Do you often dream about someone who used to be your best friend but you can’t explain why?
If so, you should know that we all have those moments when we can’t get our ex-best friend out of our heads.
The dreams where you see them and talk to them all over again.
But why do we keep dreaming about our ex-bestfriend? There could be many reasons why this happens, and we’ve listed them all below.
Read on to find out 10 possible reasons why you keep dreaming about your ex-BFF and which one could apply to you.
1) You feel guilty for the way things ended
You might not be aware of it, but you might feel guilty for the way things ended with your best friend.
Just think about it.
You don’t know why, but you just feel like you’re not at peace with the way you left things.
Maybe you weren’t kind enough when you broke up or maybe you didn’t say goodbye in person but by text.
If so, it could be that you dream about them to get closure and to apologize for the way things ended.
It is not uncommon for people to have dreams about a person who has hurt them before. This happens so they can get closure and make peace with that person.
And guess what?
Your ex-bestfriend is no exception! In fact, that’s why you dream about them so often and so intensely!
The truth is that if you and your ex-bestfriend had a bad break-up before, you might be feeling guilty about it now, and for this reason, you keep dreaming about them.
Your mind might be replaying the breakup and the bad feelings that accompanied it over and over again.
This can happen when there are unresolved issues between you and your friend, or when you feel guilty about ending your friendship with them.
If you feel guilty about the way you ended things with this person, you might be seeing them in your dreams because you want to fix the relationship and wish you could move on from the guilt.
However, if you feel bad about your relationship with your ex-bestfriend and you keep dreaming about them, there is also a chance that you are feeling guilty about the way you ended things with your current best friend.
In this case, you might be dreaming about your ex-bestfriend as a subconscious way of telling yourself that you’re making a mistake.
So, try to reflect on your emotions. Dive deep into your mind and explore why you feel guilty about the way you ended things with your ex-bestfriend.
2) You miss them
Not surprisingly, one of the most obvious reasons why you might be dreaming about your ex-bestfriend is that you miss them.
You might miss their presence in your life and you might miss how things were when you had a close bond with them.
You might also be missing the way they made you feel when you were together, or the way they made you feel about yourself.
Maybe they were your biggest supporters, and their compliments boosted your confidence and self-esteem to new heights. Or maybe they were someone who was always there to listen to your problems and help you find solutions.
Maybe they were the one person who gave you strength when no one else could and vice versa. Maybe they meant everything to you!
Whatever it is, if you’re dreaming about them, it means that somewhere in your subconscious mind, a part of your heart still belongs to them.
And this is why seeing them in your dreams makes sense, because it’s just another way for your mind to be close to this person!
But why do you dream about them even if you miss your ex-bestfriend?
Well, it’s because your mind is trying to get you to realize that you might be making a mistake by pushing them out of your life, and it’s trying to tell you that they are still important in your life.
And also, it’s because, in your dreams, your ex-bestfriend is still the same person that you used to know. They still have the same personalities and the same quirks, and they are still fun to be around.
It’s normal to miss someone who used to be close to us, especially if they were our best friends. If that is the case, then your dreams are showing you how much they meant to you and how much you wish they were still around in your life.
Why am I so sure?
Dreams are often triggered by strong emotions, and feeling deeply sad is one of the strongest emotions there is.
If you miss your ex-bestfriend a lot, there’s a chance that you dream about them because you miss them.
You might miss the person you were when you were in a relationship with them and the lifestyle that came with it. You might miss their company and the time you spent with them. You might miss their positive energy, their humor, and their friendship.
So, if you dream about your ex-bestfriend and you miss them, the dreams could be a reminder that you’re lonely and that you miss someone or something in your life right now.
3) You still have unresolved issues with this person
Believe it or not, one of the most common reasons why you might be dreaming about your ex-bestfriend is because you still have unresolved issues with this person in your waking life.
In other words, you might be dreaming about them because they are on your mind too often and you haven’t dealt with the situation yet.
When we don’t deal with an issue, it can come back to haunt us later on. We might not realize that we’re dreaming about our ex-bestfriend until we start thinking about them again in our waking hours.
So, here’s the thing:
If you and your ex-bestfriend had unresolved issues, they are likely bothering you now that you’re no longer friends.
When two people part ways, they usually don’t do it easily. There are always some unresolved feelings and emotions involved.
The result?
This can be the cause of your dreams about them.
