8 ways to show you genuinely care about someone without saying anything

It feels good to hear someone say “I care for you.”

But while verbal expressions of love are important, sometimes what people really need is action.

And you know what? 

These gestures don’t have to be grand!

In fact, the simplest acts are the ones that mean a lot.

In this article, I will give you eight ways to show someone you truly care without saying anything.

1) Give them your undivided attention

French philosopher Simone Weil once said that attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.

And I agree.

I find that the people who make me feel truly seen and truly heard are rare. 

Most people, I find, would be “there” for me when I need them.

But while they’re physically there, they’re mentally absent when I talk to them about my problems.

They would interject every so often saying things like “OMG, what an assh*le!”, but all while I was talking, they’re constantly checking their phones.

Very few people actually gave me their full, undivided attention and listened to every single thing I said.

And those people who did made me feel genuinely loved and cared for.

Things you can do:

  • When someone wants to talk to you, don’t multitask (avoid checking your phone, laptop, and doing stuff around the house).
  • Avoid changing the topic too quickly.
  • Look them in the eye and nod every now and then.
  • Try to understand what they’re trying to say.
  • Ask them to clarify if you’re having a hard time understanding them.
  • Learn how to understand others better.

2) Remember the things they tell you

Listening is important, yes. But you know what else is important?

Remembering.

It always makes my heart melt when someone remembers the things I told them.

Especially when those things are so trivial that I never thought anyone would even bother to remember—like the name of my first pet, or what I had for breakfast.

This is because it tells me that they care so much about me that they’re willing to keep me in their thoughts.

So if you want to show someone that you genuinely care about them, try to remember the things they tell you.

Things you can do:

  • Talk to them about things that they’ve expressed interest in. Say “Hey, I heard your favorite band will be on tour soon” or ask questions like “So how did you finish your carpentry project?”
  • Try giving them gifts based on what they’ve told you before. This is what it means when they say “It’s the thought that counts”.
  • Remember the things they do NOT want. If they don’t like horror, don’t invite them to watch “The Ring” with you.
  • If you’re forgetful, tell people about it so that they won’t think you don’t care.

3) Make their life a little easier

Life is hard. 

Others might seem like they’re “doing well”, but are actually struggling with stress, depression, and interpersonal troubles every day.

We all need someone to make our lives a bit easier every now and then.

I will never forget the time when my friends offered to cover my vet bill so that I could save my pet.

The vet was unsuccessful, unfortunately, but I remain forever grateful to my friends for what they did.

This is genuine care in action, and so long as you’re not running yourself ragged you should try making life more bearable for the people you hold dear.

Things you can do:

  • Pay attention to the things they struggle with, and offer to help.
  • Tell them to let you know if they need help.
  • Offer to take over the chores if you live under the same roof.
  • Make them feel good. Play their favorite music for them, for example.
  • Even if they don’t ask for help, offer it to them anyway. They’re probably just shy.

4) Support them in what they do

If you genuinely care about someone, then you should be there to support their ambitions, no matter how big or small.

You don’t judge them for being “too ambitious”— for wanting to be a surgeon or a movie star.

Likewise you don’t say that they have “no ambition” just because they want to run a sandwich shop or retire to a quiet cabin in the woods. 

But at the same time, you don’t stay out of their business completely.

Instead, you stand with them. 

Supporting them—even if just emotionally—as they work to achieve their dreams, and being there to catch them if they fall.

Things you can do:

  • If they’re looking for funding, send them links to organizations that could help them or if you have some spare cash, donate!
  • If they invite you to their performances, show up.
  • Like their pages, posts, and videos.
  • Promote and buy their stuff!

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5) Surprise them with simple gifts

Ah yes. Gifts. 

They’re unnecessary, strictly speaking.

But gifts are more than just gifts. They’re a sign that you care about someone.

There’s the idea that gifts have to be expensive or fancy to be worth it—but no, they simply need to be thoughtful.

The amount of thought you put into the gift reflects how much you care about that person.

So show them you care by selecting a gift that can make them go “Awww, you know me so well.”

But even gifts without much thought are well-appreciated, too. I have a friend who gives me useless trinkets whenever we meet, and I think it’s so sweet.

Things you can do:

  • If you’re going on a holiday, bring them back a souvenir that they might like.
  • If it’s their birthday, try baking them a cake or writing them a letter.
  • If you have coupons lying around and you know they’ll like it, then give it to them.

6) Respect their time for rest and relaxation

I have a pillow with a print “If you love someone, let them rest!”, and I totally agree.

Everyone deserves proper rest and relaxation—your niece who got just home from school…and especially your workaholic partner.

We have vacation days or rest days, but most of the time they’re not even respected.

Someone you know will have been asked to show up at the office during one of their days off, or got called by their superiors after work.

So if they would rather stay at home all day and do nothing but be left alone, let them. 

Don’t try to make them feel guilty for not going shopping with you.

They’ll appreciate that, trust me. 

Things you can do:

  • Don’t call them or make a lot of noise while they’re sleeping.
  • Let them indulge in their hobbies even if you think they’re “too old” for it.
  • If there are things they need to do, ask “Do you want to do this now or later?”
  • Ask if they’re free before asking them a favor, and don’t insist if they’re not.
  • Don’t take them “doing nothing” all day to mean that they’re free.

7) Care for their wellbeing

If you truly care about someone, try to do simple things that could help them with their general wellbeing.

Is their youngest daughter being sickly, or their nephew having bad eating habits?

Are they worried about their mental health, or if they’re being a good friend?

Are they struggling with food security, or having a hard time keeping their room clean and organized?

Be nurturing, and care for them in your own little ways.

Things you can do:

  • Identify their main concerns and identify the ones where you can help.
  • Help them help themselves by sending them links to how they can get support (of course, only if they asked you for help).

8) Make them feel supported and loved for who they are

Accepting someone no matter who or what they are is one of the biggest ways you can show someone that you care.

Some people might say that they “care” for someone’s well-being, but resent that person for their chosen career, or sexuality, their disabilities, or where they come from.

And frankly, that’s just plain toxic.

If you truly care about someone, none of these would matter.

They wouldn’t think any less of their friend for being autistic or gay, or because they decided to pursue the arts instead of working at an office.

Trust me. It’s a wonderful feeling knowing that someone’s always by your side no matter who you are.

Things you can do:

  • Try to accept them for who they are.
  • If there’s something about them that makes you uncomfortable, try to understand why you feel uncomfortable.
  • Try to learn how to accept them without making it their burden.
  • Refrain from comparing them with others.
  • Try to support their endeavors.

Final thoughts

There are many different ways to show that you love and care for someone. 

Simply telling them “I care for you” or “you matter to me” is just one of the easier ones to do.

Love is something that must be felt—something you must both show and tell.

So I encourage you to express your care with words and action. 

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash

Pearl Nash has years of experience writing relationship articles for single females looking for love. After being single for years with no hope of meeting Mr. Right, she finally managed to get married to the love of her life. Now that she’s settled down and happier than she’s ever been in her life, she's passionate about sharing all the wisdom she's learned over the journey. Pearl is also an accredited astrologer and publishes Hack Spirit's daily horoscope.

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