BY JOYCE ANN ISIDRO
Growing up poor, I've felt buyer's remorse even for small purchases like a $10 moisturizer, driven by conflicting thoughts about decision-making and conditioned beliefs about luxury, but I've learned that if I truly want something, there shouldn't be regret in buying it.
The joy of giving loved ones what they desire contrasts with the guilt I feel when indulging myself, rooted in a sense of wrongdoing ingrained by a lifetime of saving for uncertain times, yet realizing that I deserve the same happiness I readily provide others.
Managing money is particularly challenging for those who grew up poor, where survival often took precedence over financial planning, leading to uncertainty when faced with disposable income, yet finding solace in tracking expenses as a first step towards financial stability and potential investment opportunities.
The perception of successful individuals perpetually lounging is often inaccurate, as many find the pursuit of success addictive due to the association of time with money, but it's essential to recognize the importance of rest to prevent burnout and maintain productivity.
Despite enduring recurring floods and threats of fires during storm seasons and scorching summers without electricity, the simplicity of a studio apartment with a city view is perceived as the ultimate luxury, representing a significant departure from past hardships and a testament to personal success.
Healing one's inner child, often dismissed as cheesy or cringey, is a real psychological process involving re-parenting neglected or abused aspects of oneself, especially significant for those who grew up poor and experienced trauma, now finding solace in self-care practices as adults to provide themselves with the care they lacked in childhood.