There are certain periods in life when you feel like there’s no meaning to it all.
There is no light to break the darkness, no reason to get out of bed, and no meaning to anything that’s happening.
It feels like everything around you is against you and there’s nothing you can do about it.
We all go through such phases from time to time; some worse than others.
This article will help you get out of that rut and make the most of your life in the process.
When life throws you curveballs, what do you do? Do you give up or find a way to make things work for you? If your answer is the latter, read on…
1) Go for a jog or run
Exercise is an amazing way to get out of a rut.
At the very least, it will get your blood pumping and make you feel better about yourself. And, it works both as a short-term solution (if you’re going through a rough patch) and as a long-term fix (if you’re in a slump, exercise will get you out of it).
When you feel like you have no life, exercise is the best thing you can do with your time. It will give you the energy to get through the day, will improve your mood, and help you sleep better at night.
What kind of exercise should you do?
Anything that gets your blood pumping and leaves you breathless.
Go for a jog or a run, lift weights at the gym, take a dance class, do yoga, play soccer or basketball with friends or do anything else that makes you sweat and feel alive.
2) Learn something new
When you feel like you have no life, one thing you can do is learn something new.
It could be a language or how to play a musical instrument, but it doesn’t have to be. Learning a new skill can be as simple as learning how to bake a cake or write fantasy roleplay games.
The thing about learning something new is that it keeps you busy and can help you get out of a slump.
So if you’re going through a rough patch, you should learn something new to help you get over it. It will keep you from thinking about your problems and will help you channel your energy in the right direction.
Now, while you can learn something new from home with the help of online tutorials, I find it best to sign up for an actual in-person class.
I know how hard it is to get yourself moving sometimes, but going out and being with other people really does wonders for you.
What’s more, I find that in-person classes cost more than online tutorials (which are sometimes free) and once I’ve paid, there’s a greater chance of me following through because I don’t want my money to go to waste.
So, what are you interested in? What skill do you wish you had?
Sign up for something and before you know it, you’ll feel like you have a life once again.
3) Meet up with friends
Maybe you’ve turned into a bit of a hermit and want to stay home all the time.
This is not good for you at all!
When you stay at home, you only have yourself to think about and your problems to worry about.
This is not helpful at all. When you’re going through a rough patch and feel like you have no life, you should meet up with your friends and go out as often as you can.
Now, you don’t have to go out every single day, but at least go out on weekends or some weekdays when you’re not too tired from work.
The thing is that when you’re with your friends, you won’t be able to think about your problems. You will be too busy enjoying yourself to think about your existential crisis.
And, you never know, you might just meet someone new that will make you feel good about life.
So, what are you waiting for? Go out and meet up with your friends and you’ll see that you do have a life.
4) Get in touch with your spiritual side
No matter what faith you follow or what your views are, spirituality is something that can help you get out of the rut that you’re in.
It teaches you acceptance, patience, and humility. It tells you to be grateful for all the blessings that came your way and be patient, as things will work themselves out in due time.
It gives you reasons to keep going even when the going gets tough.
But where are you on your spiritual journey?
With all these new-age gurus and well-meaning experts on spirituality, it’s easy to get lost and fall into the trap of toxic spirituality – like needing to be positive and happy all the time.
Even the shaman Rudá Iandé had a negative experience at the beginning of his spiritual journey.
In this eye-opening video, he explains how spirituality should not be about suppressing your feelings or feeling like you’re better than others. It should be about empowering yourself and forming a pure connection with who you are at your core.
When I was at my lowest I tried so many different things and went on various retreats and pilgrimages but nothing seemed to help me, in fact, I felt worse than ever. I was ready to give up when I discovered Rudá’s Free Your Mind masterclass.
So if you want to start feeling alive and like you’re really living your life to the fullest, click here to watch the free video.
5) Go on a trip
Travelling does wonders for the soul.
I find that I feel the most alive when I travel somewhere new. I get to discover new places, new traditions, try out exotic foods, and meet interesting people.
You can plan a trip to a nearby destination on a budget or use the money you have saved for emergencies for a trip abroad.
