15 things to do when your husband ignores your feelings

When you have a husband who constantly ignores your feelings, it can be really hard to feel connected to the relationship.

You want to know why he’s ignoring you. Is he just is too busy at work or he is unhappy in your relationship?

How can you get your husband’s attention again? How do you let him know what you’re feeling?

Here are 15 things to do when your husband ignores your feelings:

1) Talk to him about it

If your husband doesn’t seem to be listening when you talk about your feelings, it might not just be that he’s ignoring you.


He may not know what you need or how to make the relationship work better. If he doesn’t know this, then you need to talk to him. Tell him what you need and ask him how he thinks you could improve your relationship.

So, it’s important that you try to communicate your feelings to him. Make sure to be specific when you talk about your feelings so that he knows exactly what it is that you need from him.

It’s also important to find a way for him to understand how his behavior affects you.

For example, if you’re feeling ignored or unappreciated, it might make sense for him to plan a date night together without kids. If he knows how his behavior is affecting you, then he’ll likely be more receptive to your ideas and thoughts on the matter.

2) Don’t overreact

If your husband ignores your feelings, you shouldn’t overreact. There are many reasons why your husband might not be paying attention to what you’re saying or feeling.

Sometimes, it’s his busy schedule, and other times he might just have a lot on his mind.

Whatever the case, if you feel like he is ignoring you, it’s best to talk to him about it instead of reacting badly to it.

However, I know it won’t be easy to handle your emotions and avoid overreacting in times of anger. That’s why I want to share something with you that helped me to learn how to handle my emotions.

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And you know what? 

Instead of cheering me up or receiving advice about being strong, a coach I spoke to explained why my relationship couldn’t work and how I could change the way I reacted.

As a result, I realized how I should behave whenever I was angry and couldn’t handle my emotions.

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3) Don’t get into a fight over it

If you think he’s ignoring your feelings, it’s important to try not to fight about it. Oftentimes, when we ignore things and don’t take the time to talk about them, they’re difficult to resolve.

No wonder you find it difficult to communicate your needs when you are constantly fighting.

If you try not to fight about it over and over again, you’ll start to see a change in how your husband treats your feelings.

This will help you build trust in him, which is a key component of any relationship.

Do your best to avoid getting into a fight and instead focus on what you need.

4) Don’t take it personally

This is the hardest part, but it’s very important.

You have to remember that your husband isn’t ignoring you because he doesn’t love you.

Turns out that maybe he’s just not in the same place as you are and maybe he needs some time to himself.

It may be hard for you to hear, but it’ll make things easier when you’re able to let go of any hurt feelings.

5) Analyze his behavior

Is your husband ignoring your feelings intentionally? If so, this is something you will want to talk to him about.

Think about it:

He may have a good reason for doing what he’s doing and it could be your job to help him understand that.

If he’s not ignoring your feelings on purpose, it could be because he has some other issues going on in his life that are causing him to act this way.

6) Give him some space and time

Here’s another thing.

Some people feel like they can only be loved if their partners are constantly with them.

If that’s not true, then it’s okay to give your husband some space and time to miss you. It will help both of you feel connected in the relationship.

Focus on yourself. Go out and do something for yourself. Don’t sit around feeling bad that he’s ignoring you.

Simply put, maybe your husband just needs some time to miss you.

7) If your husband is stressed or experiencing anxiety or depression, encourage him to seek support

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It’s hard to know where to start when you’re dealing with your husband’s stress or anxiety.

Unfortunately, a lot of men are reluctant to admit their feelings and needs for fear of being seen as weak. This is why it’s important for wives to encourage their husbands to seek support if they recognize a problem.

Let them know that it is normal to sometimes feel this way and that there is no shame in talking to a therapist about it.

A healthy way of dealing with stress and anxiety is through exercise and yoga. If your husband doesn’t have time for these activities, try taking him on a walk or encouraging him to watch comedies or shows that make him laugh.

8) Let him know you’re there when he is ready to talk

If your husband is ignoring your feelings, tell him that you want him to know that you’re always there when he needs support and that he should feel free to talk to you anytime.


