If you’re in a twin flame relationship, then one of you is bound to be the chaser. They’re the person who pursues the runner, who has ‘run away’ from the intense connection.
Generally, twin flame chasers exhibit these 20 distinct characteristics:
1) Emptiness and feeling incomplete
The name speaks for itself – you and your twin flame share a single soul that’s split between both of you.
You can’t hide yourself from them, for they can easily recognize the ‘fake’ aspects of your life.
Without them, you feel as if you’ve lost half of yourself.
Then again, you did.
This stage is known as the ‘dark night of the soul,’ when it seems like there’s no meaning in life.
Feeling empty is not reserved for the psyche, though, for you may feel it physically as well.
According to a report:
“Some people report a physical sensation in their bodies that keeps them from being able to live life the way they want to. They feel that it’s hard to process happiness or sadness, no matter the situation. Some experience a hollow feeling in their chest or feel lethargic. Some feel bored most of the time and think nothing matters. It’s like an emotional numbness that one can’t shake.”
2) Utter hopelessness
The harsh reality is that the more you chase after your twin flame, the more likely they’re going to run. It feels awfully devastating, seeing that all your efforts have gone to waste.
Because of this disappointment, most twin flame chasers end up feeling hopeless.
In other words, they lack the optimism or belief that they can respond well to a particular situation.
Needless to say, a constant state of hopelessness is terrible for one’s mental health.
According to a report, it can lead to a lower quality of life, anxiety symptoms, even a higher suicide risk.
As such, chasers should see the separation as part of any twin flame dynamic.
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By accepting that ‘everything happens for a reason,’ chasers can:
- Define their life
- Reflect and make sense of the chaotic relationship
- Address the pain brought about by the separation
- Grow from adversity and tragedy
- Learn valuable life lessons
- Enjoy closure, for some twin relationships are meant to end
3) Unbearable pain
Like a breakup, losing your twin flame can bring you so much pain.
You may find yourself in shock – why would they run away from you after all the love and attention you’ve given?
The discomfort sets in little by little, and it’s a report.
Physically, the separation can lead to:
- Loss of appetite
- Tensed muscles
- Sleep disturbances
Likewise, separation can bring intense emotional pain. As psychologist Dr. Kristin Bianchi puts it:
“Research shows that regions of the brain that get activated because of physical pain also get activated during a breakup. Many of the same underlying neurological structures are involved. This translates to the conscious experience of being in pain.”
As for the mental effects, twin flame separation can lead to a decrease in serotonin and norepinephrine. These neurotransmitters are associated with feelings of happiness and pleasure.
4) Hurtful rejection
Rejection is the most common emotional wound people face in life.
However, the sting of rejection is much more significant when it comes from your twin flame.
It’s just like the pain you feel during the separation.
“The same areas of our brain become activated when we experience rejection as when we experience physical pain. That’s why even small rejections hurt more than we think they should because they elicit literal (albeit, emotional) pain,” explains psychologist Guy Winch.
Apart from the emotional pain, this rejection can end up dampening your mood – as well as your self-esteem. In the long run, it may also lead to anger and aggression.
A twin flame relationship is nothing short of euphoric. You both share an instant and intense bond that has made you a person.
It feels as if you’ve found the one – finally, your long wait is over!
As such, when the runner gets up and leaves – the chaser can’t help but be confused by the entire thing.
They don’t know why they left. Unbeknownst to the chaser, it’s because of the following reasons:
- The timing isn’t right
- Lack of self-love
- The need for personal growth
- Emotional or spiritual immaturity
In the end, the chaser’s mind goes overboard, which is why some end up doing the following sign: blaming and criticizing themselves.
6) Self-blame and criticism
Your twin flame has abandoned you, and you know it’s not your fault. Still, you can’t help but blame yourself. You feel you’re the reason why they’ve run away in the first place.
Sadly, the habit of self-blame “facilitates ongoing relationships that are controlling or abusive, since your focus on being at fault is likely to blind you to how your friend, partner, or spouse is treating you.”
To make matters worse, self-blame is not the only thing that chasers encounter.
They’re also prone to self-criticism, which is the “habit of mind that ascribes every mistake, misstep, setback, or failure to fixed aspects of character or personality that can’t be changed, rather than seeing what went wrong in a larger, less personal context.”
The excellent news is twin flame chasers can help cut self-blame and criticism right at their tracks. It’s a matter of:
- Examining your beliefs about yourself
- Differentiating responsibility from self-blame
- Talking back to your ‘critic’
- Seeing yourself wholly
- Developing (and practicing) self-compassion
7) Thinking about their twin flame 24/7
No matter what you do, you just can’t seem to stop thinking about your mirror soul.
They’re on your mind every minute of every day.
While twin flame relationships aren’t always romantic, it’s a sign that you’re in love with your mirror soul.
Even if you’re looking up to the runner – or are influenced by them (as is the case with family or work relationships), you may also find yourself thinking about them.
Likewise, this thought obsession may result from feeling lonely and hurt.
Who wouldn’t? Your twin flame had run away from you, just when you thought everything was fine.
