Lyndol Lyons
Do you worry about how you compare with others?
Or, is it more a feeling of being treated inferior by other people.
It’s pretty normal to have moments where you feel inadequate, however, if there’s someone who’s making you feel like this all the time, it’s time to take action.
Here are 19 ways s you can take action and put a stop to feeling inferior.
Here’s how.
What is an inferiority complex?
It’s the feeling that you’re not good enough. This can be in a social setting, or even at work. It’s like no matter how hard you try, you just don’t seem to cut it (well, in your opinion anyway)
What causes this?
There are many reasons why we feel inferior to other people, such as:
- We’re not good enough in certain situations, such as when we have to make a presentation or have to perform certain tasks.
- We don’t know what we’re doing and feel like we can’t do anything right.
- We aren’t confident and think that we are going to fail at everything.
- We compare ourselves with others and think that they are better than us in many ways.
- We don’t like ourselves for who we are and wish that there was something about us that was different from how it is.
- We’re afraid of what other people will think of us and how they will view us.
- We feel like we’re not good enough to be with someone, or that they’ll leave us if we don’t meet their expectations of who we should be.
What can I do to stop feeling inferior?
It’s not all gloom and doom!
If you’ve been feeling inferior for a while, it’s probably because there’s something that is triggering these feelings in your life.
You need to figure out what that is so you can take action and change the situation.
Everyone goes through moments in life where they don’t feel like they’re enough, even celebrities and sports stars!
You’re not alone.
The good news?
There is plenty you can do to turn the situation around and start feeling better about yourself.
Here’s how!
1) Ask for advice
When confidence is low, it can be difficult to hold onto our personal identity or the self-esteem that we need in order to feel fulfilled.
It’s important for us as individuals and groups to have a safe place where we can share our feelings and experiences with one another.
This could be something like an online forum, a support group, or even just someone who will listen sympathetically and give you honest feedback.
2) Make a list
Make a list of all the things that you feel inferior about and work on improving yourself in those areas.
To be a better person, it’s important to learn about how to love and appreciate yourself.
This can involve learning more about your own strengths and weaknesses so that you can work on improving them.
Additionally, it’s important to become familiar with the different aspects of spirituality – from yoga or meditation practices to anger management or healthy eating habits – in order to tap into their power for personal growth.
What does it take to build a life filled with exciting opportunities and passion-fueled adventures?
Most of us hope for a life like that, but we feel stuck, unable to achieve the goals we wishfully set at the start of each year.
I felt the same way until I took part in Life Journal. Created by teacher and life coach Jeanette Brown, this was the ultimate wake-up call I needed to stop dreaming and start taking action.
Click here to find out more about Life Journal.
So what makes Jeneatte’s guidance more effective than other self-development programs?
It’s simple:
Jeanette’s created a unique way of putting YOU in control of your life.
She’s not interested in telling you how to live your life. Instead, she’ll give you lifelong tools that’ll help you achieve all your goals, keeping the focus on what you’re passionate about.
And that’s what makes Life Journal so powerful.
If you’re ready to start living the life you’ve always dreamt of, you need to check out Jeanette’s advice. Who knows, today could be the first day of your new life.
3) Focus on what’s good
You have so much to be grateful for so it’s a healthy idea to focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Think about all the things that you’ve done to achieve success – whether it’s coming to school, graduating from college, or finding a job that you love.
Remember, you are a unique individual and have a lot going for you. There are thousands of people who would give their left arm to have your life.
4) Work on yourself
Whether it’s improving your hobbies, developing a new skill, or learning how to cook healthy food, work on yourself and learn how to develop more confidence in yourself.
As you become better at accomplishing things, your skills will improve and with that, so will your confidence.
There is no better investment than, investing in yourself!
5) Don’t compare yourself with others
Pretty obvious right?!
Well, don’t do it!
So what if so and so is driving the latest Range Rover, or so and so just bought a $5 million mansion.
Good for them. That’s part of their journey, not yours.
Remember that no one can tell you what you should be doing with your life and no one can tell you what you’re worth in the eyes of others.
You are unique and valuable and many people will envy the things that make you happy!
You are exactly where you are meant to be in life and no amount of self-loathing is going to fix that.
6) Boost your confidence
Work on improving your self-esteem by reading self-help books or watching motivational videos online to boost your confidence levels, or join a group of people who are going through the same thing as you are, so they can help lift each other up and give advice when needed.
We’re all dealing with things.
You never know what the next person is going through and yes, things might seem rosy, however, it’s not always the case.
Know that you are on a journey. Your journey is different from everyone else’s so keep a positive mindset and focus on where you want to be.
7) Set goals for yourself, even if they’re small ones
Be positive! Focus on the things that are making you happy and focus on the things that make you happy rather than focusing on all the bad in life. There is no need to dwell on it!
If you can’t see anything good in your life right now, think about what will happen in the future when you reach your goals. You will be in a better place. You will have achieved what you set out to do and you will be one step closer to achieving your dreams!
Stop comparing yourself with others and focus on your strengths rather than what people say about you.
8) Work on your relationships
A strong relationship is one of the most important things in life, as it gives us the strength to deal with our problems and helps us feel that we are not alone.
If you can’t find comfort in a relationship, work on it and try to improve it.