It’s important for him to know that the relationship isn’t broken and that you’re willing and available if he needs something.

Letting him know this can also help with his recovery process.

9) Bring back the spark

Have you tried to bring back the “spark” in your relationship?

When your husband ignores your feelings, it’s easy to lose sight of what makes the relationship so special.

If you want to get back the spark in your relationship, try focusing on what made you love him in the first place. It could be something as simple as his smile or how special he made you feel.

Whatever it was, try to keep that feeling alive by reminding yourself of all the reasons why you’re with him and not someone else. Let that be your reason to bring back the spark.

Make some time for each other:

  • Have a romantic dinner out
  • Go to the movies
  • Schedule fun activities into your calendar so they happen regularly
  • Plan a weekend getaway

It’s important that you remember why you got married in the first place.

10) Be yourself

Here’s the deal.

The most important thing to remember when you have a husband who ignores your feelings is to be yourself. Don’t try to change. Instead, be yourself and let your husband see the real you, the one he married.

You need to make sure that he realizes that it’s not okay for him to ignore and deny your feelings.

Your husband needs to learn how important it is that he listens and values your input, because otherwise, there will be no connection between the two of you.

It’s also important that you don’t allow his behavior to push you away from the relationship. Even if he doesn’t listen and value your input, what’s more important is that he still takes care of you emotionally.

If he can do this even when things aren’t going well in the relationship, then you’re on the right path.

11) Get support from family and friends

If your husband is ignoring your feelings, it can be helpful for you to talk to a close family member or friend.

Ask them what they think you should do, what they would do in this situation.

This will help you feel supported and validated while also providing some clear next steps that you can take.

12) Talk to a psychic

If your husband is ignoring your feelings, it’s good to talk to a psychic.

This can be a great way for you to get the answers you need and find out what’s going on in your relationship.

You can also ask the psychic if there’s anything you should do differently.

13) Try marriage counseling

If your husband ignores your feelings, marriage counseling can help.

Let me explain why.

Marriage counseling is a way for you to talk through your feelings with someone who can understand them. It’s an impartial third party that offers an unbiased perspective on the relationship and it helps men and women communicate more effectively.

Now, marriage counseling may not be for everyone because many couples have found success without engaging in this service.

But if you’re feeling particularly frustrated by your partner’s behavior, or are unsure of what to do next, this may be a good option for you.

14) Stay busy

Sometimes it can be difficult to have a conversation with your husband when you’re feeling ignored.

So try to distract yourself by keeping yourself busy and engaging in activities that take your mind off the topic of conversation.

If your husband is too busy ignoring you, perhaps it’s time to get busy yourself.

One way to do this is to keep busy with life and play hard to get. This will make him want you more and it will also keep you from being taken for granted.

If your husband is ignoring you, make sure that you spend quality time with friends. You should also try some new things in life like baking or hiking.

Why not give it a go?

You’ll be surprised by how much better things will feel when you start doing new things!

15) Remember to take care of yourself

It’s important to remember that your life is not just about the relationship you have with your husband.


You need to make sure that you’re taking care of yourself and your needs as well.

If there are certain things in your life that need attention, take care of them! It might be time for a career change or it might be time to take a night out with friends.

Whatever it is, stop neglecting yourself and start living again.

Signs of emotional neglect in a marriage

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What is emotional neglect?

Emotional neglect is a form of emotional abuse that can happen in all relationships.

Emotional neglect can happen in a marriage when one partner doesn’t show the other their feelings or affection. It is possible for one partner to be emotionally neglected by their spouse on a daily basis.

The signs of emotional neglect are different for everyone but the most common signs are:

  • Lack of empathy
  • Not showing affection
  • Not acknowledging feelings
  • Resisting intimacy
  • Criticism
  • Inability to resolve conflict
  • Unwillingness or inability to take responsibilit
  • Refusing to communicate
  • Controlling behaviors

Causes of emotional neglect in marriage

Some of the causes of emotional neglect in a marriage are financial instability, time constraints, and lack of communication. These causes can lead to neglect in other areas.

