Being in a relationship is all fun and games until you ask yourself: “Why is my boyfriend so clingy?”
Are you in that same situation right now?
Maybe you’re wondering how clingy is “too clingy”?
Well, today I will show you some signs your partner is too clingy and what you can do about it!
1) He expects you to always text back immediately
Some people constantly need to hear from their partner, even when it might not be appropriate.
If you constantly feel you need to reply and feel guilty if you don’t, you may be in a clingy relationship.
When you are with your partner, communicate and share your emotions, but don’t feel like you always have to be on call.
If he expects you to text him back immediately, and you aren’t always able to do so because you have other things going on in your life, he might have an unhealthy need for constant communication.
A healthy relationship means two people who can be independent, yet still, love each other.
You can try talking to him about it or maybe until he gets more secure, you could try letting him know that you won’t be available for the next, say, 2 hours so that he knows what’s going on.
However, in a healthy relationship, it should be okay to not text back for a bit, especially when you’re having a busy day.
2) He follows you around everywhere
If your boyfriend is following you around, even when you try to make him stop, he is being too clingy.
Simply put, if he is constantly by your side and it feels like he wants to be your shadow, he is probably clingy.
This can be especially obvious if you live together.
If you want to make your relationship healthy, you should aim to spend time apart.
This helps you both grow as individuals and gives you something to come back to when you’ve both had your time apart.
You see, following you around everywhere just means he tags along to anything and everything you do.
While it’s nice to spend time together, it’s also crucial to do some stuff alone in a relationship!
On that note:
3) He gets mad when you go anywhere without him
When you are in a relationship, it’s normal to want to spend lots of time with your partner.
However, it’s not normal for someone to get mad at you for spending time with your friends or family members.
If your boyfriend gets mad when you go anywhere without him, he may be too clingy for you.
While it’s nice to spend time with your partner frequently, it’s not healthy to get mad when your other friends are taking up more of your time.
If he gets jealous when you spend time with others, this is another sign he is too clingy.
There might be some kind of deep insecurity nagging at him, making him believe that time apart like this is unsafe.
Just know that whatever he says, spending some time alone is nothing to feel guilty about, okay?
4) Ask a relationship coach
While the signs in this article will help you deal with a clingy boyfriend, it can be helpful to speak to a relationship coach about your situation.
With a professional relationship coach, you can get advice tailored to the specific issues you’re facing in your love life.
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5) He stalks your social media
If your boyfriend doesn’t just regularly like or comment on your social media posts but also stalks who you follow, who follows you, and everything else you do online, this may be a sign he is too clingy.
You don’t want to be in a relationship where you feel like you have to hide your life.
If this is the case, you may want to end the relationship.
It’s not healthy to be in a relationship where your boyfriend is always trying to get into your social media world.
If he is stalking your social media and doesn’t respect your privacy, he may be too clingy.
It’s normal to want to know a little bit about your partner, but it’s not healthy to stalk every social media post they make.
If he’s creeping on your social media, don’t be afraid to tell him to back off.
You see, maybe he used to be in a relationship where that was normal, but if that feels like an invasion of privacy for you, then voice your concerns!
Talk to him about it without making him feel bad or embarrassed, he probably didn’t mean any harm by doing what he did!
You see, people don’t want to be clingy, they just want to feel like they matter.
If you’re in a relationship with someone who is being too clingy, don’t be afraid to tell them what you need.
Don’t let him walk all over you and don’t let him make you feel bad for wanting some space.
You deserve to be in a healthy relationship, and if he’s making you feel bad about wanting some alone time or time with others, then it’s probably not a healthy relationship.
Be sure to talk to him about your needs without shaming or blaming him for his behavior.
You deserve someone who respects your boundaries!
6) He doesn’t trust you
If your partner doesn’t trust you, it could be a sign he is too clingy.
It’s normal to have an occasional doubt about your partner, but if these are always present and you don’t feel like he trusts you, it could be a sign that he is too clingy.
You see if you don’t feel like he trusts you and you feel like he would rather control your life than trust you, this is a huge sign that he is clingy.
Trust is an important part of a healthy relationship. If he doesn’t trust you, you will never feel truly comfortable with him.
Now: the problem here is that there is not too much you can do.
When someone doesn’t trust you, it’s often from a lack of trust in themselves. So, try to see if you can talk to him about this.
Have you done anything to raise trust issues in him? If not, you don’t need to feel guilty about anything!
7) He makes time for you even when he has important things going on
If your boyfriend makes time for you even when he has important things going on, this is usually a great sign.
It’s normal to want to spend time with your partner frequently and it’s great to feel like he values you even when he has important things going on.
However, it’s not normal for him to make time for you even when he has important things going on.
If he’s always around you, even when he has something important to do, he may be too clingy.
What’s important is that he values you and your relationship.
However, he should understand when you need him to take time away from you when he has important things going on.
You see, when other things in his life are suddenly not a priority anymore and he drops them for you, it can be flattering at first, but it is going to be very unhealthy further down the line!
8) He is moving way too fast
He might be moving too fast when he wants to make serious plans for the future.
It’s great to want to move forward in your relationship, but you should take it slow and make sure you are both comfortable with each other and what you are planning.
If he’s asking you to move in with him, marry him, or have a child with him right away, he might be moving too fast.
And if he is moving too fast, it could be a sign that he is too clingy.
Take your time and make sure you are both comfortable with the pace of your relationship.
In the case of your boyfriend moving too fast, you could ask him why he is rushing things.
You see, maybe he wants to ‘seal the deal’ before you change your mind. Let him know that you aren’t going anywhere!
9) You notice he is losing his own interests
It’s normal for people in a serious relationship to start spending less time doing their own hobbies.
However, if he loses all his interests and only wants to do things with you, he may be too clingy.
A healthy relationship means you both spend time doing your own things.
If he used to enjoy playing pool and now only wants to play video games with you, he may be losing his own interests.
If he only wants to do things with you, he may be too clingy. You should be in a relationship where you both do your own things and have your own interests.
A relationship is healthy when it is made up of two whole individuals with their own lives.
When he merges his life entirely into yours, that can become problematic further down the line!
10) He acts as if your other friends are his enemies
If he treats your other friends like they are his enemies and he thinks they are out to get him, he may be too clingy.
This goes along with being suspicious of your friends.
If he feels like you have to choose between him and your friends, he may be too clingy.
It’s normal to want to be around your partner frequently and for your partner to be around your friends, but he should respect their time with you.
If he treats your friends as his enemies because they take time away from you, he may be too clingy.
Think about it: if your friends are his enemies, what would a future with this man look like?
After all, you want to spend your life with him, but your friends should be a big part of that, too!
11) What can you do about it?
If your boyfriend is too clingy, there are a few things you can do to help.
First, reassurance can go a long way. It’s important to let him know that you love him, that you want to be around him all the time, and that he doesn’t need to worry about losing you.
You can also try to get to the bottom of why he is so insecure and why he is so clingy.
You see, nobody wants to be clingy and insecure. That’s a fact.
This behavior stems from some kind of insecurity that might have been set in place in childhood or in a previous relationship.
Now: when you understand the root cause of his insecurity, things will be easier.
If you can understand why he is this way, you can better know how to help him.
It’s important not to be too hard on him, though.
If he is too clingy, it’s important not to shame him for it. You need to work to help him feel less insecure and more confident in himself.
In my own experience, clingy people know that they have issues, but they just can’t help it.
So, instead of being mean to him and asking him why he’s so insecure, try to be understanding and helpful.
Trust me, when you heal together, your relationship will be better and stronger than ever before!