When you find yourself in the midst of a crisis, it can feel like your whole world is falling apart.
All at once, you’re left with an array of negative emotions and limited solutions to help get you out of the hole you’ve found yourself in.
No matter what caused your life to unravel, it’s during these trying times when you need to dig deep and figure out how to move forward.
My own life fell apart just a few months ago, or so I thought.
I felt terrible and didn’t know what to do. That’s when I decided to take fate into my own hands and turn my life around.
Want to do the same? Here are 10 things you can do when your life is falling apart (tried and tested):
1) Recognize what’s worth keeping
If you find yourself on the edge of a cliff with your life, it can be easy to throw the baby out with the bathwater and let go of everything.
It might be time to take a step back, breathe, and remember what you’re holding onto.
What are the things in your life that are worth keeping? What are the things that you can’t let go of?
What are the things that keep you going?
What have you managed to accomplish and learn from?
What are the things that make you happy and give you a sense of purpose?
Identifying these assets and totems is an important step in the process of moving forward.
You see before you go ahead and just discard anything and everything, really take a look at what you want to keep in your life at all costs.
Getting your priorities in order like that will also help you to identify the things that are causing you to feel overwhelmed.
Trust me, no matter how much it seems as though your life is falling apart, there are always things worth holding onto.
You just have to find them.
2) Be kind to yourself
No matter what you’ve done or how badly you think you’ve messed up, the only person you need to forgive yourself is you.
It’s unfortunate, but many people never get to that point.
They get lost in regret, shame, and hatred; they drag themselves down with guilt and never forgive themselves for mistakes they’ve made in the past.
You need to be as kind and gentle with yourself as you would be with a friend or loved one.
It’s okay to make mistakes. Nobody is superhuman. Nobody is infallible.
Everybody makes mistakes. So, be as kind and gentle with yourself as possible. Be the best version of yourself you can be.
You see, if your life is already falling apart, the last thing you need is to also be really hard on yourself.
Our inner monologue is really important.
If we’re constantly being negative and self-critical, it’s going to make things a lot worse.
Be kind to yourself. It will help you forgive yourself and move forward.
Now: I understand that to some degree, you might want to hold yourself accountable if you’ve made a mistake.
You might want to make sure you don’t make that same mistake again.
And that’s fine.
But you don’t need to be hard on yourself either. You don’t need to be cruel or unforgiving.
You can hold yourself accountable and still be kind and gentle with yourself, too.
The key is balance. Find the right balance between being kind and gentle with yourself, and holding yourself accountable for your mistakes in the past.
3) See where you went wrong
Where did you go wrong? What was your first misstep? What triggered the chain of events that led to your current situation?
What are the things you could have done differently? Where did you lose sight of your path? Where did you go down the wrong road? What lessons can be learned from your mistakes?
No matter what you’ve done or how badly you think you’ve messed up, it’s important to see where you went wrong.
It’s important to locate the misstep that caused the chain of events that led to your current situation.
It’s important to take responsibility for your actions and understand what you could have done differently.
It’s important to learn from your mistakes.
Oftentimes, it all starts out with a simple mindset thing.
I noticed that all my struggles were coming from the fact that even though I thought I was being spiritual, I was actually engaging in toxic spirituality a lot.
I learned that from the shaman Rudà Iandê. In this eye-opening video, he talks about how easy it is to fall into this trap of toxic spirituality without ever really getting to the bottom of things.
And the worst part?
When your mindset is not in the right place, it is really easy for your entire life to fall apart as a result of that.
Thankfully, the video also talked about how to turn that around and make empowering decisions for yourself.
Ever since I started doing that, I noticed immediate changes – my life was no longer falling apart!
I don’t know if this will help you, I just know that it helped me out a lot, so click here to watch the free video.
4) Find a safe place to talk things out
There’s something incredibly therapeutic about talking out your problems with a friend or loved one.
If there’s someone you feel comfortable talking to, take advantage of that and let everything out.
You don’t have to solve your problems right away.
It’s okay to vent, let out your emotions, and put your problems into words.
It can help ground you, allow you to see things from a different perspective, and put you on a path towards finding a solution.
Find someone you trust and feel comfortable talking to.
Reach out and see if you can open up about what’s going on in your life. You’ll likely be surprised by the clarity you get from doing so.
To be honest with you, I was really struggling with this one.
I felt embarrassed to open up about my vulnerabilities and fears.
I felt ashamed to ask for help.
I felt like I was a burden to everyone around me.
And it took me years to get over that and start talking about my problems with my friends and loved ones.
But let me tell you, once you do that, you won’t regret it one bit!
It’s incredibly empowering to be able to share your problems with someone who cares about you and wants the best for you.
It’s amazing how much clarity you can get from talking things out!
The thing is, the people in your life love you and want the best for you, so why not let them help a bit if they really want to?
5) Give yourself space and don’t try to fix everything at once
When you find yourself in a situation where everything is falling apart, it can be tempting to try to fix everything at once.
Don’t do it. Don’t try to fix everything at once. You’ll never manage it.
You’ll end up overwhelmed and exhausted, and you’ll likely make things worse as a result.
Take things one at a time. Give yourself space. Breathe and allow yourself to process what’s going on in your life.
Give yourself time to come to terms with what’s happened. Give yourself time to let your emotions die down.