Go visit somewhere exciting. Near or far, I’m sure there’s someplace that you’ve been meaning to visit but putting off for ages.
Whether it’s going to Disneyland or seeing the pyramids in Egypt, I guarantee you that traveling will make you realize that you have a life that you’re living to the fullest.
When you come back from your trip, you’ll feel energized and drunk on life.
Planning a trip gives you something to look forward to and coming back from one gives you something nice to look back on.
6) Help someone else
When you’re stuck in a rut and feel like your life has no meaning, you’ll start feeling sorry for yourself and will want to do nothing but sit at home.
This is a big NO-NO!
When you’re going through a rough patch and have no life, you should help someone else.
You see, when you help someone else, you will realize that not only do you have the skills and the ability to do so but that it feels good.
Helping others will help you get out of your slump. You will realize that your problems are nothing compared to what other people go through. Helping other people also feels amazing.
Think about it: What can you do?
You can volunteer at a nearby homeless shelter, teach someone how to read or write, tutor students who need help with their homework, or maybe even teach basic computer skills to seniors.
7) Write your thoughts down
If you’re feeling bad and like there’s no point in getting out of bed, like you have no life, it is important that you get your thoughts out of your head.
Take a notebook or a pen and a piece of paper with you wherever you go. Whenever you feel like you have too many thoughts running through your mind, write them down.
Getting all those thoughts out on paper will help unburden you. You’ll feel lighter.
What’s more, you may gain some insight into why you feel the way you feel. In a way, writing down your thoughts is like talking to someone about your problems.
Trust me, you should really give it a try.
8) Meditate and breathe
When you feel like you have no life, you will start feeling a ton of pressure to do something meaningful. You will want to give your life meaning but you won’t know how.
You won’t be able to do anything because you will be too busy thinking about your problems and trying to solve them all at once.
What do you do when you feel like this? You should meditate and breathe.
Meditating helps you calm down and come to terms with your problems. Breathing helps you relax and focus on the now.
When I’m feeling overwhelmed and feel like my life is empty and meaningless, I often want to do a million things at once in order to fix it. That’s when I start to feel helpless.
But as my therapist explained to me, I need to tackle one thing at a time. Wanting to do so many things at once is like carrying a huge weight on my shoulders.
That’s why I practice mindful meditation. It helps ground me and focus on the present. Then I work on one problem at a time.
9) Watch a comedy show
When you’re feeling down, sometimes it’s doing something as simple as watching a comedy that will make you feel better.
Comedy shows will make you laugh and feel good about yourself.
Watch a classic comedy show or a stand-up special.
Recently I’ve been feeling a bit down and I started to watch Friends from the beginning for like the 100th time. It’s a great way to unwind after a stressful day and a great distraction from all the negative thoughts that keep on popping into my mind.
Give it a try. Sometimes laughter really is the best medicine.
Exercising can do wonders for your mental health.
Many people find their mood lifting just a couple of days after they start going to the gym or just walking more often.
Improved blood circulation and the release of endorphins are just a few of the many benefits of exercising regularly.
11) Stay in touch with loved ones
Your loved ones are the ones who will be there for you through thick and thin.
They will be the ones who will support you and help you get better when you are down.
But when you’re in the pit of despair, you tend to push them away. When you feel like you have no life, you tend to forget that there are people who care for you and want nothing more than to see you happy again.
They are your support system, but you can only be part of it if you’re in a position to do so.
Stay in touch with your loved ones and let them know you care too. Don’t push them away.
12) Think about the little things that make you happy
Ok, so things are not great right now, but that doesn’t mean that there’s nothing good in your life.
When you feel a certain way, you tend to forget the good things in your life.
- You forget how important your loved ones are to you.
- You forget that you are strong enough to get through the bad times.
- You forget that you have been through worse times before and survived.
- You forget that things will get better.
So when you feel like nothing is going your way and that you have no life, try to focus on the little things that bring you joy. Whether it’s that first cup of coffee in the morning or your cat purring in your life.
And embrace your happy memories. All those good times that you had are still there. They are not lost. They are not gone. You just have to remember them.
