Why your awakening is such a destructive process

There’s no use sugarcoating it:

Awakening is a destructive process.

It is the painful destruction of who you thought you are and everything you’ve ever believed in.

Which means spiritual awakening is hard. And I mean hard.

A lot of content out there paints the spiritual journey like it’s a path of clouds and rainbows, eventually leading to a blissful connection with the higher world.

Sorry to burst the myth.

I’ve never known anyone to “ease” into spiritual awakening gracefully.

Even spiritual figures like The Dalai Lama and Mother Teresa underwent a period of great darkness before they achieved enlightenment.

Awakening requires—demands—the destruction of your ego-self so that your spiritual-self can emerge.

Pain, anxiety, depression, and alienation—it’s all part of the journey.

Here are the reasons why awakening is such a destructive process and why you should embrace it.

1. Awakening cleanses all the “lies” in your life


Everybody wants it, but not everyone has the courage to face it.

Spiritual awakening is a process of complete surrender.

It requires you to lay down everything you’ve ever believed in your life, examine them, and let go of the falsehoods you’ve collected since the day you were conscious of the world around you.

Awakening is painful because it shows you the lies you’ve been told—by your parents, your education, society, and what they have created—a false version of yourself.

There is pain because you are attached to these falsehoods.

The lies made you feel safe. It gave you control of your life.

However, awakening is the opposite of control. It’s about letting life be.

And you must let all of these lies go, no matter how attached you are to them.

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2. Awakening is not comfortable

Why awakening is a destructive process

As humans, we are creatures of comfort. We love security—routines, staying in places we know and doing things we are already familiar with.

Awakening does not involve security.

Before you can achieve enlightenment, you have to see, think, and feel emotions and knowledge that are uncomfortable.

You will tear yourself apart. This complete self-destruction will not be easy, nor will it be short.

People who’ve experienced spiritual awakening confessed to physical, emotional, and mental pain. Before you can reach blissful enlightenment, you have to endure the destructive process,

3. Awakening involves inner-conflict

The road to spiritual enlightenment is rife with inner-conflict.

You will never question yourself more, and so deeply, than when you are trying to break free from the “programming” you’ve experienced your whole life.

Your natural inclination is to deny that your belief system is a lie, but that’s not everything.

You will experience guilt for your past actions and decisions. You will feel guilty, too, about the relationships you have to cut off as they no longer serve your spiritual journey.

But most of all, you will feel a huge conflict between you and your relationship to the world, and everything you’ve ever known.

Perhaps, that’s the most painful thing of all.

4. Awakening is a lonely process

Why awakening is a destructive process

Not a lot of people talk about the loneliness of the spiritual journey.

But it is the loneliest journey you have to take.


Because you will feel the most apart from everything and everyone in your “past” life.

Enlightenment makes us question things, and most times, this questioning alienates us from others.

According to spiritual awakening expert and Past Life Regression therapist Nicky Sutton:

“Spiritual awakening causes us to feel lonely because we suddenly find that our perceptions are out of alignment with others. We can’t seem to relate to our friends and family anymore. Priorities suddenly change, for example, we may want to quit watching fear-mongering news or meaningless entertainment on television, leaving a void when we try to relate to people we would usually talk to about these things.

We are used to being connected to the world around us, but we are connected to disillusioned souls.

If you want to experience real connection, you must disconnect yourself first from the false world around you.

5. Awakening requires empathy

—and empathy means feeling pain, too.

As I mentioned above, you will feel conflict and guilt during the process of awakening.

This is because you have a heightened sense of empathy. You will experience an intense feeling of the world around you.

I believe that all humans are natural empaths. It’s a gift of consciousness.

The only problem is:

We’ve lost touch of our natural ability to empathize deeply.

Modern culture has desensitized us with materialism, artificial societies, tradition, and inconsequential lifestyle habits.

Being enlightened means shredding off the dogma attached to your false life, and going back to your natural state of being.

So it’s only natural that experiencing higher consciousness means heightened empathy, too.

6. Awakening is scary

Why awakening is a destructive process

“There is no coming to consciousness without pain. People will do anything, no matter how absurd, in order to avoid facing their own Soul. One does not become enlightened by imagining figures of light, but by making the darkness conscious.”

– Carl Jung

Choosing to start your spiritual journey is like going into battle knowing you will likely get shot.

My own awakening experiencing left me scared and anxious for some time. I’ve always considered myself to be a bit of a control freak.

Nothing about awakening involves control. As I said, it’s all about surrender.

But fear is just our ego talking.


The belief that there is no such thing as “nothingness” is against everything our ego stands for.

Therefore, our ego does not understand the brilliance of the expanded consciousness. Which is why it rages against everything that destroys it.

Our society believes in the notion that fear is something to be overcome.

But the truth is:

Fear is inevitable.

It is something that has always been there since our birth and will always be there until we die.

Awakening feels destructive because it demands that you surrender to fear.

7. Awakening makes you feel naked

When you’ve stripped yourself off of the systematic programming you’ve experienced your whole life, you will literally feel naked.

Here’s the thing:

We’ve always believed in “the voice in our head.” And we’ve always believed those thoughts to be “us.”

But you’ll discover, in your own spiritual journey, that those are simply just “thoughts.”

Your thoughts don’t define you and you can let them go if you choose.

Your beliefs, trauma, and sense of self are also things you have to shred off.

In short, you will have to take off every layer of “protection” society and ego have armed you.


why awakening is destructive

Throughout this article and my own awakening journey, one thing is clear:

The road to enlightenment requires a constant stream of “letting go.”

Each step you take towards higher consciousness will ask you to give up something until you are left with nothing.

As you let go of who you think you are, real consciousness will take place—the one that is connected to everything around you.

You will separate from your ego-mind and become more aware of the present moment.

The truth is, awakening is destructive precisely because it destroys your perceived reality.

It hurts because you will have to learn that you are not in control, that it doesn’t matter how you feel, that you need to surrender everything.

But talking about it and doing it are two different things.

This guide cannot get you anywhere, but only to give you a glimpse of what is ahead.

You and you alone, must take that road.

It will not be comfortable. It will not be painless. You will have to pay a hefty price.

Is it worth it for you?

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Notable replies

  1. I enjoyed reading this article about people’s awakenings.

    I see an “awakening” as being about the expansion of awareness about self and our place in the cosmos.

    @Eleprocon you mentioned in another post recently that you experienced an awakening resulting one of your life challenges when you had a seizure.

    Would you say that “awakening” has been a theme you’ve always focused on after this? Also, I’m interested to explore #ideation:the-new-story. Can you recommend a post to read that’s related to the awakening you may be experiencing.

  2. Awakening, awake, woke… as my mind comes to the present while opening my eyes a notion stirs before the light seeps in, that of a different realm from whence I came where clarity is obscured by the dark yet perfectly sensed…

    It’s in these moments when all seems perfectly strung together, where you know in your deepest #senseof meaning words can not express.

    How are we yet to share this, or is it we are actually tuning into something more woke than us.

    This long slumber we flow from is neither here nor there, night nor day, alphabet nor logos.

    It is the evolution of mind playing along with what we’ve got to work with.

    It is the never ending idea luring itself into existence…

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Genefe Navilon

Genefe Navilon

Genefe Navilon is a writer, poet, and blogger. She graduated with a degree in Mass Communications at the University of San Jose Recoletos. Her poetry blog, Letters To The Sea, currently has 18,000 followers. Her work has been published in different websites and poetry book anthologies. She divides her time between traveling, writing, and working on her debut poetry book.



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