Many people worry about whether or not they will ever get married.
But the truth is that even the most insecure people will eventually find someone and have a family, barring any sudden life-threatening events.
If you’re ever worried that you will never find someone and have kids, here are 21 big signs that you should take a look at to help put your mind at ease.
1) You’re comfortable with the commitment
Before you can find marriage and family life, it’s important to be able to make a commitment.
Not everyone is the same.
But the vast majority of people aren’t ready to take on the responsibilities of a long-term relationship and family life until they are in their late 20s or older.
If you’re unsure about when to commit, this means that you may want to hold off on starting a family until you feel like the time is right.
So if you’re feeling a bit leery about committing to your partner, don’t worry.
All that’s saying is that you may need to take things more slowly than someone who feels like they’re in their 20s again.
2) You want to have kids
Have you ever found yourself daydreaming about how many kids you want?
Do you ever find yourself talking about what you would name your future children?
Do you feel connected to children, and do you see yourself as a loving parent?
If the answer is yes, then it’s likely that you will have a family at some point in your life.
The only time that people go against their “biological clock” is when they feel strongly against having children or when they really don’t have a desire to become parents.
Although some people change their minds later on in life, so many people are starting families later on than ever before.
It’s no big surprise that so many people have children once they turn 30.
If this sounds like you and if this feels right to be wanting, then congratulations!
It’s very likely a big sign that you will get married sometime down the road.
3) You start making long-term financial plans
Another sign that you’ll get married is when you start to make long-term financial plans.
You could be saving up for an engagement ring or a wedding.
Or, you could be saving up for your honeymoon or your first down payment on a home together.
And imagine this:
What happens if you fall in love with a guy who doesn’t make enough, but you can’t stand the idea of getting married?
All that this is saying is that you need to start thinking about how to handle your finances.
It’s important to have a long-term goal and the confidence that you will reach it long before it comes crumbling down around you.
4) You start the marriage talk
Does this sound like you?
You start becoming more open about the idea of starting a family, and you start imagining all of the kids that you want to have.
You start talking about marriage, saving for a wedding, and even starting to imagine how you would decorate your apartment.
If you’re feeling this way, then congratulations!
You’ve started the marriage talk.
And once you do, it’s okay to feel confident that at least part of your future is mapped out.
Don’t be afraid to dream about taking the next step or thinking about the new life that you are creating.
But also keep in mind to not get too ahead of yourself. You’re still a long way from taking that next step.
Think about how you will keep your finances secure and insured if you have children.
They don’t always need to be planned for or planned for so soon.
But it’s best to have at least a little advice on how to get started, especially if they are going to be your number one priority.
5) You learn to compromise
Most relationships go through ups and downs.
But over time, the two people involved grow together and learn how to compromise with one another in healthy ways.
So what does all this mean?
You are learning to let someone else’s needs (or wants) come first, sometimes even before your own.
This is a very big step for many couples to take and one that requires a lot of trust on behalf of both parties in the relationship.
And it’s the start of a powerful partnership and leads to getting married.
Also, there will be times when you feel like you are letting yourself be taken advantage of and that your partner is being selfish.
But remember:
This is just the way things are going to be for now and the key to making it work is for you to remain an equal part of the relationship.
6) You’re super specific about who you date
A good relationship will have a common tie and these ties can be as simple as sports teams or political views.
But if you and your partner have picked one or two special interests, then it’s likely that other commonalities will form as well.
So, what does it mean when you’re super specific about who you date?
It’s not exactly a sign that you’ll get married.
But it’s a sure sign that your feelings and emotions are growing stronger, and that you really want something to work with your partner.
So don’t be scared to be picky when it comes to dating.
You deserve the best and someone who makes you feel like yourself.
7) You have a solid support system
One of the best signs that you’ll get married is when you have a solid support system.
It’s kind of like having a safety net to fall back on if your relationship goes through some rough patches.
So this means that if things don’t work out with your partner, you have a strong and supportive family, friend, or colleague who can help you with all the ups and downs of dating and relationships in general.
In fact, it’s best to have both your family and friends be involved in your relationship when possible.
And if you’re having trouble connecting with your friends or family members, don’t forget about online support groups on social media platforms.
There is an entire community of people out there who are living through similar experiences and are willing to offer advice and support if you need it.
8) You haven’t had a string of failed relationships
This is a great sign that you’ll be married within a few years.
