10 reasons someone is ignoring you all of a sudden (and how to respond)

Have you ever noticed someone you know suddenly stop responding to your messages?

Maybe it was a friend, or maybe it was a potential dating partner.

You may begin to wonder if you did something to offend the other person or scare them away.

But the truth is that people stop responding for different reasons…

This article lists 10 common reasons why someone may stop responding to you.

1) They may be traveling or busy and unable to respond right now

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The fact that these people are ignoring you can make you feel hurt and think you’re being completely ignored.

But you need to understand.

This does not mean they don’t care about you.

In fact, they may be overwhelmed by their own lives.

They may be preoccupied with work, or dealing with a health issue.

Or maybe they just don’t have the time to devote to the relationship right now.

The good news is that they’re still there – in your mind and heart – so they’ll get back to you when they’re ready.

You just have to be patient, and remember that their silence isn’t an indicator of their disinterest, but rather of their busyness.

2) They may be waiting for you to reach out first

This is one of the most common reasons why people don’t initiate conversations with other people.

They may be wary of someone, or they may not be sure about the person they are speaking with.

When you don’t approach them, it can create an awkward situation for them.

They don’t know how to open up to you, so they choose to ignore it.

This is really bad and can cause a lot of misunderstandings.

As a result, this kind of person might miss an opportunity to make a connection with other people and build a positive relationship that can last long into the future.

3) They find you unattractive (or vice versa)

This often happens when people decide to ignore you because they don’t feel that you are good enough for them.

People do this to avoid being embarrassed and to protect their ego.

This may not be the case all of the time, but it does happen – and it’s important to remember this.

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4) You take the initiative to get too close, making them feel shy

The majority of men are not adept at handling their feelings.

They lack the same social support systems and networks as women, and some men are conditioned to survive emotionally on their own.

This is why some men are afraid of getting too close to someone else, pushing them away.

You must convince him that it’s safe to let you in his heart.

If a man fails to handle his emotions adequately, he may have fewer supportive social networks than women, and he may be conditioned to fend for himself without outside help.

It is intimidating and off-putting for some men to get too close to another person, and that is why they wish to back away from you.

It is critical to be gentle with him and to prove that it is not dangerous to get close to him.

5) You did something they found offensive or disrespectful

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You did something they found offensive or disrespectful so they ignore you.

When you do something that makes them feel uncomfortable, offended, or otherwise upset, it’s natural for them to want to avoid you and stay away from you as much as possible.

This is a normal response and one that they have no control over.

However, if you go out of your way to make amends with the other person and show that you understand their feelings, they may be more likely to forgive you and talk to you again in the future.

If you find yourself being ignored by someone who usually talks to you, it’s a good idea to spend some time thinking about what you could have done wrong in order to fix the situation.

6) The person is currently in a relationship and doesn’t want to hurt their partner by communicating with others

It’s not easy being ignored, but it happens.

And sometimes it’s because the person is in a relationship and they’re just not paying attention to you.

Maybe they’re busy with work or are just really into their partner.

Either way, it can be hard to deal with an uninterested person who doesn’t seem to care about you.

But at the same time, you have to remember that people can’t always be 100% invested all the time.

They have their own lives and responsibilities, and if they bring them into the relationship itself then they won’t be able to give 100% of themselves to you.

7) They think you don’t like them

If someone has suddenly started ignoring you after pursuing you heavily before, he may have pulled out early to avoid wasting his time and effort.

Despite the fact that men are pressured to pursue women, they too have feelings.

Rejection is no easier for men than for women.

If you have wounded his pride or ignored him, he will eventually give up, if he knows what is good for him.

It’s sensible self-preservation.

If he has been repeatedly contacting you and you haven’t really given anything in return or even asked you out and you turned him down, he is likely to move on.

8) They have some secrets that they don’t want you to know

It is fairly easy to see why a man might wish to get away from you.

There is one explanation that is comparatively simple:

He is hiding something. He is attempting to conceal a secret from you.

The longer he avoids conversing with you, the longer he can keep his secret and avoid complications of being exposed or tripping up.

It is as simple as that. If you notice that your man suddenly stops contacting you, you may ask him what is going on.

A person’s natural instinct is to keep things from those they care about, especially if he seems a bit skittish and more invasive than previously.

Secrets aren’t necessarily bad.

He may have personal problems that he’d rather keep to himself than burden you with them.

