions. This sets them up to become emotionally intelligent adults someday

3) Loving 

Women who make amazing moms kind of have the whole package of the 5 love languages. They: 

  • Give their kids words of affirmation and encouragement
  • Are generous with the hugs and kisses
  • Make sure their needs are taken care of
  • Spend quality time with their kids
  • Give gifts their kids will love

Amazing, right? 

My grandma was this type of person. She was the patient customer at my pretend restaurant/salon/grocery store. She always brought me home a little something whenever she went out – a cupcake or my favorite gummy worms. 

And when I became an angsty teenager, she was right there with the bear hugs and a listening ear. 

I’ve always felt so lucky to have grown up with her. She made me feel so loved and cared for, no matter how awful or difficult I sometimes was as a kid. 

4) Good role model

All of those traits above (and more!) are what make great moms the best role models, too. 

Let’s face it – we all have the best intentions when it comes to parenting, but how often do we break our own rules? 

I’m guilty of staying up late to binge-watch right after I’ve taken away my kids’ devices and told them to be in bed by 9pm. 

This doesn’t make me (or moms like me) a terrible mother, just that I’m guilty of not always practicing what I preach. 

But women who make amazing moms find it much easier to walk the talk. They know the importance of consistency. They are the perfect example for their kids not just in what they say, but in what they do. Every single day.

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5) Good boundary-setter

Speaking of consistency, women who make amazing moms have also nailed the tricky art of boundary-setting. 

When it comes to parenting, boundaries are crucial. They are what give children a sense of structure, limits, and stability. 

Of course, kids don’t really grasp that, so they’d often push back against those rules. 

But good moms take the time to explain why these rules are important. And as I mentioned earlier, they’re consistent. You won’t find them allowing phones at dinner one night, and banning them the next. 

That said, they’re also quite flexible when it’s necessary…

6) Flexible

Like I said, boundaries (and parenting) are tricky. You’ve got to know when to hold firm and when to adjust. 

You see, kids do need limits. But they also need grace. 

They need parents who will understand that not every situation calls for a hard line. Sometimes, what they really need is a listening ear and a hug.

As a mom, I can tell you that it’s really hard to get this balance right at first. But the more engaged you are as a parent, the more you’ll know your child. And the better you can gauge what they need. 

You’ll be able to sense if your child needs some reeling in or more room to grow and learn. 

It’s called mother’s instinct, and it’s quite powerful! 

7) Supportive without being too strict or enabling

Ah, another tricky situation. 

I was an early childhood teacher for a long time, so long that I think I’ve seen all kinds of parenting styles. 

There’s the helicopter mom who hovers over their child and tries to commandeer every detail. There’s the overly indulgent mom who wants to give her child everything in life, to the point that they find it hard to set limits. 

Now, both types come from a place of love, but finding the middle ground is absolutely, 100% crucial. 

The best moms manage to strike a perfect balance. They’re there to support their kids, but they also know the importance of letting them try things on their own. 

This balanced parenting approach – not just according to me, but according to research as well – helps children develop confidence, resilience, and independence.

Which brings me to my next point…

8) Authoritative

Notice that I said “authoritative”, not “authoritarian”. There’s a difference between the two. 

Authoritarian moms are…well, I wouldn’t say dictators, but that’s kind of how it goes in their homes. Their word stands, and their authority can’t ever be questioned. 

And if the child does, they’ll probably just hear this: “Just do what I say. Because I said so, that’s why!” 

In contrast, authoritative mothers have a balanced parenting style. They offer a lot of unconditional love and support, but they set sensible limits. Those limits are well-explained so that the child understands why they are necessary.

The goal is to raise children who are respectful, independent, and who make wise choices on their own.  

9) Respectful 

Comparing those two styles above, you can see how one takes a much more respectful view of the child, right? 

Women who make amazing moms see their kids not as property or projects to manage but as individual human beings with their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences. 

This is super important because it’s the foundation for building healthy self-esteem and a strong sense of identity in kids. 

When you’re given the space to express yourself at home, you grow up knowing you matter. It’s that simple. 

10) Balanced

We’ve talked about balance in terms of parenting earlier, but this time, I’d like to talk about inner balance. 

Women who excel at taking care of their family understand this one simple truth – that to give to others, they first need to be full themselves. 

They have the self-awareness to know when they’re stretched too thin and need a break. They find ways to stay in touch with who they are as a person – not just as somebody’s mom. 

I say this because I’ve seen one too many moms running on empty. And moms whose whole identity revolves around their children. 

And while it’s admirable how much they’ve sacrificed, it’s just not healthy nor sustainable. 

Kids benefit from seeing their mom as a whole person, with interests and needs separate from theirs. 

For example, seeing my mom live a full life and enjoy a thriving career taught me about independence, individuality, and the importance of self-care. 

So, if you’re a mom feeling overwhelmed by the job, know that it’s okay to take time for yourself. You need it to be the best mom possible for your kids. 

Roselle Umlas

Roselle Umlas

I am a freelance writer with a lifelong interest in helping people become more reflective and self-aware so that they can communicate better and enjoy meaningful relationships.

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