5 traits of a high-value man, according to psychology

Earlier this month, Netflix finally dropped all six seasons of Sex and the City. As a die-hard fan, I’ve been waiting for this moment for what feels like a lifetime.

And let me tell you, diving back into the series has brought back so many fond memories.

There’s this one episode I absolutely adore in the final season. It’s called: “Let There Be Light.”

Of course, it’s uttered by none other than the famous Samantha Jones, Carrie’s long-time BFF.

Samantha quips: “Don’t play hard to get with a man who’s hard to get.”

The woman-turned-PR-extraordinaire makes a stellar point, but it raises the question… what exactly is it that makes a man so hard to get? 

By that I mean: how do we tell a high-value man from a not-so-high-value man?

Here’s my two cents: it’ll be in the details you least expect. 

That’s right. Not in the flashy Mercedes he drives, or the Rolex on his wrist.It won’t even be where he vacations or the books he keeps beside his bed.

Let’s dive deeper, shall we?

Here are five psychology-backed traits of a high-value man. Starting with my personal favorite—and total underdog trait—prudence!

1) He often displays prudence

Some of the best guys don’t jump into things head first—they take their time and think things through.

Alright, hear me out on this one. I know prudence isn’t the sexiest sounding trait in a man—but it’s certainly a valuable one.

In a piece, psychology professor Ronald E. Riggio Ph.D. explored how one of the hallmarks of a great person is: prudence.

This means that he’s super careful about his decisions.

Think about it. Would you really, deeply trust someone who’s always rushing into things without thinking? 

But someone who’s thoughtful and doesn’t act on impulse? Now that’s someone you can certainly trust.

Being prudent isn’t just about avoiding impulse, it’s about making smart choices in everything, like money, relationships, and career. 

A guy who’s perceived as being high-value totally grasps this. 

He thinks before he acts, and to me, that’s a pretty rare and valuable trait.

2) He’s one funny dude

So, what sets the high-value man apart? His ability to be funny without being offensive. 

A scientific study on men and their desirability revealed some pretty fascinating findings.

Researchers determined that the funnier the man, the more likely he is to be seen as valuable by potential partners.

“Humor” is explored as a “mental fitness indicator” so essentially how intelligent a man is capable of being.

What I love about good comic timing is that it has the triple ability to break the ice, eases tension, and instantly sprinkle a bit of charm. 

But there’s a catch: it’s got to be the right kind of humor. The high-value man gets that. 

He knows wit doesn’t rely on shock value or cheap laughs. It’s about clever wordplay, sharp observations, and timing.

Yep, he’s the guy who’s always witty, never crude. He knows humor is about making people feel good, not uncomfortable. 

That kind of wit? It’s magnetic, drawing everyone into the conversation—and that’s a sure sign of high value.

3) He knows how to get verbally creative

He knows how to get verbally creative 5 traits of a high-value man, according to psychology

I’ve never been able to resist the charms of a man who is creative with his words.

You know, the bloke who spins words into a tapestry of wit and charm, drawing everyone into his orbit.

In the previous study, humor was also linked to “verbal creativity” in men with how valuable they’re perceived to be.

In any social scenario, being able to captivate an audience with words is like wielding a superpower. It forges connections and leaves a lasting impression.

Don’t get me wrong, verbal creativity isn’t just about using big words—it’s about thinking on your feet and finding new and exciting ways to get your ideas across.

To me, the best storytellers in life don’t just relay the facts—they take people to different worlds, leaving a huge mark on their minds.

The next time you cross paths with a dude who’s a verbal virtuoso, soak up every word.

4) He helps others around him

When a guy goes out of his way to help others without expecting anything in return, it says a huge amount about the kind of person he is inside. 

It shows he’s empathetic, selfless, and has an altruistic outlook on life—and what’s more valuable than that?!

A study from The Journal of Social Psychology found that women “significantly preferred altruistic mates for long-term relationships” or in other words, did good deeds.

When he does good deeds, he’s not just being nice.

He’s being someone who will always add inherent value to the lives of others.

5) He practices mindfulness and brings the calming vibes

Ever met that special dude who remains calm in every situation? In a practical, down-to-earth sense?

It’s like you can almost feel the tranquil vibes radiating off him like some kind of zen master in the midst of all the chaos of modern life.

In a psychological study on the attractiveness of men, women were found to be far more attracted to men who were more mindful.

This guy is fully present in the moment, not checking his social media feed every five seconds or letting his mind wander off to tomorrow’s meeting. 

While everyone else around him is stressing about deadlines or gossiping about the latest friendship group drama, he’s chilling like he’s got all the time in the world.

Final thoughts

So, there you have it. Whether you’re someone looking for a high-value man of your very own, or you’re a man looking to see if you’ve got the it-factor, I hope this has helped!

Remember, the high-value man is full of natural humor and a quick wit, which will easily translate into a whole lot of verbal creativity.

He’ll also be kind to others, and not just in spirit, but in deeds, too.

Plus he’ll carry with him a kind of zen-like approach to life—you’ll never see him stressing out or sweating the small stuff.

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Ava Sinclair

Ava Sinclair is a former competitive athlete who transitioned into the world of wellness and mindfulness. Her journey through the highs and lows of competitive sports has given her a unique perspective on resilience and mental toughness. Ava’s writing reflects her belief in the power of small, daily habits to create lasting change.

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