Don’t let relationships become a guilty pleasure or something that you just do when you want attention. Those who are with you at your lowest deserve to be treasured because it’s them that will lift you when you fall.
9) Get some sleep
Sleep is essential for the body and mind and if you’re not getting enough, you will find yourself feeling agitated, frustrated, anxious, and stressed.
It can also cause you to feel depressed and that’s where feeling inferior creeps in.
It’s not always easy to sleep at night but if you can’t get your beauty rest then you need to do something about it.
Never underestimate the power of a good night’s sleep, after all, things always look better in the morning.
10) Exercise regularly
Exercise is a huge part of building self-esteem. It helps us to feel better about ourselves and it’s also a great way to boost our mood.
It can help you to burn off all the negative energy that might be building up in your body and it can help you to feel better about yourself because you will be putting your body to action and will be making a difference not only in your appearance but for your mental health sake.
If you are worried about going to a gym and being surrounded by people who are fit and trim, don’t bother with a gym.
A nice long walk, a run, or even picking up that old bicycle in the garage is a great first step.
You can do it!
11) Smile more
Smiling is one of the easiest ways to make someone else feel good, so why not do it more often?
If you find yourself in a situation where a certain individual is making you feel inferior, SMILE!
It will immediately make you seem more confident (even if you’re cringing inside) and will improve the way that person feels about you.
Have you ever noticed how people who smile are often happier? It’s no coincidence! If you smile, people will notice and they will start smiling too!
12) Listen more
This is one of the first steps to building self-esteem and it’s a bit surprising because we all know that we need to listen more than we talk, but what is it that makes us feel less than worthy?
I think it’s the fear of not being heard or our own insecurities, so listen up and pay attention to what people are saying.
We all want to be heard and we want to be taken seriously, but sometimes we don’t realize that in order to get the attention of others, we need to give it first.
As a human being, you are worth something and you have valid opinions that deserve to be heard.
13) Write down your feelings
Writing down your feelings can help you to realize how you feel about yourself and it can also help you focus on the positive aspects of life so that you can take steps towards changing those things that aren’t working for you.
Writing down your thoughts can also help you sort through them in a healthy way so that they don’t take over your mind and leave you feeling overwhelmed with negative emotions.
14) Give yourself a compliment every day
It’s not always easy to give ourselves a compliment and it might seem silly or even ridiculous at first, but if you’re serious about changing your self-esteem, you need to give yourself some love.
Every day make a conscious effort to stop and appreciate something positive about yourself.
You’re hair, your amazing smile, or your infectious laugh!
You are amazing, it’s about time that you start to realize it!
15) Know that there will always be someone “better than you”
It’s a fact.
You just need to accept it.
Realize that no matter what happens, you’re going to be okay. There will always be someone better than you out there, but it doesn’t mean that you’re not good enough.
How boring life would be if we were all the same?
Sometimes, feeling inferior is necessary so that we can pull up our socks and start working harder towards achieving success. After all, a bit of healthy competition never hurt. Right?!
16) Think outside the box
Look at your life from a different perspective and see things from another point of view so that your point of view changes.
This will make you feel like you have more control over events in your life and give you more confidence about who you are as a person.
The truth is, most of us never realize how much power and potential lies within us.
We become bogged down by continuous conditioning from society, the media, our education system, and more.
The result?
The reality we create becomes detached from the reality that lives within our consciousness.
I learned this (and much more) from the world-renowned shaman Rudá Iandé. In this excellent free video, Rudá explains how you can lift the mental chains and get back to the core of your being.
A word of caution – Rudá isn’t your typical shaman.
He doesn’t paint a pretty picture or sprout toxic positivity like so many other gurus do.
Instead, he’s going to force you to look inwards and confront the demons within. It’s a powerful approach, but one that works.
So if you’re ready to take this first step and align your dreams with your reality, there’s no better place to start than with Rudá’s unique technique
Here’s a link to the free video again.
17) Give yourself a treat every now and then
Give yourself a reward for accomplishing something new, even just once a week, or once a month.
The feeling of accomplishment and achievement can help you to feel better about yourself and your achievements.
It will also give you the chance to celebrate when times are good and it will motivate you to keep going.
18) Change up your routine every once in a while
Change things up every once in a while so that you don’t get too comfortable with your daily routine.
Even though a change might hurt for a little bit, it’s important to keep yourself from getting bored with everyday life, so just change things up from time to time!
19) Let your hair down
Too often are we too worried about what others think about us.
So much so, that it actually hampers us from having a good time.
Do you want to know a secret?
Most people are too worried about their own problems and seriously aren’t obsessing about you.
So, let that be your mantra when you stop caring so much about the opinions of others and go out there and enjoy life!
Try to have fun when you’re around people, and do something else when you’re alone so that you don’t feel inferior.
Wrapping Up
Think of your self-esteem as a glass of water in which you’re the glass.
Whenever you get knocked over, the glass gets broken and the water spills everywhere because you’re so fragile.
If you don’t keep yourself together, it’s going to be hard to fix yourself up again.
Always remember that if something bad happens in your life, it’s not the end of the world and things will get better because there are always new opportunities for growth and improvement available for anyone who wants to take advantage of them.
Remember that you are the only one who can make your life better by changing you and making it better instead of trying to change others around you.