The thing is that your subconscious mind keeps bringing this person to the surface of your mind because it knows that there is something still left unsaid or undone between the two of you.
The reason for this could also be because there are some things about them that really bother you and that, subconsciously, you want to fix or change in order for them to be a better person for themselves and for the people around them.
So, if you have an unresolved conflict with your ex-bestfriend and you keep dreaming about them, maybe you’re trying to sort out your issues and figure out a way to move on.
You might be dreaming about them as a way to try and reconcile your differences, but your subconscious might not be cooperating.
There could be something deeper at play in your dreams, and your mind might be trying to protect you from getting hurt by keeping you away from this person in your dreams.
Dreams are complicated, and there could be many reasons why you are dreaming about this person.
In any case, try to focus on what exactly it is about this person that bothers you so much and why it bothers you so much! This can help bring more clarity as to why they keep popping up in your dreams!
The best thing you can do is keep a dream journal and write down your dreams as soon as you wake up from them. It’s an important way to analyze what’s going on inside you and figure out the true meaning behind your dreams.
4) They hold a very important value to you
Let me ask you a few important questions.
Was your ex-bestfriend someone who was always there for you and by your side no matter what?
Was your ex-bestfriend someone who was always there to give you advice, to listen to your problems, or just to hang out with?
If the answer is yes, then it is quite possible that they hold a very important value in your life, and subconsciously they are still part of it.
The simple truth is that if your ex-bestfriend holds a very important value to you, they could be triggering your dreams.
You might be dreaming about them because they are representing something very important to you.
You might be dreaming about them because they are reminding you of something valuable in your life or something you need to remember.
And if the person in your dreams is someone who means a lot to you, they could be showing up in your dreams to make sure you don’t forget something important in your life.
No one doubts that such dreams are strange, and they often make little sense.
But they do mean something, even if you can’t figure it out.
That’s why you should try to figure out whether they still hold a very important value in your life, and if they do, you should try to hold on to that value.
Because if you keep dreaming about your ex-bestfriend, there’s a chance that they are reminding you of something important in your life.
And this means that if you want to get rid of these dreams, you should try to make sure they still hold a very important value in your life. And once you process these feelings, your subconscious will no longer continue to remind you of them.
5) You are trying to figure out what went wrong
Have the two of you parted ways on bad terms?
This could be why there are dreams where the two of you are friends again, but then something happens, like an argument or fight. And this results in one of you walking away from each other again.
Perhaps this situation has happened more than once, and each time one of you walks away from each other, your subconscious mind wants to tell y’all that this shouldn’t happen again.
Does this make sense to you?
Well, if you are trying to figure out what went wrong in your relationship, and you want to find a way to make things right again, then these dreams could be the answer.
And the answer is that you are trying to figure out what went wrong.
If you are having dreams about your ex-bestfriend then most probably it means that something went wrong between the two of you and now you want answers.
Maybe it was a fight or maybe something else happened between the two of you, but now all of this is on your mind.
Because in dreams we tend to see things from a different perspective than we do in real life, which means that sometimes we can find clues as to what went wrong between us and our best friend in our dreams too!
So instead of trying to figure out how to get rid of these dreams, why don’t you try to figure out how they can help you?
Perhaps they are here to remind you that there’s something important in your life that needs fixing.
And once you work on it and understand what was the reason for the fight, or what went wrong in your relationship in the first place, chances are that these dreams will stop.
Keep in mind that, after that, you’ll need to figure out how you should react and whether it’s worth taking a step forward and trying to fix things.
6) You can’t free your mind from thoughts about this person
Let me take a wild guess.
You find it hard to stop thinking about this person.
You are having dreams about them, you can’t stop thinking about them, and it’s been a while since you’ve seen them or talked to them.
You just can’t free your mind from these thoughts. But you know what?
This might be because of the numerous toxic habits you’ve developed throughout this time.
So, let me ask you a question:
When it comes to your personal spiritual journey, which toxic habits have you unknowingly picked up?
Is it the need to be positive all the time? Is it a sense of superiority over those who lack spiritual awareness?
Even well-meaning gurus and experts can get it wrong.
The result is that you end up achieving the opposite of what you’re searching for. You do more to harm yourself than to heal.
You may even hurt those around you.
In this eye-opening video, the shaman Rudá Iandé explains how so many of us fall into the toxic spirituality trap. He himself went through a similar experience at the start of his journey.