You have to find the strength to get through the bad times, and you’re sure to have some great times ahead of you.
13) Consider getting a dog
Ok., getting a dog is not something to be taken lightly. They’re not toys and you can’t get rid of them once you get tired of them. They’re living, breathing, amazing companions that need a lot of love and attention.
That being said, if you’ve thought about getting a dog for years but have always found an excuse not to, now might be the time.
Dogs are the best medicine in the world. They are pure, unadulterated love, and that’s what everyone needs in their lives.
Dogs are great companions and they can make your life feel complete, at least mine do.
When you have a dog and you’re feeling blue and don’t want to get out of bed, that’s not an option. You have to get up and walk your dog and I’ve found that to be great therapy!
You can go to your nearest shelter, choose the cutest dog there and know that you saved a life in the process.
Getting a dog can be a huge responsibility but it can also be one of the best things you ever did. You’ll get the unconditional love that you’ve always wanted and all you have to do is love them in return.
14) Go for long nature walks
Nature is the best healer.
It can calm you down in a matter of minutes, no matter the situation.
It helps you get your life back on track. It gives you the energy that you need to get through your day. It helps you think and reflect on your life in the process.
I’ve found that nature walks are one of the best ways to clear your head and get your life back on track. They can give you the clarity that you need to get back to your normal self and help you process the things that have been troubling you and give you some perspective.
15) Find the root cause of what’s making you feel bad
What’s causing you to feel like you have no life?
Is it a bad breakup? A serious financial setback? Do you hate your job and are too scared to look for a new one?
Find out what’s making you feel so bad and deal with it before you can move on.
Avoiding your problems will only make them more difficult to solve.
You must confront them, talk to someone about them and find a way to resolve them before you can move on.
If a bad breakup is making you feel depressed, talk to a friend about it. If a financial setback is causing you to feel anxious, start looking for ways to reverse the situation.
16) Talk to a therapist or a psychiatrist
When all else fails, it is best to visit a professional.
If you don’t know how to deal with your problems, they’ll make you feel like you have no life.
A psychiatrist or a therapist can help you deal with your problems and move on. They are trained to help you get out of the pit of despair and move on with your life.
Do your research and find a therapist or psychiatrist who deals with the issues you’re facing.
You find someone that you’re comfortable with but keep in mind that they’re not your friend. They are there to help you get out of the pit and move on with your life. They come with experience and knowledge that can help you resolve your issues.
17) Don’t be afraid of change
You may have found yourself in the situation of having no life because you’re afraid of change.
You’re afraid of moving to the next stage of your life because the one you’re in now is safe and comfortable.
You don’t want to grow up, take risks, and live your life the way you want to. You may want to keep your present company or job, even if they’re making you feel like you have no life.
You may want to remain in a relationship that’s making you miserable.
This is the time to confront your fears and move on with your life. Don’t be afraid to fail.
Just be brave enough to take the first step and see where it takes you.
Understand that you do have a life
When you feel like you have no life, it’s important to remember that this is not true. You do have a life – you’re living it!
Nobody is happy all the time and we all have our ups and downs, this is perfectly normal.
If you’re not happy and are feeling depressed, remember that this feeling will pass. No matter how bad it feels right now, it will get better.
You just have to be patient and wait for it to happen. When you’re in the pit of despair, it’s easy to forget that the feeling won’t last forever.
Be kind to yourself.
Try to get yourself busy – do something that will get your mind off your problems and make you feel alive.
Remember that there are people in your life that love you. It’s easy to forget that there are people around you who care about you and are there to support you no matter what.
To help you get out of your rut, find the root cause of what’s making you feel bad, and talk to a therapist or a psychiatrist.
And another thing that can help you is to get in touch with your spirituality. We often feel like we have no life because we’re out of touch with our core selves and our purpose in life.
Shaman Rudá Iandé’s incredible free video will help you get back in touch with yourself, step by step.
And don’t worry, he won’t tell you how to practice your spirituality. Instead, he’ll guide you and give you the tools to find your own way.