It means that you are learning from your past relationships and really making an effort to apply those lessons in your current romantic relationship.
Sure, there will always be moments where things feel hard or you feel like you have made the wrong choice with your partner.
But if you’re truly open to learning from your mistakes and growing as a person, then all of the work will be worth it.
And if you’ve been through a string of failed relationships and keep making the same mistakes over and over again, then you aren’t taking advantage of this sign and you’re missing out on your opportunity to find love again.
9) You’ve dropped your insecurities and jealousies
Here’s the truth:
The sooner that you drop your insecurities, the better your relationship will be and it will likely end up being the one that lasts.
And this goes for both men and women!
There’s nothing worse than holding onto insecurities and letting that fear of being rejected keep you from pursuing someone who might actually be a perfect match for you.
So don’t be afraid to work on yourself and really start to let go of your jealousies towards other people.
You’ll be surprised how much better you feel about yourself and even more happy with your partner.
And the best part is that you’ll actually start seeing results in your relationship.
So try to open up and share some of those feelings of insecurity with your partner.
And if they are a good partner, they’ll be willing to listen and help you through it.
10) You have an extremely strong sense of self-identity
Whether you are dating or not, it’s important to have a good sense of who you are and where you come from.
You should be okay with who you are and shouldn’t feel the need to try and be someone else.
So if you’re in a relationship, that means that it’s one where both parties love and respect each other for who they are as individuals.
This is one of the most powerful and yet ignored signs that you’ll get married within the next few years.
So give yourself credit for who you are and don’t be scared to share all your quirks with your new (or current) partner.
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I mentioned earlier how the help of a gifted advisor can reveal the truth about what makes you happy and will help you build upon that foundation as well as whether you will get married or not.
You could analyze the signs until you reach the conclusion you’re looking for, but getting guidance from a gifted person will give you real clarity on the situation.
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11) You have a balance of work and personal life
OK, I know what you’re thinking:
This is the same thing as saying you have a solid support system.
But I see things a bit differently.
What does it mean to have a balance of work and personal life?
It means that you’re keeping work in perspective while also taking time out for yourself and also having more time to focus on your relationship goals.
Then, what does this mean for your relationship?
It means that you might be able to reach them a bit faster.
Our careers can sometimes get in the way of things like dating and building relationships.
So taking the time to make space for your relationship goals is a great opportunity to end up with lasting love.
12) You stop sleeping with strangers
I know that sounds strange.
But a lot of people have never been in a serious relationship before, so they don’t even realize that this is one of the signs you’ll get married.
And this is partly why people end up being married to people who aren’t really right for them.
Now, that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be sleeping with your partner!
That’s not what I’m getting at.
When I say that you need to stop sleeping with strangers, I mean that you shouldn’t be hooking up with people who aren’t really in a place to commit.
Sometimes people start thinking that they are capable of having a long-lasting relationship with anyone.
But we all know that this isn’t the truth.
It’s important to be honest with yourself and realize who is suitable for whom.
And all of the red flags should help you see who is just out there because they’re good-looking and not because they are ready for a relationship.
13) You and your significant one can’t imagine living without each other
This is the ultimate sign that you’ll get married.
If you can’t even begin to imagine a future where your partner isn’t there, then you’re probably already in a committed relationship and just don’t realize it yet.
So if you find yourself constantly thinking about your significant other, then don’t be afraid to share those feelings with them.
This is a great way to build trust between both of you and open up the door for something even greater.
Some of the ways to strengthen this relationship include:
- Communicating your feelings more openly.
- Sharing more of yourself with your partner.
- And being more honest about what you want out of a relationship.
By being open and honest with each other, you will be able to build up a special bond that will help you last 50 years or more.
14) Interaction between both partners on “critical matters” happens in an open, respectful way
In a good relationship, both partners will have a strong voice on important matters.
They should be able to communicate both the positive and the negative issues openly and respectfully.
This will help both parties be fully aware of what is going on in their lives and what needs to change as well as how to move forward even when it seems impossible.
Consider what this could mean for you:
- You and your partner will be able to work together to resolve issues in the relationship.
- It can help lead to a higher level of communication and understanding since both partners are giving their input.
- You will be more confident about being able to make decisions on your own when it comes to important things.
And the feeling of being confident and secure is one of the best feelings in the world.
So if you’re able to do this within your relationship, then you’re already on the right path.
15) You trust your partner – even with the small things
When you love someone, it’s easy to get insecure about them.