As he mentions in the video, spirituality should be about empowering yourself. Not suppressing emotions, not judging others, but forming a pure connection with who you are at your core.
If this is what you’d like to achieve, click here to watch the free video.
Even if you’re well into your spiritual journey, it’s never too late to unlearn the myths you’ve bought for truth and learn how you can get rid of unwanted thoughts and dreams!
7) You’re mourning the loss of your friendship
Have you ever experienced grief over the loss of an important person in your life?
If you have, then you probably understand how hard it is to accept the fact that this person is no longer a part of your life.
And you know what?
The same can happen to your friendship. If this person was the one who supported you and made you feel good about yourself, then it’s natural to feel sad over the loss.
Even if you were the one who stopped talking to this person, you might still be having dreams about them.
Why?
Because the human mind can’t accept the fact that the relationship is over. That’s why it keeps bringing up memories of this person and makes you experience feelings of loss.
But even if you know that there’s no point in trying to get back together with this person, these dreams can still be pretty unpleasant. They make it hard for you to fall asleep and wake up feeling exhausted and depressed.
But how can you know you’re really mourning over your lost friendship?
Well, it depends on the content of your dreams.
When your dreams are very sad and you are crying, there’s a chance that you are mourning the loss of your friendship with your ex-bestfriend.
In this case, you might be dreaming about the two of you and miss your friendship. You might be dreaming about your ex-bestfriend because you miss the person they used to be and the friendship you used to have.
But it doesn’t have to stay that way.
In fact, you can take control of your life and break the cycle of grief and sadness by changing your perception of the events in question.
I know this may sound hard, but I promise there is a way out! All you need to do is change your perspective on what happened between you and this person.
It all starts with the understanding that you don’t have to mourn the loss of your friendship. In fact, it’s not even a real loss!
Why?
Because you still have the chance to reconnect with this person and bring your friends back to life!
8) They betrayed you
Did you and your ex-bestfriend decide to no longer be friends because they betrayed you?
Did they do something that made you feel really hurt and angry?
If so, then your dreams about them might be a way for your subconscious to show you their betrayal. And it’s not because of the fact that you are still angry with them.
And betrayal is something that is hard to deal with.
After all, it’s a deep pain that can leave you feeling hurt, angry, and even full of hatred!
And after all this time, you still can’t get used to the fact that your best friend did this to you.
But why are you still talking about this person in your dreams?
Well, it’s because you haven’t found a way to deal with the pain and anger that they caused you. And until you find a way to deal with this betrayal, it will continue to haunt your dreams and make them unpleasant.
How can you deal with these feelings?
Well, there is a way! But in order for this method to work, you have to be brave enough to face these painful memories and accept that they happened for a reason.
You also have to be willing enough to forgive yourself for the things that led up to their betrayal. And most importantly, you need to stop avoiding the truth about what happened between the two of you!
What do I mean by all of this?
Well, it means that if your ex-bestfriend betrayed you because of something bad that happened between the two of you, then it’s time for some self-reflection!
You must ask yourself: What part did I play in what happened? What can I do differently next time? And how can I make sure something like this doesn’t happen again in my life?
And your dreams are probably trying to show you this. Maybe they are trying to show you the hurt and anger that betrayed you. This way, you can finally accept what happened and move on with your life.
9) You want to repair your friendship
And the final reason why you might be dreaming about your ex-bestfriend is that you want to repair your friendship.
And this is indeed the most obvious reason why your subconscious would show you these things in your dreams. After all, if you still have feelings for this person, then it makes sense that you would want to repair your friendship with them.
You want your ex-bestfriend back in your life.
You might be dreaming about them because you know that it’s time for you to make things right between the two of you.
And it’s not just because of some silly dream, either.
It’s probably because this person has been on your mind a lot lately. You keep thinking about what happened in the past and how badly it hurt you.
And even though you are still angry with them, deep down, you know that they were a good friend to you at one point in time!
So ask yourself this question:
Do you still want them in your life? If so, then why?
Because if you do, then these dreams are a sign that you are not over them yet.
And if this is true for you, then you should know that if you keep dreaming about them again and again and again, it means that there’s still something important between the two of you. And until this something is resolved, these dreams will keep coming back.
So instead of trying to figure out how to get rid of these dreams about your ex-bestfriend, why don’t you try to figure out what’s important between the two of you?
And once you find it out and work on it, these dreams will stop for good! But only if this is what you want!