8) More intense feelings for their twin flame
A twin flame relationship is something so intense. It can even get too chaotic that your mirror soul tries to run away.
Because of this, you end up developing more intense feelings for them. Absence makes the heart grow fonder, after all.
While this is true – it does make time together more special – it can lead to fickleness as well. Runners are notorious for ‘running back’ to their exes, for they find the twin flame connection so daunting and overpowering.
Chasers also often feel ‘more’ than runners, which may be due to their brain’s way of processing information.
These emotionally intense people are more caring, attentive, and sensitive. As such, they can’t help but be overwhelmed by the runner’s emotional and psychic energies.
9) Willingness to fight for their twin flame
During the separation stage, runners tend to rekindle old flames. They find their connection with the chaser so intense that they end up running back to their ex’s arms.
Although this is the case, chasers will fight for their twin flame – no matter the cost.
The good thing is twin flames can try to get their mirror souls back by following these tips:
- Give them space. First and foremost, runners need time away to realize that they’re meant to be with their mirror soul.
- Don’t force it. Willingness and force are different things. The more you chase, the more your twin flame will run.
- Improve yourself. You need to be a better person to gain your twin flame back!
- Enhance your personality. Maybe you have traits that your twin flame finds bothersome. If you want to get them back, you need to work on your character ASAP!
- Continue to be happy. While parting with your twin flame can be challenging, you need to work on your happiness continuously.
10) Great faith in their mirror soul
As the chaser, you don’t care if your twin flame has a lot of red flags. You aren’t even disheartened by the fact that they’ve run back to their ex.
You have a lot of faith in them, and you know in your heart that they’ll come back to you.
In other words, you have an unwavering belief in your twin flame relationship. You’re determined that “you are with the right person for the right reasons.”
True enough, this faith in your partner can lead you to love them with much compassion. More importantly, this prevents you from betraying them (even if they’re doing it to you.)
11) Disregard for the twin flame’s terrible traits
Self-blame is one of the reasons why chasers ignore their twin flame’s bad traits in the first place.
Likewise, their immense faith in their twin flame may drive them to ignore their negative traits. After all, they’re afraid that speaking out will only push them away.
Chasers are so consumed by the connection that you disregard their:
- Selfishness and self-centeredness
- Brown-nosing and drama queen/king personality
- Inability to say good things about other people
- Reluctance to forgive
As you’ll see, you gain nothing by ignoring these red flags. Your twin flame runner will still abandon you, mainly because they cannot handle the intense connection between you two.
12) Emergence of new bad habits (or the worsening of old ones)
While the chaser will try their hardest to pursue the runner, there will come a time in the ‘chase’ when they grow overwhelmed by the separation.
The chaser will try to distract themselves from the pain by pursuing bad habits.
These can range from smoking to binge drinking and hardcore partying.
Drinking alcohol, for one, may be their way to ‘drown the sorrows.’ It’s hard to be away from your mirror soul, after all.
For one, beer or wine can help you relax and feel less anxious – at least for the short term.
While drinking a pint or two isn’t bad, it can lead to dependence or alcohol abuse.
Sadly, this is one of the worst characteristics the twin flame chaser may develop during the separation.
13) Gnawing belief that they can’t find someone like them again
For many, finding their twin flame is like winning the lottery.
It’s being drawn to someone’s energy and personality – as if you’ve known them for years.
Because of them, you see the world much differently. They continue to challenge you, which is why the connection you share is so intense.
Sadly, this powerful link is one of the reasons why some mirror souls run away.
Chasers are stuck with a mindset that they can’t find love – or a similar twin flame connection – ever again.
Instead of dwelling about this event, chasers should work on:
- Rediscovering their personal power
- Embracing new adventures
- Breaking bad habits
- Improving their careers
- Finding new hobbies
Remember, working on yourself is essential for a twin flame reunion. In fact, you need to be on the lookout for signs that the separation phase is almost over:
- You feel great
- You ‘communicate’ with your twin flame through dreams
- You’re drawn to certain places
- The sadness and hopelessness you feel are slowly drifting away
- Everything seems to fall into place
- You feel it in your heart – literally
14) Incidences or ‘signs from the universe’
In their pursuit for the runner, the chaser may encounter multiple signs from the universe.
The good thing about these signs is that they’re a comforting reminder: you are indeed on the right path.
Here are some of the signs you might experience along the way:
- You feel a strong certainty that you’re doing the right thing.
- You find yourself at an unexpected place.
- You feel spirits guiding you.
- There’s a ‘nudge’ for you to chase them.
- New opportunities keep pouring in.
- The world is opening up to you!
While chasing the runner may get tiresome, it’s reminding you to persevere, for they’ll reunite with you soon.
15) Acceptance of the separation
Although you will do everything to bring your twin flame back, you’ve accepted the fact that it has happened.
For one, you operate on the Buddhist belief that “acceptance is the key to happiness.”
Contrary to popular beliefs, you’ve not given up.