And often, we try to protect ourselves by doing something on our own.
But if you’re in a solid relationship, then you have no need to be insecure or to be protective of yourself.
You should feel secure and comfortable around your partner and also trust that they will never do anything that will intentionally hurt you.
So it all adds up to this:
If you have a deep level of trust with your partner, then it will be easy to have faith in them when it comes to important things.
And the fact that you trust your partner will help make things like marriage feel like a natural progression for the both of you.
16) You have a lifelong goal for yourself and your partner
When you’re finding love, you’re probably going to be focused on being with the right person.
And this can lead to a lot of focus on yourself and your goals.
But if you have a long-term goal for yourself, then it will help keep you interested in the relationship.
It’s a lot easier to see what your partner does for you when you get something from them in return.
With an end in sight, you will have a general idea of what is going to happen.
For example:
If you want to get married and have children, then while you are engaged, you will see the benefits of being with this person when it comes to family and your goals.
And that’s the kind of thing that can really help keep your relationship alive long after everyone else has forgotten about it.
17) You’re not trying to pressure each other or rush into anything
Many people try to force their significant other into a commitment even if it doesn’t feel right.
If you get engaged to someone quickly, it can lead to resentment.
You need to be patient and let your partner make the first move if they want you.
And this is something that good couples are able to do naturally because they respect their partner’s feelings and the person they are marrying.
If you have any doubts, then consider moving on before you do something that you might regret.
Once you get over the urge to be “in a relationship,” then you’ll be able to see things more clearly and not depend on your partner to tell you when it’s time.
You will be able to make the decision on your own and realize that it feels right for both of you.
This is also a sign that you’re on the right path to a happy marriage and are ready to start your life together.
18) Your partner has made huge commitments to you
Minor commitments are easy to make and they don’t mean much.
But if your partner has really committed themselves to you, then it often means that they’re going to stick around.
It also gives you the opportunity to work together and is an extra sign that you’re in a committed relationship.
For example:
Maybe your partner has moved in with you or quit their job to help your relationship go more smoothly.
Or they may have agreed to something that they really didn’t want to agree to, just because they knew it was the right decision for them.
These kinds of commitments can help a relationship work better and help the two of you grow together.
19) There are no major roadblocks in the way of getting married
These roadblocks can include religion, finances, or kids from previous relationships.
So in case, there are no major roadblocks, then it will be easier for you to get married.
You will have more time to focus on each other and your relationship with the kids and the finances in place.
This can really help you establish your love for each other and give you a good start to your marriage.
But that’s only part of the story:
If you have to deal with a lot of obstacles during your relationship, then it’s a clear sign that you’re not ready for marriage.
You need to resolve your problems together and get your life in order.
And once you’ve done that, then you can be capable of getting married and having a life with each other where everything is smooth and easy.
20) You want to be married for a reason – not just because it’s the next logical step for you
You might want to get married because you want to be in a solid relationship with your partner.
Or perhaps you’ve been dating the same person for years and feel like it’s time to make it official.
Either way, being married is something that you should do because you love your partner, not just because it makes sense.
It’s good to plan ahead and think things through, but don’t rush into anything unless you really want it deep down in your heart.
Start asking questions about being married like:
- What will it feel like?
- How will your life be different?
- How will you treat your partner differently?
If you can’t answer those questions, then you’re not ready for marriage yet.
Instead, focus on other things in your life.
Graduate from school, travel or have a baby together if you both want children – there are plenty of things to do before getting married.
21) Your partner’s family approves of your relationship
Most people worry about the family of their partner making them uncomfortable.
But if your partner’s family is actually supportive of you, then it’s a good sign that they will accept your relationship eventually.
Even if it takes a little bit of them getting to know you, they will eventually be okay with it because they know your partner loves you.
And that’s what matters the most to them.
However, at the same time, be prepared for them to have strong opinions about both.
They are going to have opinions about you, your relationship, and everything else you do.
Try not to let this phase set you back or if it does, don’t let it stop you from trying and being positive about the future.
Final thoughts
Now you know the signs of whether you will get married or not.
You now know what “marriage” really means and what’s important to look for when you’re in a new relationship.
And if you want to get married, then you can do that because there are plenty of reasons that are good enough to get married.
Remember, it’s your life so do what’s right for you and your partner. You owe it to each other, so just don’t let anyone else tell you otherwise.
