Women who command respect without saying a word usually display these 10 traits

A woman who effortlessly commands respect has this certain energy about her.

It’s difficult to explain in words but it’s something that is evident to all who have seen them.

They’re not necessarily loud and flashy but they do bring about a force that’s difficult to ignore.

When they’re there, you will know.

And while I did say it’s difficult to explain, I will still try my hardest to break it down for you. 

So whether you wish to be one or you’re determining if someone you know is one, read on. 

Here are 11 traits displayed by women who command respect without saying a word. 

1) She is assertive but not aggressive

A woman who commands respect is assertive, but not aggressive. 

Assertive but not aggressive? Is that possible? Of course!

It’s succinctly put into words by Psych Central, “Some people may believe being assertive is equivalent to being rude. However, expressing your opinions and needs clearly isn’t the same as lacking manners.”

Often, being assertive is equated to being rude, but that’s already toeing the line of aggression.

Staying respectful in moments when you need to stand up for yourself and what you believe in is a must for assertiveness.

This isn’t easy, though, and I can’t fault anyone who loses their composure in these moments.

For women who command respect without saying a word, though, they’re used to it. They’ve had their practice. 

2) She is empathetic

“What’s empathy got to do with respect?”

A lot, actually. They’re symbiotic, too, as they’re necessary to establish each other. “Empathy” is to understand people’s feelings and emotions. “Respect” is to give due regard and importance to these feelings and emotions. 

And a woman who commands respect is a woman who empathizes.

Additionally, in leadership, there is also research done that suggests that empathy is the most important leadership skill

And it makes sense, doesn’t it? A leader who cares is a blessing. When you’re down on your luck, you’d want to be following someone who gives a damn enough to help you.  

3) She is respectful

Let me ask you this, do you automatically respect someone disrespectful? If they’re being majorly difficult, do you have it in you to stay cool, calm, and collected? 

“Respect begets respect” is something you’ve probably heard of countless of times before. And it rings particularly true for the women we’re talking about today. 

She respects people and people treat her in kind. 

4) She is consistent

A woman who wordlessly commands respect is one who shows consistency. Consistency in her manner, in her actions, in her beliefs, in her values, etc.

What she presents to the world is who she is, no facades, no pretenses. And it will show in the consistent way she shows up. 

And she will show up because she is reliable and people respect that about her.

5) She is confident

A confident woman Women who command respect without saying a word usually display these 10 traits

“People with healthy self-confidence have a positive self-image and assertiveness. They have a strong sense of both their strengths and areas for improvement. But instead of letting these perceived weaknesses foment insecurity, they reach out for support. Confident leaders inspire trust in their team members and can receive constructive feedback without getting defensive. Their self-awareness as leaders actually gives them a sense of inner calm.” – Allaya Cooks-Campbell | The subtle, but important, difference between confidence and arrogance

This might already be a given but a woman who commands respect without saying a word is a confident woman. 

Whether she is quiet or loud, whether she is outgoing or reserved, whether she is in a position of power or not, she is confident on where she stands. 

She doesn’t change to fit anyone’s cookie-cutter opinion of who she should be.

She is effortlessly herself and confident in her own skin

6) She is unafraid to say no

“Societal messages often shame and guilt us into saying “Yes” when we mean “No,” teaching us to focus on and take care of others rather than ourselves. But learning to say “No,” is a critical part of health emotional development.” – Adena Bank Lees, LCSW | “No” Is a Complete Sentence

“No” can be an uncomfortable word to say and receive, not for her though.

A woman who commands respect wordlessly is a woman who is not afraid to say no. 

She is not afraid to set boundaries and call out anyone who oversteps these. She will tell you, she will let you know. 

7) She is self-aware

“I’m not going to limit myself just because people won’t accept the fact that I can do something else.” – Dolly Parton

To disregard other people’s opinions of you is not an easy thing to do. (I know, I’ve tried.) And yet a woman who wordlessly commands respect has learned how to, perhaps even by necessity. 

She has become self-aware—her capabilities, her strengths, her weaknesses, her limitations, her potential, etc.

This knowledge she holds of herself allows her to navigate the world with fewer hesitations (if any remains at all).

And the world sees that. 

8) She is accountable

“People value those that hold themselves to account.  They take responsibility for their actions. They ‘fess up’ to the impact of their words and behaviours.  They own up to the good and the bad.  We trust these people because we know they are honest and act with integrity. When people shirk their responsibilities, ignore what they should be accountable for or even blame others, we distrust them.” -Georgia Murch (GAICD) | Accountability breeds respect. A lack of it, contempt.

On a personal note, I have a huge admiration for people who are accountable for themselves. Those who find it easy to apologize when they’re at fault. 

Those who admit their faults. Those who take their responsibilities seriously. Those who hold themselves to the same standards that they impose on others. 

It’s difficult for me not to find them impressive and I’m certain that I’m not the only one. 

9) She is supportive of other women

“To be able to create opportunities where women are telling their stories in their own words, you’re just getting a better perspective of the human experience.” – Reese Witherspoon

“More and more women are realizing that only collective strength and action will allow us to be free to fight for the kind of society that meets basic human needs.” – Roxanne Dunbar

Women supporting women? Powerful. 

This woman is not in the business of bringing others down, much less a fellow woman. In fact, she’s in the habit of putting other women up.

She cheers other women on, speaks their names in places of opportunity, and backs them up wherever necessary. 

10) She makes herself known

“If they don’t give you a seat at the table, bring a folding chair.” – Shirley Chisholm

“They’ll tell you you’re too loud, that you need to wait your turn and ask the right people for permission. Do it anyway.” – Alexandria Ocasio Cortez

A woman who commands respect without a word is a woman who has learned how to make herself known. There is not a room that can make her feel small. 

She takes up space, she asserts her right to be there. Heck, a seat at the table is inconsequential when she’s out here building her own damn tables. 

She doesn’t wait to be acknowledged, she doesn’t wait for permission to be brilliant. She is here AND you will know of it. 

Final thoughts

If there’s one thing you take from this, let it be this one: This could be you. 

The woman I’m painting is a woman of potential, and you have that, too. Should you wish it, you can work your way into this power. 

And yes, this is a certain kind of power, one that can’t be taken so easily from you. 

And you are capable of owning it.

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Michelle Marie Manese

M Manese is a part-time creative writer, illustrator, and full-time fangirl hoping to find her way within the Content space. She makes art here: @michellemmanese

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