You see, you need to give yourself time to figure out the best path forward.
It’s okay to feel overwhelmed. It’s okay to feel confused. It’s okay to take time for yourself and your healing process.
Trying to fix everything that’s falling apart in your life at the same time will only cause you to spiral even further down.
Give yourself space and let your emotions settle.
Once you are ready to do something about your situation, tackle it one thing at a time.
The more you put on your plate now, the harder it will be to move forward.
So take things one step at a time.
Give yourself space and don’t try to fix everything at once.
6) Rebuild your foundation with care
When your life is falling apart, you need to be careful not to rush into trying to fix everything at once.
You need to be careful not to try to rebuild your foundation with haste and without caution.
It’s important to go at your own pace, to take things one at a time, and to do what’s best for you.
While it’s important to look toward the future and have a long-term plan, you need to be careful not to rush everything.
You need to take care of yourself at the moment. You need to take care of your current situation and deal with what’s happening now.
You need to make sure you don’t put too much stress on yourself or take on too much at once.
You see, there is a bright side to your life falling apart: you get to start over. You get to rebuild your life from the foundation up.
Now: don’t waste this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity by rushing the process.
Take your time and build a solid foundation that you know will withstand any problems in the future.
Take your time to rebuild your life.
7) Re-evaluate your priorities
The first step to rebuilding your life after it falls apart is to re-evaluate your priorities. These questions can help you with that:
What are the things that are most important to you? What are the things that matter most?
What are the things that you want to keep at the forefront of your life? What are the things that bring you the most joy?
What are the things that give you a sense of purpose? What are the things that are worth fighting for?
These are the things that need to go back to the forefront of your life.
These are the things that need to be prioritized above everything else. These are the things that need to be kept close and held tightly.
You see, knowing your priorities is important, it gives you something to focus on when your life falls apart.
It gives you something to hold onto and it gives you something to strive for.
It gives you a sense of purpose when things are falling apart around you.
Knowing your priorities is the first step to rebuilding your life after it falls apart. It’s the first step to getting back on track and back on mission.
8) Don’t be afraid to fail
Another thing that will help when your life is falling apart is to not be afraid to fail.
You’re going to make mistakes. It’s inevitable. You’re going to make mistakes and fall short of your goals. That’s part of the human condition.
But you can’t let that stop you from moving forward. You can’t let that stop you from trying to live your best life.
You can’t let that stop you from doing everything you can to find success. You can’t let that stop you from trying to find what works for you.
You see, successful people aren’t where they are because they didn’t fail. They’re successful because they failed, learned from their mistakes, and then tried again.
They didn’t give up. They didn’t stop trying. They didn’t throw in the towel.
They kept going, they kept trying and they kept fighting until they found what worked for them.
So don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to try something new and different to find what works for you.
Don’t be afraid to learn from your mistakes and then do better next time.
Don’t be afraid of failing, because failure is an important part of the process when rebuilding your life after it falls apart.
9) Learn from your mistakes
Another thing that will help when your life is falling apart is to learn from your mistakes.
You’ve been through something terrible and traumatic. You’ve been through something that’s rocked your world and has left you feeling lost and confused.
You’ve been through something that’s left you with a lot of unanswered questions.
It’s important not to dwell on the past and it’s important not to stay stuck where you are.
However, that doesn’t mean you can’t look back at your mistakes and learn from them.
You see, there is no better teacher than your own mistakes.
The more you learn from your mistakes, the better you’ll be able to move forward. The more you learn from your mistakes, the better you’ll be able to rebuild your life after it falls apart.
In order to do this successfully, you need to learn to see mistakes as an opportunity to learn without beating yourself up too much about them.
There needs to be a balance between taking accountability for your mistakes and still learning from them without feeling like a loser.
You’re not a loser just because you made a mistake.
You’re not a loser just because life didn’t turn out the way you had hoped.
You’re not a loser just because you made a few bad choices.
You’re not a loser just because things didn’t go your way.
If you’re going to rebuild your life after it falls apart, you need to be able to see mistakes as an opportunity for growth and learning without beating yourself up about them too much.
10) Commit to continual self-growth
Last but not least, when your life is falling apart, you need to commit to continual self-growth.
This is the only way you’ll be able to move forward. This is the only way you’ll be able to heal.
This is the only way you’ll be able to let go of the past and be free of the pain and suffering it’s caused you.
You see, when life falls apart, there are only a few things that are still under your control.
One of those is how you choose to respond to the situation.
How you respond to the situation is a choice and it’s one of the few things you can control.
The other is how you decide to grow from the experience, both personally and spiritually.
You see, when life falls apart, it’s a wake-up call and it’s an opportunity for growth.
It’s an opportunity for self-improvement. It’s an opportunity for self-growth and self-development.
You have a choice in how you respond to life falling apart and whether or not you allow yourself to grow as a result of it or not.
You have a choice in how you respond to life falling apart and whether or not you allow yourself to be consumed by pain, anger, sadness, depression, fear, and anxiety as a result of it or not.
Now: if you decide to focus on self-growth, this time will be one of your most transformational times in life ever!
I know that this is scary, but your life falling apart is also an amazing opportunity that not a lot of people get.
Try to use this as a fresh start, an opportunity to reinvent yourself!
Once you do, you will feel better and you’ll be prepared for the future!