As Jon Kabat-Zinn explains in his book Coming to Our Senses: Healing Ourselves and the World Through Mindfulness:
“Acceptance doesn’t mean passive resignation – it’s quite the opposite. It takes a huge amount of fortitude and motivation to accept what is — especially when you don’t like it — and then work wisely and effectively as best you possibly can with the circumstances you find yourself in and with the resources at your disposal to mitigate, heal, redirect, and change what can be changed.”
By being more accepting, you’ve effectively reduced your negative experiences.
You’ve become more mindful, which means you’re aware of the moment without making judgments.
Best of all, this acceptance can help you tolerate negative thoughts and feelings – as they are bound to happen as you chase your twin flame.
You may feel sad now, but acceptance will help you feel calmer and happier through time.
16) More patience
It’s hard to deal with a twin flame who doesn’t want you. They keep on running away from you. While this is enough to deter typical lovers, you get to develop patience as a twin flame chaser.
Patience is indeed a virtue – and a skill. After all, you’ve developed the ability to “accept or tolerate delay, trouble or suffering without getting angry or upset.”
You know that you’re bound to experience some disruptions in your twin flame relationship. You’ve freely accepted it as part of the dynamic.
You’ve surrendered yourself to the fact that you can’t stop your twin flame from running away.
You’ve faced the situation without a hint of anger – just pure acceptance.
While the separation may be painful, it can make you more patient. This offers many benefits for your twin flame relationship, after all.
For one, it prevents you from saying hurtful things to your partner. It also helps you ‘slow down’ so that you don’t end up making reckless decisions.
More importantly, you develop empathy – thus allowing you to understand your twin flame runner’s life perspectives.
17) Selflessness and altruism
Cambridge defines selflessness as “the quality of caring more about what other people need and want than about what you need and want.”
Selflessness is a key characteristic of chasers, who are willing to do anything they can to reunite with their twin flame.
This selfless love is utterly different from selfish love, for chasers are:
- More focused on the runner than themselves
- Accepting what’s best for their partner – even if it hurts them
- Willing to sacrifice their dreams
- Open to compromise
- Willing to give the runner the benefit of the doubt
- Ready to change their plans
- Doing everything they can – without expecting any in return
While selflessness is good, being too altruistic can affect your well-being negatively.
According to a report, selflessness can make you feel more exploited. After all, you’re giving everything away – and the chaser might end up abusing your kind heart.
To avoid this, you need to take some time for self-care.
According to Bonnie Le, a fellow from the University of Toronto:
“One avenue for building mutually satisfying relationships would be to care for one another in ways that do not compromise one’s own personal needs and desires.”
18) Immediate maturity
Twin flame separation is the time for the chaser – and the runner – to grow personally and spiritually.
According to psychologist Eric Jannazzo, Ph.D., maturity is:
“The capacity to know one’s own emotional experience, to be oriented by this experience to some aspect of the truth, to place this truth within the context of other truths, and finally to act in accordance with one’s values.”
In twin flame relationships, the chaser often ends up becoming more ‘mature.’
- You’re a great listener.
- You think before you speak.
- You know how to respect other people’s differences.
- You embrace all your responsibilities.
- You’re better at time management.
- You take your work seriously.
Remember: this maturity is not only good for you – it’s great for your relationship as well. Growing well as a person is a sign that the twin flame separation stage is almost over.
19) Commitment to ‘commitment’
It’s no secret that some people – such as twin flame runners – are afraid of commitment.
These individuals often tend to date casually.
“People who have a good partner where everything is fine may not want to commit because they wonder if there is something even better out there for them,” explains relationship expert April Masini.
Likewise, they feel trapped when their partner – the twin flame chaser – shows signs of emotional investment.
“People fear commitment because they are afraid that the relationship will be so good that when their partner abandons them, it will be unbearably painful,” adds Masini.
Add to that, runners who fear commitment may exhibit these other signs:
- Dislike for making plans
- Lack of ‘investment’ or detachment from the relationship
- Perpetual questioning the relationship
- Inability to dwell on the future of the relationship
As the chaser in the relationship, you’re more serious about the relationship.
You’re deeply committed to making it work, which is why you’re pursuing them in the first place.
Although the chaser may not be as committed as you, there’s no need to worry. There are many things you can do to make them commit for good.
20) Spiritual enlightenment
As a chaser, you may experience what others call a ‘spiritual awakening.’
It’s defined as the “complete dissolution of one’s identity as a separate self with no trace of the egoistic mind remaining.”
In other words, your ego has become more subservient to your spirit – your heart’s connection to the universe.
As a spiritual person, you have:
- Thrived a lot
- Felt more alive than ever
- Become a more empathic person
- Discovered yourself
- Changed your belief system according to you – and no one else
- Let go of materialism – in favor of freedom
- Embraced chaos
So…are you the chaser in your twin flame relationship?
While it can be hard to pursue your mirror soul, it’s all worth the effort.
Remember: separation is inevitable, but you’re meant to reunite with each other – one way or another.
It’s a matter of understanding and accepting your twin flame – for these will lead you back to each other’s arms.