10 behaviors that make you look insecure (and what to do instead)


1. Over-apologizing

Apologizing excessively, even when not at fault, can indicate low confidence; therefore, it is essential to make a conscious effort to apologize only when necessary and to embrace one's worth. 

2. Speed-talking or getting hyper

Speak calmly and clearly by slowing down, as speaking too quickly or with excessive enthusiasm can make you sound anxious or insecure. 

3. Overdoing the niceness

Being overly nice and constantly seeking approval can give off an insecure vibe, so it's better to focus on being authentic and maintaining your boundaries, as standing up for yourself can boost your confidence and earn respect from others. 

4. Hesitating to be direct or straightforward

Being clear and concise in communication is crucial to avoid appearing insecure, as it establishes you as someone who knows what they want, and helps create genuine connections built on honesty and respect. 

5. Dodging conversations about yourself

Strike a balance between modesty and self-expression by embracing your achievements and moments that shaped you, and not shying away from letting your true self shine. 

6. Failing to take the initiative

Embrace your inner leader, believe in your abilities, and take calculated risks to build confidence and inspire others. 

7. Agreeing with others just to keep the peace

Agreeing just to avoid conflict can make you seem insecure, but expressing your thoughts and opinions respectfully and confidently can build self-esteem and earn admiration, so practice disagreeing without being disagreeable and let your authentic voice be heard. 

8. The habit of interrupting others

Breaking the habit of interrupting others can make you appear more confident and respectful by honing your listening skills, making a mental note, taking a deep breath before speaking, and being mindful of when to speak. 

9. The scramble of unpreparedness

Arriving late and unprepared can make you appear less confident and unprofessional, so setting an early morning alarm, preparing ahead, and giving ample time for research and practice can exude confidence and professionalism, making you feel more relaxed and in control. 

10. Comparing yourself to others 

Comparing yourself to others can erode confidence, but embracing personal growth, setting achievable goals, practicing gratitude, and celebrating individuality can help build self-confidence, allowing you to break free from the comparison trap and embrace your true self. 

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