Nice or naughty?
Are you the type to bend over backwards for others or do you lay down the law?
It’s important to know when to be a saint and when to be a little bit of a sinner.
Cause let’s face it, no one likes a pushover.
But, what most people don’t realize is that being too nice can actually have a negative effect on your social life and relationships.
So, before you go around spreading too much love and kindness, check out these 11 reasons why you shouldn’t be too nice.
1) People will take advantage of your kindness
Are you tired of having that one friend who always asks to borrow money but never pays it back?
Or what about that colleague who’s always hitting you up for help with their work, but never returns the favor?
Then it’s time to wise up and realize that you’re being taken advantage of because of your darn kindness!
Sure, you want to be the nicest person in the world.
But let’s be real here.
When you’re too nice and trusting, people can smell it from a mile away and they’ll take advantage of you in a heartbeat.
So, here’s the deal.
Sometimes you gotta be strict and serious instead of being the nice guy all the time.
Because, let’s face it, being too nice can sometimes be a recipe for disaster.
2) You’ll neglect your own needs and wants
If you’re always putting other people’s needs and wants before your own, you’re setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
I mean, have you ever been in a relationship with a real jerk?
Let me tell you, it’s not pretty.
When you’re too kind and giving, people start to think they can walk all over you.
But trust me, that’s not how it works.
Eventually, you’ll find yourself feeling resentful and unfulfilled.
And who wants that?
So, bottom line: it’s important to take care of yourself and make sure your own needs and wants are being met.
Don’t be a doormat, be a welcome mat – one that’s only inviting to people who treat you right.
3) You’ll be seen as weak or easily manipulated
Oh boy, have you ever heard the saying “too nice for your own good“?
Well, it’s real!
When you’re always being compassionate and kind, people might start to see you as a pushover.
They’ll think, “Oh, this person is always so nice, they’ll probably do whatever I want.”
And before you know it, you’re getting taken advantage of left and right.
I mean, have you ever had a friend who always says “yes” to everything, even when they don’t want to?
It’s not a good look.
People will start to see you as weak, and that’s when the real problems begin.
It’s important to remember that being kind and compassionate doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your own well-being.
Stand up for yourself, speak your mind and set boundaries.
Show people that you’re not a pushover, and you’ll be respected for it.
4) You’ll have difficulty saying “no”
When you’re too nice, it’s like you’re walking around with a big ol’ “yes” sign on your forehead.
People will take advantage of that and ask you to do all sorts of things you don’t wanna do.
“Hey, can you run to the store and grab me a gallon of milk?”
“Sure, I’d love to”
“Hey, can you stay late and finish this project for me?”
“Sure, no problem”
Before you know it, you’re running errands, staying late, and not doing anything for yourself.
That’s why it’s important to remember that it’s okay to put yourself first and say “no” when necessary.
Show yourself some TLC and respect and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for not wanting to do what they want.
Otherwise, people might start to respect you less and less…
I’ll explain more in my next point.
5) You may not be respected in return
Another important reason why you shouldn’t be too nice!
Being too nice can actually be a real bummer.
Not only will people not respect you in return, but they’ll probably start taking advantage of your kindness.
And the worst part is, even though you’re over it, you keep putting up with it because you’re scared of being seen as a mean person.
But being respected is way more important than being taken advantage of.
And being a pushover ain’t gonna get you that respect.
So, don’t be afraid to set some boundaries and stand up for yourself.
Because you deserve to be treated with respect too!
7) You’ll become exhausted from constantly helping others
Being a helper is a noble cause, but let’s not get carried away here.
Too much of a good thing can turn into a real snooze fest.
Before you know it, you’ll be a tired, grumpy, and overworked mess.
But here’s the kicker.
Not only will you be exhausted but you’ll also have a bunch of leeches sucking the life out of you.
So, let’s take a step back and remember, it’s ok to be nice and help others.
But don’t forget to put yourself first and set some boundaries, otherwise, you’ll be the one needing help.
8) You’ll struggle to make decisions
Making decisions can be a real headache, especially when you’re the go-to person for everyone’s problems.
It’s like being a walking, talking fortune teller, but without the crystal ball.
People come to you expecting you to wave your magic wand and make all their problems disappear.
But let’s face it, sometimes you just don’t have enough information to make a solid call.
And then you’re left waiting for an eternity until they finally come back to you with their solution.
Meanwhile, you’re sitting there twiddling your thumbs, getting more and more frustrated.
It’s a real catch-22 situation.
Being too nice can make it difficult to make decisions that are best for you.
Because you may be too focused on pleasing others.
But let’s not forget, it’s crucial to put yourself first and not get caught up in the decision-making drama.
9) You’ll miss out on opportunities to assert yourself
When you’re always playing it safe and taking the easy road, you’re gonna miss out on some prime opportunities to show the world who’s boss.
Because if you’re constantly putting other people’s needs before your own, you’re basically giving them the keys to your life and letting them drive the car.
And that’s a one way ticket to a boring and unfulfilling existence.
So, don’t be afraid to mix it up a bit and assert yourself.
Sure, it’s easy to just say “yes” to everything and make everyone happy, but that’s not always the best decision.
Sometimes you just have to do what’s best for YOU.
Not what other people want.
So don’t be afraid to give a big ol’ “no” when it’s necessary.
Take control of your life and don’t let anyone else call the shots.
10) You’ll attract toxic individuals
Want to attract toxic people like flies to poop?
Just be too nice.
Yeah, being a pushover attracts all sorts of negative energy.
And it’s not just strangers, sometimes it’s even friends and family.
They’ll dump all their issues on you.
Next thing you know, you’re drowning in drama.
If this isn’t a good enough reason for you to stop being too nice, I don’t know what is.
Don’t be afraid to say no and protect yourself, otherwise you might miss the red flags of toxicity.
Because being constantly surrounded by toxic individuals can erode your sense of self and leave you feeling lost.
I’ll get into more details in my following point.
11) You’ll lose your own identity and sense of self
You may think that being nice to others will make you more likable in their eyes.
When you’re constantly putting others’ needs before your own, you’re forgetting about your own needs as well.
And that can really lead to some problems down the road.
It will also make it difficult for others to see the real you because you never assert yourself and show your true colors.
You’re in a constant battle with yourself about whether or not to take charge of your own life and put yourself first, or keep being a pushover and pleasing others.
This can erode your sense of self and leave you feeling empty at times.
So, do you still want to keep being too nice?
Put yourself first
That’s the easiest way to stop yourself from being too nice.
I know, it sounds selfish but trust me, it’s for your own good.
Being too nice is like eating too much cake.
It’s good in small doses but too much of it will leave you feeling sick.
It doesn’t mean you have to stop being nice altogether, but just be mindful of it and don’t forget to take care of yourself too.
It’s all about finding that perfect balance between being kind and not turning into a doormat.
And remember, being nice to yourself is just as important as being nice to others.