If you are experiencing any of these problems in your marriage, it is important to work on them before they impact all aspects of your relationship.

Financial instability: Your spouse may not be able to provide the support that you need if they are struggling tp provide for you financially.

Time constraints: You may not have enough time for each other because there is too much going on outside of the relationship. This includes work and errands that they need to get done as well as family life.

Lack of communication: Communication becomes more difficult when limited time and stress interfere with each day’s interactions.

Emotional neglect signs and symptoms

It’s not always easy to admit that your partner is emotionally neglectful but it’s important to be able recognize such behavior.

If you’re looking for ways to improve the relationship and make your marriage healthier, pay attention to these signs of emotional neglect.

  • If your partner doesn’t seem interested in talking about their feelings, this could be an indication that they don’t want to share their emotions with you.
  • If your partner has trouble expressing themselves or seems withdrawn, this could be an indication that they are not willing to share their feelings with you.
  • If your partner rarely asks for help around the house or cannot express gratitude or appreciation for what you do, it might be because they feel like they can handle everything on their own.
  • When there is a change in behavior from someone who had been previously open and responsive, it could mean that they are trying to avoid sharing their emotions with you.
  • If your partner is physically and/or verbally abusive, that is another potential sign of emotional neglect
  • Emotional neglect can also happen when your partner touches you without asking first or without letting you know what they want.

These types of behaviors can come off as controlling and harmful when done regularly in a relationship.

Ways to avoid and deal with emotional neglect

As mentioned above, emotional neglect is a form of emotional abuse. If you notice signs that your spouse is emotionally neglecting you, you should speak with them about it.

A good place to start would be to ask them what they are doing for self-care.

You can also try talking with your spouse about whether or not they have any issues from the past that could be causing them to emotionally neglect you.

If the problem persists, then it is time to seek professional help. Your marriage counselor or therapist can help you find more effective ways to communicate your needs and desires with your partner.

7 ways to save your marriage

Marriage is a long-term commitment.

When two people decide to marry, they are promising to be with each other no matter what comes their way. The good and the bad. The happy and the sad. The best and worst moments of your life are all possible when you’re married.

This can be challenging for some marriages, but it can also be fulfilling and beautiful.

However, one of the most important aspects of marriage is communication: listening to your partner, understanding them, and talking about your thoughts and feelings.

If you’re having trouble with your spouse, here are 7 steps to keep your relationship alive:

1) Talk about your feelings

If you would like to be open about how you feel with your partner, try talking about them without judging their opinions or judgments.

It’s important that when you talk about how you feel that you’re not putting down their feelings or opinions.

When people express a feeling, they deserve respect for how they feel without being told how that feeling should be dealt with.

2) Remember the good old days

It’s easy to forget the good times with the bad.

It’s easy to get caught up in the emotional stress that comes with marriage. But it’s important to remember what your partner has done for you and how they’ve made your life better.

If you’re struggling to remember a moment of happiness, try writing a list of happy memories in a journal or on your calendar. It can be as simple as recording where you went on vacation and all the fun things you did while you were there.

Keeping a journal can help you find the answers to why you fell in love and what made you happy.

3) Spend time together

Do something together each day that reminds the other person of their strengths, abilities, and skills. A trip to the zoo or taking a cooking class might just do the trick!

4) Remember the little things

Make time for one-on-one interactions like holding hands while walking around the block or spending time talking with them over coffee after work.

5) Be open to change

Embrace change as a chance for growth and renewal and recognize that it will be worth it in the end because it’s better than staying stagnant!

6) Don’t take each other for granted

Don’t take each other for granted – instead, make sure your partner knows how much they mean to you every day by doing something special for them.

7) Find out what they want and need from you

An important step to a better relationship is understanding your spouse. To do this, you can ask questions and talk about what they want or need from you. You may be surprised by the answers!


Think about the last time you had an argument with your spouse. What was it about? If you are unsure, this might be a good time to schedule some one-on-one time with your spouse to find out.

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