5 undeniable signs you’re a high class person, according to psychology

When we think of “high-class,” we often picture fancy hotels, designer clothing, luxury cars, and elite social gatherings. 

But the truth is that class, real class has little to do with material items and externalities; it’s about character. As put by Dictionary.com, it’s “of a type superior in quality or degree; first-rate.”

Today, we dive into some signs that you are just this: a first-rate person. 

If you don’t happen to see all these traits in yourself, don’t worry; we’ll also give you some tips on how to foster them!

Let’s get to it.

1) You are empathetic

Have you ever noticed that certain individuals have an effortless ability to make everyone around them feel understood and valued

This skill stems from empathy, a defining trait of a genuinely high-class individual. 

It transcends simple politeness; it’s about forging deep emotional connections that enhance the lives of others, even if only momentarily. 

Researchers have also suggested empathy plays a crucial role in ethical behavior, preventing us from causing harm to others. Dr. Elizabeth A. Segal echoes this, noting that empathy is “a foundation for the moral behaviors that create healthier communities, from which all of us benefit.” 

If that’s not classy, I’m not sure what is!

In short, being empathetic involves experiencing the emotions of others, and this understanding influences our actions—ensuring that our responses are not only appropriate but also kind and considerate.

Ask yourself: Do you regularly step back and put yourself in others’s shoes before jumping to conclusions? Do you tailor your conversations to make others feel at ease? Do you sense when someone is feeling awkward and act to alleviate their discomfort?

If so, you are probably showing true class. 

How to foster this trait in your own life

  • Start by actively listening to others without immediately planning your response. Allow yourself to fully understand where they are coming from, which often means setting aside your own judgments and preconceptions. 
  • Also, consider engaging in regular self-reflection to better understand your emotions. Recognizing your feelings can help you connect with the emotions of others. 

2) You don’t let your emotions get the better of you

Picture this: you are talking with a group of friends when a disagreement arises. Instead of listening and considering the different viewpoints, one friend becomes visibly upset, raises their voice, and abruptly leaves the gathering, having said some things she will probably live to regret. 

This is far from what one might consider high-class behavior. Right?

True class involves mastering the art of emotional self-regulation, a skill that enables us to maintain our composure under pressure. By controlling our emotions, we prevent them from dictating our reactions, allowing us to handle criticism, stress, and setbacks with poise and deliberation.

This capacity to modulate our emotional responses ensures that we respond to challenges not impulsively but in a manner that reflects our deepest values and long-term objectives. 

If you are able to stay calm and collected, think critically in heated moments, and consistently display a level of professionalism, you are not just managing your emotions well—you are exhibiting a hallmark of undeniable class.

How to foster this trait in your own life

  • Developing emotional self-regulation starts with awareness. Practice observing your emotions as they arise without immediately acting on them. 
  • Techniques such as mindfulness meditation can help you become more aware of your emotional triggers and give you the space to choose how to respond rather than react. 
  • Consider, too, the role of sufficient rest and a balanced diet, which can profoundly affect your emotional stability and capacity to handle stress effectively.

3) You know you are not perfect, but you are always trying to be better

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This is such a huge one. 

We all know those intolerable people who think they are morally or spiritually above everyone else. They are the sort of people who who flaunt their perceived superiority, often rubbing it in our faces with endless tales of their achievements and virtues.

Justin, our founder here at Ideapod, has talked about this sort of narcissism extensively

Put simply, these think of themselves as perfect and want everyone to know. As you might have guessed, this is the opposite of high class. 

Even the experts seem to agree. Dolly Chugh, an award-winning psychologist, tackled the big question of what a good person is, and she came to a perhaps surprising conclusion: a good person is not someone who believes they are inherently good, but someone continually striving to improve. 

This perspective challenges the traditional view that being a good person is a fixed state, suggesting instead that it is a dynamic process of growth and self-reflection.

Do you find yourself constantly aiming to improve, embracing your flaws as steps towards greater self-awareness, and leveraging your mistakes as learning opportunities? 

Good for you. You are not just making strides in personal growth—you are demonstrating a profound level of class and humility. 

How to foster this trait in your own life

  • Start by setting personal development goals that challenge your current abilities and perceptions. 
  • Invest time in learning new skills and expanding your knowledge through books, courses, and other educational resources. 
  • Reflect on your daily interactions and experiences to identify patterns or behaviors that you can improve upon. 
  • Additionally, embrace failure as an opportunity to learn; rather than getting discouraged by setbacks, analyze what went wrong and how you can prevent similar mistakes in the future. 

This next one says a lot about one’s class. 

4) You genuinely celebrate others’ successes

So let’s say a friend lands their dream job or wins an award—what do you do? Do you smile, offer congratulations, and join the celebration? More importantly, how do you feel? 

If you genuinely feel good for your friend, you’re showing true class.

Such a mindset not only creates a supportive and empowering atmosphere but also demonstrates a sophisticated level of personal security and generosity.

How to foster this trait in your own life

  • Start by acknowledging your own insecurities that might prevent you from feeling happy for others. Work on building self-confidence in your achievements and value, which can help mitigate feelings of jealousy or competition. 
  • Then, make it a habit to openly celebrate others’ accomplishments; for example, send congratulatory messages, share their achievements on social media, or propose a toast in their honor at gatherings. 
  • Try to surround yourself with positive influences—people who also celebrate successes openly, as their attitudes can be contagious. 
  • Practicing gratitude can also shift your focus from what you lack to what you have.

5) Your principles are nonnegotiable

Integrity might seem like a quaint concept in today’s fast-paced, often pragmatic world, but it remains a cornerstone of true class. But what does it mean to embody “real integrity”? 

It’s simpler than many think; basically, it means adhering to a set of ethical principles that govern every decision, big or small.

A person with genuine integrity doesn’t operate based on personal gain or the pursuit of public acclaim. Instead, their actions are guided by what is ethical and just, not merely what is convenient or advantageous. As psychologist Seth Meyers describes it, it’s “the antidote to self-interest.”

Individuals of true integrity face dilemmas with a clear and consistent moral compass, choosing honesty and fairness even when the stakes are high. This steadfast adherence to principle, especially when the easier path might be tempting, is a definitive mark of a high-class individual.

How to foster this trait in your own life

  • To develop and maintain integrity, start by defining your core values and principles. Consider what truly matters to you and what you stand for. Write these down and reflect on how they guide your daily decisions. 
  • Make a conscious effort to align your actions with these values, even in small, everyday choices, as these build the foundation for more significant decisions. 
  • Practice transparency by being honest and open in your interactions. 
  • When faced with tough decisions, consider the broader impact of your actions on others and on your own character. 
  • Additionally, seek out role models who exhibit strong integrity and observe how they handle challenging situations. Learning from others can provide practical insights into upholding your principles consistently, regardless of external pressures.

The bottom line

Class is not measured by ostentatious displays of wealth or the lofty positions one holds; it is determined by the depth and resilience of one’s character.

True class is often shown in ways that may not always be visible to the eye—through the practice of empathy, emotional control, the pursuit of continuous self-improvement, the joy in celebrating others’ successes, and the unwavering commitment to integrity. 

These are the hallmarks of a genuinely high-class individual, qualities that enrich not just their own lives but also the lives of everyone around them.

I hope this post has offered you some insights to reflect on.

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