9) They may want to end the relationship with you — but have no idea how to tell you

It is possible that he wants space because he’s planning to break up with you.

Look at how he’s been acting to determine if he wants to end things.

Has he been avoiding talking to you or seeing you in person, even making up elaborate excuses not to meet you in the future?

If he has, there’s a good chance he’s planning to end things with you.

Look at his behavior and intentions.

Has he been avoiding reciprocating your affection?

Has it seemed like you’ve been constantly at war with each other?

If you text him for weeks and he doesn’t reciprocate your love, it might mean that he’s stalling until you finally finish things.

Ask him if you’re unsure of his purpose.

If you’re struggling to comprehend his motives, don’t be bashful in asking him.

This can provide him with the opportunity to clarify his absences and admit if he is genuinely trying to part.

10) They are interested in you but they don’t accept it

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When he is ignoring you a lot, it can be a sign that he likes you.

There are times, however, when he doesn’t pay much attention to you.

He might not want to come across as being too eager, but he might have misjudged his approach and made it appear as if he were disinterested in you.

It might seem silly, but I know that when I see my best friend act like that.

He worries that his feelings are so obvious to everybody else that he end up ignoring the one person in the room he desperately wants to talk to.

Uhm! I don’t know why they act like this, but…

Human behavior is sometimes weird.

5 Tips to respond

1) Breathe to calm down

Rejection can be quite upsetting and will leave you confused or stressed.

Research has shown that taking a few minutes to do deep breathing exercises can help reduce stress and promote feelings of calm.

  • To practice deep breathing, slowly inhale deeply into your lungs for 5 counts.
  • Then, hold your breath for the next 5 counts.
  • And slowly exhale for 5 breaths.
  • Begin this exercise with two breaths at your usual rate and repeat with slow, deep breaths.
  • You can also practice yoga, meditation, or tai chi to help calm yourself down.

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2) Remind yourself that rejection is just a small part of life

Everyone feels left out from time to time.

Unless you’re arguing, or somehow upset your loved one, you’re less likely to experience this feeling.

You can comfort yourself that the rejection you experience is only temporary and that you don’t have to face it all the time.

3) Take good care of yourself

Taking care of yourself will make you feel loved rather than ignored.

This process can take many forms because different people feel cared for in different ways.

A few examples include cooking a delicious meal for yourself, soaking in a bubble bath, working on a project, or watching your favorite movie.

You should also remember to take care of your body.

By taking good care of your body, you are sending signals to your brain that you deserve attention.

  • Make sure you leave enough time to meet your basic needs such as exercise, eating, and sleeping.
  • Set a goal of 30 minutes of exercise each day.
  • Eat a balanced diet with healthy foods such as fruits, vegetables, whole grains, and lean protein.
  • Get 8 hours of sleep every night.
  • Share your feelings with friends.

A very important way to deal with situations that make you feel like your friends are abandoning you is to share your feelings with them, and ask them why they are acting the way they do.

Let them know that you feel rejected by explaining the situation and why you hope they invited you to come with or stay with you at an event.

And it’s also polite to ask your friends why the situation has arisen.

Don’t assume that they are to blame for ignoring you.

You only need to ask questions that show interest to build productive conversations.

You could say something like:

“I’m sad when you guys went rollerblading last Saturday without even asking me to come with you. I know I was exhausted on Friday night but I was totally ready to go out on Saturday, just until X said that you guys went there then I knew you guys didn’t invite me I felt left out of the group can you tell me the reason why you didn’t ask me to come or are not?”.

4) Decide if you need to meet a new person

If you often feel left out, perhaps you need to accept that you can’t see the people you’re meeting as true friends or true love and that you need to make new ones.

Look for someone who respects and cares about you.

While this will be difficult, it will at least be easier than sticking with someone who constantly upsets you and treats you badly.

You deserve much better.

Consider volunteering, joining a club in your area to meet people with similar interests, and attending a local event you enjoy.

Surrounding yourself with people who share your interests and passions will help ensure that the people you meet will share many similarities with you, which in turn can lead to the possibility of forming relationships.


Loneliness and ignorance make people feel miserable.

It would be better if you could forget them, but in reality, it’s impossible.

So you need to fight back your negative emotions, take action and fix the problem!

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Nguyet Yen Tran

Yen is a freelance writer and a researcher specializing in mental health, self-awareness, and psychology. Her hobby is studying human behavior throughout their reaction upon situations. Be sure to check out her other posts on our blog.

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